So a few years back she drove me to my house, and on the way back she drove too fast and got fined by a traffic cam. Back then she said "couldn't you have told me that there were traffic cams in that area?". I literally snapped and told her "why would you blame me for something I have nothing to do with?". She said she didn't mean it that way, and that's just "something people say". She didn't say it to shift the blame to me, apparently, but still believes "it's something people say to one another".
So yesterday we drove through that area again and she mentioned what happened a few years back, again saying "that I could've told her". In her defense, she didn't say it in an agressive way or anything, just "jokingly". But sincere because she believes she can say something like that. It ruffled my feathers again and we had a fight. She doesn't realize that by saying that, it appears as though she wanted to shift the blame to me for her own actions. Who's in fault here, me for being oversensitive or her for saying that crap...
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10-11-2020, 01:02 AM #1Registered User
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Am I the a$$hole or is my girlfriend the a$$hole?
Last edited by darkeminence; 10-11-2020 at 01:07 AM.
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10-11-2020, 01:10 AM #2Registered User
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Im assuming you're a lesbian because you are both acting like women
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10-11-2020, 01:13 AM #3Here's beer
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"I mean I would have told you, but you needed to learn not to break the law. You're a better person now sweetie and that's why you deserve me."
Really if this is the most unsettling thing she said to you in the last few years, you're doing great."A stupid man's report of what a clever man says can never be accurate, because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand."
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10-11-2020, 01:14 AM #4Aesthetics Black Belt 🥋
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Why do you care so much?
About what, whether or not she blames you on a traffic ticket? I would’ve said “well Ive never gotten a ticket there so I didn’t even know about it”
Get estrogen levels checked next time you’re at the doctor (srs)
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10-11-2020, 01:36 AM #5Registered User
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lmao
can't tell if this is serious...if you need someone to chat with, don't hesitate to shoot me a PM.
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10-11-2020, 01:39 AM #6Registered User
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Fukkin dedOriginally Posted by safcpaul
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10-11-2020, 11:50 AM #7Registered User
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Short answer: YouOriginally Posted by darkeminence
Longer answer: If she made a reasonably harmless comment in a joking manner, and it triggered you, then you’re deeply insecure about something. Suggest you do some introspection and figure it out. Why are you so uptight over allocation of blame? Keeping score is a losing mentality you should be wary of
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10-11-2020, 12:25 PM #8Registered User
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Are you really 31 or that's a typo?
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10-11-2020, 12:28 PM #9Registered User
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Wtf and you created a thread about this?
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10-11-2020, 12:38 PM #10Registered User
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As someone who is sensitive I think you're being too sensitive. lol When said in person and you could see she was joking, I don't think you should have started an argument over it.
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10-12-2020, 12:16 AM #11Registered User
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lmao, just drop it
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