Are there any guys here who had their first GF after 24?

[MagicWater]

how was it? was it as good as you hoped for?


I'm 29 and have never had a GF. I wonder if I'm building it up so much in my head that i will be hugely disappointed if it ever happens?

[NukYavlen]

How come you've never had a GF brah?

[ThaJerzeyDevil]

i didnt start getting girlfriends til my 20s and after a few months i would always get bored

u gotta get it out of ur system and figure out what u like before u just force urself to settle down

[MagicWater]

How come you've never had a GF brah?

in high school - I was fat and it crushed my confidence

in college - i became decent looking but my confidence didn't reflect

after college - I worked obsessively hard to improve myself and became well above average looking, very successful, good lifestyle, etc... but my confidence was very slow to change

Now, my confidence is best it's ever been but i don't get easy opportunities anymore. Cold approaching women at bars and gyms is very very hard

[p100]

I never had a gf but am happily married. I did marriage 'interviews'. Me and the girl meet up under supervision and if we still like each other after a few months, our life views are similar, our goals in life are similar, etc then we get married. This bf/gf stuff are basically mini-marriages.

Before starting this process I pretty much ignored women and focused on school so I was a kissless virgin until 25. Focus on making yourself useful to society and do not worry about women until you have finished worrying about yourself.

[Cablebob]

I had several GF's before my twenties and such.

ALL pointless. you aren't going to marry that girl, and if you do you will probably regret it.

I'm older now and as I look back I wish I would have just focused more on me in my twenties and less time on women.

I wasn't looking to marry any of the girls I dated when I was younger, they were meaningless relationships that ended badly for the most part.

What's the point in that? Don't worry about not having a GF. You'll find someone when you get serious.

[MagicWater]

I never had a gf but am happily married. I did marriage 'interviews'. Me and the girl meet up under supervision and if we still like each other after a few months, our life views are similar, our goals in life are similar, etc then we get married. This bf/gf stuff are basically mini-marriages.

what do you mean? marriage interviews?

the actual dating process is pretty simple but I just don't know how to get started brah. I can't do online dating because I'm not a 10/10 chad and cold approaching women in real life is crazy hard

I don't meet women naturally in my daily routine

[MagicWater]

I had several GF's before my twenties and such.

ALL pointless. you aren't going to marry that girl, and if you do you will probably regret it.

I'm older now and as I look back I wish I would have just focused more on me in my twenties and less time on women.

I wasn't looking to marry any of the girls I dated when I was younger, they were meaningless relationships that ended badly for the most part.

What's the point in that? Don't worry about not having a GF. You'll find someone when you get serious.

very interesting

my life outside of dating right now is perfect - my job is good (I make a ton of money), I'm decent looking and very healthy, i have great friends and family and I have a great lifestyle.

but i dunno how the hell to get started with dating bro. I'm 29 and have never had a GF, its very frustrating.

[tunafishha]

29 here and still havent held a girls hand. Cooties

[p100]

what do you mean? marriage interviews?

the actual dating process is pretty simple but I just don't know how to get started brah. I can't do online dating because I'm not a 10/10 chad and cold approaching women in real life is crazy hard

I don't meet women naturally in my daily routine

Ask your parents, aunts, uncles, parents of friends if they know any women in age x to x that are looking for marriage. If yes then send them a pic of yourself and have them send a pic of the girl. If you voth like then start discussing with the girl what you expect of a wife and what she expects of a husband, how many kids, living standards, etc. If all of these match up continue speaking with each other at resteraunts and public places without sexual contact. If after a while you both agree your lives are compatible and will benefit each other then get married.

This will save a lot of time. Many people spend years in useless relationships because they never discuss what they want and think they will 'figure it out' by living with each other. Just straight up ask and save everybody time and headache. Women also like the straightforwardness. Tell her "we are not taking international vacations every month and I expect my wife to clean, cook, and raise kids". If she disagrees then you saved so much time, if not then you may have found a keeper.

[Howiester]

Have you tried looking at thousands of women from every angle imaginable?

[MagicWater]

Ask your parents, aunts, uncles, parents of friends if they know any women in age x to x that are looking for marriage. If yes then send them a pic of yourself and have them send a pic of the girl. If you voth like then start discussing with the girl what you expect of a wife and what she expects of a husband, how many kids, living standards, etc. If all of these match up continue speaking with each other at resteraunts and public places without sexual contact. If after a while you both agree your lives are compatible and will benefit each other then get married.

most of my family is overseas

my friends and family don't know anybody

[MisterJustice]

phuckin lol @ op going from red to green to red to mod rep green in space of ~10 days

[MagicWater]

bump

[devin45k]

It's not hard to get a GF. There are a lot of broads that are desperate to be in relationships after college because they think it's what they are supposed to do for the next step in life.

[p100]

most of my family is overseas

my friends and family don't know anybody

My parents did not help me and neither did my family or friends in the US. Stop making excuses.

You can use e-harmony or any other pay website that isn't full of prostitutes. Stay away from the free ones like bumble and tinder, those are loose women who will not make good wives or mothers.

[MagicWater]

It's not hard to get a GF. There are a lot of broads that are desperate to be in relationships after college because they think it's what they are supposed to do for the next step in life.

based on what?

- online dating is impossible unless you're a 10/10 chad

- cold approaching is very hard. Most women are very defensive

It's more reasonable to meet women through friends but none of my friends know any single girls my age

[Cablebob]

SRS? Some of my best memories are travelling and fukin like rabbits with gfs I knew I would never marry lol.

I remember enjoying it at the time... I just look back and realize all the time and money I spent on girls back then was pointless.

