Wife lost all interest in sex due to stress...

[eod8989]

Same thing happened to me. After about 1.5 years into the relationship i started getting rejected and my gf gained weight. Thought it was work stress so i kept trying. About 1 year passed and i just gave up. Now i'm celibate. I was bored after a year so too so maybe we both just got bored. Sex with the same person gets old as fuk cuz. Does not surprise me when couples stop having sex as there the lust eventually wears off. All it takes is one person not feeling it anymore and it's done.

[otakutrevan]

The tour is over op

[HayZues Christi]

Same thing happened to me. After about 1.5 years into the relationship i started getting rejected and my gf gained weight. Thought it was work stress so i kept trying. About 1 year passed and i just gave up. Now i'm celibate. I was bored after a year so too so maybe we both just got bored. Sex with the same person gets old as fuk cuz. Does not surprise me when couples stop having sex as there the lust eventually wears off. All it takes is one person not feeling it anymore and it's done.

Aren't you still in the relationship? Isnt your gf actually your wife?

Just lmao. You might be the most beta ******* in this giant cesspool of beta *******s.

[Altar0]

Tough situation OP. You need to be careful how you approach it because if you make it all about your own needs then it really will feel like a chore to her and she'll resent it more. Ideally you find a way to make it fun and exciting for her. Has she got any kinks? Could you buy sexy lingerie that would turn her on too?

The other option is if you want kids then make it a necessity that she joins you in trying.

[bretmarathon]

Get out. She's either not attracted to you, or you're going to have to jump through hoops to keep her "emotionally invested" in sex.

Getting a divorce isn't the same as breaking up with a Tinder sloot.

Only Miscers would say this, or that she's cheating.

3 weeks isn't that long. Let her work stress resolve. If it's like 3-6 months then it's a problem that counseling could address.

Miscers go years without sex. 3 weeks isn't a big deal. Usually after 10 years marriages become sexless or go down to like once a month, as the people get bored of the same person.

[Gayle1]

Wrestle a grizzly bear in the front yard to impress her

[arkona4trek]

Aren't you still in the relationship? Isnt your gf actually your wife?

Just lmao. You might be the most beta ******* in this giant cesspool of beta *******s.

Give him a little break bro, eod8989 seems depressed as fu...

Hope for you it will get better op, you seem like a good lad.

[JustMoved24]

Less talk more anal

To be serious tho read below

Stop talking, start dominating. Just throw her down one night. Doesn’t matter if it’s a quickly if both tired. Tonight when she’s in the bathroom washing up before bed just walk up behind her kiss her neck and cusp her breasts and run your hands down her sides to bottom ass cheeks as you press your rock hard 3 week build up package against her. Hopefully you can slide it in right then or there or just lead her to bedroom and have your way for her. Lust after her in a primal way to where if she has any attraction to you she won’t be able resist


Ull really know where you stand after.

[AlphaNerd1]

Disagree with this. Pretty much all women love sex. Just depends who you’re doing it with.

If she lost attraction to op then they need to either rekindle it somehow together or op will have to either leave or accept a sexless marriage.

Those sloots!

[AlphaNerd1]

Less talk more anal

To be serious tho read below

Stop talking, start dominating. Just throw her down one night. Doesn’t matter if it’s a quickly if both tired. Tonight when she’s in the bathroom washing up before bed just walk up behind her kiss her neck and cusp her breasts and run your hands down her sides to bottom ass cheeks as you press your rock hard 3 week build up package against her. Hopefully you can slide it in right then or there or just lead her to bedroom and have your way for her. Lust after her in a primal way to where if she has any attraction to you she won’t be able resist


Ull really know where you stand after.

[dj10show]

Getting a divorce isn't the same as breaking up with a Tinder sloot.

Only Miscers would say this, or that she's cheating.

3 weeks isn't that long. Let her work stress resolve. If it's like 3-6 months then it's a problem that counseling could address.

