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[randomuser12345]

Well at least you have this choice between inviting girls over and going on a date. 1 girl over probably 500 agreed to come straight to my place, and she was like 6\10 mad at her husband and wanted to cheat on him.

[DustinTheHuss]

If a woman I've never met comes straight over to my place, she's a moron. I'm a decent guy, but she doesn't know that.

I've heard several stories of women being sexually assaulted in these scenarios.

Yeah I have one friend who was sexually assaulted by going over to a guy's house. He was arrested and he's facing felony charges.

[BlackScorpio91]

Agree, but taken too far this type of reasoning can also lead to paralysis. These type of sexual assaults can, and do, happen on the third, fourth, or fifth date as well. I believe you should always meet in public first, but some level of risk is unfortunately always present (in terms of the woman's reality) in the early stages of dating.

Yeah honestly just cause a man or woman meet in public doesn't guarantee a woman is safe from him.

Let's just say hypothetically I met a woman in public and I got mad at her for whatever reason, I could just take out a gun and shoot her in the head and run off and most people are not gonna try to stop me. Sure I could eventually get caught but the damage is already done.

Of course I'm not that type of guy but what I'm saying just cause people meet in public doesn't guarantee their safety. People have been killed in public for a myriad of reasons and alot of times these people were never caught.

I've read a story of a woman who was apparently kidnapped at a mall in California (Corona Mall or whatever it's called) in 2004 by two dudes and no one did anything even though she was screaming someone call 911.

Whether it's in public or not, there's always risk involved but like I've said before, I'm not going through all these extra hoops just to get laid and if a woman is that apprehensive about meeting me to exchange orgasms she can just stay her ass at home for all I care.

[BlackScorpio91]

Yeah I have one friend who was sexually assaulted by going over to a guy's house. He was arrested and he's facing felony charges.

Good.

Let that scumbag rot in prison.

[Luc1fer]

Yeah honestly just cause a man or woman meet in public doesn't guarantee a woman is safe from him.

Let's just say hypothetically I met a woman in public and I got mad at her for whatever reason, I could just take out a gun and shoot her in the head and run off and most people are not gonna try to stop me. Sure I could eventually get caught but the damage is already done.

Of course I'm not that type of guy but what I'm saying just cause people meet in public doesn't guarantee their safety. People have been killed in public for a myriad of reasons and alot of times these people were never caught.

I've read a story of a woman who was apparently kidnapped at a mall in California (Corona Mall or whatever it's called) in 2004 by two dudes and no one did anything even though she was screaming someone call 911.

Whether it's in public or not, there's always risk involved but like I've said before, I'm not going through all these extra hoops just to get laid and if a woman is that apprehensive about meeting me to exchange orgasms she can just stay her ass at home for all I care.

Your logic is far too black and white. It’s possible to reduce and mitigate risk as Mr Beer pointed out. Common sense.

Risk involved => mitigating risk is pointless; is always an incredibly weak argument.

[Mr Beer]

"I don't lock my front door because they can always smash through the windows"

[DustinTheHuss]

Good.

Let that scumbag rot in prison.

They had sex but then he started beating her up and biting her so she was covered with bruises. She went to the ER and they got the physical evidence, then he admitted it over text and recorded phone call. He also wouldn't let her leave.

[NitrogenWidget]

"I don't lock my front door because they can always smash through the windows"

but, my front door is mostly glass.
fuk.

[BlackScorpio91]

Your logic is far too black and white. It’s possible to reduce and mitigate risk as Mr Beer pointed out. Common sense.

Risk involved => mitigating risk is pointless; is always an incredibly weak argument.

Don't give a fuk.

You're the one having trouble with dating (hence the reason for this entire thread and its predecessors) and yet you're saying my logic is flawed?

LOL ok if you say so.

[NitrogenWidget]

They had sex but then he started beating her up and biting her so she was covered with bruises. She went to the ER and they got the physical evidence, then he admitted it over text and recorded phone call. He also wouldn't let her leave.

one twisted fuk.

[Luc1fer]

Don't give a fuk.

You're the one having trouble with dating (hence the reason for this entire thread and its predecessors) and yet you're saying my logic is flawed?

LOL ok if you say so.

Indeed, change the topic when confronted with valid criticism of your position.

I've told you this before, but you are incredibly stubborn and arrogant with your opinions. It's okay to correct your position sometimes.

But you "don't give a fuk"... right

[Rebel012]

Well you can't eliminate risk but it's not smart for a female not to meet a guy in public before heading off for sex. Like at least screen for 30 minutes, you can weed out a majority of mental cases just by seeing if they are a bit 'off'.

