Well, if you want to keep them around you have to spend some effort. My current 22 yr old - I spend $$$ eating out and shopping before anyone says you're a sucker for spending the $$$ - I think the money is well spent since I enjoy the company and sex.
Its difficult to find a decent connection - ONS or two night stands arent worth effort.
Anyways the 100-200 dinners mean alot to a young thot - **** I lost 10k today in the market so that $$$ isnt crap to me.
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02-27-2020, 07:32 PM #6511
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02-27-2020, 09:18 PM #6512
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02-28-2020, 03:34 AM #6513
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02-28-2020, 08:31 AM #6514
This level of reasoning is oversimplifying things, possibly as cope, or you aren't seeing things clearly. I'm not competing against average dudes for average girls (usually). If/when I am then sure it's fuk-up-avoidance game. 100% agreed. But when going after higher tier girls with thousands of matches, that include turbo-Chads, multi-millionaires, pro-athletes, etc... "Game" is multifaceted.
Profilemaxing, looksmaxing, careermaxing etc...is considered "game" imo bc you just are not going to get these kinds of women opening to you to start the process unless you've put in hundreds of hours at the gym, hours upon hours split testing pics to show v-taper, signs of an 8-pack, etc...and can show you have your life in order, which took me a phuckin decade+ of busting my ass, so my work uniform is a suit...
Trust me. I was skinny/fat 4 years ago when I started this chit. Once you looks/profile max, then your txt game has to match your profile vibe. When I was skinny fat, using averagish pics I tried direct/aggressive game and had a match tell me "you aren't hot enough to use that line" (srs) lmao.
After your txt game matches your vibe, then it takes strong irl game to actually close the deal. Not going in to depth in this post on it, but I've gone from having dates excuse them selves to use the ladies room....then never come back (when I first started online dating)...to one of the 3 I recently number closed in a previous post invite me back to her place after we drank wine at a bar last night.
So save this privalage garbage for Otaku.
Granted, I've had more opportunity to improve my game over the years, due to match volume based on looks/height/ethnicity/market and also based on those factors have more room for error, but again, I'm competing in a different league. So any guy can deploy the same game strategy (that matches their vibe, not mine) and get girls on their looks level and above if they actually put in the work.
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02-28-2020, 09:10 AM #6515
You have the looks baseline, it's a privilege that most men can never have. I'm not saying you didn't put work into your looks or game, nor that it isn't necessary, but without your genetic privilege, you would not have this success.
That does not imply people shouldn't work hard with the cards they're dealt. It does imply that you need to recognize how fortunate you are genetically and how much of an advantage it gives you and stop trying to attribute it all to hard work.
Plenty of us have put decades into physique, career etc. I will never, ever, experience the volume of incoming messages on dating apps that you do. The only time I experienced that was when I changed my height to 6'2. Pray tell me Spade, how do I change my height through hard work... if you were 5'6, you would NOT be getting those messages. Period. No amount of game will save you.𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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02-28-2020, 11:25 AM #6516
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02-28-2020, 01:07 PM #6517
While I don't agree with everything he says, Spadelexus is spot on right here. Read this part and you will understand what he is trying to say.
The problem is many guys, in particular guys on this forum, are not mindful of their league. They can't get their HBB 10/10 on Tinder so they get mad and come on here and say "i'm a fit guy who can only match with fat and ugly girls so the game is rigged, 80/20 blah blah blah!"
Want to jump up to a higher league? Improve yourself, just like he did. He didn't come out the womb slaying nurses in the delivery ward, he worked for it just like every guy and girl has to if they want quality matches/dates/significant others. There's levels for everyone, even tall white guys.
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02-28-2020, 01:33 PM #6518
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02-28-2020, 01:58 PM #6519
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02-28-2020, 01:59 PM #6520
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02-28-2020, 02:01 PM #6521
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02-28-2020, 02:11 PM #6522
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02-28-2020, 02:24 PM #6523
I agree with self improvement and think that all steps should be taken as a man to improve looks. Investing in improving your face and body will have so many positive effects on ones dating life.
