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    How to get a second date

    So I had a pretty good first date. We went out for lunch and I thought it went well. We lasted 2 hours, never ran out of things to talk about so there was no awkward silence. She smiled, laughed and asked me questions.

    Now, I don’t know what her thoughts on the date are, but I really like her and would like to see her again.

    We both like movies, but they haven’t reopened just yet. Do I just say “Hey, let’s go to the movies when they reopen!”

    Also, sometimes she does take days to reply, but they’re always long, address every point and well thought out. Maybe it’s just a tactic by her but I try and take my time by waiting hours to reply to her.

    Best way to approach this?
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    Just bring up what you want to do and ask. Simple. There’s no tactics. If you need some dumb overthought tactics to get her to go on a second date she’s just not that into you. You should be able to ask and she should jump all over it. If she dosent, don’t waste your time.

    “Hey XXXXX just came out on VOD and I wanna watch, wanna come over and watch with me tomorrow?”

    Simple, direct and easy.
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    Rule of a thumb. If you have feeling that something is off it most certainly is.

    Girl that into you gonna make it super easy.
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    Originally Posted by randomuser12345 View Post
    Rule of a thumb. If you have feeling that something is off it most certainly is.

    Girl that into you gonna make it super easy.
    This, Absolutely this ^^^. Also OP it doesn't sound like you made any physical moves on her or tried to kiss her. Going to lunch is a terrible first date, should have taken her out for drinks. Less expensive and more fun that way.
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    Making a move is overrated imo.

    Got 2 first dates last week. Both went very well. Kissed one girl goodnight and fistbumped another. Texted both after the date and they were very receptive.

    Asked girl that i kissed to watch a movie at my place: "oh i don't know, mb next week. And then after another few days when i asked again she ghosted me".

    Asked other girl. And she said "Okay, but let's skip the movie".
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    **** her good on the first one.
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    Are they re-opening soon?
    If not pick something that you can do asap.

    Just keep it simple and to the point. She either wants to see you again or she doesn't and you'll find out once you ask her out.
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    Originally Posted by randomuser12345 View Post
    Rule of a thumb. If you have feeling that something is off it most certainly is.

    Girl that into you gonna make it super easy.
    Pretty much this. No one is so busy that they need days to reply to you. If they are, they're intentionally ignoring you. and 99% of the time its because theres other guys in the picture

    time is pretty much crucial here, find somewhere else you can take her to in the immediate future and set up a date there
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    I asked her to the movies and she said that she heard they’re delaying the reopening until the 20th of July, but that’s progressing day by the day. And that she does have a busy 2 weeks coming up just finishing everything off.

    I actually found out today that they’re reopening July 2nd so that’s soon.

    That might be ideal though because it gives her time to finish off her uni work before we can go to the movies.
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    Just forget about it.
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    Originally Posted by Monsoon178 View Post
    And that she does have a busy 2 weeks coming up just finishing everything off.
    It's dead in the water brah, sorry to say. That being said, no harm in having a go anyway.
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    And I just got the “I don’t see things progressing any further” message.

    Oh well, I still did alright getting one date out of it. Onto the next one.

    Question: Should I say “can we still be friends?” or is a guy friend zoning himself unacceptable?
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    Originally Posted by Monsoon178 View Post
    And I just got the “I don’t see things progressing any further” message.

    Oh well, I still did alright getting one date out of it. Onto the next one.

    Question: Should I say “can we still be friends?” or is a guy friend zoning himself unacceptable?
    That sucks. But we've all been there. I'd just tell her "all good thanks for being up front". Then delete her number.
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    The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. You messed up on this date because you literally talked a girl who was interested in you right out of liking you. Here are the obvious ones:
    1. Lunch Date. Dates should be set in the evening time so that they can lead to sex. Lunch dates are for friends.
    2. You didn't make a move. Not making a move communicates that you are not confident which kills any sexual attraction (rightfully so)
    3. You're way too into this girl right off the bat. Communicates you don't have much going on in your personal life

    I know that sounds harsh but you gotta tear out the cancerous flesh before new cells can grow.

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