[MagicWater]

My parents did not help me and neither did my family or friends in the US. Stop making excuses.

You can use e-harmony or any other pay website that isn't full of prostitutes. Stay away from the free ones like bumble and tinder, those are loose women who will not make good wives or mothers.

i tried online dating for 2 weeks and the difficulty level was impossible

the only men who have success on dating sites are tall, extraordinarily good looking white guys. I'm middle eastern but look more Spanish or Greek (I'm light skinned), my pics were rated about a 7/10 on photofeeler and I got nothing. I had 2 women interested but both of them were garbage

You need to be a 9.5/10 male to get a 7/10 female on dating sites

[MagicWater]

I remember enjoying it at the time... I just look back and realize all the time and money I spent on girls back then was pointless.

life is short man, if you had fun, that's all that matters

I'm the opposite. I have a lot of money because I didn't spend it on women and I'm not happy. I missed out on huge parts of my life

[DesiredUserphag]

I got my first blowjob in 5th grade. Hope this helps.

[Cablebob]

life is short man, if you had fun, that's all that matters

I'm the opposite. I have a lot of money because I didn't spend it on women and I'm not happy. I missed out on huge parts of my life

It all depends on what you are looking for. You can find someone for anything. Casual or long term. I think you main issue is the anxiety of the process.

Just forget about all that. Any girl worth your time will be a bit nervous about dating at that age too. If she isn't, then she's a sloot and perpetual dater.

Just get out there, meet people and don't hide the fact that you are looking for a relationship. It will happen.

All of this advice is under the assumption that you are at least a 5/10 facial aesthetics with reasonable expectations for the women that you want to date.

[devin45k]

based on what?

- online dating is impossible unless you're a 10/10 chad

- cold approaching is very hard. Most women are very defensive

It's more reasonable to meet women through friends but none of my friends know any single girls my age

No you dont.

Basically have to have a personality that entertains them. If they laugh and feel comfortable they meetup with you.

Autistic brahs have a hard time because they have no clue how to talk to people.

[MagicWater]

No you dont.

Basically have to have a personality that entertains them. If they laugh and feel comfortable they meetup with you.

Autistic brahs have a hard time because they have no clue how to talk to people.

with online dating, you won't even get any replies or matches unless you're a solid 10/10 turbo chad. How does personality matter if you can't even get a date?

As far as approaching in real life, you're not wrong but approaching random women is very very hard. Its much easier to meet someone through friends but i make friends everywhere I go and nobody knows any cute girls

How do you do it? I only see women I like at gyms and some at bars. Approaching at gym is nearly impossible

[NukYavlen]

i tried online dating for 2 weeks and the difficulty level was impossible

the only men who have success on dating sites are tall, extraordinarily good looking white guys. I'm middle eastern but look more Spanish or Greek (I'm light skinned), my pics were rated about a 7/10 on photofeeler and I got nothing. I had 2 women interested but both of them were garbage

You need to be a 9.5/10 male to get a 7/10 female on dating sites

You're limiting yourself based of bullchit. Anyone can smash on tinder that is not a retard.
WTF is photofeeler? Stop wasting your time with statistics.

[p100]

i tried online dating for 2 weeks and the difficulty level was impossible

the only men who have success on dating sites are tall, extraordinarily good looking white guys. I'm middle eastern but look more Spanish or Greek (I'm light skinned), my pics were rated about a 7/10 on photofeeler and I got nothing. I had 2 women interested but both of them were garbage

You need to be a 9.5/10 male to get a 7/10 female on dating sites

I am middle eastern/ white and get told I look meditteranean. Are you muslim? If you are then PM me

[DaveIndeed]

how was it? was it as good as you hoped for?


I'm 29 and have never had a GF. I wonder if I'm building it up so much in my head that i will be hugely disappointed if it ever happens?

That's ****ing weird and I have to assume that you're ****ing weird too.

Embrace your weakness though, you being weird is your best ****ing friend at this exact moment because you know what the problem is now and you can finally fix it.

Try getting a part time job in sales if you're currently so ****ing weird that you're an accountant or an IT guy. It will help you trust me.

[devin45k]

with online dating, you won't even get any replies or matches unless you're a solid 10/10 turbo chad. How does personality matter if you can't even get a date?

As far as approaching in real life, you're not wrong but approaching random women is very very hard. Its much easier to meet someone through friends but i make friends everywhere I go and nobody knows any cute girls

How do you do it? I only see women I like at gyms and some at bars. Approaching at gym is nearly impossible

Approaching at the gym isn't hard. You make convo with them and it's easy as hell to make the convo. You already have one thing in common...the gym.

If a girl makes eye contact more than once, just make casual convo. If they are interested, then they will keep making convo with you. Eventually you just ask them to do something outside of the gym.

[MagicWater]

It all depends on what you are looking for. You can find someone for anything. Casual or long term. I think you main issue is the anxiety of the process.

Just forget about all that. Any girl worth your time will be a bit nervous about dating at that age too. If she isn't, then she's a sloot and perpetual dater.

Just get out there, meet people and don't hide the fact that you are looking for a relationship. It will happen.

All of this advice is under the assumption that you are at least a 5/10 facial aesthetics with reasonable expectations for the women that you want to date.

I'm in that 7.5 range in real life and I want someone about same range - I would be happy with a 6 face with great body. I've also been making six figures since I was 22.


Honestly, I'm very good on dates and i think i would be very solid in a relationship. I just don't know how to get it started. I don't see much of a light at end of tunnel

[DaveIndeed]

You need to learn how to walk around with your dick and balls hanging out and just walk up to women and be like yo, figuratively check out my dick and balls as they are presented to you as a part of my sweltering animus.