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    Unhappy Been 3 months and still can't get over her...what can I do? (Srs)

    It's been 3 months since we broke up, around 45 days since we last spoke.

    I've considered reaching out to her but thanks to the brothers on the misc you guys talked me out of it.

    I just feel so sad. Everyday I feel sad. I still think about her. I Even dreamed of her last night.



    I know i'm a huge beta but she fixed a lot of problems i have. She pretty much was my anti depressant medication.
    The worst part is that I have a very small family and hardly many friends. If i died tomorrow no one would give a ****. It felt good knowing someone actually cared and wanted to hang out with me.


    **** it's tough. She was a huge light in my dark , miserable, pathetic life.

    I've been on other dates but it just isn't the same.


    I know the solution to my problem - stop thinking of her, better myself etc. But i'm just stuck. So stuck on her. Everything around me is a mess, disaster, depression , darkness so i focus on her. Focus on her smile, the memories to make myself feel good but ultimately it makes me long for her and makes me depressed.


    Yes i'm beta/ Yes i'm ap ussy . call me what you want. i'm mentally weak. etc. i know all these things.

    The truth is I'd trade everything i have to have her back. It's the truth.


    I have no motivation at work, or life or anything. I feel so lonely. So sad. Everything is so meaningless.
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    It's hard bro but you're gonna need more time and acceptance to heal. My ex broke up with me 9 months ago and we were together almost 5 years. I still think about it sometimes but not with a broken heart anymore.
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    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    It's been 3 months since we broke up, around 45 days since we last spoke.

    I've considered reaching out to her but thanks to the brothers on the misc you guys talked me out of it.

    I just feel so sad. Everyday I feel sad. I still think about her. I Even dreamed of her last night.



    I know i'm a huge beta but she fixed a lot of problems i have. She pretty much was my anti depressant medication.
    The worst part is that I have a very small family and hardly many friends. If i died tomorrow no one would give a ****. It felt good knowing someone actually cared and wanted to hang out with me.


    **** it's tough. She was a huge light in my dark , miserable, pathetic life.

    I've been on other dates but it just isn't the same.


    I know the solution to my problem - stop thinking of her, better myself etc. But i'm just stuck. So stuck on her. Everything around me is a mess, disaster, depression , darkness so i focus on her. Focus on her smile, the memories to make myself feel good but ultimately it makes me long for her and makes me depressed.


    Yes i'm beta/ Yes i'm ap ussy . call me what you want. i'm mentally weak. etc. i know all these things.

    The truth is I'd trade everything i have to have her back. It's the truth.


    I have no motivation at work, or life or anything. I feel so lonely. So sad. Everything is so meaningless.
    It can take up to six months to heal. Read up on the neurology of heartbreak, or watch some videos on it, to give yourself some perspective on the situation, and just take it one day at a time. Spend as much time with friends (the few you have) and family as you can.
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    Try to aim for 180 days without talking. That's when you start feeling improvement. 365 days of no talking is a milestone and you'll feel like a new person by then.
    But you break NC once and you're back at the back of the line starting nc from day 1 again. Don't sabotage yourself or you'll regret it. 45 days is nothing.

    Also being sad/depressed yourself is not a valid excuse to reach out to an ex. It's time you start fixing your own life and no longer rely on someone else to make you happy.
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    you keep yourself in that hole. only you can pull yourself out. commit to being happy, moving on, and making every day from here on out better. she didnt want you, man. grow from it. only you can decide when that starts.
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    Originally Posted by backinthegymbro View Post
    It's time you start fixing your own life and no longer rely on someone else to make you happy.
    This.

    It's really unfortunate with whatever problems you have to deal with in your life but you shouldn't think a girl will save you/help you and that's when your life will turnaround. The reality is the best chance you have at keeping a healthy relationship is to enter it when you are already a confident and emotionally healthy individual.
    Do whatever you can to fix your problems now so you can heal and enjoy your life.
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    3 months isnt very long depending on how long you were together.

    I have had a few that took about 6 months to get completely over.

    Dont constantly hang out at home, get out and do something, anything.
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    Within 3 months was probably the worst for me. 6 months I started getting to the point where I could date other women without constantly comparing. 1 year and I felt like I could see her face without emotionally recoiling. It will probably take ~2 years for me to properly get over it.

    It can be brutal. All you can do is stay focused on things and distracted. Your emotions are responding to the death of an intimate relationship.
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    You made this chick your WHOLE life...

    This is where you went wrong... A woman will NEVER make you complete.

    Neither should you ever depend or rely on females, especialy in this modern day throw away society we live in.

    It will get better overtime.

    I am going through a breakup myself... However I was smart enough to dump her within 4 months.

    Getting over a chick after several years together is much harder.
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    Thanks for all the responses brah's


    I know that everyone on here will say i shouldn't but sometimes i still consider messaging her. I mean, i've read guides online about how to re attract an ex etc.

    I think about maybe sending her a message asking her about a time we went to a restaurant and asking her about the name of it or something.

    But then i think, yea i could do that, and maybe she will respond, and maybe i could re attract her and even meet up with her but i don't want to go through the pain again.

    But on the other hand, i feel like i want to give it a one last crack. Feel like i just want to give it one last shot. It's like a free hit i guess, if she isn't interest well at least i can say i gave it one last try.


    I don't know though. I know it's probably best not to.
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    The fact that you're posting on here about how sad you are without her means you would not be ready to "re-attract" her.
    At some point your desperation and dependence on her for your own happiness would come out and you'd blow it.
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    NGMI

    But on a more serious note.

    I've been there, I put a whole part o my life into this one girl I was seeing.
    Moved cities for her, far from all my friends etc and a completely new life to be closer to her but it didn't work out.

    4 months of NC later, it still hurts.
    What hurts even more is that she is doing no contact just as hard as I am and we're both probably worse off for it.

    But relying on someone so much for your happiness is not a healthy thing.
    Get out of the house more, do some self improvement and start lifting mate
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