What's wrong with me?

[Andyvoh604]

Hi guys I am new to the misc.
I hope everyone is doing well during this pandemic.
I just wanted to share some of my thoughts with you guys.
I apologize if my thoughts are confusing.

I've never really had a gf before and I usually enjoy being single.
Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be with someone.
I mostly keep to myself and spend a lot of time on my own. I have my close circle of friends but don't get to see them very often.

I love the way women look and would definitely want to have sex or date.
I've gotten a decent amount of attention from women but I never make a move.
I don't know if I'm shy, afraid to commit, don't want to break anyone's heart, or some other reason.
I am feeling lost and confused, like my brain and my heart are not in sync.

I am starting to think I might need therapy.
I see people in relationships and wonder how long it will last.
What's the point of relationships? Are people really afraid to be alone? Do they just want to get laid on a regular basis?

Those are my thoughts for now. I will see if anything else comes up.
If you have any advice or stories to share that would be great.
Thanks for reading and enjoy your night (West Coast of Canada here).

[skinnyfat88]

I love the way women look and would definitely want to have sex or date.
I've gotten a decent amount of attention from women but I never make a move.
I don't know if I'm shy, afraid to commit, don't want to break anyone's heart, or some other reason.
I am feeling lost and confused, like my brain and my heart are not in sync.

I am starting to think I might need therapy.

I would 100% seek therapy to figure this out.

Do you care about others feelings more than your own?
Are you extremely concerned over how others view you and worry rejection will affect their perception of you?

[ymer]

You're afraid to make a move because you fear rejection. And if you start approaching now you WILL be rejected because you haven't done it before and will fail.

So the only way to solve this is to start trying until you get good at it.

[1320it]

I was the same way, bromigo. You just have to get out of your comfort zone and give zero ****s. When you are confident, you will do a lot better.

[randomuser12345]

At least you got attention and can build confidence based on it. When i started dating i got zero signs of interest from any girl i have encountered in 26 years.

[cantsquat315]

I was the same way, bromigo. You just have to get out of your comfort zone and give zero ****s. When you are confident, you will do a lot better.

I don't know. I wish I was single this whole time, because you can't even predict the ways someone can fukk you up when you let them close. I was like, i'll give it a shot, whats the worst thing that can happen? Now I can't sleep without thinking about cutting the bitch into pieces.

[NosyJossie]

You started off the thread with a terrible question:

What's wrong with me?

Ask and you shall receive.

[Andyvoh604]

I would 100% seek therapy to figure this out.

Do you care about others feelings more than your own?
Are you extremely concerned over how others view you and worry rejection will affect their perception of you?

I usually try to consider the feelings of others, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. I just don't want to break anyone's heart.
I am insecure and have let how others see me affect how I see myself.

[Andyvoh604]

You're afraid to make a move because you fear rejection. And if you start approaching now you WILL be rejected because you haven't done it before and will fail.

So the only way to solve this is to start trying until you get good at it.

You may be right. I need to be more confident. I feel like even if I land a date that I won't be able to keep a girl interested in me.
I also feel like I might be too picky with women and have probably missed out on some good women in front of me.

[Andyvoh604]

I don't know. I wish I was single this whole time, because you can't even predict the ways someone can fukk you up when you let them close. I was like, i'll give it a shot, whats the worst thing that can happen? Now I can't sleep without thinking about cutting the bitch into pieces.

Hey man I am sorry you were hurt in the past. I have been hurt pretty bad as well and have some major trust issues now.

[XmegaULoad]

As they told you before, it is best to seek help.

[StriationsBruh]

Hi guys I am new to the misc.
I hope everyone is doing well during this pandemic.
I just wanted to share some of my thoughts with you guys.
I apologize if my thoughts are confusing.

I've never really had a gf before and I usually enjoy being single.
Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be with someone.
I mostly keep to myself and spend a lot of time on my own. I have my close circle of friends but don't get to see them very often.

I love the way women look and would definitely want to have sex or date.
I've gotten a decent amount of attention from women but I never make a move.
I don't know if I'm shy, afraid to commit, don't want to break anyone's heart, or some other reason.
I am feeling lost and confused, like my brain and my heart are not in sync.

I am starting to think I might need therapy.
I see people in relationships and wonder how long it will last.
What's the point of relationships? Are people really afraid to be alone? Do they just want to get laid on a regular basis?

Those are my thoughts for now. I will see if anything else comes up.
If you have any advice or stories to share that would be great.
Thanks for reading and enjoy your night (West Coast of Canada here).

i suggest you to pay to some good escort and get both physical and mental therapy from her. Hookers are best terapists lol, best personal chats i ever had were with hookers (they are good because you wont see her again and she wont judge) so win win for both, she gets paid for talking, you get to talk to someone

[skinnyfat88]

You're overthinking a lot.

Most people don't (and shouldn't) date with the immediate goal of finding their future wife/husband. Just enjoy company of the women who intrigue you and communicate honestly when the topic of what you're looking for and expectations comes up. Everyone also knows nobody is owed anything when it comes to dating, especially if you're being honest so don't worry about "breaking somebody's heart."

[backinthegymbro]

If you want a girlfriend or go on a date with a woman, then don't just sit idly and fantasize about it. Get up and take the initiative to ask them out.
This means going outside your comfort zone, getting rejected and putting in effort. But the rewards can be great.

[AlvinDavenport]

I was the same way, bromigo. You just have to get out of your comfort zone and give zero ****s. When you are confident, you will do a lot better.

Zero fuks given can only take you so far. I work with an Indian dude who has a zero fuks attitude but women still reject him on the reg.

[JmanOnOne]

Just fawking lol @ men still wanting to be in relationships. Women are cheating sloots not capable of love or long term monogamy. Stay single and free and stop being a little phaggot relying on women to make you feel special lol.