A well motivated predator with reasonable social skills is going to find victims one way or another, but at least you can pass on the obvious tweaker or the guy who didn't wash for a week.

I agree, but my point was that i think a lot of the sexual assaults that do take place, especially on campuses, are between acquaintances as opposed to a stranger rape which happens on the first meet up. For example, on the second or third date they're at his place, she decides she wants to stop, and because of a sense of entitlement or whatever he decides to keep doing. I haven't met a lot of women who've openly talked about such experiences, but the couple who have, the assault pretty much followed this type of blueprint. It would also explain why many sexual assaults go unreported since in such a context it's much harder to prove.

[FemaleWarriorxo]

They had sex but then he started beating her up and biting her so she was covered with bruises. She went to the ER and they got the physical evidence, then he admitted it over text and recorded phone call. He also wouldn't let her leave.

Jesus.. this is one of the reasons why I never let a man know I conceal carry. I hope he becomes a playmate for the men in prison

[Luc1fer]

I agree, but my point was that i think a lot of the sexual assaults that do take place, especially on campuses, are between acquaintances as opposed to a stranger rape which happens on the first meet up. For example, on the second or third date they're at his place, she decides she wants to stop, and because of a sense of entitlement or whatever he decides to keep doing. I haven't met a lot of women who've openly talked about such experiences, but the couple who have, the assault pretty much followed this type of blueprint. It would also explain why many sexual assaults go unreported since in such a context it's much harder to prove.

Sure, but that may be because a lot of women (rightly) won't let a stranger in so the sample size is different. It makes no sense to conclude that stranger rape is lower risk than non-stranger rape, although I doubt you're making this argument.

Regardless, it's irresponsible to let a guy you've never met into your home.

[Kev1972]

I agree, but my point was that i think a lot of the sexual assaults that do take place, especially on campuses, are between acquaintances as opposed to a stranger rape which happens on the first meet up. For example, on the second or third date they're at his place, she decides she wants to stop, and because of a sense of entitlement or whatever he decides to keep doing. I haven't met a lot of women who've openly talked about such experiences, but the couple who have, the assault pretty much followed this type of blueprint. It would also explain why many sexual assaults go unreported since in such a context it's much harder to prove.

Exactly why the first time should always be cowgirl with a hidden camera

[MediocreGains]

Yeah honestly just cause a man or woman meet in public doesn't guarantee a woman is safe from him.

There's no guarantee for anything, but it's better to reduce risk.

Personally, I wouldn't even give my address to a girl unless I'm dating her, let alone invite a stranger over. There was one girl I was seeing for a few weeks who wanted to come pick me up from home, but she was slightly nutty so I just had her pick me up from a street corner nearby. Didn't want any drama to come back to me in case chit happened.

But you do you.

Your logic is far too black and white. It’s possible to reduce and mitigate risk as Mr Beer pointed out. Common sense.

Risk involved => mitigating risk is pointless; is always an incredibly weak argument.

Exactly. It's like saying that there's no point driving safely because accidents can still happen anyways.

[Mr Beer]

but, my front door is mostly glass.
fuk.

aw fuk bye

[Legz422]

Weighing in on the going to some strange guys house, I don't think it's the best idea. But I'm also from a generation that had guys I didn't know well come to my house to pick me up for dates. At this point I think it's best to meet in public at least for the first time.

So Tinder guy and I were supposed to meet tomorrow after work for a walk, but I've decided not to go through with it. I told him tonight that it's a no go. :/

[Luc1fer]

Weighing in on the going to some strange guys house, I don't think it's the best idea. But I'm also from a generation that had guys I didn't know well come to my house to pick me up for dates. At this point I think it's best to meet in public at least for the first time.

So Tinder guy and I were supposed to meet tomorrow after work for a walk, but I've decided not to go through with it. I told him tonight that it's a no go. :/

Why is Tinder guy a no-go? I have a date this weekend, if she doesn't flake.

[Legz422]

Why is Tinder guy a no-go? I have a date this weekend, if she doesn't flake.

Multiple reasons. With him being an hour away, I didn't really see it being anything more than a FWB type situation. I don't have time for frequent traveling that far. I also realized the past few days that I'm just not ready. It's been really rough and I need more time to heal from my FWB.

[brightbrah]

aite

[Rebel012]

I have a date this weekend, if she doesn't flake.

Nice. Age? Have you decided to go a bit older?

[Luc1fer]

Nice. Age? Have you decided to go a bit older?

29, ye. Also matching with 32yos. Guess I learned that <25 is probably too you young/immature/mismatched for me in general but still open to all.

