Vick's Dating Log and Advice Thread v. 3.0 (that escalated quickly!)

[dwcsoup22]

Link to channel?

[pondus_levo]

update:

i am getting back to how i was pre-gf, and i am improving everywhere. workouts are on point, i'm cutting up, getting stronger, and having fun with these girls. i am excited about how things are going and do hope they continue to go well with all of these girls. above all else, though, i am motivated and i feel like everything in my life is going great. there is fire again. it feels so good.

here is a picture of me from yesterday before work: https://imgur.com/a/aWyWCd8

Play on playa.

DM channel. Will subscribe.

[JellBella]

Major eyerolls at "I'm a brand".

[xvicknumber7x]

Play on playa.

DM channel. Will subscribe.

sending.

[HangerBaby]

sending.

Let me piggyback here. I'm an avid Twitcher. That sounds bad, but it is not.

[KingofLifts]

sending.

Might wanna delete your post about it though. It's easy to find with your face on here, and the information you posted.

Side note: How'd you get into it? It seems like such a niche scene

[xvicknumber7x]

Might wanna delete your post about it though. It's easy to find with your face on here, and the information you posted.

Side note: How'd you get into it? It seems like such a niche scene

done. at least y'all know now.

when i was younger, i was really good at trading card games. i won money often playing a specific one in my teens. i was fairly well known in the community. about 2 years ago, i walked into a comic shop and saw people playing. i sat down, learned the game, didn't lose to anyone, and started that day.

[KingofLifts]

done. at least y'all know now.

when i was younger, i was really good at trading card games. i won money often playing a specific one in my teens. i was fairly well known in the community. about 2 years ago, i walked into a comic shop and saw people playing. i sat down, learned the game, didn't lose to anyone, and started that day.

That's honestly really cool man. I always admire when people have interesting hobbies outside of the usual (lifting, jogging, hiking.. etc). I often wonder how people get interested in the things they spend they're time on, and it always seems to be a combination of innate skill+enjoyment (obvious, I know). Pokemon cards are so niche, I haven't heard about it in a LONG time.

Actually cool story brah

[missnatalka]

op so happy to see ur doing so well, do ur thing but remember to think about yourself - you just got over a major life change/heartbreak. you're on fire but don't over-do it, remember to take time for yourself, take some time and think about what you really want. be upfront with these women. they are/may be developing feelings for ya. be honest with them. and be honest with yourself. congrats and glad to see you so happy/confident/exuberant.

[xvicknumber7x]

op so happy to see ur doing so well, do ur thing but remember to think about yourself - you just got over a major life change/heartbreak. you're on fire but don't over-do it, remember to take time for yourself, take some time and think about what you really want. be upfront with these women. they are/may be developing feelings for ya. be honest with them. and be honest with yourself. congrats and glad to see you so happy/confident/exuberant.

haha I doubt they are developing feelings for me, tbh. seems like a lot of them on apps are just looking for things to do when it is convenient for them. but, maybe one day i'll find one who really gets me. i do miss that feeling a little, but in any case, i have plenty of things to work on, worry about, and excel in. thank you for your words and your post here. i am learning and growing and finding my way again, albeit slowly.

[Luc1fer]

haha I doubt they are developing feelings for me, tbh. seems like a lot of them on apps are just looking for things to do when it is convenient for them. but, maybe one day i'll find one who really gets me. i do miss that feeling a little, but in any case, i have plenty of things to work on, worry about, and excel in. thank you for your words and your post here. i am learning and growing and finding my way again, albeit slowly.

Most women are delusional about their biological clock and male nature these days. Mid-late 20’s and still not serious about finding a partner. I dated a 29yo for a while and in her mind she was gonna get serious about finding a husband and kids after 30. Lol

[xvicknumber7x]

Most women are delusional about their biological clock and male nature these days. Mid-late 20’s and still not serious about finding a partner. I dated a 29yo for a while and in her mind she was gonna get serious about finding a husband and kids after 30. Lol

i'm not even looking to put a kid in these chicks lmao, just someone consistent to hang with a day or two a week. it blows my mind how women are so resistant to that, and it just seems like the ones i have met are mostly detached from things. they usually claim abusive ex boyfriends as well, whether i am talking to them on a date or just via apps. it's wild.

[dimitri1013]

Cool thread. I remember reading the old threads with Vick and Pondus. I mostly just browse now and never post, but I thought I would ask you guys a question. Is signs of low interest over text always mean they aren't interested? I have really good interactions with this girl in person, but she either takes a long time to reply to my texts or doesn't text me back. My text game is not the best so that might be it.

