My Brother in law is scheduled to be removed from life support pending some legal/admin bs. Do I send flowers now or do I wait?
Sorry to be a bummer but I am genuinely clueless and something tells me sending flowers while he still lives is somehow wrong?
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02-20-2024, 08:48 AM #1
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Wait until the funeral arrangements are done. Usually the surviving members of the family say something like "No flowers but donations in lieu to some sort of charity (that they name) in his honor would be appreciated."
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02-20-2024, 11:15 AM #8
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This is a tough situation all-around. I’m experiencing something similar with a family-member in a very terminal situation. Despite the inevitable outlook, I refuse to speak about them as if they’re already deceased.
Out of sheer respect, or the potential for a miracle to take hold, I will not cast them aside while they’re still living.
So hold off on any flowers, imoLast edited by Kylehero; 02-20-2024 at 12:44 PM.
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02-21-2024, 12:49 AM #13
Dang, sorry to hear this man.
Condolences, I think waiting would be best and I also think that you ordering Chinese food for them was amazing. Very nice touch. Well done. All the best to everyone during this difficult time.Air Force Veteran 1976 - 1999 - Cannabis Enthusiast since the 1960's
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02-22-2024, 08:28 AM #15
Don't know that I have any advice, but I had a friend/colleague who was battling cancer and kept us updated. Then last month he said there was nothing more they can do and they were putting him into hospice care. What do you say? I think I just said "I'm so sorry". We all had to figure out a way to say "sucks that you're going to die, you've been awesome". So awkward. And then he did pass away a couple weeks ago.
My brother is a pastor who does lots of funerals. He somehow became the on-call pastor for those who don't actually have a church. He says he can make a long list of stupid things people say at funerals. Everybody feels awkward and doesn't know what to say. About all you can say is "I'm sorry" or say something nice about the deceased. Instead people try to say something inspiring or that downplays the death and they say something exceedingly stupid and painful like "at least you have other children" or something.
Again, no advice, but I get the discomfort of the situation.
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