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10-16-2018, 08:45 AM #61
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10-16-2018, 08:49 AM #62
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Let me get this straight though:
-She tells you about her ex flirting with her, DREAMING about her, etc
-She gets jealous if you talk about other women
LMAO. JUST LMAO.
I had an ex like this. Jealous any time another woman talked to me, said it was rude behavior to even talk to them, etc. She cheated on me. Funny how that works.
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10-16-2018, 08:49 AM #63
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You’ve already expressed how it makes you feel and she clearly doesn’t respect you or your relationship. She sounds immature at best and sounds like she needs validation from other men. If she thinks it’s ok, where does the line in the sand get drawn?
-“lol it’s just a dink pic, don’t be so insecure and jealous.”
-“lol it’s just a date, don’t be so insecure and jealous.”
-“lol it’s just a French kiss from Daquan, don’t be so insecure and jealous.”
-“lol it’s just Jamal’s dink in my who-ha, don’t be so insecure and jealous.”
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10-16-2018, 08:54 AM #64
Except that isn't at all what you were thinking and feeling, and nothing about that response tells a person you are deserving of respect.
Are you okay or are you not okay with her talking to her ex, flirting, and then telling you about it? Address that.
You say you've already told her you don't tolerate that chit, but clearly you do.Train hard, train smart, have fun!
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10-16-2018, 08:57 AM #65
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I remember when I had a long distance GF and had a bunch of dude friends that were thirsty for her. She also "didnt flirt back" but was nice to them because she didn't want to seem mean. She also said I had trust issues when calling her on her ****. That's called gas lighting and its a bull**** technique. This will not end well.
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10-16-2018, 09:00 AM #66
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10-16-2018, 09:03 AM #67
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10-16-2018, 09:12 AM #68
I could be completely off base here, but you have said everything else is good and you are long distance right now.
Likely she isn't feeling secure in the relationship, maybe because of the distance and lack of one on one time.
You could try just telling her that directly...call her on it...
"I know being long distance is hard especially with a new relationship.
I think you keep mentioning interest you are receiving from other men because you don't feel secure or you aren't getting what you need from our relationship. But I am not okay with your staying in communication with other potential boyfriends because you feel like you need a backup plan or you want to test my interest.
You can either block these people and shut down their advances or we can call it quits and you can go chase down your plan B."
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10-16-2018, 09:12 AM #69
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10-16-2018, 09:21 AM #70
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10-16-2018, 09:36 AM #71
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10-16-2018, 09:39 AM #72
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10-16-2018, 09:50 AM #73
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10-16-2018, 10:00 AM #74
Ho Lee Fuk. I had no idea this thread was still going.
Update: I took a miscer's advice and sort of brushed it under the rug for now, and was just super firm/callous with her when we were FaceTiming to study. On her own she mentioned she might have been "out of line" and is now constantly being sweet and texting me how horny she is for me. lmao. Was almost certainly chit testing me I'm thinking.
This is exactly what I think I'll do in a few days. I thought about it, and she never ONCE behaved like this when we were together in the same place. She's very much in line when we're together, and is pretty submissive. Even now she's back to being really submissive. She's in general a really insecure person and I'm pretty accomplished/aesthetic tbh so I think you're spot on. Her fukking 22 year old mind just goes ape chit from time to time as she tries to fuk with me
that's fukking hilarious. will do. and will rep off r/c
yeah that's absolutely a great point. dumb slut.
this sort of happened automatically when she acted the way she acted. feel less invested, and looking forward to her visiting me on Halloween for some angry secs. if she fixes her chit, maybe I'll upgrade her back to how I used to value her. That being said, I still refuse to act in a manner without dignity and imitate any of her bullchit, flirting or otherwise.
yeah that's what I'm thinking at this point judging by her quick 180
oh dam a Misc legend. Yeah bruh you're right in the past I'm very fond of her so I guess she knows I don't want to call it quits. Starting to be more firm with her. Some chicks need to be kept in line, and ya'll are all correct. Thanks
what a peasant mindset. This is never okay you fukLast edited by salamisalem; 10-16-2018 at 10:16 AM.
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10-16-2018, 10:03 AM #75
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10-16-2018, 10:06 AM #76
I think the bottom line is if she had any respect for you and the relationship, she would shut down any guys' attempt of getting with her
She obviously knows theyre interested but enjoys the attention. She also refuses to acknowledge her responsibility to turn down any suitors because she's choosing herself (and receiving that attention) over you and your relationship.
