Vick's Dating Log and Advice Thread v. 3.0 (that escalated quickly!)

[BlackScorpio91]

just got back from a date with a girl off of hinge. she's probably an 8/10 with a giant butt. it went very well. we went to a local wine bar near my house. she had plans with friends afterward, so nothing too awesome, but kiss closed by her car in the rain after walking her there. she seems interested in meeting again. it was good.

You got a Halloween party coming up?

[xvicknumber7x]

You got a Halloween party coming up?

nah, never been a fan of halloween. never really participated in it tbh. i'm not creative or artsy. i'm just gunna hand out candy on thursday. there was a bar crawl on my street tonight that i saw when i was walking home, and the zookeeper chick was doing it, but i just decided to lay low after the date, smoke a cigar and chill before my workout tomorrow.

[BlackScorpio91]

nah, never been a fan of halloween. never really participated in it tbh. i'm not creative or artsy. i'm just gunna hand out candy on thursday. there was a bar crawl on my street tonight that i saw when i was walking home, and the zookeeper chick was doing it, but i just decided to lay low after the date, smoke a cigar and chill before my workout tomorrow.

Yeah I was at this party today (posted pics on ******** and Instagram) and it was pretty tight. It was a Christian party though so not really a lot of overt flirting or making out and stuff like that compared to regular parties. Also most of the women didn't really wear any "slutty" outfits even though I know some of them wanted to.

I don't think I won't be home when the kids come to my door for Halloween so I won't have any of them bothering me.

[xvicknumber7x]

i like making the kids smile and interacting with the people in the neighborhood. it's a super multicultural neighborhood and i like being out there to let them know they have at least one decent guy in the neighborhood haha!

today is a homework day, using the apps, and just getting back on track. a canadian girl living here in NY hit me up at 2am last night while i was asleep asking to hang out on tuesday. she's also pretty hot and from hinge. that was neat to wake up to.

[kineticforce]

Never been flaked on crew*

pondus_levo the man, the myth, the legend...

Hope you're doing well these days ... last time we spoke things were not going so well.

Vick - I have a message in my inbox from you 4 years ago.... should I reply? Looks like you've been doing well for yourself - good job! Keep doing what you're doing, things always work themselves out.

[DustinTheHuss]

just got back from a date with a girl off of hinge. she's probably an 8/10 with a giant butt. it went very well. we went to a local wine bar near my house. she had plans with friends afterward, so nothing too awesome, but kiss closed by her car in the rain after walking her there. she seems interested in meeting again. it was good.

That's awesome brah. I need to try Hinge.

[xvicknumber7x]

pondus_levo the man, the myth, the legend...

Hope you're doing well these days ... last time we spoke things were not going so well.

Vick - I have a message in my inbox from you 4 years ago.... should I reply? Looks like you've been doing well for yourself - good job! Keep doing what you're doing, things always work themselves out.

you are a legend to me. you should always reply. you have taught me literally 80% of what I know, sorry pondus.

[kineticforce]

you are a legend to me. you should always reply. you have taught me literally 80% of what I know, sorry pondus.

long time kid... keep doing what you're doing

I'm just someone who got you moving in the correct direction. You did all the work - I'm sure you're helping others as I helped you.

Back in the day you used to get all worried about getting flaked on, now no worries at all. It shows that it's just mindset and keep on trying and keep on keeping on.

We'll have to chat more off line

Peace kid

[xvicknumber7x]

long time kid... keep doing what you're doing

I'm just someone who got you moving in the correct direction. You did all the work - I'm sure you're helping others as I helped you.

Back in the day you used to get all worried about getting flaked on, now no worries at all. It shows that it's just mindset and keep on trying and keep on keeping on.

We'll have to chat more off line

Peace kid

i will. thank you. you've helped me a lot and you don't even know me. i am working very hard, with more to go. but you have been invaluable especially in my early days when i had nowhere to turn. this is a good indicator of where i've been. you're the man.

[BlackScorpio91]

I'm so glad my mentor was another guy who was blunt like me; the famous dating coach Alan Roger Currie and his advice has worked for me and lead me to not be as frustrated with dating as I did before I read his books and listened to his advice. His advice is not really an easy get laid method (though that's a byproduct of being Mode One) but more so a lifestyle where you tell women what exactly you want from them and either they like it or not. Still gotta put in work though.

If I had listened to some PUA for most of my 20s, I'll be like some of these dudes bitching about my dating life daily on here.

I naturally have a blunt personality and gradually but surely becoming Mode One wasn't as hard as someone else who's more beat around the bush and not only will women that find you attractive get turned on by your mouthpiece but also they will find it funny and refreshing as most dudes are full of chit and you have an advantage over them in terms of women that like you.

[xvicknumber7x]

have a date tonight with a cute canadian from hinge, and seeing the girl from saturday tomorrow for dinner. i think i am also meeting up with a new hinge girl on friday. she seems to like me a good bit. should be an interesting few days. hottest one is prob the one tonight tbh.

