How Serious Are This Girls Red Flags??

[Soulforge2015]

Honestly brah, just be grateful that you haven't even married this chick yet. Four months in and you already know all the information about her that you need to. Fair enough, we all catch feels at some point but think about your mental health at this point man. You might want to spare the whole 'romantic' style scene and just use her for a casual fuk but that in it's own is poisonous because it's all just a trail that she's going to use to keep hooking you in deeper and deeper. She'll be out of your system as soon as you start not giving a fuk about her anymore and realizing that there's plenty more other chicks out there that have less baggage and looking for the same things you are.

GL with this brah , I'm glad you got the resolution you were looking for.

I hear you Bruv... I wasn't suggesting that I should try and FWB her now.

I meant from day one I should have just kept it casual with her.. However that is easier said than done..

Anytime you are having regular sex with a fun attractive girl, there is always a possibility of catching the FEELS especially if you connect in other ways too.

To be fair I wasn't on the verge to marry this girl lol.. I think only in the last two months the relationship went from seeing each other once a week, to suddenly more like GF and BF

Going out for meals etc, days out etc.

All that being said, writing is on the wall.. Major mind fuks ahead with this one, also strong possibility she could be BDP or fall under some other personality disorder.

Best stay the fuk from her from here on!

[DustinTheHuss]

Yeh you are right... Even FWB isn't worth it with this chick.

That's what you write, but you don't believe it. It doesn't seem to matter what we say. You will still booty call her, which will cause her illness to get worse and worse as she thinks she's being used for sex. Deep down she will hate you more and make your life miserable.

[Soulforge2015]

That's what you write, but you don't believe it. It doesn't seem to matter what we say. You will still booty call her, which will cause her illness to get worse and worse as she thinks she's being used for sex. Deep down she will hate you more and make your life miserable.

I swear I have no intention of contacting her again.

For one, she seemed ok about me breaking up with her.

Also chicks like this one don't hang around, and probably working her way upto the next dude.

I am just grateful I ejected now, before she did some serious damage to me.

[Soulforge2015]

Guys how likely is it, that this chick could fall under some type of borderline personality?

I read somewhere that childhood trauma is a BIG indicater.

01.Abused as a child for many years
02.Has self harmed herself at some point
03.Nudity/Pornography
04.Substance abuse ******* use
05.Shown interest in doing 3sums and 4sums with me
06.Had sex with me within two hours of meeting

Also how would you guys feel about this old sleazy pornographer she used to work with, occasionally stopping at her house?

I actually don't think anything has ever happened between the two, however its still a very sleazy setup that I would not be happy with.

She suggested that I come and stay at her house everytime this guy comes to stay, but I would feel very uncomfortable to be in the same company as the man who used to take pictures or film my girlfriends Vagina close up.

[dolvioblue]

Guys how likely is it, that this chick could fall under some type of borderline personality?

I read somewhere that childhood trauma is a BIG indicater.

01.Abused as a child for many years
02.Has self harmed herself at some point
03.Nudity/Pornography
04.Substance abuse ******* use
05.Shown interest in doing 3sums and 4sums with me
06.Had sex with me within two hours of meeting

Also how would you guys feel about this old sleazy pornographer she used to work with, occasionally stopping at her house?

I actually don't think anything has ever happened between the two, however its still a very sleazy setup that I would not be happy with.

She suggested that I come and stay at her house everytime this guy comes to stay, but I would feel very uncomfortable to be in the same company as the man who used to take pictures or film my girlfriends Vagina close up.

#6 is not an indicator of a red flag or issues.

I’m starting to think you are the one with issues my friend. You keep posting and posting and posting about this girl. Move on. Why are you analyzing this women?

[Soulforge2015]

#6 is not an indicator of a red flag or issues.

I’m starting to think you are the one with issues my friend. You keep posting and posting and posting about this girl. Move on. Why are you analyzing this women?

Just so I know in the future if a girl tells me, she was abused.. I could run for my life lol

[Maatkarah]

Poor girl. That's fkg terrible.

She needs counselling, not coke, thresholds or old pornographers hanging out with her. She needs to get out of all those scenes.

I think it was wise to get out. If you ever have contact with her again, just say the above.
That pornographer 's just another version of the sick kunt that sexually abused her as a child.

And did she ever prosecute him, he probably did it go others, very very likely.

What a depressing read.

[Maatkarah]

Threesomes not thresholds. Fkg autocorrect.

