Matches have pretty much died ²

[legbroke]

btw I bought boost on hinge... got 1 match but overall waste of money. Just LOL thought it was going to be 10 bucks for an entire day but it was for 1 hour.
GTFO with that chit

I've been lurking the hingeapp subreddit (no viaduct) for a few weeks, and I've seen only bad things about HInge's boosts. They're supposed to be significantly worse compared to Tinder's boosts, whose effects allegedly can be felt for a few weeks (you get put into somebody's stack until they swipe past you rather than just being put in the stack for the brief time Hinge provides)>

[Luc1fer]

Boosts etc suck, signing up a new account is the best experience by far.

I feel like my matches are better than before. Added a couple of good pics, could be that.

None of mine are professional but a couple kinda have that quality. Honestly I’d say it’s probably worth getting pro photos done.

[InsanePain11]

Yeah I can attest to the Hinge boost being terrible. Literally did nothing when I used it and it costed like 6-7 bucks. Fuk that noise brahs save your money. Tinder boost works decently though, usually.

[Legz422]

Boosts etc suck, signing up a new account is the best experience by far.

I feel like my matches are better than before. Added a couple of good pics, could be that.

None of mine are professional but a couple kinda have that quality. Honestly I’d say it’s probably worth getting pro photos done.

Do you really need professional pics for dating apps? The more I read here about them the less I want to get back on them.

[Luc1fer]

Do you really need professional pics for dating apps? The more I read here about them the less I want to get back on them.

Do you need them? No. Will good pics help you significantly? Yes.

[Legz422]

Do you need them? No. Will good pics help you significantly? Yes.

Well I know good pics help, but I'm not getting professional pics done just for a stupid dating app.

[legbroke]

Well I know good pics help, but I'm not getting professional pics done just for a stupid dating app.

Feel like it's more relevant for guys as 1) we're generally worse at taking pics and 2) it's generally more competitive to get through the matching stage for us

I also wonder how much worse it is for millenials/gen Zs - we're (some of use are) growing up constantly taking and posting pics for others' criticism/approval, so there's going to be a higher bar for photo quality i'd think.

Does kinda feel like I have to at least have some interest in photography sometimes.

[Luc1fer]

wow just got blocked by a girl for getting a little playful.

She said she likes avocados, and I made a joke about having them on our first date. Then:

Her: "Avocados sounds nice I would be down for more than just avocados tho hahahahaha"
I read an implication, said something like this: "How about off my body ... or toast - your call, tough choice"
Her: "I don't know your body, depends."

BLOCKED

Not a great line, but thought I was just being playful, huh?

[Legz422]

Feel like it's more relevant for guys as 1) we're generally worse at taking pics and 2) it's generally more competitive to get through the matching stage for us

I also wonder how much worse it is for millenials/gen Zs - we're (some of use are) growing up constantly taking and posting pics for others' criticism/approval, so there's going to be a higher bar for photo quality i'd think.

Does kinda feel like I have to at least have some interest in photography sometimes.

To your first point, I agree. Just going through the pics on Tinder and OKC a month or so ago, a lot of guys have really bad pics. The good ones definitely stand out in comparison. Also agree that sometimes it seems like you have to be a professional photographer.

wow just got blocked by a girl for getting a little playful.

She said she likes avocados, and I made a joke about having them on our first date. Then:

Her: "Avocados sounds nice I would be down for more than just avocados tho hahahahaha"
I read an implication, said something like this: "How about off my body then ... or toast - your call, tough choice"
Her: "I don't know your body, depends."

BLOCKED

Not a great line, but thought I was just being playful, huh?

Lol at her blocking you for that. She's the one who said something first.

[Luc1fer]

Lol at her blocking you for that. She's the one who said something first.

Did she just mean she wanted food other than avocados? lol.. I'm not crazy for interpreting something sexual, right

[Legz422]

Did she just mean she wanted food other than avocados? lol.. I'm not crazy for interpreting something sexual, right

I took it as sexual, but maybe she did mean food. lol

[Luc1fer]

I took it as sexual, but maybe she did mean food. lol

Regardless it wasn't that bad. I guess she pinned me as a fukboi or something and blocked me. Her loss.

[Legz422]

Regardless it wasn't that bad. I guess she pinned me as a fukboi or something and blocked me. Her loss.

Nope, it wasn't bad at all, especially since you gave the alternative of toast.

It is her loss.

[Luc1fer]

Nope, it wasn't bad at all, especially since you gave the alternative of toast.

It is her loss.

Ye no need to change my behavior I think. Just weird.

That’s pretty much as sexual as I get in msgs. Usually more innuendo too, thought she was doing that.

[legbroke]

Ye no need to change my behavior I think. Just weird.

That’s pretty much as sexual as I get in msgs. Usually more innuendo too, thought she was doing that.

Fwiw, I did also read it as sexual a few times before I realized it even could just be talking about food.

Just too many "hahas" to expect that's a joke about food.

[Luc1fer]

Fwiw, I did also read it as sexual a few times before I realized it even could just be talking about food.

Just too many "hahas" to expect that's a joke about food.

Ye was like 80% sure it was sexual. Guess it was the 20%, but even so... to block me? One of her pics was a bit slutty too so it wasn’t like she was very conservative.

Women eh.. make zero sense.

[Mr Beer]

If she says stuff like that and expects a normal red-blooded man not to respond with something sexual, she is fukking retarded.

[legbroke]

Ye was like 80% sure it was sexual. Guess it was the 20%, but even so... to block me? One of her pics was a bit slutty too so it wasn’t like she was very conservative.

Yeah, the block was lame. Guess she's a bit socially odd, at least over text (not that I'm one to talk) if she texted like that and didn't even pick up on it after the fact.

