Do you guys ever get message first by women on dating apps?

[NLNFunKti0nz]

Chit sucks as the ones I don’t want message me on OKC, the fat whales... Every women I like, I don’t match with and if I do, they don’t message first or give one word answers and some don’t even reply back.

How you guys doing on the apps? I know it’s better to meet women in person but nowadays I don’t even go out. If I do go out, it’s getting a bite to eat with the same friend who I usually hit the gym with and that gets boring since he doesn’t approach women

[WishIWasJawBrah]

Honestly women these days are a waste of time.

[4North1Side2]

All the time

[Silencespeaks]

On tinder I never ever message first even if I really like the guy. I always wait to see if they open.

[randomuser12345]

Yes, few times per week and this are only matches that can go anywhere. When i message first it's 1 out of 20 that at least agrees to go out and probably it will be only thing she agrees to.

message 1st is a waste of time, that's how i feel based on 1.5 years experience.
When they message 1st it's at least kind of even conversation. If you message 1st it "entertain me peasant" vibe all over.

[TugOfPeace]

On tinder I never ever message first even if I really like the guy. I always wait to see if they open.

yesterday a very attractive lady messaged me first "hey there!"

I responded back and still haven't heard from her. just lol. moved on to another one

[Noliberals4]

I find it flattering but it tends to ruin my game a bit. I like to plan my attack and execute it for each girl. Every time a girl messages first it's always just "hey" or "hi" so there's not much to go from that except "Hey how are you?" and BOOM the conversation will go nowhere. This is not always the case, but it does complicate things.

[skinnyfat88]

I only used bumble when I was on the apps so they had to message first. It was usually not a creative opener but if they message first you already know they're interested and will likely reply.

[user3657]

I did, like 10 years ago on okc. All the time. I dont know if it was because online dating was new or just my picture. my profile picture was me at a party with a chicken on my head laughing my ass off.

[anonymous]

Yes. Puts me off though ilmao

[KYILAndy]

Sometimes. But honestly you should be messaging chicks first anyway - just shoot 'em a message as soon as you match. Most chicks on Tinder have a short attention span, so you may as well strike while the iron is hot.

[Immichaelski]

Tinder is actually awesome. Take the time to put up nice pictures and make a cool headline. I got so many likes that they banned me for spam. Im pisssed. In one day 2 girls in my apartment building hit me up and I was nervous as hell. This one Spanish chick invited me in and was like I’ve never been with a white guy before blah blah. She said I’ll be back abd came back with nothing but a towel. She dropped it Abbas omg her fifties were so fie. I was sucking on them and she went down on me there. I carried her to the Bedroom and we met up a few times after that but I kind of wanted something serious. I think she was cheating on her man too

[HangingChad]

I did, like 10 years ago on okc. All the time. I dont know if it was because online dating was new or just my picture. my profile picture was me at a party with a chicken on my head laughing my ass off.

Was it:

a) a fake, rubber chicken
b) a live chicken with claws, fully capable of chitting on your head with no warning
c) a fully cooked chicken, with greasy meat juices running down the side of your face

??

[devopsengineer]

Only ugly chicks message first. I mean very ugly. And fat.

Also, fake accounts.

For example on instagram some empty fake accounts message and send naked pics of porn stars. Then ask to join webcam session on some dodgy site that asks for credit card numbers to be able to login.

But an interesting chicks that i would like to be my gf will never message first. It won't even respond if I message first.

[drvillain]

I ONLY reply to women that message me first. This way, I know that there is a strong attraction & wont be flaked on (most likely).

Granted, most women don't message first.

Other than that, I collect matches like pokemon cards I'll never use

[BlackScorpio91]

Yeah sometimes especially on Bumble.

[Lipee]

All the time. I usually Dont care to talk/respond to no one.
My mind is srsly 100% on my objectives, for almost a year i have no time for girls. I disregard them

Just focus on yourself , your objectives. Seeking happiness with a girl its prety much seeking a problem.

