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08-03-2020, 10:18 AM #31
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08-03-2020, 10:27 AM #32
Kind of sorry it was so remote (Tuvalu) so almost none of my friends or family from the US could attend, but really no way around that since my wife was from there and I was living there at the time, so it would have been a long trip for somebody, no matter where we did it. My parents did host a reception for us when we got to the US, so people who couldn't make it to the wedding could come. Other than that, it was a hell of a party and everyone had a great time.
Second waiting a while to have kids. We waited a year, but that had her getting pregnant right after we got back to the US, so she was adjusting to the US while on pregnancy hormones, which was no fun for either of us."Bones heal, pain is temporary, and chicks dig scars" - Evel Knievel
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08-03-2020, 10:55 AM #33
Honestly, I wanted a guest list of 300, it is in my "culture" to have large-ish weddings. But for my wife this was anathema. I didn't get her point at the beginning but, if you see how I described our wedding in post 9 ITT I have no regrets. It was so intimate. All the guests talking to each other, playing games, dancing, or outside, everyone from around the world just having a blast in the environment we created.
How we got there? It was hard for her to convince me, but then I realized just how "not fun" weddings with 400 guests and the like are. I have been to too many like that, and feel sorry for the bride usually. She sold me on the "small & intimate" idea (50 people or so max) and then we picked the proper setting for it...I'd recommend smaller weddings over larger ones to anyone.
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08-03-2020, 11:01 AM #34
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08-03-2020, 11:29 AM #35
No regerts.
17 years now. Tiny cheap wedding in my wife's grandparents garden. Broke college kid maturing my high school sweetheart who had graduated one month prior. Left two nights later to move a few states away for a job.
I think one of the reasons it's worked us that we built everything we have together. Neither of us had jack chit.
Her grandma died last week so all of our wedding pics in her grandma's garden are nice memories
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08-03-2020, 11:36 AM #36
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08-03-2020, 11:37 AM #37
Don't blow a ton of money. We originally had a big event planned which would have costed a fair amount of money. (actual wedding venue, open bar, inviting friends/family we have seen like once in the last 10 years). My mom ended up passing away 9 months or so before we planned to marry. Really change our outlook. We cancelled the big venue and cut our guest list down to close family and people we actually talk to regularly. Did an outdoor wedding at a close friend of mine's lake house that had a party deck. Had it catered, photographer, ect.
Total ended up costing a little over 5K. Easily the best decision we ever made. Had a great day.6'1 - 240lbs
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08-03-2020, 12:02 PM #38
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08-03-2020, 12:52 PM #39
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08-03-2020, 12:55 PM #40
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08-03-2020, 01:14 PM #41
Yeah I’ve been hearing people say how kids test a marriage and my counselor has said that the vast majority of marital counseling clients are couples in the first year of having a baby.
But I think kids actually strengthen a marriage because both parents are then basically tied down and will be less likely to leave and more likely to work things out. Have been thinking this through and actually regret not having kids to try to save my marriage. Idk maybe it would have worked and then would’ve been worth it.
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08-03-2020, 01:17 PM #42
SS flocks to every marriage thread like flies flock to a pile of dog chit. sad.
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08-03-2020, 01:21 PM #43
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08-03-2020, 01:32 PM #44
Pro tip: Don't leave for your honeymoon the morning after your wedding.
Do it the next day after. It was nice to not have to worry about waking up early and making it to the airport the next day. Instead we slept in and got another chance to see some our out of town guests at the brunch or other events. Some of them we've not seen since then in person.
As someone said enjoy the food.
Getting ready to celebrate 19 years later this month!
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