How long does it take to get over a girl?

[MarinoMike]

I swear, waiting/hoping someone reaches out to you is the damned worst.

[MarinoMike]

I need some help. I just got this text from her:

"Michael, although I do have feelings for you and enjoy spending time with you, I'm not sure if this what I want right now. I need time sand space to figure it out and I just don't want to drag you along while I decide. You don't deserve that. We can hang out if you still want but just know that I can't promise you anything more than what it is".

What can I do?

[ErnieMccracken]

I need some help. I just got this text from her:

"Michael, although I do have feelings for you and enjoy spending time with you, I'm not sure if this what I want right now. I need time sand space to figure it out and I just don't want to drag you along while I decide. You don't deserve that. We can hang out if you still want but just know that I can't promise you anything more than what it is".

What can I do?

Then be friends or close that door forever. Can you handle being her friend when she's getting drilled by a different Chad every night, though? I couldn't.

[AlexNYC7]

OP is now friendzoned.

LOL miscers never learn.

Once a relationship is over you move on and forget the past.
So many women in this universe.

[Cannondella]

I need some help. I just got this text from her:

"Michael, although I do have feelings for you and enjoy spending time with you, I'm not sure if this what I want right now. I need time sand space to figure it out and I just don't want to drag you along while I decide. You don't deserve that. We can hang out if you still want but just know that I can't promise you anything more than what it is".

What can I do?

Try your ass off. Show her how much you ****ing want her. Dont listen to these people on here, grab her tight, pour your heart out. Do everything you can.

[MarinoMike]

All I said was okay, I understand.

[Mr Beer]

I need some help. I just got this text from her:

"Michael, although I do have feelings for you and enjoy spending time with you, I'm not sure if this what I want right now. I need time sand space to figure it out and I just don't want to drag you along while I decide. You don't deserve that. We can hang out if you still want but just know that I can't promise you anything more than what it is".

What can I do?

"I understand. Thank you for being straight up with me about how you feel. I hope it all goes well for you."

Then go NC.

EDIT

Not really No Contact, what I mean is delete her on social media, don't initiate any contact, keep any replies short and business-like, do not get into conversations with her, do not try to be her friend or accept being a friend.

The danger point isn't now, when she is experiencing relief by cutting the cord, it's when she rebounds from the next dick and needs an emotional tampon.

Meanwhile, lift hard, talk to other girls and socialise instead of moping. I can guarantee that she isn't sitting around pining.

[ErnieMccracken]

All I said was okay, I understand.

"But I think you're a great person and I want to keep as many of those in my life as possible. So let's do something fun next weekend."

[MarinoMike]

"I understand. Thank you for being straight up with me about how you feel. I hope it all goes well for you."

Then go NC.

EDIT

Not really No Contact, what I mean is delete her on social media, don't initiate any contact, keep any replies short and business-like, do not get into conversations with her, do not try to be her friend or accept being a friend.

The danger point isn't now, when she is experiencing relief by cutting the cord, it's when she rebounds from the next dick and needs an emotional tampon.

Meanwhile, lift hard, talk to other girls and socialise instead of moping. I can guarantee that she isn't sitting around pining.

I sure as hell aint double texting.

[ErnieMccracken]

I sure as hell aint double texting.

Then move on. She's just not that into you.

[Vinny82]

"I understand. Thank you for being straight up with me about how you feel. I hope it all goes well for you."

Then go NC.

EDIT

Not really No Contact, what I mean is delete her on social media, don't initiate any contact, keep any replies short and business-like, do not get into conversations with her, do not try to be her friend or accept being a friend.

The danger point isn't now, when she is experiencing relief by cutting the cord, it's when she rebounds from the next dick and needs an emotional tampon.

Meanwhile, lift hard, talk to other girls and socialise instead of moping. I can guarantee that she isn't sitting around pining.

This,

Cut her off, be cordial, act indifferent like it doesn't bother you. Move on and try and date other people when you are ready. 75% of the time if you don't chase they end up coming back around and then its your choice with what you want but move on and put your efforts into meeting someone else.

[MarinoMike]

This,

Cut her off, be cordial, act indifferent like it doesn't bother you. Move on and try and date other people when you are ready. 75% of the time if you don't chase they end up coming back around and then its your choice with what you want but move on and put your efforts into meeting someone else.

Coworkers organized a happy hour at a pretty fancy bar after work today... best part is I decided to wear my best suit today.


Getting girls isn't hard man. I basically walk up to them and say "Oh wow, what would I have to do to be included in the company you keep?"

Easy. As. Pie.

[Mr Beer]

I sure as hell aint double texting.

I'm not suggesting that you do, I'm responding to your 'halp wat do Misc?' inquiry. You texted her once, that's it. Move on to the rest of what I said.

[MarinoMike]

She's commenting on my snapchat stories. WTF. Can I respond or just not.

edit: nvm. All her text said was "wow" in response to my snap story (which actually is really cool. It involved someone famous).

[ErnieMccracken]

She's commenting on my snapchat stories. WTF. Can I respond or just not.

What is the context? Leaning towards no.

[MarinoMike]

What is the context? Leaning towards no.

It involved a famous person - legit story - and she just said "wow".... left on read.

she's just testing me.

[ErnieMccracken]

It involved a famous person - legit story - and she just said "wow".... left on read.

she's just testing me.

EZ ignore

[Mr Beer]

Nothing to respond to, she did not directly contact you and ask you a question which should be the minimum needed for you to politely reply.