[xvicknumber7x]

Cool thread. I remember reading the old threads with Vick and Pondus. I mostly just browse now and never post, but I thought I would ask you guys a question. Is signs of low interest over text always mean they aren't interested? I have really good interactions with this girl in person, but she either takes a long time to reply to my texts or doesn't text me back. My text game is not the best so that might be it.

no. pay attention to irl actions and dont text so much. set up plans, joke a bit, and be out. follow actions instead of words and dont read so much into texts.

[microsuede]

The woman you're going to meet that you're going to fall in love with is the woman that doesn't play games, is straight forward, is wanting to spend time with you and setting up dates with you, essentially inseparable. Anything else is just a temporary fun fling or it's nothing. Identifying where they fall is important and treating it like such. Men have a tendency to treat every girl like a potential when they haven't done anything to be deserving of that.

So true. Repped.

[xvicknumber7x]

So true. Repped.

i'm not necessarily sure that the ones i want will act like that, tbh. i don't want an older chick looking to settle down. i want a young, vivacious, energetic chick who i can chase a bit and work for, who also works for me. i don't ever think it's as easy as that guy described, but it's a nice dream.

weekend update:

not much new to report. girl from tuesday who i really like has been away at a wedding all weekend. might have plans tomorrow, might not. she referenced things on tuesday about seeing me tomorrow, but i'm not pressing the issue because the wedding is today/tonight. just gunna let her live. she has been snapchatting me a lot though, and texting here and there, so i'd assume that i will be seeing her over the next few days. or maybe not. who knows. point is i'm not contacting much first because i'm just letting her live.

zookeeper texted me about an hour ago to let me know she isnt sick anymore. shes been sick all week and i havent seen her. she snaps me about once a day and texts here and there as well. i'd like to hit that again, but in this instance as well, i'm just being really detached. i am answering snaps and texts and shiit, but i'm not pressing for plans or whatever, just trying to be funny. again, cant get a read, doesn't really bother me though. i can definitely see myself hanging out with her at some point over the next few days, but again, probably not going to ask unless i get a vibe that she is receptive too it. i don't wanna validate any wishy washy bs.

the other girl who works across the street from my work expressed interest in meeting this week. she said that she feels like our "vibe" is off, but i've only seen her twice so i don't really know what the "vibe" is. in any case, i'll probably see her this week at some point, which ought to be cool. she's the one i am least interested in, but she could be fun. who knows.

i deleted bumble tonight. it is exhausting. i think i might just try to do work in real life without apps for a little while. girl i have a crush on at the gym was there during my times today, and i've kinda tried making it a bit obvious i'm into her via eye contact and stuff, just to see if she makes it easier to make an actual approach. i still have a bit of an issue with approaching in the gym, although i used to do it all the time in the past. don't wanna make anyone uncomfortable. if i see her at the water fountain or something, it'll be a lot easier. but not when she's on a treadmill or something.

no work tomorrow, just a long workout in the AM which should be nice. and then i guess we will see what else i can cook up this week.

[pondus_levo]

weekend update:

not much new to report. girl from tuesday who i really like has been away at a wedding all weekend. might have plans tomorrow, might not. she referenced things on tuesday about seeing me tomorrow, but i'm not pressing the issue because the wedding is today/tonight. just gunna let her live. she has been snapchatting me a lot though, and texting here and there, so i'd assume that i will be seeing her over the next few days. or maybe not. who knows. point is i'm not contacting much first because i'm just letting her live.

Never forget women like assertive, not passive men.

zookeeper texted me about an hour ago to let me know she isnt sick anymore. shes been sick all week and i havent seen her. she snaps me about once a day and texts here and there as well. i'd like to hit that again, but in this instance as well, i'm just being really detached. i am answering snaps and texts and shiit, but i'm not pressing for plans or whatever, just trying to be funny. again, cant get a read, doesn't really bother me though. i can definitely see myself hanging out with her at some point over the next few days, but again, probably not going to ask unless i get a vibe that she is receptive too it. i don't wanna validate any wishy washy bs.

Her telling you she isn't sick anymore is your que to ask her out again.

the other girl who works across the street from my work expressed interest in meeting this week. she said that she feels like our "vibe" is off, but i've only seen her twice so i don't really know what the "vibe" is. in any case, i'll probably see her this week at some point, which ought to be cool. she's the one i am least interested in, but she could be fun. who knows.

