no contact success stories?

[ryankoch]

anyone have them? basically i fuked up with a girl i should have wifey'd. been no contact for like a year, but not getting much sex or relationships. So i message her yesterday random lonely beta moment. then even more beta I tell her we shouldn't have broke up, should get married etc... she blocks me on insta... does anyone else ever feel too lazy to move on? like get back in shape again etc..

[yokecel]

Your first mistake was messaging her.

Your second mistake was reminding her how pathetic you are. No girls want to hear that.

[deltakappabrah]

the point of no contact is to rebuild yourself better than ever before to the point where even if they were to want to take you back again, you wouldn't want them back

[1320it]

NC only works if you truly accept it is over and the relationship is broken. If you have an abundant mindset, you will know that you can find another girl and I guarantee she will be better. I have been in NC for...wow...10 months now and I no longer give a ****kkkk about my ex. I am just focusing on myself and doing the **** that I enjoy. Don't be a BETA simp.

[ArtistBrahs]

Sounds like your ex has moved on and is getting dicked down by Tyrone just fine. I been there.

I was hung up on my ex we were back and forth a lot. Than her new ex fiancé contacts me and tells me what a cheating skank she is and I realized women are all the same.

They put guys in two categories fuk boys and provider male. If you are falling short or push them away they will move on no fuks given.

Love is a game to women, it is a mask they put on as long as your delivering the goods. So, work more on delivering the goods and increasing value, so when some other chump falls short with his girl you can be the rebound guy she wants to LTR with next time. And than he'll come to misc and post about his love for this girl while you are busting nuts, and the cycle of life repeats.

[J411]

Your first mistake was messaging her.

Your second mistake was reminding her how pathetic you are. No girls want to hear that.

This.

Plus No contact success = no contact and moving on.

The goal of NC is not to get back together. I think you have the wrong idea of what NC is for.

[AceRok]

OP, you dun goofed. All women are on alert for exes popping out of the blue during this pandemic. It's even been all over the news. Predictable beta behavior nowadays.

[401Delta]

I broke my ankle several years ago, but was determined to stay active and so I was working with a big heavy roll of hard plastic in my shop one day, when it rolled off my workbench and on to the concrete floor.

I instinctively tried to break the fall with my foot, but I wasn't wearing a shoe since my ankle was jacked up, and the plastic roll slammed into my foot and severed my pinky toe.

My pinky toe and I had no contact for several hours, but were successfully reunited and are still together today.

[user3657]

Love is a game to women, it is a mask they put on as long as your delivering the goods. So, work more on delivering the goods and increasing value, so when some other chump falls short with his girl you can be the rebound guy she wants to LTR with next time.

I think guys forget that they must always keep attraction(her chasing you) and keep creating more value for yourself. You gotta be doing something. If you are at $1hr, in 10 years will you still be at $1hr? You dont have to be CEO but do something. Are you someone you friends highly value? etc? Just dont be BLAH in life. Make her have a reason to bring you out, introduce you, etc.

[user3657]

So what if you do no contact, but she has broken it 4 times???

[TheTyler2013]

dude imo this is more complicated than "go NC" everytime.

People gonna neg me here cuz it's the "holy Bible" of misc.. the "nc rule".

The NC method was created in order to teach men to control themselves and stop them from becoming pathetic guys who cry to their ex's to take em back.

BUT

and here the point here,
you don't need to go NC everytime if you already control yourself and not control by your emotions.
I you can stop yourself from sending 1000 texts to your ex, you're good.

Take me as an example.
My first 3 years ex.
We broke up, I found myself 6 months later with nothing. No dates, no matches, no fawking for 4 months.
I wanted her back because this is the only thing I had in my pocket, but I did no text her.
Why? Idk. I was teared between the NC rule and "dont be a pussy just get a new girl and don't get to your ex" (also opened a thread about it here and people killed me over my intention to text her), and the will to get some female after 4 months of me trying and not getting any (its hard).

So I went half NC.
I waited for my moment. waited to her bday to text her a happy bday.
I thought about it everyday and counted the days.
guess what?
2 weeks before her bday, boom. Got a message from her.Out of nowhere. the rest is history, she asked if I wanna grab a cup of coffee with her and "talk".
We dated again for 6 months till we broke up for good.

Next NC story,
dated a girl for 3.5 months. she broke up with me cuz I'm an ashole.
I did not follow the NC and wanted her back and wanted to show her how I'm sorry for being that ******* and I want another chance.
guess what? nothing worked lol. I begged her 2 hours on the phone then 2 hours in front of her on her bed, and nothing. she shutted down.

So I don't think the NC rule is the holy rule.
I think you just need to think before you act, because if you do think about it, you won't want to get back to half of your ex's. There is a reason for the break up, and probably your also suffered of the relationship.

So the NC rule is for the kind of events and break up that make you mindless and rush you to act from your emotions.
so the NC rule is like a big "STOP' sign to yourself to force yourself to think about it, breath, and take control.

3rd story:

I had another girl that broke up with me, we had lots of issues together.
I wanted her back but also knew its a very bad idea because we really had our bad times together and I forced myself to NC her.
guess what? she never msged me.
I told myself that if she will text me, I'll get back to her. But I won't be the first.
and it never happened and its OK and for the best because it only shows that if I did contact her, she would reject me.
so for these kind of events, NC is great.