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[Luc1fer]

Um i would say a 7-8? I've gotten approached by women many times in real life so I must have something going for me. I'm 5'8 - 5'9 with a slender build (I've gotten skinny because I haven't been working out lately, been busy)

This is my first time trying an online dating app (Tinder). So in the last couple of days with a 10-12 mile radius I have gotten about 23 matches. And I haven't really been swiping alot. But I don't message first anymore after deleting the app and re-opening it. My pics are mixed, one with a smile wearing a casual shirt, the others are at events (with me not in the pic), and one pic with formal attire (V-Neck sweater and Dress shirt underneath).

Sounds about right. You'll get a few matches, but 8+ Chads will eat up 90% of the women that are 7+. Your height will prevent you from entering the top tier, but it's still a better pool than mine.

I'd consider myself in the same range as you, and every so often will get a 7-8 girl but not consistently. Online is kinda brutal in the sense that the "80/20" rule holds, but it's closer to 90/10.

[BigBallsMcgee]

That thread got closed due to too much complaining but since he doesn't have an outlet to bitch, he's now here.

no it wasnt you dumba$$, they just had to restart it.

[longfellowdeeds]

Sounds about right. You'll get a few matches, but 8+ Chads will eat up 90% of the women that are 7+. Your height will prevent you from entering the top tier, but it's still a better pool than mine.

I'd consider myself in the same range as you, and every so often will get a 7-8 girl but not consistently. Online is kinda brutal in the sense that the "80/20" rule holds, but it's closer to 90/10.

Well I don't have my height listed.

The problem is most women can't tell height properly. I've never been called short in real life lol. I told a girl once my height and shes like ya but your skinny so it makes you look tall. I was like ok?

[Legz422]

Nothing life threatening. A few days before thanksgiving I found out I have stage 1 uterine cancer. So my future plans will most likely change depending on the options the specialist gives me.

I just know it’s going to slim out my dating pool lol

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. Please let us know what happens with appt Tues. I'll be thinking of you. <3

[Luc1fer]

Well I don't have my height listed.

The problem is most women can't tell height properly. I've never been called short in real life lol. I told a girl once my height and shes like ya but your skinny so it makes you look tall. I was like ok?

Well, it's not like you're that short. But it will still impact your pool online. 5'10 is the primary cutoff for lots of profiles I investigated on Match (since it shows the preference there).

[HayZues Christi]

Your issues go much deeper than being a fucboi. You were actually seriously thinking about letting a 21 YO porn star be the mother to your child. Nay, WANTED it. That requires some seriously ****ed up brain activity.

Lmaoooooo.


Wtf? Talk about chasing the feeling.

[iamdetermined]

Yeah so after going to bars consistently at least once a week for about 2 months, I found that going to bars specifically to get laid is a waste of time and why dudes recommend only bars and clubs baffles me. I usually just go to the bar just to chill and drink a beer and then leave and if women give me choosing signals cool, if not oh well. Like I tried talking to this one chick that was sitting two seats to the left of me and she did answer but didn't really ask any questions back so that was an indicator she probably wasn't that interested and so I ended the conversation. I have met some cool people though bartenders, servers and sometimes other customers and a decent amount of bartenders have given me free drinks so in a way I'm slowly building an reputation which wouldn't be possible if I was just "thirsty af" mode and hitting on every women in all these bars. Also I'm thinking over a period of time of maybe bringing friends and coworkers along with me too not to pick up chicks but just to relax and hang. I honestly have more success outside of bars and clubs are even worse.


TL: DR bars are overrated when it comes to trying to get laid and you should just go with the flow and not approach every woman in the bar.

I don't agree. With a bar/club there is a much higher chance of finding a single girl. Or a girl who clearly isn't satisfied with what's in her phone and even her boyfriend.Also its more socially acceptable to approach in a club. You shouldn't approach every woman but there have been nights where I do that and find a girl that turns out to be dtf, moreso in college than nowadays. Not to sound like a creeper but them being drunk helps a lot too.

Idk what other setting would be yield better results outside of through friends or work. Day game is alright I guess but usually the girl has a bf is she's 7+. There's so much more in your favor at the club.

[BlackScorpio91]

I don't agree. With a bar/club there is a much higher chance of finding a single girl. Or a girl who clearly isn't satisfied with what's in her phone and even her boyfriend.Also its more socially acceptable to approach in a club. You shouldn't approach every woman but there have been nights where I do that and find a girl that turns out to be dtf, moreso in college than nowadays. Not to sound like a creeper but them being drunk helps a lot too.

Idk what other setting would be yield better results outside of through friends or work. Day game is alright I guess but usually the girl has a bf is she's 7+. There's so much more in your favor at the club.

Well we'll have to agree to disagree. You can find single women everywhere, you can find taken women everywhere.

And why would you wanna spam approach at the bar???