E: Lmao at Mr Beer wizarding me much more directly

[MediocreGains]

Ye was like 80% sure it was sexual. Guess it was the 20%, but even so... to block me? One of her pics was a bit slutty too so it wasn’t like she was very conservative.

Women eh.. make zero sense.

May have still been sexual, but you did escalate quickly and make it more explicit while hers was subtle. She could also just be nuts. Apps are full of them.

From what I've seen from other guys, being sexual with your messages is completely hit or miss. It'll work for the ones who are looking to fuk right away, and it'll turn off most everyone else. Good way to get rid of "time wasters" as BlackScorpio would put it. I never got sexual in my messages since it's not something I'm into, so I don't really know.

[Luc1fer]

May have still been sexual, but you did escalate quickly and make it more explicit while hers was subtle. She could also just be nuts. Apps are full of them.

From what I've seen from other guys, being sexual with your messages is completely hit or miss. It'll work for the ones who are looking to fuk right away, and it'll turn off most everyone else. Good way to get rid of "time wasters" as BlackScorpio would put it. I never got sexual in my messages since it's not something I'm into, so I don't really know.

It isn’t that subtle though to suggest more on the first date. It’s more innuendo for sure, but I made a probability call.

I don’t usually get sexual either because I don’t want to lose the more conservative women, right. I get that. But being a bit playful when I have the signals (plus like I said her pics were a bit provocative), isn’t terrible i think.

[Luc1fer]

If she says stuff like that and expects a normal red-blooded man not to respond with something sexual, she is fukking retarded.

Exactly, I wouldn’t have said anything sexual if she hadn’t said that. I even debated on it, and decided that between the msg and her pics that it was the right move.

[MediocreGains]

It isn’t that subtle though to suggest more on the first date. It’s more innuendo for sure, but I made a probability call.

I don’t usually get sexual either because I don’t want to lose the more conservative women, right. I get that. But being a bit playful when I have the signals (plus like I said her pics were a bit provocative), isn’t terrible i think.

With an innuendo though, there's some plausible deniability so that she doesn't look like a sloot. If she responded to your message, it's basically admitting that she's down to fuk (even if she is down to fuk). Maybe something like, "There will definitely be more than avocados " would be better. Or maybe not. Been awhile since I sent flirty texts to strange females, so I'm out of it. And if she's going to be that sensitive over a message, she's likely a bit nutty. Would've been a headache if you actually met. Or it might not have mattered what you sent.

[Luc1fer]

With an innuendo though, there's some plausible deniability so that she doesn't look like a sloot. If she responded to your message, it's basically admitting that she's down to fuk (even if she is down to fuk). Maybe something like, "There will definitely be more than avocados " would be better. Or maybe not. Been awhile since I sent flirty texts to strange females, so I'm out of it. And if she's going to be that sensitive over a message, she's likely a bit nutty. Would've been a headache if you actually met.

Ye that's a better message. Just seems extreme to block me, was about to set up a date.

[DustinTheHuss]

I don't mind going a little younger, but the fact is, I do prefer guys around my age when they're fit. I like having things in common like the stuff we grew up with. Yeah, the sex thing does worry me when it comes to guys my age or older. It would suck pretty bad to be with someone who has a low drive or ED issues. :/

If I end up getting on Hinge in a month or so, I'll prob set my age range from 45-55. The problem with going down to 40 is if they're single and never been married they may still want kids.

ED issues can be prevalent for men in their late 40s to 50+. Hopefully they don't have blood pressure issues and can take Viagra lol.

Ye that's a better message. Just seems extreme to block me, was about to set up a date.

She's probably a feminist who wants to be slooty but then gets a playful response and feels like she's being mistreated. Sigh.

[Luc1fer]

She's probably a feminist who wants to be slooty but then gets a playful response and feels like she's being mistreated. Sigh.

Ah, that actually makes sense. She's pretty hot so can afford to be like that too.

[FemaleWarriorxo]

wow just got blocked by a girl for getting a little playful.

She said she likes avocados, and I made a joke about having them on our first date. Then:

Her: "Avocados sounds nice I would be down for more than just avocados tho hahahahaha"
I read an implication, said something like this: "How about off my body ... or toast - your call, tough choice"
Her: "I don't know your body, depends."

BLOCKED

Not a great line, but thought I was just being playful, huh?

I honestly didn’t take what she said as sexual but I’m not the average sexually active person here lol Still say she was an idiot to block over a harmless joke like that

[BlackScorpio91]

Legz a woman doesn't need to get professional pictures, why would she?

All of you like to use filters anyway to make yourself more attractive than you really are so there's that.

For us guys? I'll say alot of us do need them to make us stand out from all the losers so anyone knocking professional pictures are usually people who do bad online.

Don't knock it til you try it.

[BlackScorpio91]

And most of the time I'm not sexual right off the bat with women that haven't initiated anything sexual yet as to me it's better to do that over the phone or in person after you gotten a good read on the body language and vibe of the woman (I'm not talking about slutty vibes either but anyone who's good at reading body language will know what I'm talking about) as something like that can be taken the wrong way through text.

Now if it's mutual then I can see both parties sexting.

Regardless that's really the type of woman no one should be dealing with anyway if she's gonna get that anal and block you.

[AestheticNoz]

Setting my Tinder/Bumble up tonight what are you dudes using to show off your physique, beach photo, gym photo etc?

Churr

[ScottTil]

Setting my Tinder/Bumble up tonight what are you dudes using to show off your physique, beach photo, gym photo etc?

Churr

if you have a good physique... beach photos yes, gym photos no.
OLD is a clown world bro, you have to show off everything you have but it has to be like covert or natural. No selfies, no selfies at the gym.
It's like it only counts if someone else took the pic in a natural scenario, otherwise it's creepy lol