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    Is it normal to miss them several months later? (srs)

    We broke up several months ago.
    She pretty much cheated on me. In a way i blame myself. I took her for granted, neglected her, never took her out. I still beat myself up over how i acted.

    I woke up this morning and for some reason started thinking of her and then started thinking of the dude she cheated with on me. I started getting so angry and furious. wishing revenge on her. wishing she would die. wishing something bad would happen to her.

    These thoughts eventually passed. Now i'm writing this from my little office cubicle where i do this meaningless work and i miss her. I miss her so much. I sound cringe but it's true. I have her blocked on everything but i was so tempted to have a look at her facebook today but i didn't.

    I've listened to the misc advice
    - focus on yourself (i've done this been going gym, eating better, trying to improve career etc)
    - learned from my mistakes (which i've done, i know how to act better in relationships now)
    - don't stalk her / go no contact (done this too)


    Yet it still gets to me. Makes me sad.

    In hindsight she was a very good girlfriend and i took her for granted.

    I need to move on but i guess i'm still not fully over it. Maybe one day i will be.

    I need to accept she is never ever coming back. i'm certain of that. I dun goof brahs. I dun real goof
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    She isn't the only girl in the world phaggot. BTW if it went down how you said, a real perfect girl would have given you some chances to fix your chit and then dumped you, rather than cheating on you.

    Are you worried about how you messed her life up? Don't be, you are not that important and she's over you.

    Are you worried about how you messed your life up? Don't be, that was clearly the only way you were going to learn the lesson and it freed you up to meet someone better.
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    have you been meeting/dating/smashing other girls? if not, start ASAP. that's literally the only way to get over an ex.
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    You will feel this pain again, it's what happens when love is lost. Everyone goes through it
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    Originally Posted by Mr Beer View Post
    She isn't the only girl in the world phaggot. BTW if it went down how you said, a real perfect girl would have given you some chances to fix your chit and then dumped you, rather than cheating on you.

    Are you worried about how you messed her life up? Don't be, you are not that important and she's over you.

    Are you worried about how you messed your life up? Don't be, that was clearly the only way you were going to learn the lesson and it freed you up to meet someone better.
    I know deep down you're right. But it doesn't feel like there's many other girls out there. I hardly interact with any girls outside of a few I date /met off tinder.

    Originally Posted by puffdaddy68 View Post
    have you been meeting/dating/smashing other girls? if not, start ASAP. that's literally the only way to get over an ex.
    Yes, but they don't compare.
    My ex was sexy, she baked for me, she was into gym, bought me gifts, was fun to be around,

    Other girls i've dated jusst don't compare
    girl i'm dating at the moment just drinks and goes to clubs,
    other girls are dumb/stupid

    this ****ing sucks.


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    You will feel this pain again, it's what happens when love is lost. Everyone goes through it
    When will it ever go away?
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    First love never goes away for some people brah
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    You've built up a picture of her as a perfect princess in your mind. In reality if she came back today, you would be sick of her chit within two weeks.

    Stop being a phaggot and make better use of your time.
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    Originally Posted by Mr Beer View Post
    You've built up a picture of her as a perfect princess in your mind. In reality if she came back today, you would be sick of her chit within two weeks.

    Stop being a phaggot and make better use of your time.
    yea i think you're right man

    but tbh, that's why i liked her because i never got bored of her, always enjoyed talking to her/calling her

    but i have her on the upmost pedestal. i kinda wish i could run into her in real life as this will break the fantasy and i will realise she wasn't that special.
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    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    We broke up several months ago.
    She pretty much cheated on me. In a way i blame myself. I took her for granted, neglected her, never took her out. I still beat myself up over how i acted.

    I woke up this morning and for some reason started thinking of her and then started thinking of the dude she cheated with on me. I started getting so angry and furious. wishing revenge on her. wishing she would die. wishing something bad would happen to her.

    These thoughts eventually passed. Now i'm writing this from my little office cubicle where i do this meaningless work and i miss her. I miss her so much. I sound cringe but it's true. I have her blocked on everything but i was so tempted to have a look at her facebook today but i didn't.

    I've listened to the misc advice
    - focus on yourself (i've done this been going gym, eating better, trying to improve career etc)
    - learned from my mistakes (which i've done, i know how to act better in relationships now)
    - don't stalk her / go no contact (done this too)


    Yet it still gets to me. Makes me sad.

    In hindsight she was a very good girlfriend and i took her for granted.

    I need to move on but i guess i'm still not fully over it. Maybe one day i will be.

    I need to accept she is never ever coming back. i'm certain of that. I dun goof brahs. I dun real goof
    wot?

    You can blame yourself all you want but at the end of the day SHE is the ONLY ONE responsible for her actions and she decided to take a coward's route by cheating.

    Stop taking responsibility for her actions.
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    Originally Posted by Mr Beer View Post
    You've built up a picture of her as a perfect princess in your mind. In reality if she came back today, you would be sick of her chit within two weeks.

    Stop being a phaggot and make better use of your time.
    Good Lord this advice is 🔥. This is so damn true.
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