You are probably projecting the fact that she is the one you are least interested in. Women know the difference between a man that's super interested, interested, and kinda interested.

i deleted bumble tonight. it is exhausting. i think i might just try to do work in real life without apps for a little while. girl i have a crush on at the gym was there during my times today, and i've kinda tried making it a bit obvious i'm into her via eye contact and stuff, just to see if she makes it easier to make an actual approach. i still have a bit of an issue with approaching in the gym, although i used to do it all the time in the past. don't wanna make anyone uncomfortable. if i see her at the water fountain or something, it'll be a lot easier. but not when she's on a treadmill or something.

no work tomorrow, just a long workout in the AM which should be nice. and then i guess we will see what else i can cook up this week.

Not a fan of bumble. ******** date is pretty good so far.

As for the gym girl, if that's who you are really into, gotta make it happen. Just say hi the next chance you get.

[microsuede]

i'm not necessarily sure that the ones i want will act like that, tbh. i don't want an older chick looking to settle down. i want a young, vivacious, energetic chick who i can chase a bit and work for, who also works for me. i don't ever think it's as easy as that guy described, but it's a nice dream.

I'm a bit older than you, late 30's, and am looking for a chick who wants to settle down so I guess it makes sense his post resonated with me more.

[xvicknumber7x]

Never forget women like assertive, not passive men.

Her telling you she isn't sick anymore is your que to ask her out again.

You are probably projecting the fact that she is the one you are least interested in. Women know the difference between a man that's super interested, interested, and kinda interested.

Not a fan of bumble. ******** date is pretty good so far.

As for the gym girl, if that's who you are really into, gotta make it happen. Just say hi the next chance you get.

i pretty much texted her today to see what she was up to. her response was sorta offensive, lmao. she said she forgot both that we had talked about meeting up today, and also forgot that she had a soccer game to coach at the school she teaches at. so she was unavailable. i just sent back something classy like "no prob, have fun, maybe next time." a few minutes later she sent me this long thing telling me that she swears she isn't blowing me off and that after this week her schedule opens up. i said not to worry about it, we can get together once things get less hectic.

i don't really know what to do in these situations because i dont wanna be the guy who texts all day and shiit. that stuff is lame. at the same time, i don't want things to fizzle out. hopefully she approaches me about setting up plans. one thing i have noticed is that my drive to initiate when i feel a woman i am talking to has fuucked up is near minimal. i'm so quick to turn the page, even when i dont necessarily want to. i guess i will just let her come to me, but idk if that'll even happen.

and yeah, i think zookeeper wants to hang out again. she's been texting me a bit today. i've been mostly flirty. i guess we will see about that as well. in the past few weeks when i've tried to set something up she has just been hella aloof about it, so maybe i'll just wait for her to initiate like she did a week or so ago when we fuucked.

and yeah, i think you're right about the third girl. i mean, she is cool and all, but her recent history gives me a lot of pause. having just been in a relationship with a girl, having no idea what she wants, all that stuff sorta comes together to repel me a little bit. she is really cute and funny and she understands what i do but i just don't feel like she is flirty at all, she doesn't have a very sexy vibe to her. it's not too exciting. i guess i'll give her another chance or two to open up.

gym girl is hella cute, and i used to approach in the gym all the time, but now i'm just more focused and it is hard to find the time. like i said, if she's at the fountain or walking around without her headphones in, i will make a move. i talked to a different girl i don't know at the gym today just for practice and that went very well, so I know I can. just a matter of if i will. i will say that some of these experiences are starting to jade me a little bit.

[xvicknumber7x]

one thing I have been pondering lately is if I am doing something wrong with these women. it's been a ton of bumble and tinder dates and I am not hooking the interest of many of these women the way I am used to. perhaps I have forgotten something, or maybe I have changed from last time and I have gotten worse at this. i'm not sure what it is. maybe it isn't me. i'm not sure what to think about all the ghosts, or things running out of steam, or just the fact that these girls only seem halfway-interested after hanging once or twice. that's hard to understand.

[sloppyjoe1]

Most women are delusional about their biological clock and male nature these days. Mid-late 20’s and still not serious about finding a partner. I dated a 29yo for a while and in her mind she was gonna get serious about finding a husband and kids after 30. Lol

Late twenties and also have no desire to find a partner. It's been almost a year since my last LTR and I'm having too much fun being single. When I see married couples together it almost makes me sick to think about. It looks so stale and unappealing to me now. It sucks because I want kids but I don't really want to get married. I don't know what I'm gonna do lol.

