How should I have handled this better misc (srs)

[BestAdc]

Give her the flick brah

[ejWU21]

yeah she does both of those things. but I mean she doesn't flirt back and everything else in our relationship is amazing. you really think it's a make or break?

and how do you know she doesnt flirt back?
answer me this........Would you continuously flirt with a girl who doesnt reciprocate at all?

Edit: this is long distance? Is she closer (proximity) to some of these exes and orbiters than you?

[Archheretic]

Gf jokes about ex flirting with her via text (says he was dreaming about her and she left her jacket and it was warm). This isn't the first time she let's dudes esp exes continue to flirt with her

I get mad and tell her I don't tolerate that sht and to tell them not to pull that.

She gets mad and says she doesn't flirt back I'm being jealous etc and they're being friendly and she doesn't want to seem like a bitch. Wtf misc. I'm thinking I should've just played it off like "hah what a loser. too bad for him imma feel your warmth at night baby"

Doesn't sound to me that you played it wrong, if you had played the "what a loser line" you would just have sounded as insecure and immature as her.

[jizzfarmer]

fuk you're so right. dammit. I should mention it's long distance right now bc I had to go finish school so it's harder. usually in person I just shut her down anytime she says anything stupid just with my presence or my confidence or whatever. much harder over the fukking phone

Holy phuk you gotta be kidding me. How did none of you catch this sht? Dump her ass now.

[MichaelDuong]

She's chit-testing you to see how you'll react.

Start chit-testing back by making yourself seem high-demand and can be taken away at any second you want.


or just talk it over with your gf like a regular human being and set boundaries

[snailsrus]

When your not single allowing the other sex, even more so ex’s flirt it’s not ok

She should tell them to F off and block if they can’t respect that

[straightflexing]

lol wat


Please be trolling. You have a gf who maintains contact with her exes, is receptive to their flirting instead of shutting them down, brags to you about it, AND you're in a long-distance relationship with her? You're a full-on cuck.


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I caught it on post #25...

[sabrosoed18]

If she really respected and valued her relationship with you, she wouldn't be pulling this shiet. It's disrespectful. Drop her and move on

[Azrairc]

I caught it on post #25...

Wouldn't surprise me if it's real, these days the average male allows himself to be cucked left and right. Brb guy breaksup and is single for months/years, girl always already has 10 offers for dinner, hundreds of guys in the wings BEFORE breaking up. Op stays, he's cucked and cheated on, OP actually has some balls and breaksup with her? she is upset for 1 week then chad is hollowing out her sugar walls while OP wallows in a pussyless depression for months on end.

let that sink in

[thedoggod]

Dated a girl for two years who did the same ****.. wanna know what ended up happening?

She ****ed her ex, other dudes, and a waiter at her work.

Abort.

You shouldln't have to tell someone to not talk to their ex's, it should be a common respect thing.

[straightflexing]

Wouldn't surprise me if it's real, these days the average male allows himself to be cucked left and right. Brb guy breaksup and is single for months/years, girl always already has 10 offers for dinner, hundreds of guys in the wings BEFORE breaking up. Op stays, he's cucked and cheated on, OP actually has some balls and breaksup with her? she is upset for 1 week then chad is hollowing out her sugar walls while OP wallows in a pussyless depression for months on end.

let that sink in

been there, Men cant win...


And the hotter the girl the more problems it brings and sadly we all want a hot gf...

[EoR]

I have zero tolerance for that sort of behavior. She shouldn't be in that situation unless she presents herself or has a semi open door. Clearly there is a lack of respect. To be honest if she's see it as no big deal @ that age I don't think you can change her. Her justifying this by saying she isn't reincorporating is a huge red flag not worth gambling with your time.

[Brozart]

Hey brozart long time no see brah! dude honestly I really appreciate the advice. However I said all that. and she insisted I just didn't trust her and that I was being jealous. I even said the "how would you feel if chicks were flirting with me" thing and she's like "id laugh it off". which is total BS. so she's in complete defensive mode.

So yeah I'm not sure. Just going to see if she repeats this in the future, bc it's starting to get out of hand.

Yeah chicks are like that man, they are unable to concede a point, even if they know they're wrong. If you've expressed yourself as well as you can, maybe she'll change her behaviour in the future, even though she's being a bitch now

If not, then she just doesn't give a fuk about you. If you're in a legit relationship, each makes silly concessions for the other, even if we don't see it from the same point of view.

Must be very difficult trying to sort chit out when you can't talk in person, too.

Too. Many. Words.

If on phone just say oh ok then. Then stop talking.

Lol, strong relationship building advice. Obviously you're already doomed, rabbit, after being married for 20 years nothing you say or do matters. Fledgling relationships, though, need work, and communication is key if you actually want to have a real relationship

And remember, women are simple, so you have to explain things to them very thoroughly.

[propreffered7]

think you have to put your foot down and tell her to stop

think she's begging for attention but doing it with exes sounds a lil risky

she's presented a catch 22 really. if you do respond you're jealous, if you don't, you don't care.

so sticking up for your self respect is best. i think in the end she'll like that you cared enough to tell her to stop

to be fair, im unsure as to how worth it is and whether or not she's really a sloot

[ejWU21]

think you have to put your foot down and tell her to stop

think she's begging for attention but doing it with exes sounds a lil risky

she's presented a catch 22 really. if you do respond you're jealous, if you don't, you don't care.

so sticking up for your self respect is best. i think in the end she'll like that you cared enough to tell her to stop

to be fair, im unsure as to how worth it is and whether or not she's really a sloot

he should just dump her honestly......why would you want a girl that you have to force to shut down other dudes? The problem is that she doesnt want to shut them down

OP find a chic who shuts down other dudes on her own

[propreffered7]

he should just dump her honestly......why would you want a girl that you have to force to shut down other dudes? The problem is that she doesnt want to shut them down

OP find a chic who shuts down other dudes on her own

yea, i just know chicks that do this.. that don't necessarily cheat or anything like that. or that they have done this

just looking for attention

but it is a hassle

[ejWU21]

yea, i just know chicks that do this.. that don't necessarily cheat or anything like that. or that they have done this

just looking for attention

but it is a hastle

My opinion is unchanged, bc even without the cheating this is blatant disrespect.We all know if hte roles were reversed, shed flip........which means she knows she is disrespecting OP. To make matters worse, even when OP has reacted negatively to her doing this, she turns it on him and says he's "jealous" and indicates no willingness to change her ways.