[Soulforge2015]

Poor girl. That's fkg terrible.

She needs counselling, not coke, thresholds or old pornographers hanging out with her. She needs to get out of all those scenes.

I think it was wise to get out. If you ever have contact with her again, just say the above.
That pornographer 's just another version of the sick kunt that sexually abused her as a child.

And did she ever prosecute him, he probably did it go others, very very likely.

What a depressing read.

If this girl had completely left her past behind her, I would have been willing to take a risk/chance with her.

However aslong aslong as the pornographer is still in the picture and ******* is in the scene, I think I could have ended up in something very dysfunctional.

Even if she went out with her friends drinking, I would be worried if she is getting high on coke.

******* and drink can losen a womans inhibitions.. I would be on here making a thread on getting CHEATED on.

I feel very conflicted because I miss her, and my attraction for her is very high.

All that being said, I am 43 years old, and do not want to end up in a highly toxic situation that could take YEARS to recover from.

Some men have killed themselves or had mental breakdowns dealing with woman like this.

The childhood abuse and self harming, could suggest a Borderline Personality could rear its ugly head months down the line.

The 10/10 sex doesn't seem like a price worth paying for what could be ahead.

[DanielleGreen]

Nice troll job OP.

[Soulforge2015]

Nice troll job OP.

Not trolling at all mate

[dolvioblue]

Not trolling at all mate

I’m starting to wonder this also. One minute you are saying how you have strong feelings for her and the next she’s a white and a sloot and basically a complete loser in life.

If you actually had feelings for her these words would never come out of your mouth. I don’t find the way you talk about women entertaining or acceptable. What makes you any better than her? You’re on here calling her a complete borderline personality whore.

If you care about her so much become a part of her life and guide her out of the bad things. She will slip up many times and hurt you along the way but maybe that’s something you can tolerate. She is free to live her life the way she wants the same as you are free to make these posts. The fact you feel she’s good enough to screw but so much of a whore you wanted out reflects terribly on you and you are not better than the other men that have destroyed her and called her a whore.

Enough with your posts because you have lost all credibility. Be a man, make a decision and stop messing with other people’s lives.

[Soulforge2015]

I’m starting to wonder this also. One minute you are saying how you have strong feelings for her and the next she’s a white and a sloot and basically a complete loser in life.

If you actually had feelings for her these words would never come out of your mouth. I don’t find the way you talk about women entertaining or acceptable. What makes you any better than her? You’re on here calling her a complete borderline personality whore.

If you care about her so much become a part of her life and guide her out of the bad things. She will slip up many times and hurt you along the way but maybe that’s something you can tolerate. She is free to live her life the way she wants the same as you are free to make these posts. The fact you feel she’s good enough to screw but so much of a whore you wanted out reflects terribly on you and you are not better than the other men that have destroyed her and called her a whore.

Enough with your posts because you have lost all credibility. Be a man, make a decision and stop messing with other people’s lives.

Just gona ignore you mate, clearly you don't know what you're talking about.

Men fall in love with damaged girls ALL of the time..

You know what destroys a man... Trying to FIX a broken woman... Tempting as it is... It NEVER works out well for the MAN

So if I lost credibility in your eyes... DO ONE.. Don't partake in something you feel like is a Troll.

There are others on here who have engaged with me and given me advice without getting into a hissy fit about..

[drvillain]

cot damn OP you sure ignored these flags for a long as time. You made the right decision finally

[RunoC]

Pics OP?

[Soulforge2015]

Pics OP?

Yeh Bruv... I was enjoying that Cluster B sex... And didn't care much about the flags.

But months in caught some FEELS plus I could tell the games and drama was creeping in from her part.

So had to Dump and run... To be fair the whole experience has left me feeling a little down and upset.

However thankfully I exited sooner than later.

I aint no captain save a hoe.. Who's going to try fix this woman... They don't want fixing!

[deaderinred]

I wouldve dumper for TWO of these flags. Good riddance, and stop dating garbage women.

[dolvioblue]

Just gona ignore you mate, clearly you don't know what you're talking about.

Men fall in love with damaged girls ALL of the time..

You know what destroys a man... Trying to FIX a broken woman... Tempting as it is... It NEVER works out well for the MAN

So if I lost credibility in your eyes... DO ONE.. Don't partake in something you feel like is a Troll.

There are others on here who have engaged with me and given me advice without getting into a hissy fit about..