Miscers go years without sex. 3 weeks isn't a big deal. Usually after 10 years marriages become sexless or go down to like once a month, as the people get bored of the same person.

Have you missed where he's been unsatisfied with their sex life for the entire relationship, not just 3 weeks? Not to mention, she fails to understand that this is even an issue for him and refuses to acknowledge his needs.

[EnderG60]

I had a similar situation with my wife. I had to sit her down and talk to her about it. She pretty much said she considers sex something fun, and fun was not a priority when there are important things to do, as in her work she was stressing over. I told her that was not working for me since I view sex and a requirement for a relationship and bonding, not just fun. I told her if we didnt fix the issue now it had the potential to be a relationship ender and we went about working it out.

Now even with a new baby and trying to move we are still maintaining a minimum of twice a week, and try to keep it at every other day.

If you dont nip it in the butt, she will become distant and stop associating you with sex and she will start to find it elsewhere, or you will.

[Mumra]

nothing kills a woman's sex drive like Wedding Cake. why men continue to fall for this pointless trap is beyond me. now homeboy is stuck and his options are deal with not getting laid anymore or get divorced and get destroyed during that or just cheat and even that's easier said than done.

#PoorBastard

[miscHodor]

Less talk more anal

To be serious tho read below

Stop talking, start dominating. Just throw her down one night. Doesn’t matter if it’s a quickly if both tired. Tonight when she’s in the bathroom washing up before bed just walk up behind her kiss her neck and cusp her breasts and run your hands down her sides to bottom ass cheeks as you press your rock hard 3 week build up package against her. Hopefully you can slide it in right then or there or just lead her to bedroom and have your way for her. Lust after her in a primal way to where if she has any attraction to you she won’t be able resist


Ull really know where you stand after.

Boom This man knows his chit.

Nothing makes the wife drop her panties more than me just taking what I want like a raging savage. We will have those days were between work, kids, and gym (we both workout frequently plus she teaches some Zumba on the side) that we will not have sex for a couple of days; but the minute I grab her and take control her poosie will drip.

If you do this and she rejects you, well, tours over.

[jlick]

When I was with my ex, when he was stressed (from work, family member died, etc) he was not in the mood. Sex very very complicated at times.

why aren't you two together anymore, if you don't mind me asking?

If a guy is stressed out, he might not be able to get hard, but he would at least try, especially if digging the person he was into.

Like I said, I get it if theres a night or two where you have too much going on and you don't want to have sex. sometimes i will hike all day with my girlfriend and we are just too tired to do anything that night. but we usually make up for it in the morning.

3 weeks of no sex or physical intimacy is a red flag. don't try to fool the OP.

[YIAMSOMEBODY]

OP, how long you been married?

[kingHanley]

You have to be a troll to be this dense

[cookiefiend]

No chance of that. It's all work related. And other things.

Its all one single thing and other things?

[cookiefiend]

Getting a divorce isn't the same as breaking up with a Tinder sloot.

Only Miscers would say this, or that she's cheating.

3 weeks isn't that long. Let her work stress resolve. If it's like 3-6 months then it's a problem that counseling could address.

Miscers go years without sex. 3 weeks isn't a big deal. Usually after 10 years marriages become sexless or go down to like once a month, as the people get bored of the same person.

Dude, you literally starting banging tons of other people and said it wasn't cheating because you were in a sex less marriage

[cookiefiend]

You know that’s DLB right?

I would've thought that was clear from what I said lol, but yes I do.

Edit:maybe me calling her a dude caused the confusion? If so, my bad

[cookiefiend]

Ohhh my bad, I thought that was just history posts I was oblivious to

Nah, I don't think I've seen her post about that on this account, yet.

Maybe I'll get to post in the "last neg" thread again soon now I've brought it up again lol

[Mr Beer]

DLB gives the best marriage advice.

