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    How to win back my ex?

    I know i know
    I should move on
    But want to give this one shot

    My ex broke up with me and stuffed me around
    At the time I had low self esteem I was unemployed and dealing with family issues


    When she left me I reacted really badly and acted like a huge Beta
    She probably lost all attraction to me in this moment

    Anyway a Few weeks later I sent her a letter in the mail apologising and she said that I shouldn’t of sent it as her father saw it and that I should of texted her

    Okay
    So a month later she is no longer with this man

    Yes why the hell would I want her back?
    I don’t know but I wanna try

    How can I get her back
    How can I reignite the attraction ?
    I’m back working now and feel so much different .

    I’ve been uploading my physique on Instagram I’m thinking abount liking one of her pictures to see if she responds

    What else can I do ?

    Thanks

    I know I should move on but just wanna give it one last shot and tbh I want to explain to her why I acted the way I did etc
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    You’re pathetic. “ Give it another shot.” You gave it multiple shots and she turned you down every time. She dumped you. You have no self-respect and you will not listen to any good advice given here. Full stop.
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    Lmao @ thinking you can get her back after going full beta and even sending her a letter in the mail.
    It's over. You need to accept it.

    Want to know how an ex comes back?
    Win the lottery, become rich/famous.
    Or wait till she gets pumped and dumped x amount of times, gets really fat or pregnant without a baby daddy and she shows up on your doorstep 7 years from now after you have a stable job/house etc so you can become a provider.

    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    I know I should move on but just wanna give it one last shot and tbh I want to explain to her why I acted the way I did etc
    Your ''explanation'' won't make her wet. It won't make her fall in love with you. It will do absolutely nothing but push her away further. Move on.
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    Move on.

    There's no piece of advice anyone in this forum or life is going to give you with the intention of getting you back with her.

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    you didnt act like a beta bro







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    Originally Posted by ChangeOfStyle View Post
    Move on.

    There's no piece of advice anyone in this forum or life is going to give you with the intention of getting you back with her.

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    I’m sorry I can’t. Yes I sound like a psycho ex boyfriend but I can’t

    Can’t I at least like one of her pictures on insta or something and see what happens?

    Or maybe message her ?

    I can’t take no for an answer on here. If she rejects me I’ll move on I’ll delete everything and stop thinking of her

    I know i must be the most pathetic guy on the planet I’d take back a girl who left me for another dude in a heart beat

    Lol

    But it’s a combination of things

    1) I’m extremely lonely and my life is boring and sad.
    2) it’s not easy for me to get girls unless I use tinder/bumble etc which takes a long time /very hard
    3) this girl was sexy and I had a connection/common interest (gym) with her - again hard to find . Haven’t met other girls like her. Not even close



    This girl literally fixes all my problems

    1 sex
    2 no longer feel lonely
    3 someone to hang out with and do things with etc
    4 someone to laugh with
    5 something to look forward to

    It’s frickin been 2 months and I still think about her daily I just tune out for hours at work thinking of her
    I get my friends to look at her social media to see what She is doing etc

    I’ve gambled and won huge amounts of money
    Ive done hard drugs
    I’ve gotten drunk
    I’ve banged 9/10 escorts (porn star looking tanned d cups etc)

    But nothing comes close to the feelings she gave me
    I miss it so much I crave it I’d do anything for it. Anything
    And I seriously mean it.

    What do I do ?
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    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    I’m sorry I can’t. Yes I sound like a psycho ex boyfriend but I can’t
    Ok then stay feeling miserable 24/7 for years to come.

    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    Can’t I at least like one of her pictures on insta or something and see what happens?
    Sure, she'll either think you're clingy and desperate and lose every last bit of respect she has for her, if there's even any left.
    Or she'll block you.



    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    I can’t take no for an answer on here. If she rejects me I’ll move on I’ll delete everything and stop thinking of her
    She already rejected you, tf you talking bout? She dumped you.


    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    1) I’m extremely lonely and my life is boring and sad.
    2) it’s not easy for me to get girls unless I use tinder/bumble etc which takes a long time /very hard
    3) this girl was sexy and I had a connection/common interest (gym) with her - again hard to find . Haven’t met other girls like her. Not even close
    1.Being sad or lonely is not a reason to reach out to an ex.
    2.Dating takes time, either you put in the effort or you stay single until a girl somehow ends up in your life naturally.
    3. You didn't have a connection with her before you met her, just like you don't have a connection yet with the next girl. That takes time.