[DustinTheHuss]

Jesus.. this is one of the reasons why I never let a man know I conceal carry. I hope he becomes a playmate for the men in prison

Yeah that's illegal in her state but would have helped here.

one twisted fuk.

Yeah one twisted fuk. He blames it on drinking too much and smoking too much weed, but that's no excuse for biting someone and bruising them up unless of course she consents to that. She said over text that she told him no and he said "next time give me a 10 minute heads up before you say no".

She's pretty fuked from having sex with guys again and isn't keen on strangers.

The problem is that even with this thread on here, many guys won't meet you unless you go to their place:

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...hp?t=178952321

[NitrogenWidget]

Yeah that's illegal in her state but would have helped here.



Yeah one twisted fuk. He blames it on drinking too much and smoking too much weed, but that's no excuse for biting someone and bruising them up unless of course she consents to that. She said over text that she told him no and he said "next time give me a 10 minute heads up before you say no".

She's pretty fuked from having sex with guys again and isn't keen on strangers.

The problem is that even with this thread on here, many guys won't meet you unless you go to their place:

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...hp?t=178952321

well, a few yrs back I realized i was too old to get stupid drunk.
I would end up sick and hung over and my whole day was shot.
not like the old days when I took some aspirin and worked out in the morning then did it again.
guess what?
I just stopped drinking too much because it wasn't worth it.
I'm a good drunk though so I have no reference for getting abusive or violent when hammered.

But I know both men and women who are chit drunks and I usually just leave before they start spiraling.
It was amusing in my 20's, less amusing in my 30's, and just makes me realize it's time to head home when I hit my 40's.


as for that thread, it's the misc so need to take it with a grain of salt.
i've only insisted women who played games or wasted my time come to me because I refuse to leave my house anymore for those types.
all the other times they came to my house for the first meet it was their decision even after i'd suggested meeting elsewhere.
it was because they wanted my D.

one of my single buddies had women coming to his house for dinner for the first date because it was chit weather and nothing social was open.
with corona going out is just annoying with the masks and whatnot.

[ScottTil]

So I was down in the dumps yesterday and for a few days as it seems all the convos I have with girls lead nowhere and they just stop responding.
I never double text btw I dunno if being stubborn on this is a mistake but I assumed thats the redpilled thing to do.
Anyways today was a total 180 as I matched with the hottest and smartest girls I've ever interacted with. Going to try to set up a date for this weekend.
Sucks though as shes doing rotations in my neck of the woods and leaving in 3 weeks but oh well hopefully we can just have a good time while it lasts.

[spazzin]

Have 6 dates this week, trying to get 2 smashes out of 6, one is guaranteed since we’ve been fukking for 2 months so far I’m 0/2, got 3 more chances to get the extra smash

Tomorrow’s my best shot, 2nd date near my place so I gotta get it

[DustinTheHuss]

well, a few yrs back I realized i was too old to get stupid drunk.
I would end up sick and hung over and my whole day was shot.
not like the old days when I took some aspirin and worked out in the morning then did it again.
guess what?
I just stopped drinking too much because it wasn't worth it.
I'm a good drunk though so I have no reference for getting abusive or violent when hammered.

But I know both men and women who are chit drunks and I usually just leave before they start spiraling.
It was amusing in my 20's, less amusing in my 30's, and just makes me realize it's time to head home when I hit my 40's.


as for that thread, it's the misc so need to take it with a grain of salt.
i've only insisted women who played games or wasted my time come to me because I refuse to leave my house anymore for those types.
all the other times they came to my house for the first meet it was their decision even after i'd suggested meeting elsewhere.
it was because they wanted my D.

one of my single buddies had women coming to his house for dinner for the first date because it was chit weather and nothing social was open.
with corona going out is just annoying with the masks and whatnot.

Yeah chit drunks are annoying af. It's super exciting in college but then is annoying later.

Yeah with Covid it's tough to go out as many places like CA still don't have indoor seating and it's smoky outside. Seattle is really smoky, but at least they have some indoor seating. They at least have wine tasting in Seattle, so you can do that with a date. I don't know if they have that in CA.

[Luc1fer]

Have 6 dates this week, trying to get 2 smashes out of 6, one is guaranteed since we’ve been fukking for 2 months so far I’m 0/2, got 3 more chances to get the extra smash

Tomorrow’s my best shot, 2nd date near my place so I gotta get it

Plenty of easy sluts out there if you just want to smash. It’s unreal how slutty the younger women are, way more than my generation.

Not wife material of course, but easy sex.

[brightbrah]