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    Question I need an honest opinion/feedback/advice

    Guys i'm 26 years old, i know i'm a red but please would like an answer:

    I've Only had 1 girlfriend (12 months ago) wasn't a long relationship but got my heart shattered into a million pieces. I've always had low self esteem - I'm short, pale, live in Australia (where there are a tonne of Chads - 6ft, tanned, tradies that make bank) and my ex cheated on me with a guy as exactly how i described, almost like my worst nightmare:

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    It was probably the lowest low i've ever felt in my life. Not so much because of what she did but because i didn't feel like i was good enough, one of my greatest insecurities. Almost confirming my own sense of low self esteem. I had suicidal thoughts and great depression.



    It took a very very long time but i feel like i'm finally happy again but i know i'm semi coping. The memories of my ex have faded a fair bit (unless i deliberately try and thin hard about her) but here is the issue:

    I feel like my self esteem is a lot higher. I've been doing meditation, living in the moment, i'm trying hard with my work and studies and everyday i get better in the gym, i improve my looks and i feel like i'm becoming better and better. In fact, it's gotten to the point where i think to myself, i probably wouldn't even date such a girl like my ex (because of how slooty, uneducated and silly she was). I wouldn't want to be with such a low value women!

    I also feel like i no longer "need" a women. Yes sometimes i get a bit lonely but if i jack off a lot or see an escort i'm fine. But in saying that, i would like to have a women in my life. I do miss flirting and sex with a girl i genuinely like and i REALLY miss having good sex. I don't think i'm bad lookng too, i get tinder matches and some attention when i go out (i got approached last time at a bar) and also notice girls look at me at the gym. The problem is - where can i meet women? I work in a small organisation. I have a few friends but besides that i don't really go out much? I feel like i have the tools to attract women but i just spend my time alone. I don't want to be one of those PUA guys that approaches girl after girl. It's so time consuming and silly. It's just frustrating because i feel like i'm missing out a bit. Imagine if i worked in a big organization or a job where i met heaps of different women each day, i bet i'd be able to slay easily. But what am i meant to do? go out to bars each weekend? People say hobbies etc. But what do you actually mean? when i get home from work i exercise and study when do i have time to do hobbies that involve women? So that's pretty much the problem. Yes i use dating apps but most of the girls i meet are trash/have mental problems and are way below average looking. I just know that it's all probabilities, if i keep putting myself out there something will happen but i don't want to be one of those PUA guys if that makes sense. I'm kinda stuck.


    anyone get what i 'm coming from??



    TLDR

    - Had 1 gf
    - absolutely destroyed me
    - finally feel better after a year
    - op thinks he is some what attractive
    - op works in a small place, smallish social circle
    - no exposure to women except out and about, at gym etc.
    - no longer needs a women but does miss having good sex and the presence of a women
    - don't know where to meet attractive women
    - getsgirls off tinder but most are trash and way below average looking
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    So you sound pretty normal to me and you described many people's lives. MOST people do not have a flood of options dating-wise and going to work, gym, study and such is pretty normal. You can sit back and wait until you run into someone you would like to date; or, approach women and use dating apps but sort through what is attractive and what isn't.

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    You have days off right? There's always time for hobbies.
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