[Rebel012]

I don't agree. With a bar/club there is a much higher chance of finding a single girl. Or a girl who clearly isn't satisfied with what's in her phone and even her boyfriend.Also its more socially acceptable to approach in a club. You shouldn't approach every woman but there have been nights where I do that and find a girl that turns out to be dtf, moreso in college than nowadays. Not to sound like a creeper but them being drunk helps a lot too.

Idk what other setting would be yield better results outside of through friends or work. Day game is alright I guess but usually the girl has a bf is she's 7+. There's so much more in your favor at the club.

Brah, did you ever consider that part of your problem in getting a chick to stick around is that you meet all of them while drunk in the club? Experiment with different venues, then maybe you won't be making a new thread a month asking guys how they pull girls.

[Luc1fer]

Bars/clubs are honeypots for the lowest quality women, and I don’t mean in terms of looks.

[BlackScorpio91]

Brah, did you ever consider that part of your problem in getting a chick to stick around is that you meet all of them while drunk in the club? Experiment with different venues, then maybe you won't be making a new thread a month asking guys how they pull girls.

Lol this exactly.

This dude says cold approaching in the bar or club ain't bad and yet he doesn't have any success with it.

Come on dude.

[rikugunchusa]

Well I've decided to implement the Luc1fer method of calling women out for ****ty behavior such as being flaky ****s, and while I think I definitely burned a few bridges it also feels good as **** lol

[Luc1fer]

Well I've decided to implement the Luc1fer method of calling women out for ****ty behavior such as being flaky ****s, and while I think I definitely burned a few bridges it also feels good as **** lol

Das it mane

[otakutrevan]

All of you guys are wrong (inb4 chad/chad lite attack). Day drinking spots from like 11am -3pm are the GOD TIER SPOTS. Idk what it is but when the sun is up and mimosas are flowing ? Its way easier. Bring your book, a dog, laptop, and just vibe.

[otakutrevan]

I cant beleaf Im not going through with this...

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Spoiler!

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And I can't beleaf I'm about to flake on this 23yo from hinge I invited to dinner tomorrow night because there's an >80% chance nothing will come from it besides a hookup or fling.

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@Lucifer - You are right bro. The kind of woman I want is not going to phuck with a fucboi. So I need to drop this lifestyle all together. No half ass "transitioning" away from it anymore. But phuck this is going to be voluntarily celebate. Im a volcel now.

But I will feel better. Stronger. And will never open my heart to a camwhore or someone on her level again.

This has to be done.

You know at one point in my life your screenshots would have caused that sad gut wrenching feeling. You know the one I'm talking about. Now I'm just like....a passenger on this ride we call life. Occasionally I look out the window and see chaos and absurdity, but then it passes.

[BlackScorpio91]

All of you guys are wrong (inb4 chad/chad lite attack). Day drinking spots from like 11am -3pm are the GOD TIER SPOTS. Idk what it is but when the sun is up and mimosas are flowing ? Its way easier. Bring your book, a dog, laptop, and just vibe.

I usually go anywhere from 8 pm to 10 pm so my experience is different. Probably why its easier is because there are less people drinking around that time and therefore less competition and women don't have their guard up as much.

I have thought about going to the bar in the day time though especially since there's a bar literally a 5 minute drive from where I live.

[FemaleWarriorxo]

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. Please let us know what happens with appt Tues. I'll be thinking of you. <3

Thanks mama legz <3 also luci & BS

Since it’s stage one we’re going to do a drug treatment to try to reverse the cancer. Which is pretty interesting since they use a type 2 diabetic medication and a IUD. Trying to look at the positives

[Legz422]

Thanks mama legz <3 also luci & BS

Since it’s stage one we’re going to do a drug treatment to try to reverse the cancer. Which is pretty interesting since they use a type 2 diabetic medication and a IUD. Trying to look at the positives

Well that sounds like good news? How does an IUD help?

[FemaleWarriorxo]

Well that sounds like good news? How does an IUD help?

I would say it’s pretty good news. Basically she’ll use a hormonal IUD that will release progesterone. Progesterone will slow down the abnormal growth of cells and possibly reverse the growths. The diabetic medication will lower my estrogen. Which too much estrogen can increase the abnormal cell growth. So I’m hoping my body will take to this. I really want to save my fertility

[Legz422]

I would say it’s pretty good news. Basically she’ll use a hormonal IUD that will release progesterone. Progesterone will slow down the abnormal growth of cells and possibly reverse the growths. The diabetic medication will lower my estrogen. Which too much estrogen can increase the abnormal cell growth. So I’m hoping my body will take to this. I really want to save my fertility

Fingers and toes crossed! Is it the Mirena? I've had one for almost 5 years now.

