"Younger" guy dating "older" women

[Le Derek]

Sup relationship crew,

So I matched with a 45 y/o HBB 8 (fake teddies, fit, has a career, etc.)...I'm 28

She messages me saying there's too much of an age gap, but proceeds to talk to me about keto.

I move past the age objection, sell myself a little how i'm more mature than your typical 28 year old

I build some interest, and she goes straight to wanting to talk on the phone

We have a 20 minute convo (while i was at another chick's house lol) where we talked about our careers, nothing really flirty or sexual, which ends with us agreeing to a date friday night after work.

about 30 minutes after the call she texts me "was great talking to you )"

I reply something similar and left it at that.

We haven't texted today.

This is where I always get hung up is now we have 2 days between the call and the date, now an average 20 something would probably flake/ghost in this 2 day period if I don't text until the day of the date

This women being more mature i'm thinking i should probably wait until date-day to text and confirm, as to not appear needy.

Basically I'm wondering how I should play it.

Cliffs:
- Met a 45y/o HBB on hinge
- Text back and forth
- Talk on the phone for 20 minutes, ending in plans for a date
- positive post-call text
- wondering how I should play it

Pics:
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[Le Derek]

Why the f would you wanna date a woman that much older than you?

She's hot af

[Tuga88]

Lol at having to sell yourself to a 50 year old grandma.

[sword_]

Just bang don't take her serious.

[Le Derek]

Just bang don't take her serious.

That's basically the plan.

She lives in Miami, I'm about an hour north.

I have friends/clients in Miami so it would be nice to have someone I can see when I'm already down there.

[LikeAMachine]

45 years old? Groce

[Jesiza]

Older women are never interested in younger guys like that. Her plan is just to use you then dump you.

[Le Derek]

Older women are never interested in younger guys like that. Her plan is just to use you then dump you.

That's fine with me as long as I get to smash.

I always have had a thing for older women, only "dated" one once in college and it became more of a sugar momma type of scenario where she would pay for all the dates, bought my books one semester, would give me a money sometimes. She was nothing to look at but i enjoyed the fringe benefits

[Le Derek]

I'm all fairness she said I'm about 10 years younger than she usually dates.

I don't have a ton to offer outside of being vivacious and fun but maybe that's what she wants...I mean she did agree to a date

[Nedo]

Just text her morning of date day and create some banter. And don't ask "are we still going out"? I always like to leave out a date detail until day of date as this is basically my confirmation that she will come lol.

[skinnyfat88]

I'd agree no need to continue the smalltalk.

Confirm the day of, just don't form it as a question, make it a statement.

[Silencespeaks]

Don’t get it

Just don’t find men in their 20s sexually appealing

I mean beautiful, nice to look at and all that...just not sexy fodder

Ya kind of need a grown up when you get to a certain age

In b4 silencespeaks

Hello I'm here what did I miss

[DJGirth]

get her to buy you food for gains, car for transport. all you need to do is make sure your pipe game is a1

[Silencespeaks]

Young disposable man totty

Lol oh I see

And op just keep in mind that there are tons of hot young guys online dating looking for older women. It's very popular nowadays. If you don't give her much attention she'll likely just talk to someone else who will message her all day.

[FastBack6]

Sup relationship crew,

So I matched with a 45 y/o HBB 8 (fake teddies, fit, has a career, etc.)...I'm 28

She messages me saying there's too much of an age gap, but proceeds to talk to me about keto.

I move past the age objection, sell myself a little how i'm more mature than your typical 28 year old

I build some interest, and she goes straight to wanting to talk on the phone

We have a 20 minute convo (while i was at another chick's house lol) where we talked about our careers, nothing really flirty or sexual, which ends with us agreeing to a date friday night after work.

about 30 minutes after the call she texts me "was great talking to you )"

I reply something similar and left it at that.

We haven't texted today.

This is where I always get hung up is now we have 2 days between the call and the date, now an average 20 something would probably flake/ghost in this 2 day period if I don't text until the day of the date

This women being more mature i'm thinking i should probably wait until date-day to text and confirm, as to not appear needy.

Basically I'm wondering how I should play it.

Cliffs:
- Met a 45y/o HBB on hinge
- Text back and forth
- Talk on the phone for 20 minutes, ending in plans for a date
- positive post-call text
- wondering how I should play it

Pics:
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FORTY FIVE? Hell no!

I could see if she was a couple years older, maybe. I only date women younger than me though so

[BlackScorpio91]

She's hot af

You might as well just have her as a fuk buddy/FWB honestly.

I wouldn't want to date a woman 19 years older than me.

[pondus_levo]

I'm 38. Dated women 21 to 45. I always text 2 days prior to the date and the day of(if she doesn't test first.) Never get flaked on and I use it to have short conversations to turn up the sexual tension before the date. Keep the conversations short and sweet, end it on your terms. If she isn't thinking about at least kissing you before you even meet. You are doing it wrong.

T-Minus 2 days: "Hey, I know you are probably busy getting your hair done and shopping for the perfect outfit for our date. Try not to stress over it to much. PS. Bonus points for a little black dress. ;P"

Morning of: "Really excited about tonight! I'll do my best to be a perfect gentleman, but no promises. "

[HotlineBling]

I'm 38. Dated women 21 to 45. I always text 2 days prior to the date and the day of(if she doesn't test first.) Never get flaked on and I use it to have short conversations to turn up the sexual tension before the date. Keep the conversations short and sweet, end it on your terms. If she isn't thinking about at least kissing you before you even meet. You are doing it wrong.

