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    Arrow Five dates in, how to let girl off easy? (Advice needed)

    Met this great girl, had five dates with her but realizing she is not the one for me. I can tell that she is interested in escalating. She’s a great girl but I know deep down she’s not who I want to end up with.

    How do I let her down as easy as possible, saying I don’t want a relationship with her?
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    just don't mention relationship and if she does say smth like "whaaaaat i thought we are just friends". Why men can't have friendzone?
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    The morale way

    - Tell her that you have some issues and can no longer see her



    The Bad way

    - string her on and keep banging her then go no contact


    The funny way

    - Send her a text saying 'sorry i don't think we should hang out anymore. P.S. I'm gay''
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    You could... be honest?

    "Hey, you seem like a great girl, but having given this some thought you're not quite right for me, I don't see a future in it. I don't want to lead you on, so it's best we call things off now"

    It's both respectful and truthful, and really that's better than some BS excuse. You're not 21 any more. Also, making it clear you're thinking long-term leaves the door a little open for her to suggest something less serious, should you both be interested in that.
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    Originally Posted by AndyKerrison View Post
    You could... be honest?

    "Hey, you seem like a great girl, but having given this some thought you're not quite right for me, I don't see a future in it. I don't want to lead you on, so it's best we call things off now"

    It's both respectful and truthful, and really that's better than some BS excuse. You're not 21 any more. Also, making it clear you're thinking long-term leaves the door a little open for her to suggest something less serious, should you both be interested in that.
    You can say that without saying "you're not quite right for me".

    If she goes crazy on you and blows up your phone begging and pleading, well then you have to decide what to do.
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    say that you became gay
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    Originally Posted by AndyKerrison View Post
    You could... be honest?

    "Hey, you seem like a great girl, but having given this some thought you're not quite right for me, I don't see a future in it. I don't want to lead you on, so it's best we call things off now"

    It's both respectful and truthful, and really that's better than some BS excuse. You're not 21 any more. Also, making it clear you're thinking long-term leaves the door a little open for her to suggest something less serious, should you both be interested in that.
    That makes a lot of sense. I don’t want it to come across that she did something wrong, more so that I just don’t see us as long term material now that summer is right around the corner. I still want to be single.
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    Tell her you're thinking about trying men
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    Originally Posted by DustinTheHuss View Post
    You can say that without saying "you're not quite right for me".

    If she goes crazy on you and blows up your phone begging and pleading, well then you have to decide what to do.
    If she goes crazy like that on you, I would say that decision becomes easier to make...
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    I just friend zoned a chick that was interested in me, basically just told her we aren’t compatible and that we should just be friends. They have a ton of options bro. Don’t worry about it. She’s probably talking to other men.
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    Have you slept together yet and if so after which date?

    As others have said, just be honest about the fact that you do not foresee this blossoming into a relationship and put the ball in her court to see if she wants to hangout casually (if that interests you) or not.
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    Come on OP,

    I recently told a girl i was dating for 2 months the following:

    My feelings havent been growing towards this relationship and i dont want to continue dating.

    It end on a good note and she also asked to be FWB, which i declined. I dont want to be using someone.
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    Originally Posted by redliner9 View Post
    Come on OP,

    I recently told a girl i was dating for 2 months the following:

    My feelings havent been growing towards this relationship and i dont want to continue dating.

    It end on a good note and she also asked to be FWB, which i declined. I dont want to be using someone.
    That’s not really using her if she asked for it lol. It’s a mutual understanding, but it was the right decision more so for her then you, she has feelings for you which is why she asked to be fwb, a way of staying with you
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    Originally Posted by AndyKerrison View Post
    You could... be honest?

    "Hey, you seem like a great girl, but having given this some thought you're not quite right for me, I don't see a future in it. I don't want to lead you on, so it's best we call things off now"

    It's both respectful and truthful, and really that's better than some BS excuse. You're not 21 any more. Also, making it clear you're thinking long-term leaves the door a little open for her to suggest something less serious, should you both be interested in that.
    this is solid advice. I've found that often times I would dread "breaking up" with a girl, but once you go ahead and do it, its much easier than you thought it would be. Just be honest and straight up.

    If you send her a text and say something like "hey ive been thinking a lot and there is something I want to talk to you about" it will causally be a big time hint. that will give her some time to process it before it even happens, which helps to soften the blow. Good luck OP. don't be a scumbag and ghost her.
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    "Hey listen you're great but I'm just not feeling it. Sorry."

    If she's been good then you should respect her enough to be honest and just tell her. Also don't make this more than it's not, she will get over you.
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