[drvillain]

I would say it’s pretty good news. Basically she’ll use a hormonal IUD that will release progesterone. Progesterone will slow down the abnormal growth of cells and possibly reverse the growths. The diabetic medication will lower my estrogen. Which too much estrogen can increase the abnormal cell growth. So I’m hoping my body will take to this. I really want to save my fertility

Good luck :/

[HoustonMiscer]

I would say it’s pretty good news. Basically she’ll use a hormonal IUD that will release progesterone. Progesterone will slow down the abnormal growth of cells and possibly reverse the growths. The diabetic medication will lower my estrogen. Which too much estrogen can increase the abnormal cell growth. So I’m hoping my body will take to this. I really want to save my fertility

damn. prayers up

[spadelexus]

You know at one point in my life your screenshots would have caused that sad gut wrenching feeling. You know the one I'm talking about. Now I'm just like....a passenger on this ride we call life. Occasionally I look out the window and see chaos and absurdity, but then it passes.

I'm telling you this chit ain't easy. I don't think I can go another week. I turned down 3 women that wanted to hookup this past weekend, and flaked on 1 for dinner. It's probably best to delete these damn apps. That's the only way I can control it.



And the quality LTR minded matches are either too far, don't message me back, or Im disqualifying them for being bitchy, not wanting kids, or whatever else I come up with to save myself from going on a date that will lead no where.

So I just dinner pitched a 22 year old from Bumble. I could see her being a winter fb. It's not what I want but I also don't want to be alone. I don't think I can go monkmode till I find an LTR.

[Pozy]

I'm telling you this chit ain't easy. I don't think I can go another week. I turned down 3 women that wanted to hookup this past weekend, and flaked on 1 for dinner. It's probably best to delete these damn apps. That's the only way I can control it.



And the quality LTR minded matches are either too far, don't message me back, or Im disqualifying them for being bitchy, not wanting kids, or whatever else I come up with to save myself from going on a date that will lead no where.

So I just dinner pitched a 22 year old from Bumble. I could see her being a winter fb. It's not what I want but I also don't want to be alone. I don't think I can go monkmode till I find an LTR.

Why can't you connect with anyone?

[spadelexus]

Why can't you connect with anyone?

Because I'm attracting the wrong women. I'm attracting women that just want to hookup or have flings. College girls that want new experiences, or 30+yo relationship minded women that just use me for sex while they look for real husband material.

It has to do with: A) my online dating profile image/game and B) I'm divorced with 3 kids.

They both make the pool of quality LTR minded women smaller. A) I can change B) I can not.

[Pozy]

Because I'm attracting the wrong women. I'm attracting women that just want to hookup or have flings. College girls that want new experiences, or 30+yo relationship minded women that just use me for sex while they look for real husband material.

It has to do with: A) my online dating profile image/game and B) I'm divorced with 3 kids.

They both make the pool of quality LTR minded women smaller. A) I can change B) I can not.

Which all makes sense. I didn't catch the details and didn't see any on the threads I sifted through. I have to opposite problem. Many of mine catch feels. I am only snagging 5-7s by normal standards, but they are 7-8s to me. I finally settled for one I met offline, yet she ripped out my heart. The online ones always want to settle, for me at least.

[spadelexus]

Which all makes sense. I didn't catch the details and didn't see any on the threads I sifted through. I have to opposite problem. Many of mine catch feels. I am only snagging 5-7s by normal standards, but they are 7-8s to me. I finally settled for one I met offline, yet she ripped out my heart. The online ones always want to settle, for me at least.

A few of mine caught feels. Only 1 was real LTR material but I just separated so ended it before we got too serious. She stalked me to the point she was reading the sloth threads to keep tabs on my dating life. She might even be reading this post.

I had different girls stalk other women that I was seeing, and create fake ig accounts to view my stories. One girl even pretended to be pregnant so I wouldn't leave her.

I only fell hard for one, just happened to be the most damaged out of all of them, but the sexual chemistry was stronger than a narcotic.

[MilkforBrains]

Nothing life threatening. A few days before thanksgiving I found out I have stage 1 uterine cancer. So my future plans will most likely change depending on the options the specialist gives me.

I just know it’s going to slim out my dating pool lol

It will be fine, love. For all men's flaws, we aren't really shallow about things like this. Might even set you apart from the other brawds that haven't been though tough times.

[HoustonMiscer]

A few of mine caught feels. Only 1 was real LTR material but I just separated so ended it before we got too serious. She stalked me to the point she was reading the sloth threads to keep tabs on my dating life. She might even be reading this post.

I had different girls stalk other women that I was seeing, and create fake ig accounts to view my stories. One girl even pretended to be pregnant so I wouldn't leave her.

I only fell hard for one, just happened to be the most damaged out of all of them, but the sexual chemistry was stronger than a narcotic.

wow what a chad you are

[spadelexus]

wow what a chad you are

I'm not. The point was I wasted 4 years of my life dating the wrong women.