T-Minus 2 days: "Hey, I know you are probably busy getting your hair done and shopping for the perfect outfit for our date. Try not to stress over it to much. PS. Bonus points for a little black dress. ;P"

Morning of: "Really excited about tonight! I'll do my best to be a perfect gentleman, but no promises. "

You sure you don’t get flakes on? Lol.

But on another note. I would usually text everyday. But keep the text periodically througtout the day with small talk. Usually they would bring it up again.

[A-man]

Lol oh I see

And op just keep in mind that there are tons of hot young guys online dating looking for older women. It's very popular nowadays. If you don't give her much attention she'll likely just talk to someone else who will message her all day.

It's a myth driven by the porn industry. The average older woman cannot compete with a younger one in any way. Younger guys typically have a higher libido and will find older women more attainable than the more attractive but picky younger girls. That's it.

[Silencespeaks]

It's a myth driven by the porn industry. The average older woman cannot compete with a younger one in any way. Younger guys typically have a higher libido and will find older women more attainable than the more attractive but picky younger girls. That's it.

Yes it's driven by the milf fantasy in porn. And lots of young guys are really interested in that.

NOT saying they want a relationship with an older woman or anything serious. But for just a hookup or fwb there are lots of hot young guys that want that.

[bretmarathon]

It's a myth driven by the porn industry. The average older woman cannot compete with a younger one in any way. Younger guys typically have a higher libido and will find older women more attainable than the more attractive but picky younger girls. That's it.

Older women typically have a higher libido than the younger ones, and they are more experienced. Women peak sexually around ages 35-40. Yeah it's driven by the MILF fantasy in porn. Older men and older women will have more experience sexually to please the younger ones, as Spade shows in the other thread.

Not sure why there are 2 threads today in this section about men and women dating around 20 years younger. The guy Spade said he would have a serious relationship with a 20 year old when he's 41.

[A-man]

Older women typically have a higher libido than the younger ones, and they are more experienced. Women peak sexually around ages 35-40. Yeah it's driven by the MILF fantasy in porn. Older men and older women will have more experience sexually to please the younger ones, as Spade shows in the other thread.

For men, nothing can compare to the attraction of a younger woman. Take an older woman who is good in bed, a great cook, has a good personality, and is "experienced" and the man's eye will still wonder to the younger woman.

Take successful older men. If given the chance, 9/10 would get with a younger woman if possible. It's biology.

[BlackScorpio91]

For men, nothing can compare to the attraction of a younger woman. Take an older woman who is good in bed, a great cook, has a good personality, and is "experienced" and the man's eye will still wonder to the younger woman.

Take successful older men. If given the chance, 9/10 would get with a younger woman if possible. It's biology.

Yeah a woman in her 20s will always have more sex appeal overall than a woman who's in her 40s. A hot 40 something year old woman is just for sex, nothing more but when a guy gets older, he's gonna want a younger woman, even if they're harder to deal with.

I would say an older or younger woman each has their pros and cons.

[Mercworx]

For sex and bit of fun/change of pace.

Nothing even remotely serious.

[otakutrevan]

Lol at having to sell yourself to a 50 year old grandma.

You always come in hella clutch with the hilarious posts

[dhawkeye1980]

So youre gonna ghost her for 2 days and then hit her w are we still goin out?

Son just chit chat like normal

[NitrogenWidget]

Why the f would you wanna date a woman that much older than you?

LOL! at you thinking they will date.
She is looking for young dic and throwing out the anti-sloot defense.

I got the reverse when women in their 20's would message me on dating sites or start chatting with me in bars when I was early 40's.
They were like "oh your profile looked interesting but I think we should just be friends due to the age difference, maybe we could hang some time"
Then we meet and they talk about "it would be soooo cool if we did XYZ but I can't afford that" then after I said, "yeah we could do that but it isn't something i'd be interested in doing with just a friend" they followed me home for sexors.

whether it was online or in person, they were looking for a guy who could afford to take them to wine country or a bed and breakfast for the weekend and didn't mind sexing me because I wasn't fat.

[NitrogenWidget]

You might as well just have her as a fuk buddy/FWB honestly.

I wouldn't want to date a woman 19 years older than me.

well, she is younger than me by a yr and I wouldn't date her seriously simply because of her slooty pics.
But i'd take her to pound town since she is hotter than most women my age.

I mean how can a man take a woman who uses those pics on her dating profile or even takes those kinds of pics when she isn't even a legit model seriously?

[NitrogenWidget]

You sure you don’t get flakes on? Lol.

But on another note. I would usually text everyday. But keep the text periodically througtout the day with small talk. Usually they would bring it up again.

Haven't had a flake in about two+ yrs I think.
granted I stopped wasting my time on women who didn't show a clear interest so while I got less dates the one's I got were at least fun for a little while.

[pondus_levo]

You sure you don’t get flakes on? Lol.

But on another note. I would usually text everyday. But keep the text periodically througtout the day with small talk. Usually they would bring it up again.

Surprised any of you still question my text game.