You should treat her like an ex-colleague that you don't really care about talking to again but don't want to blow off 100% in case you look like a dick to your business network. Think of it in those terms...would you care if Bob from ABC Incorporated said 'wow' to your celeb story? Would you be thinking 'oh I'd better talk to ol' Bob?'. No you would be thinking 'Jeez I hope he doesn't hit me up to get beers again, how many times do I have to say no for him to get the message?'.

If you can't navigate that, just go hard NC.

[MarinoMike]

Nothing to respond to, she did not directly contact you and ask you a question which should be the minimum needed for you to politely reply.

You should treat her like an ex-colleague that you don't really care about talking to again but don't want to blow off 100% in case you look like a dick to your business network. Think of it in those terms...would you care if Bob from ABC Incorporated said 'wow' to your celeb story? Would you be thinking 'oh I'd better talk to ol' Bob?'. No you would be thinking 'Jeez I hope he doesn't hit me up to get beers again, how many times do I have to say no for him to get the message?'.

If you can't navigate that, just go hard NC.

Yeah, admittedly I made this post before opening it. Obviously I can navigate a one worder. And thanks for the feedback.

[MarinoMike]

I slipped up bros. She posted on her snap story a pic of her in a dress she took over thanksgiving and I commented on it that she looked nice.

Then she replied “aw your go to phrase, thank you Michael ”

Then she sent me a snap or two. I didn’t reply again. But dammit I broke NC in less than a week....

[otakutrevan]

I slipped up bros. She posted on her snap story a pic of her in a dress she took over thanksgiving and I commented on it that she looked nice.

Then she replied “aw your go to phrase, thank you Michael ”

Then she sent me a snap or two. I didn’t reply again. But dammit I broke NC in less than a week....

L O L


son

[ErnieMccracken]

I slipped up bros. She posted on her snap story a pic of her in a dress she took over thanksgiving and I commented on it that she looked nice.

Then she replied “aw your go to phrase, thank you Michael ”

Then she sent me a snap or two. I didn’t reply again. But dammit I broke NC in less than a week....

You might as well go full aspie and drunk dial her tonight while you are a blubbering mess. She'll feel so bad her panties will drop.

[Tuga88]

I slipped up bros. She posted on her snap story a pic of her in a dress she took over thanksgiving and I commented on it that she looked nice.

Then she replied “aw your go to phrase, thank you Michael ”

Then she sent me a snap or two. I didn’t reply again. But dammit I broke NC in less than a week....

Staying NC is going to be hard brah....however if that's all you said it's not the end of the world.

[MarinoMike]

This, OP you gave in.

Oh it’s that easy huh? Why can’t I be the one who needed time to realize that this is what I wanted?

In all seriousness I dumped her twice, and I don’t think I’m going to get another chance. I just dunno how to move on.

[Silencespeaks]

I slipped up bros. She posted on her snap story a pic of her in a dress she took over thanksgiving and I commented on it that she looked nice.

Then she replied “aw your go to phrase, thank you Michael ”

Then she sent me a snap or two. I didn’t reply again. But dammit I broke NC in less than a week....

Delete her from Snapchat and all other social media. NC is no contact, not even passively following her online. Don’t look her up on anything either. Just go complete NC and start dating other girls.

[Silencespeaks]

I need some help. I just got this text from her:

"Michael, although I do have feelings for you and enjoy spending time with you, I'm not sure if this what I want right now. I need time sand space to figure it out and I just don't want to drag you along while I decide. You don't deserve that. We can hang out if you still want but just know that I can't promise you anything more than what it is".

What can I do?

This is a rejection. It means she wants to see other guys but keep you on the bench for back up. You need to go NC for real and delete her from social media.

[Bigdumogre]

Magic bro. There is nothing all that special about her, she is just magic.

Couldn't explain it if I tried, her style, her smell, the way she dealt with me, there isn't one thing, it's just pheromones and magic. The more i try to explain it the more i realize i can't.


I could list just as many things I didn't like about her, but she is simply an anomaly in my life.

Truth
Mine has been in my mind for a year and a half - even when I’m laying in bed with my current one I hug her and think of the other one at times

[Tuga88]

Oh it’s that easy huh? Why can’t I be the one who needed time to realize that this is what I wanted?

In all seriousness I dumped her twice, and I don’t think I’m going to get another chance. I just dunno how to move on.

The thing is dude, you can mess up a certain number of times and still recover...but if you've pushed it to the point where she's had enough there's nothing you can say or do to get her back, you've exhausted all your moves and the situation is no longer in your control. At that moment the only play you've got left is to let her know where you stand and to reach out if she changes her mind and then you move on and let her come to you (and you have to accept that may never happen, or at least not for a long time).

[MarinoMike]

The thing is dude, you can mess up a certain number of times and still recover...but if you've pushed it to the point where she's had enough there's nothing you can say or do to get her back, you've exhausted all your moves and the situation is no longer in your control. At that moment the only play you've got left is to let her know where you stand and to reach out if she changes her mind and then you move on and let her come to you (and you have to accept that may never happen, or at least not for a long time).

I get that. But I’ve never been in a situation where it’s entirely my fault for not committing to her when I had the chance. And I get it, “don’t be guilty”, but I do take the blame on this one. She literally worshipped the ground I walked on. Chapter closed. I can’t delete her on snap tho. I like her too much

nah, I deleted her. You are all right.

[extendlol]

Stay strong op. 3 weeks later I still feel like a walking zombie that hasnt smiled about anything since, no drive, more anxious, and still think back of the relationship and why she lead me to be the one to "end" mostly because she was just as scared as i was to be the one to.

Ive asked about 30 dudes irl about removing the ex on social media and i get mixed results half saying if it ended nice/friendly then removing would be seen as a weak move, and the others say you remove to heal and move on