[sloppyjoe1]

one thing I have been pondering lately is if I am doing something wrong with these women. it's been a ton of bumble and tinder dates and I am not hooking the interest of many of these women the way I am used to. perhaps I have forgotten something, or maybe I have changed from last time and I have gotten worse at this. i'm not sure what it is. maybe it isn't me. i'm not sure what to think about all the ghosts, or things running out of steam, or just the fact that these girls only seem halfway-interested after hanging once or twice. that's hard to understand.

Do you find yourself caring about the outcome too much sometimes? I think a random girl off of a dating app is worth a text to set something up, if it goes it goes, if it doesn't then it's her turn to approach you about going out. If that doesn't happen onto the next. Always remember that if somebody makes you a priority they will always follow through, if not you were never a priority to begin with no matter what they say to you over text.

[Luc1fer]

Late twenties and also have no desire to find a partner. It's been almost a year since my last LTR and I'm having too much fun being single. When I see married couples together it almost makes me sick to think about. It looks so stale and unappealing to me now. It sucks because I want kids but I don't really want to get married. I don't know what I'm gonna do lol.

You're a guy, it doesn't apply.

[sloppyjoe1]

You're a guy, it doesn't apply.

True, glad to be a dude.

[xvicknumber7x]

i find that i dont care too much, actually. i make interest known and try to move things forward and there is always strange behavior in response, especially lately. it's almost as if they needed plans for that one specific day and are lukewarm after despite giving all the signs of interest (eye contact, touching, kiss, escalated physical contact, laughing, etc.)

[sloppyjoe1]

i find that i dont care too much, actually. i make interest known and try to move things forward and there is always strange behavior in response, especially lately. it's almost as if they needed plans for that one specific day and are lukewarm after despite giving all the signs of interest (eye contact, touching, kiss, escalated physical contact, laughing, etc.)

I know that feel man. It's not really about caring it's just more curiosity about their behavior. A lot of women have strange behavior when you are in the initial phases and I'll never understand it.

[Luc1fer]

i find that i dont care too much, actually. i make interest known and try to move things forward and there is always strange behavior in response, especially lately. it's almost as if they needed plans for that one specific day and are lukewarm after despite giving all the signs of interest (eye contact, touching, kiss, escalated physical contact, laughing, etc.)

Usually the opposite for me. I see their apparent interest, but just assume it's meaningless and that she'll probably fade (since I know how volatile and/or fake a lot of women are). But then they usually don't end up fading and are interested in dating more.

[redliner9]

one thing I have been pondering lately is if I am doing something wrong with these women. it's been a ton of bumble and tinder dates and I am not hooking the interest of many of these women the way I am used to. perhaps I have forgotten something, or maybe I have changed from last time and I have gotten worse at this. i'm not sure what it is. maybe it isn't me. i'm not sure what to think about all the ghosts, or things running out of steam, or just the fact that these girls only seem halfway-interested after hanging once or twice. that's hard to understand.

Its not you, its the dating scene.

I thought the same thing this summer after after getting out of a 2 yr relationship.

I have the same issues as getting dates isnt the problem but keeping interest is.

One date I was talking to even said the same thing, saying that the limitless options on both sides causes everyone to jump around.

My dating pool is a bit older but that doesnt seem to matter. ie: 35-45

Whether its getting dates off an app or in person, it doesnt seem to make a difference.

[xvicknumber7x]

Usually the opposite for me. I see their apparent interest, but just assume it's meaningless and that she'll probably fade (since I know how volatile and/or fake a lot of women are). But then they usually don't end up fading and are interested in dating more.

that actually sounds a lot like how i feel. i generally am beginning to assume that a lot of these women are just looking for something to do for a day, etc. and it actually doesnt matter what i do or how i act or whatever when on dates. i mean, i try to be the best man i can be, and i make moves and flirt and stuff, but honestly in the back of my mind i'm like "i dont think this matters much tbh, i think she thinks im hot so i'm basically in for at least today" lmao.

Its not you, its the dating scene.

I thought the same thing this summer after after getting out of a 2 yr relationship.

I have the same issues as getting dates isnt the problem but keeping interest is.

One date I was talking to even said the same thing, saying that the limitless options on both sides causes everyone to jump around.

My dating pool is a bit older but that doesnt seem to matter. ie: 35-45

Whether its getting dates off an app or in person, it doesnt seem to make a difference.

so what does it take to make something stick? it's almost like a game of chance.



got plans scheduled with zookeeper on thursday.

[alltrapbrah]

so what does it take to make something stick? it's almost like a game of chance.

Nailed it in one brah.

It's no different to any other personal relationships. You like who you like, and if it's reciprocal, then a relationship will develop naturally.

Think about how you became friends with your friends. It's really not a great deal different from how romantic relationships should blossom.