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07-02-2018, 02:23 PM #151
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07-02-2018, 02:25 PM #152
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07-02-2018, 02:25 PM #153
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07-02-2018, 02:31 PM #154
I’m guessing your ex was abusive?
I wasn’t speaking about you not deciding to tell them, but in general you should. Of course there are cases where you can’t and that’s understandable. In my case I will always say something since I have a big mouth gets me in trouble, but I have to speak up if something goes against my morals.
I do agree that if your ex was a dangerous person and you felt like your life would be threaten then it’s understandable why you wouldn’t. You can only do so much as a human, right?-SS is jealous of me crew-
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07-02-2018, 03:43 PM #155
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07-02-2018, 04:06 PM #156
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07-04-2018, 01:11 AM #159
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07-04-2018, 01:27 AM #160
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07-04-2018, 02:24 AM #161anonymousGuest
Honestly I would call her out about her unmoral behaviour, not in a deragotary way but make you point of view clear. If you don't say anything, she will never even remotely reflect if her behaviour is wrong or right. She will probably get offended and label you as a dick, but complying with people acting this way just legitimizes their actions.
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07-04-2018, 02:27 AM #162
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07-04-2018, 06:24 AM #163
Nobody said or implied that all marriages are fundamentally unhappy.
You just don't know how they are from looking at the outside. Plus one side can be genuinely happy while unaware the other side is cheating.
But yeah when I see marriages where the husband is rich and travels a lot for work, I do assume that there's a chance he's cheating on business trips.
Just because in that situation the guy will get a lot of offers from beautiful women to cheat and it's very easy to hide cheating when traveling.
So it takes very strong moral character to decline that and many people (not men specifically just people in general) do not have strong morals.
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07-04-2018, 06:40 AM #164
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07-04-2018, 06:42 AM #165
That's why I wrote 'if' - meaning, a conditional. And I was focusing on your statement here where you wrote:
When you wrote 'no matter how long term they are' you meant 'you cannot necessarily infer happiness in a marriage from the duration of the marriage, no matter how long the marriage has lasted'. And you're right to say that because you cannot infer anything, positive or negative simply from the duration of a marriage or, often, as an external observer.
But my point was that seeing a happy couple out for dinner and having some lurking feeling that there must be unhappiness somewhere there is cope, and it is. Because you can't infer anything either way.
And it seems like we agree here:
But then I'll immediately disagree with you here:
That is, in no way shape or form, 'genuine happiness'. It is simply ignorance. 'Genuine' happiness requires knowledge of your situation or else you're just a blissful fool.
And on what I said earlier I knew I was inferring a negative undertone in your post, which you get back to in your post now here:
You assume the negative. Why not 'There's rich Aristotelian in Brussels and instead of cheating like he easily could he's going to take a taxi to the best eclairs place in Brussels tomorrow so he can take something nice back for his wife who is at home'? I talk to a lot of people about this kind of perception and it is probably derived from your life experience - I think you said before you were cheated on (I may be wrong). I have never been cheated on (to my knowledge) so perhaps that's why I can remain fairly trusting and optimistic.
What actually happens is guys or gals in these situations get bored at some kind of convention or meeting, eyes wander, eyes lock, a calculation ensues, and they either fukk at some point or don't. At some point (and here's the non gendered part) people have had enough great sex that this 'new and exciting' offer of a woman or man dressed up at a conference does nothing when you know that it is your partner that rocks your world. I don't think this is only about ethics, which some people can try to argue don't exist etc., but rather about a kind of maturity in which people who have had a varied and healthy sex life aren't that desperate to cheat while away for a few days...
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07-04-2018, 06:59 AM #166
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07-04-2018, 07:10 AM #168
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07-04-2018, 07:19 AM #169
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07-04-2018, 08:02 AM #170
I've awared 2 people in the past, and both times I was ignored, and on one occasion I was the scapegoat.
1) The dude I was friends with was rawdogging randoms from nightclubs, and then rawdogging his fiance. (I finally couldn't keep his secret after his GF called me repeatedly to ask if he's cheating, and I was with my GF one day who advised me to tell her after she called again.)
2) The girl who was living with my friend, was out kissing and getting groped by a dude in a nightclub, while he was at home bedridden with the flu. 100% srs. (Dude believed her denial, despite myself and another person going who he had met and got along with, both looking him and his GF in the eyes and saying we saw her kissing another man. We had absolutely nothing to gain from lying, and I had stood with him in tricky situations when we worked security.)
I decided afterwards though that it wasn't worth the hassle... Unless kids are involved.
The fact that she's 'thinking about having a kid' with the dude who she's cheating on her husband, to me is the line. If she does get pregnant, she will probably commit paternity fraud and get her husband to raise another man's kid.
Phuck that! I couldn't look myself in the mirror, knowing that possibility could occur to some dude.
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07-04-2018, 08:10 AM #171
I don't know exactly how it went down, but it happened to an old friend of mine.
Dude was living with a woman, had her 2 kids from a previous relationship living with them, they got a mortgage together, and then he found out 3 years later that the baby he thought they had together was someone else's. Someone had awared him that it might not be his kid, so they got a paternity test...
Dude went through deep suicidal depression, and began to self harm (I literally found a razor in his toilet). It took ****ing years for him to regain mental health, he's happy now.
Paternity fraud happens, and happens to guys in long term relationships. And it's a problem that only men are vulnerable to. (Women only have that happen, if the hospital severely phucks up.)If You Don't Like To Talk About Your Feelings, This Might Help...
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07-04-2018, 08:19 AM #172
To be honest, I was the person a girl cheated on her live-in boyfriend with. (That was the 1st and last time I would do anything like that, knowingly.)
This was her MO, as far as I could tell...
1) She would only cheat in another city, that was a significant distance away.
2) She would only let men contact her via her single friend's mobile, she would never let direct messages or phone calls take place.
She also liked to get drunk and high, and was so phuckin sexy that when I was with her I practically caught a few people drooling. (No e-brag. 100% srs.)
Red Flags...
1) Sexy.
2) Likes to get drunk and high.
3) Likes to go away with her friends regularly.
IMO miscers are delusional if they think that 'I'm so alpha mcalpha that my partner would never cheat on me'... IMO and IME a person's lifestyle and friends are strong indicators.If You Don't Like To Talk About Your Feelings, This Might Help...
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07-04-2018, 08:23 AM #173
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07-04-2018, 08:31 AM #176
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07-04-2018, 08:36 AM #177
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04-23-2021, 04:28 PM #178
Yeah. In my experience, the more opportunities someone chooses to involve themselves in that could lead to extremely easy cheating (going out partying/to clubs and bars/etc. without their significant other, etc.), the more likely they are to do it. It's like constantly putting a nice juicy stead in front of a well trained dog and telling it not to eat the steak when their trainer leaves them alone with it for extended periods of time. At some point, dodge brah WILL eat that steak.
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04-23-2021, 04:58 PM #179
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