Huge situation with GF and mom seriously want to know yall opinions

[5tfihsmgidarap]

My mom made a few comments jokingly to my gf, one being "Hey if your dad and zach go to new jersey solo zach might not come back alive" in a joking tone, i thought it was funny and so did my mom, it was literally a joke and my gf is now making a huge deal out of it we got into a huge fight, i defended my mom on that i was like she was joking chill tf out. My mom also made a comment on her sisters childhood boyle which was since removed that she didnt think it looked good, she was just being honest and my gf was the one that brought it up, i defended my gf on that one i was like mom wtf are you doing dont talk about peoples looks like that. The last comment that made my gf upset was that my mom mentioned that she would probably be happier living alone than having her parents live with her "as i think anyone would at a young age" and i defended my mom on that im like why are you being so ****ing sensitive about comments like that. We got into a huge fight today over those three comments and im just sitting here now like wtf. She chills with the type of people who get kicked out of a spot that NOBODY IS SUPPOSED TO BE IN and makes a black lives matter post about how she was racially discriminated against "her friend was absolutely not discriminated against " true story thats her friend group type. I ****ing yelled at her saying life isnt a big safe space where people are supposed to walk on eggshells when they speak to you which my mom 2/3 times said nothing wrong. Now this whole thing is so ****ing akward

[Schnitzl]

age on misc: 50

age in real life: 16

[Nicklol]

cliffs

[bernipes]

Older than our world. the relation with your girlfriend and your mom...

[savageoldman]

dude what the **** is that

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[Caldef]

"Huge" situation

Suggest you consult dictionary.com OP

I dont think that word means what you think it means

[J_A24]

Tell her to grow the **** up and quit yapping and suck on this dick

[DharmaYoung19]

First of all: You are your girl don't align politically it's obvious and it seems like you have fundamentally different personalities and world views. You might not be a great match.

The error I see in your logic is that you're analyzing the surface issue, which is disagreeing with things your mom said but that is not the real issue. Your mom has opinions, some of which you will agree with and some you will not, and the same goes for your girlfriend. You've chosen the route of defending the comments your mom made that you agree with and then justifying your girlfriends outrage about the comments that your mom made that you don't agree with. Conceding that ground justified your girlfriends anger and showed your gf that you won't stand up for your mom. As you learned, if you give a girl an inch she will take a mile. Because what your gf really is doing is testing you to see if you will stand up for your mom. Instead of standing up for your mom you're trying to be a pleaser and please both sides, which is weak. So your girlfriend is doing what girls do when they detect a chink in your armour, smash it there repeatedly in the hopes that you will notice and make it stronger. If you won't even stand up to her how the hell are you going to keep her safe from let's say a criminal who attacks you both?

You probably thought "if I acknowledge both my mom and gf as right she won't be mad and I can return to a drama fee comfortable life"
WRONG

The correct response is to stand up for your damn mother and put your girlfriend in her place. Not in a rude way but in an assertive, strong and respectful manner.

"Honey, I know she's not perfect but she's my mom. You've got to get along with her."
"Just think, without her, there would be no me. Without me, just think about how many orgasms you would have missed out on."
"Part of living in a democratic society is getting along with people who think differently. If you want to live in a world of social control you can always buy a 1way ticket to Venezuela, I hear it's great this time of year"

Whatever you do don't let her get under your skin, and for god's sake don't let this woman disrespect your own mother.

[DustinTheHuss]

I'm completely lost.

[J411]

This will never work hit the eject button now. GL with the next.

[fukc]

It doesn’t even sound you like you like her, why worry about it

[FemaleWarriorxo]

Sounds like you and her are both bitches. Congratulations

[Kwace]

Huge if true