Jiggly Soft and Annoyed

[aishafaze]

I'm 45... 5' 5.5" .... I use to weigh 288pds... over the last 5 yrs of yo yo dieting and cardio I've managed to lose over 60 pds. I'm now down to 220. The problem is I'm so jiggly and soft. I want to start building muscle so I joined this website hoping to learn what I need to know. Instead I'm more confused now more than ever....i want to build musle but not look like a muscle bound man. My goal is to have a six pack nice arms thick thighs and enhance the butt I already have. I don't know if I should bulk up ..lean out ..cut up body build.. transform become a fitness model or a fit girl... do I increase calories or decrease...do I gain weight to gain muscle.... I've read so much and still have no answers... and when I ask I'm advised to follow a basic thread that I've read 5x's already....😩😩 so frustrated

[SunshinyDaiz]

She gave you that link because it contains all the info you need.

1. You weigh 220 pounds at 5' 5.5". You need to be eating in a deficit, losing 1-2 pounds a week.

2. You need to be lifting heavy on a beginner's program. Here is a link to a program:

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...hp?t=159678631

[aishafaze]

Thanks for your reply... your absolutely right she did give me the info I needed... and I realized I asked the wrong question...so I blame myself. This site confused me because it asks do I want to be fit or build muscle and I'm like both...lol... I want thick thighs but a toned upper body...not to muscular. That's where I got confused.... I didnt know whether to eat less or more. Am I bulking because I want thick thighs or leaning out or toning because of my upper body..I'm just trying to work smart and not for nothing.

[SunshinyDaiz]

Right now, you want to lose fat while maintaining the muscle you have. So, eat at a deficit and lift heavy. That is step one. Once you get your body fat down, you re-evaluate your goals and go from there.