    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    What do I do ?
    You accept that the relationship is over. That there's nothing you can do or say that will change her mind, because she thought long and hard before she decided to dump you. You go no contact and stay no contact no matter what. You don't stalk her social media, block her on everything, work on yourself, lift hard, focus on career etc and eventually find someone better.

    Or stay a little bitch like you're going to do, cling onto her for dear life while she'll only get more turned off by you and feel miserable for a long time since you lack the willpower or motivation to move forward.
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    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    I’m sorry I can’t. Yes I sound like a psycho ex boyfriend but I can’t

    Can’t I at least like one of her pictures on insta or something and see what happens?

    Or maybe message her ?

    I can’t take no for an answer on here. If she rejects me I’ll move on I’ll delete everything and stop thinking of her

    I know i must be the most pathetic guy on the planet I’d take back a girl who left me for another dude in a heart beat

    Lol

    But it’s a combination of things

    1) I’m extremely lonely and my life is boring and sad.
    2) it’s not easy for me to get girls unless I use tinder/bumble etc which takes a long time /very hard
    3) this girl was sexy and I had a connection/common interest (gym) with her - again hard to find . Haven’t met other girls like her. Not even close



    This girl literally fixes all my problems

    1 sex
    2 no longer feel lonely
    3 someone to hang out with and do things with etc
    4 someone to laugh with
    5 something to look forward to

    It’s frickin been 2 months and I still think about her daily I just tune out for hours at work thinking of her
    I get my friends to look at her social media to see what She is doing etc

    I’ve gambled and won huge amounts of money
    Ive done hard drugs
    I’ve gotten drunk
    I’ve banged 9/10 escorts (porn star looking tanned d cups etc)

    But nothing comes close to the feelings she gave me
    I miss it so much I crave it I’d do anything for it. Anything
    And I seriously mean it.

    What do I do ?
    I'm sorry dude, seems like you did really fall for this one but if she's your ex, then something at this point was not meant to be.

    You need to start focusing on yourself at this point; you have given this broad so much power that even when she's not with you, she's still controlling your emotions and that's way too much power to give to someone. You need to focus on your own passions and what you enjoy doing at this point and let that re-ignite a flame in yourself. During your life; most people will take notice of your new found self and then will want to interact with you especially in social interactions scenarios/gathering but the more you keep thinking about what was and what could have happened and the more you keep saying ''if only'' - you're only going to be more depressed and eventually die alone.

    Take the hint and work on yourself here mentally and physically; there really are plenty of other chicks out there for you bud, I'm sorry this one wasn't it so it's time to move on to the next. Journey of building that relationship with someone is what's worth it. Out of the billions of people in this planet, you're not only going to fall in love once; there's tons of em out there.
    If you need help, don't hesitate to reach out. Let's have a chat.

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    Your problem is you are lonely/bored/unhappy and you cannot get girls easily.

    Getting a girl does not fix that problem because you will be so dependent upon them for your happiness that when this becomes apparent to them, it will be an instant turnoff and they will lose attraction to you and leave you or take advantage of you.

    You need to find things in life to fulfill you aside from the potential of how a woman to fulfill you and you will then be able to attract women easier and maintain a healthier relationship because you are not as dependent upon them.

    As for this girl, the only chance you have is to forget about her and work on building a better and more self-fulfilling life yourself and reconnect months or years from now. Any action you take now to beg for her back will make you look more desperate and unattractive to her.
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    Since you are going to just ignore everyone's advice on here telling you to move on, i will actually help you get this chick back. You do this and eventually she will come back. Maybe for just a one night stand, maybe just for coffee, maybe for a round 2 of a long term relationship, that will depend on how you act when that happens and what is going on with her life, but regardless, she will be back.

    Step 1: No contact. Absolutely no contact, no text messages, no stupid ass letters, no randomly showing up at places she is, not liking her pictures or even viewing her stories. You become a memory, thats it. You dont become someone she knows will be there 24/7 at the snaps of her fingers. You become a ghost, a fukin ghost. Only then will she start missing you, when you have become only a memory

    Step 2: For the love of God stop posting cringey pictures of your physique on instagram. Dont wanna see you posting selfies with your dirty ass mirror, or an old dudes ballsack on the background because you are at poverty 24 hour fitness. That is a huge turn off, makes you look like a loser no matter how your body looks. Not even male fitness models do that, they at least post their physique pics with hot chicks next to them, or in cool ass places. You wearing your basketball shorts and showing off your farmer's tan poverty biceps wont make any girl attracted to you.

