I know you guys don't like hearing from females, but imma say something anyway. My ex used to always talk about marriage. He wanted to be sure I'd say yes before he got the ring. I told him that's just not how things are done- that I wouldn't give an answer unless and until the ring was right in front of me. Because that's how it should be. The man hedges his bets on a woman with no guarantee of what the outcome will be. It's the ultimate alpha move, imo. And I think it should be like that in dating, too. The man sees relationship potential, so he cuts out other options and puts all the focus on her.
I think that other miscer was right that women are sensing you're not serious about them, so they can't be serious about you. Women want men to lead in a relationship.
Also, you sound super-contradictory with you're whole "I'm not trying to get serious, why don't any of these women want something serious with me" thing.
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10-15-2019, 08:07 AM #511
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10-15-2019, 08:11 AM #512
Through some wizardry I pulled off a gym rat teacher wants to go on a date this week. Even if it doesnt pan it having someone that imo, to me, is attractive, really raises the spirit.
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10-15-2019, 08:13 AM #513
i guess the state that i'm at would be that i would get serious again with someone if i caught the vibe that they were serious about me. i guess my desires are conditional. i'm at a point where i will pretty much go with whatever tbh. and your opinion is always valid here. i prefer to hear from women as well.
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10-15-2019, 09:04 AM #515
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I mean I wouldn't directly ask if my girl would marry me before I got the ring but I'd find ways/hints to make sure it was in my favor. I highly disagree with your opinion about dating. No man should cut out other options for a girl he barely knows just because he see's "potential". Most people see potential early on because everybody involved is acting as perfect as they can be. It should take a few months to really get to know someones true self before you make that judgement.
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10-15-2019, 09:04 AM #516
It's not that we don't like women's opinions. It's that we don't like women's opinions that are complete junk and out of touch of reality, like yours.
The only part I agree with is the part where you agree with me.
You: I'm not going to get serious unless she shows me she is serious
Her: I'm not going to get serious unless he shows me he is serious.
Someone has to make the first move and 99% of the time it's not going to be the woman.Last edited by pondus_levo; 10-15-2019 at 09:17 AM.
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10-15-2019, 12:35 PM #519
And yet, you can "know" someone for years and years, and until you actually let them in, not really know them at all. If you've ever moved in with a friend or lover only to see an entirely different side of them, you've likely experienced this. I'm not saying you should move in with someone right away- definitely don't do that.
Personally, I don't operate from a scarcity mindset, so I'm not afraid of letting any options go. I know there will always be someone else for me. Like the dentist who did fillings on me today. He told me to turn my head towards him, and when I didn't turn it far enough he put it right by his crotch, where he wanted it. He's a Mormon and those men never leave their wives. But you get what I'm saying- someone like him is out there for me. A take charge kind of man. Yes. And when I find him, I sure as heck am not going to ruin it by playing games or risking him finding out about some other crotch my head has been in.
But you do you.
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10-15-2019, 01:01 PM #520
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10-15-2019, 02:13 PM #522
Exactly.
Asking, โhey babe, before I get a ring, I just wanna know if youโll say โyesโโ, doesnโt scream of being sure, does it?
Heโs seeking assurances by asking that question, understand? And the fact he feels he needs to do that is a strong as fuk indicator that he shouldnโt get married.Last edited by alltrapbrah; 10-15-2019 at 02:20 PM.
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10-15-2019, 05:03 PM #524
It's a two-way street. Just because he is sure that he wants to get married, doesn't mean she is. Unless you know she is sure, and have talked about it in length already, then you don't ask.
And to be honest, if she's not the one bringing it up, you also shouldn't ask. LOL.Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
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10-15-2019, 08:09 PM #525
update:
plans with girl across the street for lunch tomorrow and zookeeper on thursday. girl from last week hopefully around the end of the week. i dont want that to fizzle out. that would suck.
also, there is a super hot barista who works at a cafe next door to my work. i go to the cafe for lunch everyday to have tea and process. anyway, she found me on IG tonight and DMed me. it was insane. i think she has a man, so i've never approached. however last week she complimented my outfit (i dressed up hardcore for a community lunch) and since then she has been flirting with me pretty good. not sure what to think rn tbh, since i am fairly fairly sure she is cuffed. but we will see.
mostly just wanna see girl from last week again tbh. we snapped a bit today, and i'm going to text her tomorrow.
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10-16-2019, 03:36 PM #531
bae i'm soooooo sorry. it just sorta happened. i swear it was a one time thing.
i have options yes, but the one i like the most is the one i havent seen in a bit. but we've been talking daily so i guess it's okay.
get together with girl across the street was cool. she's def into me. i can make her melt. might hang with her on the weekend.
the chick sliding in my dms last night still has my mind blown.
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10-17-2019, 08:50 PM #536
just got back from another date with zookeeper. this would be our fourth time hanging out. she was definitely still sick, but toughed it out to come hang. anyway, we saw a comedy act downtown. it was actually really fun. we then talked for a little bit about a bunch of different stuff. i said something really sweet entirely by accident. i really like her. but i don't think it will ever work out. i don't think she is looking to get involved with anyone. anyway, we got back to her house and she told me she still feels a bit under the weather and that i cant come in. i saw that coming, because her cough sounded a bit nasty at times throughout the night. walked her to the door, kissed her on the cheek, and took off. she referenced a next time as far as another date goes. it is sorta nice not having pressure or expectations on things, and just having fun and being cute with each other and **** and just not trying to get things to go 'somewhere,' but at the same time i acknowledge that i could let this really hurt me later on. but right now, i definitely like the arrangement.
seems like she had a great time. i did, too.
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