brahs who never talk to others and feel lonely, talk to people SRS

[smashedurgfx10]

cliffs:

op is an incel
op bangs his sister

[nvrstopworking]

GJDM. Nice to see someone get off their azz and make a change rather than wallowing in self-pity.

[inb4everything]

It depends on your upbringing and what you need to do to survive.

Compare a

kid in the ghetto having to sell on the street and go through multiple fights growing up...just to survive

vs

a middle class Greg that hopes to get a job after college that pays well and had to "battle" in networking to get a good job, no fights growing up..never had to "hustle"


Which do you think is going to have much more assertiveness and be more sociable? And which more awkward?

[brieliever]

love you misc! reps looking thick and juicy

[brieliever]

bump

[Chezdon]

id be interested in seeing some studies/ data that link this caveman hypothesis to introversion

From my experience, I'm quieter/more reserved in initial social encounters because I'm judging my audience. If I start a new job, I'm in my shell for a week or two. Then the real me comes out. Figured it was more about not making an ******* out of myself and coming across well. Not to mention I always strive to be liked and don't like confrontation. Not sure how much that has to do with cavemen.

I also don't enjoy big parties and would much rather spend a night out with two or three people as opposed to eight or ten. I used to, it was fun for a while, but the whole introducing yourself and those initial questions get boring fast. Maybe that's part of people in a relationship too. If I was single again I'd probably put myself out there more.

[Vampirelol]

tl;dr I don't talk to people because I have better chit to do, not because I'm a lonely ******* lmao

[brieliever]

tl;dr I don't talk to people because I have better chit to do, not because I'm a lonely ******* lmao

suuure

[brieliever]

A good lifehack for social vibes is to put on really bright and colorful clothes so you don't basically always walk around in doomer outfit. Works like a charm.

this, i get more looks from ladies when i wear a plain white t.

[anonkunbrah]

lol didn't know he became a gif

[BiriusSlack]

Damn this is relatable - good post man. I never make the effort to start conversations or talk to new people. I really should but for some reason I don't - it's definitely something I'm working on right now

[brieliever]

fuk brahs. it hits you tht you could be doing so much more and you weren't meant to feel this way. i walked by this cute girl with extra long eyelashes who i realized was quiet af , like me. and i can't even.... i feel for her. like she wasn't going into class early because of i guess wanting to wait it out on a bench outside the room.... talk brahs.

[brieliever]

happy memorial day everybody!

[JustMoved24]

Finally had my first human interaction in years yesterday. Person immediately spat in my face

[Vascularmanlet]

Work a job where Im forced to speak to people almost everyday, have good friends and a decent social life yet still suffer from crippling loneliness.

[brahskimoseph]

This is honestly one of my problems, and it's compounded by the fact that I'm almost constantly stoned plus I'm a big dude, so some people will perceive me as intimidating.

Drunk or sober? I can be confident, charming, witty, ect, but I give up all of that to be fried. Honestly, I should quit smoking the devil's lettuce. Been more or less constantly high for the past 5 years, outside of workhours anyways.

[JonAnthony1337]

Honestly dude, good for you. Ignore the haters. I was in the same boat, and you can make so much progress and 10x your life in so many ways if you just take the chances like you did.

Good ****, brah. Good ****.

[DassItMan]

didn't read yet but repped

[brieliever]

Honestly dude, good for you. Ignore the haters. I was in the same boat, and you can make so much progress and 10x your life in so many ways if you just take the chances like you did.

Good ****, brah. Good ****.

appreciate it brah. nuthin but luv

[AkiraFudo]

Spoiler!

just lol at op joining the theater club just to get socialization. You gay or something op ?

[Erey350]

Quit my job a few weeks ago so i have just been inside all day/night not really interacting with people. Chit gets lonely

[brieliever]

Quit my job a few weeks ago so i have just been inside all day/night not really interacting with people. Chit gets lonely

bump

[brieliever]

bu,mp

[nin-com-poop]

So how are we suppose to come off as friendly in public while wearing a mask, and people are freaking out if you're not 6 feet away and/or not wearing a mask? Not sure if anyone else has thought of this, but when was the last time you guys received or gave a compliment to a random person since this whole mandated BS started? I haven't. We are being stripped of our humanity which includes expressing ourselves freely.

No joke when I thought about the humanity aspect and where the trend is going in terms social isolation, etc. for a few minutes it almost broke me.

[DizzySmalls]

When I talk to new people, they will spend the next few days experiencing that quiet sadness from the sheer awkwardness

[brieliever]

When I talk to new people, they will spend the next few days experiencing that quiet sadness from the sheer awkwardness

Thing here m8 is to get practice so you don't have this effect on people for the rest of time.