    Social media should be used to post social pictures. Not pictures of anime characters, not shirtless selfies, not pictures of your cats or a random ass mountain you climbed. Social pictures. In order for your ex to miss you and the good times she had with you, she needs to see YOU having a good time. Make new friends, get better looking, better clothes, post pictures hiking, or jet ski-ing, drinking, AND SMILE. Look happy.

    She needs to think "Ok i guess id like to be there with him... on that beach... but hmm i havent heard for him in a while, i wonder if he miss me? Fuk it ill text him".


    Just become a fun, attractive person and she will miss you harder. When some loser comes around and makes her cringe, or cheats on her, or turns out to be a dumbass and she loses attraction, you will be there in the back of her mind.



    Step 3: If(when) she contacts you, dont panic. Play it cool. Dont just ask her out of nowhere. Let it be HER idea. If she doesnt bring it up, then good bye and thats it. Let her try again.






    TL;DR: No contact and let her miss you
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    Originally Posted by DohkoK View Post
    Since you are going to just ignore everyone's advice on here telling you to move on, i will actually help you get this chick back. You do this and eventually she will come back. Maybe for just a one night stand, maybe just for coffee, maybe for a round 2 of a long term relationship, that will depend on how you act when that happens and what is going on with her life, but regardless, she will be back.

    Step 1: No contact. Absolutely no contact, no text messages, no stupid ass letters, no randomly showing up at places she is, not liking her pictures or even viewing her stories. You become a memory, thats it. You dont become someone she knows will be there 24/7 at the snaps of her fingers. You become a ghost, a fukin ghost. Only then will she start missing you, when you have become only a memory

    Step 2: For the love of God stop posting cringey pictures of your physique on instagram. Dont wanna see you posting selfies with your dirty ass mirror, or an old dudes ballsack on the background because you are at poverty 24 hour fitness. That is a huge turn off, makes you look like a loser no matter how your body looks. Not even male fitness models do that, they at least post their physique pics with hot chicks next to them, or in cool ass places. You wearing your basketball shorts and showing off your farmer's tan poverty biceps wont make any girl attracted to you.

    Social media should be used to post social pictures. Not pictures of anime characters, not shirtless selfies, not pictures of your cats or a random ass mountain you climbed. Social pictures. In order for your ex to miss you and the good times she had with you, she needs to see YOU having a good time. Make new friends, get better looking, better clothes, post pictures hiking, or jet ski-ing, drinking, AND SMILE. Look happy.

    She needs to think "Ok i guess id like to be there with him... on that beach... but hmm i havent heard for him in a while, i wonder if he miss me? Fuk it ill text him".


    Just become a fun, attractive person and she will miss you harder. When some loser comes around and makes her cringe, or cheats on her, or turns out to be a dumbass and she loses attraction, you will be there in the back of her mind.



    Step 3: If(when) she contacts you, dont panic. Play it cool. Dont just ask her out of nowhere. Let it be HER idea. If she doesnt bring it up, then good bye and thats it. Let her try again.






    TL;DR: No contact and let her miss you
    Hey man the problem is she doesn't even follow me on social media

    That's why i'm thinking about trying to reach out to her but not really sure what to do

    Maybe I either like her picture randomly and see what happens or watch her story if she blocks me then I'll know for sure

    but there's got to be something I can do..
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    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    Hey man the problem is she doesn't even follow me on social media

    That's why i'm thinking about trying to reach out to her but not really sure what to do

    Maybe I either like her picture randomly and see what happens or watch her story if she blocks me then I'll know for sure

    but there's got to be something I can do..
    Once you no longer consider yourself lonely and sad and other girls become attracted to you easily is when you can "do something."

    There is nothing you can do right now as your demeanor will still be unattractive to her.

    Op this will take months at a minimum. Just forget about it for now.
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    Originally Posted by DohkoK View Post
    Since you are going to just ignore everyone's advice on here telling you to move on, i will actually help you get this chick back. You do this and eventually she will come back. Maybe for just a one night stand, maybe just for coffee, maybe for a round 2 of a long term relationship, that will depend on how you act when that happens and what is going on with her life, but regardless, she will be back.