You can do as you wish but I think we are all wondering what the point of this thread is? As in you keep dragging it on and on and on... Like what is the end goal here?

[Soulforge2015]

I wouldve dumper for TWO of these flags. Good riddance, and stop dating garbage women.

Yeh mate lesson learned.. Never ignoring those flags again.

[Hunicall]

U seem crazy

All these red flags & u care to post in here? Dude I would never have sex with her in the first place

[Soulforge2015]

U seem crazy

All these red flags & u care to post in here? Dude I would never have sex with her in the first place

Bruv the red flags didn't show up till weeks into seeing her.

Even then she told me bits here and there, usually when a little drunk.

By then I was already under the spell a little and enjoying her company.

I actually convinced myself that whatever she did in the past, I shouldn't judge her on that and give her an opportunity.

Then I found out the pornographer is still in the picture and the ******* use too.. Thats when I realised the dangers and pitfalls ahead and dumped her.

[skinnyfat88]

If you "reel her back in as a FWB" don't you think she'll "reel you back in" as well and the feelings will re-appear?

So many bad things could happen involving yourself with someone like this.

Up to you if the sex is worth it or not. It shouldn't be, but you may very well choose that it is.

[Soulforge2015]

If you "reel her back in as a FWB" don't you think she'll "reel you back in" as well and the feelings will re-appear?

So many bad things could happen involving yourself with someone like this.

Up to you if the sex is worth it or not. It shouldn't be, but you may very well choose that it is.

The urge too reel her back in as a FWB is actually lessening as the days go buy.

I did think about it, but now I am more getting around the idea that I dodged a bullet here, and should simply just be thankful of it.

Its really mad Bruv.. A year ago my 2 year ex suddenly dumped me out of the bue, by a crappy text message... And I wasn't even that upset in comparison to this break up lol.

I actually loved my two year ex, where as this girl its more like lust and very high attraction.

You make a vaild point..

I could catch the Feels for her again, and she may end up cheating on me.

Or getting involved with nudity or porn again..

Or I find out later that she definitely has a ******* addiction.

Not to mention the insecurities and paranoia and mistrust that would be around, with dating a girl with this type of history.. And present.

No thanks man!

[Jasonw1178]

I haven't read the responses from other Miscers, and of that list, there are red flags that really stick out of all of them.

Financial irresponsibility is one major one. Most marriages and even long term domestic partnerships/relationships end because of financial strain. Experienced people can tell you, it's a major deal. Along with that, the drug use, especially having druggy friends. Wherever there are drugs, there is some serious BS that will go on. Also, pulling away from you and being short, communication is key to a relationship, that silent crap will get old.

[Soulforge2015]

I haven't read the responses from other Miscers, and of that list, there are red flags that really stick out of all of them.

Financial irresponsibility is one major one. Most marriages and even long term domestic partnerships/relationships end because of financial strain. Experienced people can tell you, it's a major deal. Along with that, the drug use, especially having druggy friends. Wherever there are drugs, there is some serious BS that will go on. Also, pulling away from you and being short, communication is key to a relationship, that silent crap will get old.

I get ALL that mate.. It would have been a disaster.. NOTHING indicates a healthy or successful relationship with her.

However sex with her was like a HERION injection.

When you have a attractive sexy woman who is willing to do anything for you sexualy, it can totally override a mans senses.

Hell I am struggling with this break up

[DustinTheHuss]

I get ALL that mate.. It would have been a disaster.. NOTHING indicates a healthy or successful relationship with her.

However sex with her was like a HERION injection.

When you have a attractive sexy woman who is willing to do anything for you sexualy, it can totally override a mans senses.

Hell I am struggling with this break up

Age: 43

[Soulforge2015]

Age: 43

I known man.. I should have known better and avoided this mess

[Soulforge2015]

5 is the worst.

If that bothers you and she's not willing to "leave her past behind" then tour's over boyo.

This was defo the worst.

What man would be happy with an ex pornographer being around his wife, girlfriend or partner forever on..

How safe would he feel in that relationship.

Also knowing that she will never give this guy up.

[dolvioblue]

This was defo the worst.

What man would be happy with an ex pornographer being around his wife, girlfriend or partner forever on..

How safe would he feel in that relationship.

Also knowing that she will never give this guy up.

How long are you going to keep reviving your thread for? Seems you’ve got some issues dude.

[Mishakells]

She sounds like someone who has bipolar.