She wants her cake and eat it too. You can't change that about her as a person because clearly she doesn't want to
All you can do now is control how you react to this situation
1. You want to change how you react and play it off cool. I don't agree with this because it compromises on what you find comfortable--and by all means wanting your partner to shut down advances is entirely reasonable.
2. You can choose to not be with someone like this and leave.
Is she really what you wanted in a relationship?
Is she someone you can trust?
Is she worth this bullchit?
Lastly, how much respect do you have for yourself to tolerate that bullchit?
I mean come on, she's acting like she's single with her guy friends by entertaining their flirts--the guys don't respect you because they don't give f. if she's not single anymore (your not in their way as her boyfriend) and being passive is still an action in her case because she's allowing it.
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10-16-2018, 10:06 AM #77
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10-16-2018, 10:09 AM #78
Not to complete infantilize OP's girlfriend, but sometimes it helps to think about people + their issues like kids. If you tell a child to stop a negative behavior and they ignore you and continue, and then on the fifth time you snap, you've just taught your child it takes five times before a parent puts a stop to nonsense.
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10-16-2018, 10:28 AM #79
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10-16-2018, 10:28 AM #80
Every time she does this, move your attention elsewhere. The key to this is to not do it in a butthurt way.
Examples: “You’re a ***got” “you’re gay” “you’re horrible” “you’re lame” “you’re the worst” “why are you so bad?”
Slowly draw your attention elsewhere. Ease into it. Don’t make it seem like you’re a gay drama queen. Perfect opportunity to watch some football, play some playstation, do some reading, go get some food, etc.*Hole is Life Crew*
*Meditation Crew*
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10-16-2018, 10:38 AM #81
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this feels like a troll thread, but here's some old man advice that you youngling *******s need to understand: it's BRUTAL to date a chick if you barely meet her minimum system requirements. ever play a vidya game where your pc hardware barely meets the reqs? fukken BULLCHIT. yes, you're technically playing the game (technically fukken the sloot) but it's not smooth or fun at all.
if she's not just shy of obsessed with you, you may as well pack up the truck and find someone who is. the chick who actually really wants you is out there, and she doesn't necessarily look like a sewer hog.
you'll fukken KNOW when you've found this chick. no second-guessing, no effort at all. the whole thing is on autopilot. you meet her and pretty much every day after that you're hanging out. no fukken text games, no communicating with exes, no bullchit at all. if you have to work for it, bicker with her over chit or anything that isn't an obvious enhancement of your life prior to the relationship, it's a fukken WASTE. better off jerking off instead by far.
did you form a partnership with an awesome gal or are you wading through a river of pigchit so you can get some hole? have some self-fukken-respect, gentsMake Europe Germany Again
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10-16-2018, 10:49 AM #82
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10-16-2018, 10:52 AM #83
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10-16-2018, 10:54 AM #84
show gf and let misc decide if she's worth it....
sounds like a hoe 4 sho, or an immature girl.
Most girls don't give dudes the time of day (even while single) soooooo
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10-16-2018, 10:58 AM #85
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10-16-2018, 11:51 AM #86
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10-16-2018, 11:53 AM #87
Not reading whole thread, but...
If she was hiding her phone from you and you discovered these texts, that would be one thing.
However, you're not looking and she's the one bringing it up to you. That means something different. She's chit testing you. You need to find the right answer to this chit test that doesn't lower your value in her eyes. Getting jealous is not the answer, even if that's her actual goal.
You need a response that shows you to be an adult that is unrustled, although somewhat disappointed in her, so that she'll realize she is playing a childish game and stop.
Also, let her know that nothing good comes from flirting with other men while she's in a relationship."Buy a man eat fish, the day, teach man, to lifetime." - Joe Biden
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10-16-2018, 11:55 AM #88
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10-16-2018, 01:18 PM #89
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10-16-2018, 02:24 PM #90
She is likely provoking you, wants a reaction from you, maybe some jealousy, attention etc.
But through her provokations she is just massively risking / tearing down your rs in reality by unnecessarily straining the peace in your rs.
Tell her all this. And then ask her whether she is missing something (e.g. maybe attention, more of your time? More love?) in your rs.~~~ Children of seeds:
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