Overall point is still that she shouldnt want to get attention from other guys who want her......so the damage is already done IMHO.

DUMP.HER.

[idno]

If she really respected and valued her relationship with you, she wouldn't be pulling this shiet. It's disrespectful. Drop her and move on

don't dump her. do what Patrice O'neal would do.

Keep her but downgrade the relationship in your mind. She is now your ****buddy, nothing more.

[Tornach]

Why don't you have a cycle of sloots manye?


Where is "desiredguy" at?

[WafflesBrah]

lol @ dealing with a girl that still talks to her ex while you are dating. You have no control over her. You are just a beta cuck in her eyes my man which is why she thinks she can get away with some b.s like that. Sorry to say my boy. You will get cheated on eventually. Come back to this post when when it happens.

[Fuqdatass]

She doesn’t think much of you or your relationship if she’s comfortable telling you that.

What a bitch.

[Legz422]

Tell her "I know we've talked about this before, and you didn't see where I was coming from. How would you feel if I told you chicks were flirting with me? The issue is I told you I'm not comfortable with it, and you didn't respect that. I'm not a jealous guy - talking about your ex flirting with you is just disrespectful, let alone allowing it in the first place. Honestly, if you don't want to understand where I'm coming from, I think this kinda thing is going to be a big problem, which is really disappointing considering how great everything else has been with us"

Remember man, you gotta set the rules. It's always easier to just let things slide and say fuk it, can't be fukt arguing about it, no big deal, but these things escalate. Doesn't matter if she's hot and you have good sex and have fun together, if she doesn't respect you and try to understand you, you're not going to be happy with her.

Absolutely to this. Also as someone else mentioned, if she was shutting them down, they wouldn't continue to flirt with her so she must be doing something to encourage it.

[gibbypoo]

fuk you're so right. dammit. I should mention it's long distance right now bc I had to go finish school so it's harder. usually in person I just shut her down anytime she says anything stupid just with my presence or my confidence or whatever. much harder over the fukking phone

Lol, if this is happening in front of you, just imagine what's happening when you're away.

NC or bust

[badbl00d]

Gf jokes about ex flirting with her via text (says he was dreaming about her and she left her jacket and it was warm). This isn't the first time she let's dudes esp exes continue to flirt with her

I get mad and tell her I don't tolerate that sht and to tell them not to pull that.

She gets mad and says she doesn't flirt back I'm being jealous etc and they're being friendly and she doesn't want to seem like a bitch. Wtf misc. I'm thinking I should've just played it off like "hah what a loser. too bad for him imma feel your warmth at night baby"

1.Her laughter, joking, or making light of it, is a coping mechanism. By laughing she's taking the edge off, and making it ok in her mind.

2. you don't see a problem with the patterns she's created? These are nothing more than "Break in case of emergency" dinks. Don't text/call her for a couple of days, and see what happens.

3. Strong deflection...Your girlfriend is a narcissist.

4. She doesn't want to seem like a bitch to them, but she's more than okay with being one to you? That should tell you everything about where you fall in the pecking order.


This type of mindset, coupled with the long distance aspect is a 5 star recipe for disaster. I don't care how attractive she is, it's just not worth the headache.

[Kiop]

I bet his cawk in her mouth
makes her more wet than your cawk

[Vrykul]

The lack of respect is palpable

Present her with an ultimatum then proceed to go NC

[mujie]

You're getting played like a fiddle. Sloots do this all the time.

She's trying to trigger a beta response in you by telling you these things to make you feel insecure. Basically, "Other suitors are still after me and they still flirt with me". The more insecure your reaction, the more dominant it makes her feel.

You crying and raging at the whole thing is the completely wrong response. The best way to handle this slooty behaviour is to act indifferent as fuk.

Sloot: "My ex is still flirting with me blah blah, said he nutted in my angus in his dream"
OP: "Ok......What are we having for dinner?"

She mentions it again a few weeks later

Sloot: "My ex is still flirting with me blah blah, said he nutted in my angus in his dream"
OP: "You guys should seriously consider hooking up........Did i tell you Bob's cat died?"

An emotionless,stoic composure is vital when replying to her horse sh!t

[MustardTiger17]

Start joking with her about your ex's flirting with you and see how she responds.

Her behavior is immature/childish.

Do this you ******* op

[RogerDuck]

1.Her laughter, joking, or making light of it, is a coping mechanism. By laughing she's taking the edge off, and making it ok in her mind.

2. you don't see a problem with the patterns she's created? These are nothing more than "Break in case of emergency" dinks. Don't text/call her for a couple of days, and see what happens.

3. Strong deflection...Your girlfriend is a narcissist.

4. She doesn't want to seem like a bitch to them, but she's more than okay with being one to you? That should tell you everything about where you fall in the pecking order.


This type of mindset, coupled with the long distance aspect is a 5 star recipe for disaster. I don't care how attractive she is, it's just not worth the headache.

Repped. You a phuking specialist.

[reverse79]

cold hard truth


It wont get better from this point forward. Shes not worth it and seeks constant attention


her Ex def sent her dik pics