[Komytea]

have a date tonight with a cute canadian from hinge, and seeing the girl from saturday tomorrow for dinner. i think i am also meeting up with a new hinge girl on friday. she seems to like me a good bit. should be an interesting few days. hottest one is prob the one tonight tbh.

nice man. still waiting to hear back from my hinge chick on setting up a date.

[xvicknumber7x]

hinge canadian flaked on me, citing having to stay late at work. which was weird, because she was texting me at 2 in the morning a few days ago talking about how excited she was to see me. first hinge flake, not entirely surprised tbh, but it's all good. had fallback plans tonight with the boys and have an interesting week lined up. onward and upward friends.

komytea - good luck dude. hinge is wild and mostly awesome. hopefully you have good luck as well!

[DustinTheHuss]

hinge canadian flaked on me, citing having to stay late at work. which was weird, because she was texting me at 2 in the morning a few days ago talking about how excited she was to see me. first hinge flake, not entirely surprised tbh, but it's all good. had fallback plans tonight with the boys and have an interesting week lined up. onward and upward friends.

komytea - good luck dude. hinge is wild and mostly awesome. hopefully you have good luck as well!

Who knows, it could be a legit reason as people do have to work late at times. At least you have a backup plan.

[xvicknumber7x]

Who knows, it could be a legit reason as people do have to work late at times. At least you have a backup plan.

maybe so. it's so much easier to not be bothered when you have an endless stream of options. that's a big silver lining. in the distant past i'd be all bummed and shiit, but I have gotten to the point where these sorts of things just sorta bounce off. it's nice, but took a lot of work to get here. here's to a better tomorrow!

[Komytea]

komytea - good luck dude. hinge is wild and mostly awesome. hopefully you have good luck as well!

she texted me but hasn’t brought up a schedule yet. this broad doesn’t reciprocate questions. should I just go NC?

Edit: sucks she flaked man

[xvicknumber7x]

she texted me but hasn’t brought up a schedule yet. this broad doesn’t reciprocate questions. should I just go NC?

Edit: sucks she flaked man

i go nc on all girls who simply reply to what I said and have no counter discussion or at least playfulness. hasn't failed me yet. too exhausting to keep dictating shiit.

[BigBallsMcgee]

i go nc on all girls who simply reply to what I said and have no counter discussion or at least playfulness. hasn't failed me yet. too exhausting to keep dictating shiit.

some chicks just cant text though, doesnt mean they aint into it. at least suggest meeting up and see if they agree.

[xvicknumber7x]

some chicks just cant text though, doesnt mean they aint into it. at least suggest meeting up and see if they agree.

i dont want to meet up with someone who isn't displaying at least introductory interest in me. there are others that will. i gotta make them work for something if they want a piece of my time.

[BlackScorpio91]

i dont want to meet up with someone who isn't displaying at least introductory interest in me. there are others that will. i gotta make them work for something if they want a piece of my time.

This.

If I don't feel like a chick is interested in me or is just really annoying, vapid, awkward, hot and cold, etc then I lose interest. I need a woman to show me a good amount of interest before we get together. I don't like dealing with wishy washy chicks and I just tend to avoid them all together.

[pondus_levo]

some chicks just cant text though, doesnt mean they aint into it. at least suggest meeting up and see if they agree.

100% no. All women know how to text. If she's not engaging, she's not interested(enough) for you to keep initiating. NEXT!

[Komytea]

100% no. All women know how to text. If she's not engaging, she's not interested(enough) for you to keep initiating. NEXT!

I had to slide in grabbing a drink again. She said her schedule was pretty much full except for maybe this weekend. She said she’s pretty open next week so I said let’s do the 7th, she says she’s gonna look at her schedule tomorrow. Lolz. Gonna go NC.

[xvicknumber7x]

i had a date with the girl from saturday again last night. it was a lot of fun. her butt is soooooooo fat hhhhhnnnnngggggggg. we ate, drank and watched a corny halloween movie at her house. then i got kicked out because it was late, but not without some last second resistance. text right after, etc. things are looking good. i cant wait to hit.

[otakutrevan]

100% no. All women know how to text. If she's not engaging, she's not interested(enough) for you to keep initiating. NEXT!

tfw on the perpetual next

[pondus_levo]

i had a date with the girl from saturday again last night. it was a lot of fun. her butt is soooooooo fat hhhhhnnnnngggggggg. we ate, drank and watched a corny halloween movie at her house. then i got kicked out because it was late, but not without some last second resistance. text right after, etc. things are looking good. i cant wait to hit.

Do you remember it being this easy before you got into your relationship?

[DustinTheHuss]

tfw on the perpetual next

See, everyone gets flaked on. It's part of the dating game. People don't take commitments seriously anymore. My parents raised me to take commitments seriously or inform someone with enough lead time that I can't make it for a legitimate reason.

[pondus_levo]

tfw on the perpetual next

Sometimes it feels that way... Should I remind you that you've slept with 30 women and you are only 26? You are in the 90th percentile for your age.

I cannot fathom why you think you have it so hard. Your perception of reality and where you stand in it is screwed as ****. Have you ever thought about seeing a psychologist?