However for some guys their genetic potential is limited.
If you're fat, have acne, have a receding hairline etc, there are steps you can take (weight loss, accutane, finasteride and the like) and that might reveal a more attractive guy underneath, but some of us (like me) cannot really improve our baseline attractiveness anymore without:
- Facial surgery (costly, risky)
- Bike riding
We already have clear skin, dress well, are in reasonable shape, but even that isn't enough - we're kind of just 'stuck' with a face / look that isn't enough for these women due to their high standards. So what are you supposed to do in that case? There's really nowhere to go except down.
I'm nearly maxxed out in terms of what I can do to improve my looks, yet that isn't enough to get anything above a 5/10 online, no matter what 'game' I use.
I suppose I should accept my lot in life, but some of us don't want to.
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02-28-2020, 02:33 PM #6524
I don’t think it’s so much that no one listens, it’s just that for many of us RL is slim pickings too...
I gave up online dating for good last year and all it’s done so far is made me realise just how truly fuked my options are. Such is life for low status brahs.
I’ve dug my own grave though, so i’m not complaining.
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02-28-2020, 02:38 PM #6525
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02-28-2020, 03:31 PM #6526
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02-28-2020, 03:35 PM #6527
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02-28-2020, 04:22 PM #6528
You can’t fool your own mind about your position on the totem pole. Best you can do is put a positive spin on it and think of yourself as a ‘lone wolf’ or whatever, but once again that only really works if you truly believe it.
I said i’m not complaining brah. Besides, I think i’d rather be alone than settle.
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02-28-2020, 07:45 PM #6529
I read the height issue and race issue. I'm older than spad. I'm asian plus I'm 5'7.
Currently playing a 22 yr old beauty - at least to me
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02-29-2020, 12:37 AM #6530
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02-29-2020, 01:07 AM #6531
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02-29-2020, 03:36 AM #6532
Ah bro, I'm in EXACTLY the same situation as you.
So I went to Eastern Europe last summer and did some 'daygame' if you want to call it that. Within 2 days I had dates with both these girls:
Yet where I live, on Tinder, loads of girls in my match queue look like this:
It's incredibly frustrating that I have to settle for such crap online. My profile is not even bad, all clear pics in a variety of places and my height / job listed.
I would never bang the last girl I posted, but I have definitely been guilty of dumpster-diving off tinder because I have so few options, yet IRL I know I can get significantly better girls. But Tinder / bumble etc are so much more convenient and for a guy who doesn't enjoy approaching IRL I'd rather be able to do well online.
You look better than both those girls BTW, please don't go after girls like that, it just boosts their ego when they're below a 5/10. If I was to recommend anything to you it would be to get rid of that initial pic you used (the selfie), you look better in the other pics, btw.
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02-29-2020, 06:21 AM #6533
Sometimes moving to a new location and approaching irl can help out greatly.
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02-29-2020, 08:53 AM #6534
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02-29-2020, 09:01 AM #6535Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
Knee Dragger - '06 GSX-R750
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02-29-2020, 09:08 AM #6536
Had to quote for truth.
As for Spade, lol at saying those girls you posted are getting hit up by multi millionaires and professional athletes. They're pretty but they're not exactly model tier. They look like most young 20 girls you'd see in the mall or out and about. My 7 nieces are just as pretty if not prettier.~ In a world where you can be anything, be kind ~
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02-29-2020, 09:25 AM #6537
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02-29-2020, 10:10 AM #6538
Don't ask for digits from girls who are giving you one-word answers.
1). They're probably not interested;
2). Even if they are, why would you want to continue talking to a girl who puts in no effort to converse on her end?
Just next them and avoid an outright rejection.
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02-29-2020, 11:25 AM #6539
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02-29-2020, 11:56 AM #6540
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