[Ironface]

It’s funny you should say that, because i've been a quiet person since middle school. i would look at home videos of myself being so unreserved as a kid, frolicking around in the hawaiian islands without a care in the world. comparing that to me as a young adult, it feels like a different person. i've been more quiet than most people would admit to:

went on a field trip to a ferris wheel with my uni. was with a group of 7-8 classmates in the little room carriage. just walked around while all of them mingled, slowly revolving around for half an hour. it was torture brah.

went on a field trip to a beach town with 7-8 of these same people who were kind enough to invite me out to hang. same thing, didn't say anything the entire afternoon, just walked with them and sat down at their table to eat. omfg. only thing i said was when there was this chubby girl alone with me at the dinner table, and everyone else left. i smiled and finally said something and her face lit up. i shut up when the others returned.

you get the idea, this sort of thing. just not talking to anyone in class, at the gym, at work, outside of 'can i use this weight?', or other short, strictly business talk.

what really bothered me was the fact that i had sad vibes for some reason, even if i was deliberately smiling and laughing. now, i'm not a bad looking brah, nor the biggest pussy. i would occasionally talk to a rather cute girl or just some random guy. i wanted to have the conversation go well, but i felt like i was giving off a sad, depressed vibe that dampened things when sparks should be flying. i was so frustrated, thinking i need somebody to be with me first so then i could be happy, and then have better interactions. but getting somebody when you have this sad energy was an obstacle, so i thought. it didn't help that i felt even worse when people didn't respond as well as i hoped when we had these interactions. perhaps they could sense what i felt behind the cheery outside.

spent years dabbling with 5htp, tyrosine pills, b-vitamins, spirulina, diet changes, vitamin d supplements, bright light therapy (outdoors), exercise, ********, mdma, weed, nicotine (of ALL forms), therapeutic massages, all to not feel this quiet sadness throughout the day.

one weekend i went with my sister to a music festival for several days in another state. we rented a car and hung out the entire weekend. this was the most socializing clustered into one weekend i've had in a while besides my parents/ my semester abroad. we opted to not be on our phones and just get to chatting with one another. my sister and i don't get along the best, but we tried to enjoy the weekend. we are both kind of quiet people, but we both put in effort talking to each other. we would walk from the campground to the shows and around the festival grounds. i'm sure we both felt out of place, dressing differently from all the trendy looking people out jabbering to each other happily while we were much quieter. it was really sunny out too, like baking. it wasn't perfect and we ended up fighting at one point. still we came together again. throughout that weekend i saw some beautiful **** brahs, driving through pacific northwest forested mountains and remote, clean towns, walked through rain forests, drove through deserts, and saw some of my favorite musicians live. that fight got to me for a long time but looking back it was one of the best travels for all those experiences that i've shared with someone.

when i got back to uni, i felt better throughout the day. i would be just smiling to myself and things looked up in general throughout the day. even going to the dining hall by myself was better: i remember being able to smile as i left the hall! the first cigarette i had back at uni, i felt the most pleasurable, intoxicating buzz. i hadn't felt remotely like that smoking since probably my first cig, and that wasn't at this level. i reviewed what had changed that made me feel this way, and i thought it was either being unplugged from cell phones (i'm an internet addict) or the sheer amount of sunlight that made me feel so good. i tried to replicate these things. as the weeks past i felt a similar quiet sadness return.

i joined a musical theater troupe for the experience of performing and made some connections there, strong enough that we would hang out. good people there, to invite a still quiet person like me to these gatherings. i ended up doing an open mic night at the end of it, an original song on the guitar. a cute girl came up to me asking where she could listen to it online and we exchanged contact info! i was buzzing from that haha. i was still quiet though in general, like the ferris wheel day. i still felt that quiet sadness...

fast forward months, and a i signed myself up for a bunch of responsibilities on campus. i had less free time and more time where i around people. add that to the connections from musical theater, and all of a sudden i find myself now being able to run into a familiar face on campus when before i wouldn't run into anybody i knew in a 20,000 student campus. i tried talking to the familiar faces around me and some random ones too. after a couple days of this new setup, i realized that i felt happier at the end of each day.

i don't know why it took me so long, but it struck me one day that this quiet sadness was because i was lonely, that i didn't talk to anyone. and what clicked also was that talking to people, like i did with my sister that weekend trip, would still make me feel happy even though it didn't go perfectly or even close to that. putting two and two together, i realized i could just talk to people without always things going great and feel better, helping taking care of that infuriating sad vibe. then i would have decent positive vibes to build those connections that i longed for.

i'm not talking about talking to everyone you see, though that might not be a bad course of action either. i'm getting at talking to people in your schedule or in random situations where it feels right to talk to people. i can tell when i should talk to someone new or familiar without feeling like i'm forcing it. on top of that i have goals in life. that always helps in making you feel purposeful.

and that's what i learned. talk to people brahs.

cliffs
-talk to people
-gain in life