[otakutrevan]

Sometimes it feels that way... Should I remind you that you've slept with 30 women and you are only 26? You are in the 90th percentile for your age.

I cannot fathom why you think you have it so hard. Your perception of reality and where you stand in it is screwed as ****. Have you ever thought about seeing a psychologist?

I've said it 100 times. Of that 30, only like 8 were objectively cute or higher and I was pursuing dating like it was a part time job + ultra High Test Crew decisions. It wasnt normal, organic, natural, or even fun. I took the numbers game to the next level. The reason I believe I have it hard is idk...going 3, 6 months, or a year + without any sort of regular dating or etc.

EDIT: Also nice neg with the see a psychologist. Nothing about my view is irrational or etc. "Yeah you haven't found anyone serious in years, and seem to have a major issue finding someone thats actually interested, BUT mr otak you.slayed.30.total.what.is.the.problem"

[xvicknumber7x]

tfw on the perpetual next

all in the game, yo. all in the game.

Do you remember it being this easy before you got into your relationship?

well, that is an interesting question. before I met my last girlfriend, I was a salesman. I sold applications to counselors, therapists, drug rehab places, etc. i had a background in psych so I walked right in. however the pressure of my job really made life uncomfortable at times and I think that stress and questioning of myself was sometimes apparent. i went on plenty of dates back then, and those were pretty easy to get. i think i ended up getting a good amount of girls to like me, and generally, i felt comfortable when out with them, escalating, the essential stuff.

this time around has been so different in a much better way. first, i feel like my value has risen. i am 3 years older, have a post graduate degree (in approximately 38 days,) have a career I love and am so passionate about, and it feels like things are finally starting to take shape for me. i think this is highly reflected in the way i carry myself, talk about my life, and the things i am able to have conversations about. i can still get dates with most people, but things just feel a bit different now. i feel like i have "home field advantage" in a sense. by this, i mean that i feel like they all kind of want me to do the right things, push the right buttons, and that sort of stuff. it's like i have their immediate attention and interest more easily than before.

it does feel easier this time around. i was worried at first that i'd forget how it was, but it has been fun and a series of valuable lessons for me.

See, everyone gets flaked on. It's part of the dating game. People don't take commitments seriously anymore. My parents raised me to take commitments seriously or inform someone with enough lead time that I can't make it for a legitimate reason.

Sometimes it feels that way... Should I remind you that you've slept with 30 women and you are only 26? You are in the 90th percentile for your age.

I cannot fathom why you think you have it so hard. Your perception of reality and where you stand in it is screwed as ****. Have you ever thought about seeing a psychologist?

yeah his number is good af for 30.

[pondus_levo]

I've said it 100 times. Of that 30, only like 8 were objectively cute or higher and I was pursuing dating like it was a part time job + ultra High Test Crew decisions. It wasnt normal, organic, natural, or even fun. I took the numbers game to the next level. The reason I believe I have it hard is idk...going 3, 6 months, or a year + without any sort of regular dating or etc.

EDIT: Also nice neg with the see a psychologist. Nothing about my view is irrational or etc. "Yeah you haven't found anyone serious in years, and seem to have a major issue finding someone thats actually interested, BUT mr otak you.slayed.30.total.what.is.the.problem"

Bro, I've been separated for my wife for 4 years and I haven't found anything serious and along the way, I've had a few lays with women I had some good chemistry with. There's nothing wrong with that. It just means I have standards. I could have sex with countless more, but I don't feel the need to. I'd say if I felt the need to there would be something wrong with me, like I was trying to fill a void.

So what you are saying is that your number should really only be 8, but you've slept with 30. Something is wrong and it's in your head. Why do you feel the need to have slept with 30 women!? I'd say 8 at your age is even good. At your age I had only been with 2 women. So what I'm saying is, it seems like you are trying to fill a void and you need to find out why/what it is. You are having meaningless sex with women you are not even attracted to. That is not normal to me.

well, that is an interesting question. before I met my last girlfriend, I was a salesman. I sold applications to counselors, therapists, drug rehab places, etc. i had a background in psych so I walked right in. however the pressure of my job really made life uncomfortable at times and I think that stress and questioning of myself was sometimes apparent. i went on plenty of dates back then, and those were pretty easy to get. i think i ended up getting a good amount of girls to like me, and generally, i felt comfortable when out with them, escalating, the essential stuff.

this time around has been so different in a much better way. first, i feel like my value has risen. i am 3 years older, have a post graduate degree (in approximately 38 days,) have a career I love and am so passionate about, and it feels like things are finally starting to take shape for me. i think this is highly reflected in the way i carry myself, talk about my life, and the things i am able to have conversations about. i can still get dates with most people, but things just feel a bit different now. i feel like i have "home field advantage" in a sense. by this, i mean that i feel like they all kind of want me to do the right things, push the right buttons, and that sort of stuff. it's like i have their immediate attention and interest more easily than before.

Das it mane. Confidence + IDGAF attitude = womenz on easy mode.