    Step 1: No contact. Absolutely no contact, no text messages, no stupid ass letters, no randomly showing up at places she is, not liking her pictures or even viewing her stories. You become a memory, thats it. You dont become someone she knows will be there 24/7 at the snaps of her fingers. You become a ghost, a fukin ghost. Only then will she start missing you, when you have become only a memory

    Step 2: For the love of God stop posting cringey pictures of your physique on instagram. Dont wanna see you posting selfies with your dirty ass mirror, or an old dudes ballsack on the background because you are at poverty 24 hour fitness. That is a huge turn off, makes you look like a loser no matter how your body looks. Not even male fitness models do that, they at least post their physique pics with hot chicks next to them, or in cool ass places. You wearing your basketball shorts and showing off your farmer's tan poverty biceps wont make any girl attracted to you.

    Social media should be used to post social pictures. Not pictures of anime characters, not shirtless selfies, not pictures of your cats or a random ass mountain you climbed. Social pictures. In order for your ex to miss you and the good times she had with you, she needs to see YOU having a good time. Make new friends, get better looking, better clothes, post pictures hiking, or jet ski-ing, drinking, AND SMILE. Look happy.

    She needs to think "Ok i guess id like to be there with him... on that beach... but hmm i havent heard for him in a while, i wonder if he miss me? Fuk it ill text him".


    Just become a fun, attractive person and she will miss you harder. When some loser comes around and makes her cringe, or cheats on her, or turns out to be a dumbass and she loses attraction, you will be there in the back of her mind.



    Step 3: If(when) she contacts you, dont panic. Play it cool. Dont just ask her out of nowhere. Let it be HER idea. If she doesnt bring it up, then good bye and thats it. Let her try again.






    TL;DR: No contact and let her miss you
    OP, you’ll **** it up, but this is legitimately the only way to “get her back”. I can tell by how you’re posting that you’re desperate and will hound her until she gets a restraining order against you.

    When I was a complete idiot with no game I always thought that if I just say the right combination of words or do XYZ an ex will suddenly like me again. This is how it works in the movies right? Stand outside her window and serenade her until she loves you again.

    That. ****. Does. Not. Work.

    You know how cats seem to come after you more the less you want them around? That’s women.

    Right now she’s dead to you. Nothing more, nothing less. She doesn’t exist. Delete all methods of contacting her so your dumb ass doesn’t call her at 3 AM crying like a bitch.

    The only times I’ve interested an EX enough to bang again is when I simply moved on and gave up all hope of speaking again. Inaction is the best action.
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    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    Hey man the problem is she doesn't even follow me on social media

    That's why i'm thinking about trying to reach out to her but not really sure what to do

    Maybe I either like her picture randomly and see what happens or watch her story if she blocks me then I'll know for sure

    but there's got to be something I can do..
    Maybe propose to her with a tiffany diamond engagement ring. That way she'll know you're serious about her.
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    Originally Posted by GhenghisPWN View Post
    OP, you’ll **** it up, but this is legitimately the only way to “get her back”. I can tell by how you’re posting that you’re desperate and will hound her until she gets a restraining order against you.

    When I was a complete idiot with no game I always thought that if I just say the right combination of words or do XYZ an ex will suddenly like me again. This is how it works in the movies right? Stand outside her window and serenade her until she loves you again.

    That. ****. Does. Not. Work.

    You know how cats seem to come after you more the less you want them around? That’s women.

    Right now she’s dead to you. Nothing more, nothing less. She doesn’t exist. Delete all methods of contacting her so your dumb ass doesn’t call her at 3 AM crying like a bitch.

    The only times I’ve interested an EX enough to bang again is when I simply moved on and gave up all hope of speaking again. Inaction is the best action.
    I understand this
    I haven't liked her spoken to her for a month but I want her to remember me but at the same time I want to show I don't give a fark

    so what can I do?

    My goal is to try and get to regnite interest in me without coming across as desperate or wanting her back

    i'm seriously tempted just to like her picture and see if there's any response if not just leave it for a few months or something

    If I just leave it all together then she won't come back at all


    hmm

    there just has to be a way to go about this


    It's like I want to let her know i'm there and i'm making gains, and looking good but at the same time I don't care about her
    How can I achieve this?
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    Originally Posted by backinthegymbro View Post
    Ok then stay feeling miserable 24/7 for years to come.



