I've tried OKCupid three times in a row already, and I don't get any messages. I tried Tinder and Bumble twice in the past, and it was the same thing, just a bunch of swiping. Anyone else had this problem?
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06-27-2020, 12:12 PM #1
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06-27-2020, 12:15 PM #2
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06-27-2020, 12:24 PM #3
all about dem pics dude
You need:
1) professioanl photo of your face
2) Full height in a suit and shoes
3) On vacation mb playing some sports on a beach shirtless if you got good physique
4) photo with your friends
5) In woods or on a boat to add adventure vibe
If you are at least 7\10 just first two can work.
if you are below 7\10 you are entering the world of pain.
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06-27-2020, 12:25 PM #4
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06-27-2020, 03:25 PM #5
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06-27-2020, 03:26 PM #6
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06-27-2020, 03:28 PM #7
Online Dating doesn't work for me for some reason. All I do is swipe, and getting messages is extremely rare. For example, On OKC, I got 12 likes last time within 3 days of my account being open, no messages except one person that said "Hey". One girl tried to meet up with me last year, but spark faded the next day.
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06-27-2020, 08:47 PM #8
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06-27-2020, 11:30 PM #9
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06-28-2020, 12:45 AM #10
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06-28-2020, 05:53 AM #11
I keep seeing threads like this. I consider myself an average looking guy and I'm having to choose which girls I want to respond/talk to and meet up with on bumble and hinge. I found that candid pics with you doing something seem to work the best and I don't really have much of anything in my profile.
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06-28-2020, 05:34 PM #12
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06-28-2020, 06:04 PM #13
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06-30-2020, 10:02 PM #14
I get matches whether I put a strong bio or not. But I am not doing well progressing these matches into dates. I mean, I've been on a few dates but I've been doing this for months after my last breakup. Part of it is I'm picky, but I also get ghosted on occasion and plenty of girls who don't reply to messages. I think I forgot how to flirt with women (I believe I'm better in person but maybe I'm delusional). On the apps I match with some attractive women but my batting average is horrendous. I need help lol, first time in my life I feel lost and super lonely. (also still crushed from a recent family tragedy and a breakup of 6 years so that's part of it, but still I never thought I'd be this stuck..)
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07-01-2020, 10:52 AM #15
Damn that sounds really rough. Six years is a long time. It's great that you're getting matches. You can experiment and try different strategies without having to worry.
I usually have good luck if I can get their numbers and get them off the app in the first 5-10 messages. Once you get the digits, it's a lot easier to land a date because you're not competing for their attention with 100 other dudes. I'm aiming for 30s / LTR, so depending on what you're looking for it might be different for you.
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07-01-2020, 11:37 AM #16
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07-01-2020, 08:48 PM #20
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07-01-2020, 08:51 PM #21
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07-02-2020, 01:32 AM #22
Hey it works and it's a good way to connect with people.
Honestly if people are sexually attracted to you enough, they'll meet up. If they're not they come up with excuses like "We should wait after the pandemic". People are horny and sexual arousal is the most powerful biological impulse.
Same goes with irl; if people are attracted to you enough, they'll gonna wanna meet up.
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07-02-2020, 09:00 AM #23
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07-02-2020, 02:28 PM #24
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07-02-2020, 06:10 PM #25
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Actually, what you can do is set up a trap experiment with women - to see if they like you or not. Women can pretend they're not into you, say they're not into you, but when that experiment proves they're into you, then it's like an insecurity test to see if they can admit that they're into you. The downfall to this is, doing the experiment itself can get her to be angry with you. Like a mindhack.
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07-03-2020, 07:32 AM #26
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b7XzDaRG4tQ&t=1s
Personally I have not had a major problem with dating apps, but you just have to be prepared to accept that meeting a woman on a dating app is much harder than meeting someone in person. Think about it, if you were just walking down the street and an attractive woman approached you, you would probably seize the opportunity to at the bare minimum talk to her. Now use a dating app, let's assume you had the option of choosing to talk to 25 attractive woman with that same woman in the mix. The chances of that same woman getting a chance to talk to you is even lower.Keep in mind I am merely giving an example, what I said above happens more often with woman on dating apps who are very attractive or highly attractive men.
The only thing you can really do with dating apps is optimize your pictures to the best of your abilities and approach women with the angle of humor, especially if you really are not a highly attractive person.-''Love without action is dead''.-
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07-15-2020, 10:25 AM #27
No one on this forum men or woman is surprised looks matter we all learn that in middle school. I think what men have a gripe about here, is how FEW men are sexually attractive in womans eyes from a purely physical standpoint. It's very, very few. Most men are happy if a woman from their own country who's not overweight shows interest in them. mens wants are more basic prefrences than anything. Woman take looks to a whole new level were, you have to be tall (70% of woman admitted on this board of wanting a tall man greater than 6ft0) you have to have a low body fat, the right mixture of masculine and progressive facial features, muscularity, the right hair - just a genetically gifted specimen overall. Men are for more lax on what they find sexually attractive. pull 10 random woman off the street around the age that arent fat (around 18), and I'm willing to bet we will find an appropriate amount of them suitable for a ltr. Now do the same to women and line up 10 non-fat guys, and I'll bet you they will find only one or two attractive, sometimes none.
Woman are asked who they find attractive and they list men like Ian somerhalder, or henry cavil. When men are asked they will say like uh that one girl in my class, or the girl at work or the girl next door.
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07-15-2020, 05:16 PM #28
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