"Be patient with your partner. I mean, not me. My dry patch, I dealt with by getting my arse blown out by tinder Chads, I'm saying you should be patient though."

[dj10show]

DLB gives the best marriage advice.

"Be patient with your partner. I mean, not me. My dry patch, I dealt with by getting my arse blown out by tinder Chads, I'm saying you should be patient though."

I remember seeing DLB from my lurking days, but can someone cliffs me on this whole story? Send PM if need be.

[katya422]

Still a bit vague OP.

You do need to communicate to her how you are feeling. But it is tricky because if you get it wrong she may feel criticized/attacked and get defensive, or she may feel threatened/insecure if you state that the relationship is at risk, or she could just be more stressed out because, oh, here is one more thing to pile on my mental to do list.

None of those things is likely to improve your sex life.

Maybe start out not making it a discussion about sex, but a discussion about priorities and what really matters. Whatever her work situation is I can pretty much promise it won't matter in 10 years. Also her employers do not give a f*ck about her as a person, just about the work she does. If the business is better off kicking her to the curb and hiring someone else, or breaking up her work load and putting it on other employees, then that is what they will do. Her boss isn't going to be there taking care of her if she becomes ill, supporting her through a transition, or celebrating her happiness.

Plan a date night. Talk with her about these things. Ask her to try to leave work at work, and, if the job is wrecking your lives then talk about her changing jobs. Schedule time together every week doing things you enjoy (aka: date).

And I agree with Rabbit that you should be romancing her all day long. Get her thinking about it. Tease her. Change up what you do together. Doesn't have to start out with aggressively dirty sexting. If you find something about her sexy tell her about it. From your post sounds like right now she identifies as her job role and that is all she thinks on. Telling her "stop stressing about work" only goes so far, kind of like the old "don't think about a pink elephant". Try to focus her mind on other things...future vacation, fixing up stuff around your home, trying a new restaurant, etc.

[3basic5me]

[Gayle1]

Wrestle a grizzly bear in the front yard to impress her

The fk you waiting for?

This man has women lined up at his door as we speak.

[Mr Beer]

I remember seeing DLB from my lurking days, but can someone cliffs me on this whole story? Send PM if need be.

Serial poster, kept getting banned for being annoying and would immediately come back under a new user name, mods eventually stopped banning her because it was too difficult and she wasn't posting stuff that was immediately ban worthy.

Her deal, she's a 40-something narcissist (diagnosed) whose marriage was allegedly sex-free not by her choice so she continually trolled hookup apps and would meet up young Chads for sexy-times.

For some reason this made her marriage problems worse not better.

Yadda therapy yadda yadda problem relationships with her teen daughter yadda yadda recommends against anal sex because one hung guy blasted her rectum into the hospital.

[Cass40]

Serial poster, kept getting banned for being annoying and would immediately come back under a new user name, mods eventually stopped banning her because it was too difficult and she wasn't posting stuff that was immediately ban worthy.

Her deal, she's a 40-something narcissist (diagnosed) whose marriage was allegedly sex-free not by her choice so she continually trolled hookup apps and would meet up young Chads for sexy-times.

For some reason this made her marriage problems worse not better.

Yadda therapy yadda yadda problem relationships with her teen daughter yadda yadda recommends against anal sex because one hung guy blasted her rectum into the hospital.

I thought she was only diagnosed as histrionic or something like that. Was unaware she's a narcissist but I could see that.
I've always wondered how a straight woman can rekk her rectum considering I assume even gay dudes don't let that happen.

[Mr Beer]

Ehh, I can't remember, I thought narcissist but whatever, some of kind of mental anyway.

I didn't ask for details about her buttsex problem. It could all be nonsense anyway, not like she's a reliable source. I mean I don't know why anyone would invent that but people are weird.

[ANIMALISTIKZ]

The higher her stress level the higher her chance of the f****** you if she actually into you dead serious fact of life. Conclusion is that she doesn't like you anymore bro dead serious time to swallow it