    Sure, she'll either think you're clingy and desperate and lose every last bit of respect she has for her, if there's even any left.
    Or she'll block you.





    She already rejected you, tf you talking bout? She dumped you.




    1.Being sad or lonely is not a reason to reach out to an ex.
    2.Dating takes time, either you put in the effort or you stay single until a girl somehow ends up in your life naturally.
    3. You didn't have a connection with her before you met her, just like you don't have a connection yet with the next girl. That takes time.




    You accept that the relationship is over. That there's nothing you can do or say that will change her mind, because she thought long and hard before she decided to dump you. You go no contact and stay no contact no matter what. You don't stalk her social media, block her on everything, work on yourself, lift hard, focus on career etc and eventually find someone better.

    Or stay a little bitch like you're going to do, cling onto her for dear life while she'll only get more turned off by you and feel miserable for a long time since you lack the willpower or motivation to move forward.
    OP, I encourage you to listen to the advice you're receiving ITT. Preserve whatever dignity you have left and move on. I maintain that you're not in love with her; you're in love with the idea of her and your perception of her as the panacea to your misery and the source of your ultimate happiness. This is a really problematic way to look at life and relationships, and you clearly need to focus on your own personal growth right now.

    Let's say you somehow manage to reignite her feelings for you. Do you really want to continue on in the relationship on the premise of you "needing" her to simply feel content with your life? It's going to reinforce the strange power dynamic that you've already established: one in which she has the upper hand because she is clearly less attached to you than you are to her.

    I won't hesitate to validate your pain. <3 It's hard to lose someone you feel a connection with and who seems to meet all of your needs. But it's dangerous to place the burden of responsibility for your happiness on your partner in any situation. I hope you can gradually heal, build up your confidence, and experience personal growth and contentment on your own so that you and your future relationships can thrive.
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    Originally Posted by lalanaomi View Post
    OP, I encourage you to listen to the advice you're receiving ITT. =
    Lol a guy asking for advice actually taking the advice? That will be a first.
    Dude is still as dense as his first comment. He didn't learn anything.
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    UPDATE:

    Ok so I found out shes dating another guy, my heart dropped, i couldnt eat or sleep so i ended up calling her at 2am. She picked up after the 6th call and 5 VMs/5 texts.

    Basically she said she likes where this new relationship is going, and I know this is stupid, but I said we could still hangout as friends and I could be their DD and take them out, even pay for their dinner, events, etc... which will be my way of getting her back. She actually started to laugh a little (which I think is a good thing, whenever they laugh) and said she would get back to me. She texted me in the morning that it's a good idea and we are all set to hit up a local steakhouse on me to hangout.

    Sometimes things just work out bros. If anyone needs advice on getting an ex back, I got you!
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    Ok guys
    I understand all the advice in this thread but I just want to give it one last crack an if she rejects me I can move on

    But how can I go about this? Sorry I can't take no and move on for an answer


    I want to at least give it a shot? Honestly what do I have to lose? If she rejects me or turns me down ill never see her again in my life.

    What should I do? Should I message her saying how are you going? im glad we broke up It was for the best but its a shame our friendship ended or something? like her picture? Call her?
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    Guys you know what the funny part is Hypothetically if I was to meet her again I gurantee I would think to myself WTF was I thinking she isn't that good in fact, she isn't that good at all
    Yes we had a connection and stuff but she wasn't that amazing

    why do I have such an amazing image of her in my head?
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    Lol just call her 10 times in a row. You know you want to do it and ignore all advice in this thread.

    Mods, can we start banning morons who disregard our advice?
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    Boys I cannot believe it I got a missed call from her
    Wtf do I do
    I’m not trolling
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    Guys I’m actually so angry

    But for the last half of my day I started accepting that you guys are right that I should just forget about it

    But then she ducking calls me at work at 5pm

    She didn’t leave a message


    I called her back at 630 and it rang out
    Now what ? Do I text her ?

    I’m actually angry I’ve just been accepting it today and then boom

    What do I do ??
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    Originally Posted by sandman2019 View Post
    Boys I cannot believe it I got a missed call from her
    Wtf do I do
    I’m not trolling
    You're being chit tested you idiot. she's fishing for attention and no doubt you're on the hook.

    Reply with "Whos this" and just leave it at that for a few days


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