Where do you meet your women?

[Austin317]

Bit of an odd title for what I’m asking. Speaking to a friend yesterday and I revealed to him that all the women I’ve slept with except for one have been from tinder. He found it really weird that I’ve never picked a chick up from a club or met a girl through a friend or anything like that. If you had to put a percentage on the amount of women you’ve slept with where would you say the majority were from, nightclubs, through a friend, tinder etc?

[iloveus]

Which women do you want to meet and what kind of relationship do you want to have?

Context. You can meet a woman in a coffee shop but whehter it's a cold approach, business networking event or speed dating is gooing to make a huge difference.


Somed ating advice tells a 40 year old divorced banker meeting women at an art gallery the same advice they tell a 19 year old college kid sneaking to house parties. This is stupid. These two have completely different personalities, life experiences, and interests. The women they're going to meet will be very different.

Think about it like this. You go to a car lot to buy a new car. The first thing a salesman should ask you is "What kind of car do you want?" A soccer mom taking her kids to practice doesn't need a Lamborghini. She needs a mini-van.

A 16 year old girl dressed all black listening to My Chemical Romance who shops at Hot Topic isn't going to date a flannel shirt wearing who loves riding horses and singing country songs. It's a huge mismatch. The chances of it working out aren't likely.

[401Delta]

Wherever.

If you lock eyes for ~5 seconds or so, you're probably in if you want to be.

Also...just LOL if you don't always have some excuse up your sleeve at all times to grab a number or social media link.

[bernipes]

Did your friend f**k a lot ? because if he just had 2 girls and you more than 10 .. maybe he should use tinder more

[Silencespeaks]

Since I started dating 4 years ago almost every guy I met was from tinder or bumble. Like 20-25 total.

Only 2 guys from irl connections (one from gym and one set up by acquaintances).

[401Delta]

Since I started dating 4 years ago almost every guy I met was from tinder or bumble. Like 20-25 total.

Only 2 guys from irl connections (one from gym and one set up by acquaintances).

You must be an absolute kunt in real life, or have resting bitch face, or both.

[Silencespeaks]

You must be an absolute kunt in real life, or have resting bitch face, or both.

What why

[iloveus]

Since I started dating 4 years ago almost every guy I met was from tinder or bumble. Like 20-25 total.

Only 2 guys from irl connections (one from gym and one set up by acquaintances).

25?! Holy Chit!

[Silencespeaks]

25?! Holy Chit!

Met out on dates. Not slept with obv.

[Kay4Kool]

If I'm in the mood and she's choosing

anywhere

[LightsXout28c]

Dog parks have been the best spot for me lately

[iloveus]

Met out on dates. Not slept with obv.

[devopsengineer]

Nowhere

[Austin317]

Since I started dating 4 years ago almost every guy I met was from tinder or bumble. Like 20-25 total.

Only 2 guys from irl connections (one from gym and one set up by acquaintances).

All of mine have been from tinder/pof and about 30-35 total. Now looking from a different perspective it is a bit odd how I only meet women from online dating. I just don’t really take opportunities to ask for numbers or anything if I speak to a woman when I’m in a club, it doesn’t cross my mind to ask them for their number when speaking to them really.

[Silencespeaks]

All of mine have been from tinder/pof and about 30-35 total. Now looking from a different perspective it is a bit odd how I only meet women from online dating. I just don’t really take opportunities to ask for numbers or anything if I speak to a woman when I’m in a club, it doesn’t cross my mind to ask them for their number when speaking to them really.

Yeah I don’t go to clubs or bars. And my social circle are all married people with kids.

So really the only way to meet new people is either online or randomly at gym or a store etc. So online is most convenient.

[Austin317]

Yeah I don’t go to clubs or bars. And my social circle are all married people with kids.

So really the only way to meet new people is either online or randomly at gym or a store etc. So online is most convenient.

Glad I’m not the only one. How does a store interaction even work with someone you’ve never seen in your life? It blows my mind how people do that. Being drunk in a club and getting a number seems like an ideal place to do it even though I don’t do it myself but somehow connecting with someone enough in a store to get their number is something I can’t comprehend. Top credit for those that do it, I wouldn’t even know where to begin!

[Legz422]

I'd say most of the guys I've met and dated since my divorce were from online. A couple from IRL. I don't go to bars often so it's hard to meet people.

[Gosu14]

90% of the women I’ve banged are from online. It’s just a lot easier because you are both there for a similar reason. In person is harder because it’s not easy reading of the person is into you or not

[JustMoved24]

Wherever

They come to me tho

Feelsgoodman

[newbuck]

Bars and clubs. I look better IRL than I do online and im a manlet. Also have had freinds with Gfs hook me up. When I was working dead end jobs they were a great place to meet women as well.

[smashedurgfx10]

usually through work

im not friends with girls. i just smash them and if it doesnt work out i cut ties, or they do.

the guys im friends with also aren't friends with girls and if they were, they'd try and smash themselves rather than let me in on it

i dont like bars and clubs

i find cold approaching extremely weird unless there's a very obvious conversation starter. ive met a few girls this way, but i cant just randomly go up to someone and start hitting on them

i went out with a girl from tinder just the other day and she was a massive kunt lmao.
in our 1st text interaction, she got mad i didn't respond in like 5min when she was texting me, i basically said we haven't even met yet - i'm busy and i'll reply when i want, if you dont like it then fuq off - yet she kept talking to me.
turns out she showed my message to her friends who said im right lol. date was her just being massively entitled, saying i expect this i expect that. so yeah that's put me off for a while

the only other time i met a girl on there she made me hold out for 7 fking dates before letting me smash. in the end, i was too pissed off to keep seeing her so i ghosted

i get more attention irl (when i do make the effort). online dating hasn't been a positive experience for me

[elterrible987]

waiting area at the county court house

Sloots are either bored out of their mind waiting for jury duty selection and will talk to anyone or awaiting trial and looking for a nice stable man whose life they could ruin. Cant go wrong either way.

[DustinTheHuss]

I've been cold approached a lot so not everything is online. I don't trust online sloots anyhow. I think that most online, guys and girls, have high kill counts.

[JvilleJeff84]

Best women I've ever met were through friends, with the exception of my ex-wife, who was a neighbor... I've done a lot of going out and picking up women in clubs and bars though, come to think of it, generally not much of quality, but options are running low at this age.

[KYILAndy]

95% through Tinder/Hinge, another 9 girls in person (I hit on them during the day on the street/in shopping malls/etc), plus a couple through friends.

Don't think it's weird that you've only met chicks from Tinder. We live in 2020 dude, like half the world's population hookup/meet/date through Tinder. I've met a tonne of people who have ONLY had sex/dated through online.