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Thread: Ended it w/ girlfriend of 1 year
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09-02-2020, 12:28 PM #61
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09-02-2020, 12:29 PM #62
Always, and I do mean always, trust your gut.
Its uncanny how many times my gut has told me the inevitable truth but my head has tried to reason me out of it and I end up cursing myself for not paying attention to my first instinct the whole time.For every man, there is a sentence, a string of words, that has the power to destroy him
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09-02-2020, 12:45 PM #63
More common for women to exert that behavior because they'll feel less like they were "just" a booty call if they remain friends after being FWB or w/e.
Also more common in young and naive people who don't understand cheating isn't just about the physical act, it's about trust and perception as well. Sometimes you have to go through an unhealthy relationship to learn what is and isn't appropriate in your next relationship.
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09-02-2020, 12:49 PM #64
Hate to say it boyo but if youโre a good looking chad, chances are high youโre going to get cheated on. They do it because they think you can cheat so you will. So they cheat to even the score and to make themselves feel more attractive. They also will always have dudes waiting on the back burner.
Most western chicks have serious mental issues.Jesus, kang of kangs, accept me into your heart and kangdom.
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09-02-2020, 01:05 PM #65
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09-02-2020, 01:11 PM #66
Interesting theory, but it's difficult to know the truth here. That's like the opposite of monkey-branching. I do know that a couple of weeks ago she said to me "I feel like I'm not good enough for you" and was anxious I might not stay. So I think she did perceive me as higher value. I met her parents, and saw messages she sent talking about marrying me. She talked about kids too and how it would work, where we should move etc.
Maybe it's just simpler than all that. She wanted to have her cake and eat it too, meet with this guy who she also liked.
The only real theory that seems to hold through is women like to have options, and keep them open.๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ถ, ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐
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09-02-2020, 01:43 PM #67
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09-02-2020, 01:44 PM #68
Yep, this is the motivation of most cheaters. I got what I want and I want more as well.
Traditionally that's been a male perogative and women could go fist themselves if they didn't like it. Kind of interesting that now legal and societal restrictions have been lifted, turns out men and women like to cheat."A stupid man's report of what a clever man says can never be accurate, because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand."
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09-02-2020, 01:45 PM #69
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09-02-2020, 01:55 PM #70
There's no need to "keep in touch" just in case. Girls know they can have any guy on a moments notice. If you meet somebody else and you just have to find out if it can lead somewhere romantically, it's your duty to break up with your current significant other before you peruse that other relationship. Trying to monkey branch is so disrespectful in the sense that they are wasting your time. And time is the only true limited resource we have. If a girl monkey branches to you from another man, you know she's low quality and will do it to you if the opportunity arises in the future.
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09-02-2020, 02:45 PM #71
I mean she mightโve slipped up when she said it and after she said it she mightโve realised you wouldnโt take notice of it anyway. She got lucky you didnโt call her out on that at the time.
Absolute best case scenario is she didnโt sleep with him and they were just friends. Worst case was she slept with him. However the worst or best case scenario are 100% grounds for dismissal regardless. As you stated....she was meeting up with him without telling you, on top of that she lied about it. Game over, no second chances itโs done.
I have the utmost respect for people like yourself that have boundaries and when they are crossed then that is it. Cut ties and done. Thereโs been many a times with previous girlfriends I shouldโve said โnah you know what after doing what youโve just done Iโve gotta say thatโs it for me. Itโs done.โ Then cut it off with immediate no contact but Iโve never done it and I wish I had that respect for myself at the time to do so.
Myself along with every other person replying to this thread are all in agreement youโve made the right decision. Hope all goes well going forward man!
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09-02-2020, 03:52 PM #72
Thanks for the support
Bolded, yes. Especially when we have no real ties; kids, marriage. This is why you date. It just really sucks because you wish they were a different person in that aspect, and I've learned from my past relationship that you can't expect someone to change, even on the off-chance they might. Just take them as they are.
For the girls which you regret not cutting it off immediately, I assume they didn't pan out. Was it for the same reason/s?๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ถ, ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐
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09-02-2020, 03:54 PM #73
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09-02-2020, 03:58 PM #74
Do you think your now natural skeptical nature is going to hold you back from ever finding a long term relationship?
I have massive trust issues too. But I've learned to tone them down. I may be thinking something, doubting something, but it won't come out unless I have proof to back it up. I no longer "fish" for lies someone is telling me.Thus let me live, unseen, unknown;
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09-02-2020, 04:03 PM #75
I think my instincts can be off track sometimes, but I've also learned to trust mine. I had a bad instinct about a co-worker of hers which was kinda wrong (but not completely). Now I think that instinct was just directed at the wrong guy, but it was generally correct.
My gut was actually telling me not to fully trust her. With my longer term ex, my gut trusted her. So it's not like it ALWAYS fires.
I can walk away still knowing that I sensed something, so I think that will help with future potential trust issues if that makes sense.๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ถ, ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐
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09-02-2020, 04:08 PM #76
By the way, I don't think the 'gut instinct' is necessarily that mysterious.
This is just your reptilian brain making assessments and calculations based on many sweeping and complicated factors in your world, for which your logical brain may have trouble even articulating.
It's wise to at least listen to it. But past experiences do shape that gut feeling, so you have to factor them in. For example, if you got cheated on many times, I think your gut may be prone to firing in a similar circumstance. I've witnessed this many times in previous relationships. I'd do something innocuous, but she'd have a bad emotional feeling. Then it mapped back to a similar instance where the guy did cheat on her.๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ถ, ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐
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09-02-2020, 04:12 PM #77
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09-02-2020, 04:40 PM #78
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09-02-2020, 04:52 PM #79
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09-02-2020, 10:18 PM #80
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09-02-2020, 10:27 PM #81
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09-02-2020, 10:33 PM #82
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09-02-2020, 10:43 PM #83
Ah, the full court press has begun. We also call this โdamage control.โ
Anyway you slice it, she lied and she admitted she lied.
And she was caught meeting with another man while she had a bf. She canโt salvage this.
Probably is panicking because she has no place to stay. Iโm figuring there are some sob stories upcoming to get you to crack.
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09-02-2020, 10:44 PM #84
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09-02-2020, 10:49 PM #85
Just letting you know that sheโs not writing anything your girlfriend didnโt pre-approve. Thereโs no way she went on multiple secret meetings with this guy without doing something out of line (aside from meeting up with him in secret, which in itself is messed up).
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09-02-2020, 10:51 PM #86
Doesnโt matter if they did or didnโt at this point. The lies alone are enough to dump her. They are steering the conversation in an attempt to make it seem she is innocent.
Ask her friend why she lied about it, and why she went to see someone behind your back. They donโt have a good answer for those questions.
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09-02-2020, 10:52 PM #87
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09-02-2020, 10:53 PM #88
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09-02-2020, 10:55 PM #89
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