We live on a time where the most you post on your social medias the more girls interact. Just disregard them. At the end of the day your happiness should be achieved without a girl. If you are so frustrated to have a Girl you aren’t worth to have one.

[MrMummyou]

All the time. I usually Dont care to talk/respond to no one.
My mind is srsly 100% on my objectives, for almost a year i have no time for girls. I disregard them

Just focus on yourself , your objectives. Seeking happiness with a girl its prety much seeking a problem.

We live on a time where the most you post on your social medias the more girls interact. Just disregard them. At the end of the day your happiness should be achieved without a girl. If you are so frustrated to have a Girl you aren’t worth to have one.

You got it all right mister.

[Jakc120]

Sure, but this was literally years ago and apparently Tinder has changed hugely since then.
I'm relatively ye olde ancient (even back then) but a woman who was a director of a company sent me a message. We met for lunch that afternoon (I was self employed and had such flexibility) and after mutual gladness that neither of us was a loonball we went to her room in the hotel. It was good. But that was my only time using a dating app and I deleted it soon after. Apps ars (in the main) about thry rush supplied by uncertainty and "What if?"

As the redness shows under my avatar, insecure people don't want to hear what I say, even when it's not aimed at them specifically. With that in mind, although no one is asking me, I'll say my best success is always going out to wherever I like, doing my own thing, and in the process getting hit on a couple of times a month. But like I said, I'm relatively old and so I go to the theatre and classical music concerts and the ballet, and before/during the interval it can almost be like shooting fish in a barrel.
Live for yourself and the ones that really want you to fuc8 them will make it obvious.

[Luc1fer]

Only unattractive ones.

[MrMummyou]

All the time,and i am nothing special,
you just need to have good photos and not be overweight,
i remember i seen the most swiped dude on tinder and he was an average joe lookswise.

[MGTOWpulpit]

I'm average but in reasonable shape. (5'10/171lbs)

I only get contacted by hambeasts or the 200+ pound brigade. Literally bottom tier obese slob females.

It's hard to get a response from an average non fat woman. Maybe 1 in 150 will reply back but they flake most of the time.

I don't think I overate my attractiveness. My acquaintances say those hambeast women are well beneath me when I show them a pic.

The hypergamy of women is comical online.

[sloppyjoe1]

I've had a few message me first but they never message back. Don't get it but having any expectations on any dating apps is a pretty bad idea.

[20Mavs11]

Yeah there are two types:

1. The ones who say I'm hot or sexy. They're usually super vapid and I just respond "Thanks". Even if I try to get a conversation going it almost always goes nowhere.


2. They respond to a joke or question I had in my profile. On Hinge they force you to put like three questions on your profile that you answer.

But I've been so bogged down over the years with free dating apps: Bumble, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, and OKC that I put zero effort into it all anymore. I truly understand how females feel after being on them. I've done the online dating crap since 2011. 9 years has desensitized me so much that I can point out patterns in how some women act now.

[elterrible987]

Yeah all the time. My friends always complain that they always have to message first. I guess it pays to be in the top 90 percentile of looks.

[sterlingtony]

If you have a way with words, sites like POF can be to your advantage as you can msg right away w/o waiting to "match". Always bring up stuff she mentions in her profile (no matter how mundane- she put it there for a reason!) and make sure you are interested (or pretend to be) in those things as well.

[iloveus]

Read this book:


Explains everything wrong with online dating

[sterlingtony]

Yeah, he's got quite the dating history lmao!

[EctoPlasmic217]

thats what the dating app Bumble was created for, but even that is rare i think, Bumble has never taken off like Tinder has.

[sam212]

Yeah, I only used bumble when I was single, banged a lot of women. They have to message first there. I liked it because only the ones interested in you messaged you. And the ones you weren’t interested in, you didn’t reply. **** was easy as hell. Just sit back and they make it easy for you.