My Gf is killing me

[OscarRL]

Hey Guys,

I have been dating a girl for about 3 months now (on/off due to obstacles on her end) and we dont seem to progress. Everytime I sit down to tell her something about moving forward with "us" and doing more things she agrees but never follows through. After about 2 months now (no offs) the most we have done hugged and hung out for maximum of 30 seconds (have to be careful at school). Everytime i invite her out to do something just us two she says she has soo much **** to get through. Even though that weekend she is hanging out with a friend for about 6 hours and sharing **** online.

She only talks to me when she is bored and bails on meetings i set up frequently which ****in hacks me off. Ik it may seem like an obvious break up but she has done things which encourage me. She introduced her entire family to me and we get on well. She frequently tells people she is with me and occasionally sends me really cute texts and posts things online which are quite cheesy. At night we skype for hours and she seems to want to progress alot but the following day **** all happens. I told her i was fed up and she said "fine leave then." But 5 minutes later says she never wants me to leave and really loves me which makes me confused af.

Tbh i feel like her bitch. I try to do the best i can but she is just rude and makes me wait hours at night because she wants "to talk" about something important but then doesn't even tell me she went to sleep 2 hours ago. I have read many posts saying "give her the silent treatment" and let her come to me but I have tried that and she just got really pissed.

Im just really stuck and i would appreciate some help from someone who is perhaps more experienced in this kinda crap.

Feel free to ask me any questions.

[devopsengineer]

She is not interested, go NC.

[DrunkenMoron]

She is not interested, go NC.

Keep your red opinion to your self.

[devopsengineer]

Keep your red opinion to your self.

I am red because mods hate Serbian Hero Ratko Mladic.

[rgb159]

She is hot/cold with you. Maybe she wants constant chase / validation / attention / reassurance from you.

[OscarRL]

She is hot/cold with you. Maybe she wants constant chase / validation / attention / reassurance from you.

I give her attention 24/7. Im the kind of guy that responds to her text 5 seconds after she sends it -_- I always tell her things will be alright and we should just stay honest bewteen eachother to make it work. I am always chasing after her to try and get her to hang out. At school she likes to hang out with her friends and i have to follow them just to talk to her.

[BetaThanU]

"I sit down to tell her something about moving forward with "us" and doing more things she agrees but never follows through"


i had to sit down with how hard im cringing at this. keep acting like the women and shell dump your beta ass soon

[OscarRL]

"I sit down to tell her something about moving forward with "us" and doing more things she agrees but never follows through"


i had to sit down with how hard im cringing at this. keep acting like the women and shell dump your beta ass soon

Alright if u were in my position and u didnt want to break up, what would u do?

[BetaThanU]

Alright if u were in my position and u didnt want to break up, what would u do?

I would have given up on her already. Not giving yourself that option is what turns you needy. You cant force a girl into you.
If she realises you've had enough and going to leave, she might pull her finger out, if she cares. If she doesnt care then its over anyway.

[OscarRL]

I would have given up on her already. Not giving yourself that option is what turns you needy. You cant force a girl into you.
If she realises you've had enough she might puller her finger out if she cares. If she doesnt care then its over anyway.

Alright cheers

[Biggo123]

just move on and go nc. it's just gonna get worse. trust me there's better out there.

[OscarRL]

I would have given up on her already. Not giving yourself that option is what turns you needy. You cant force a girl into you.
If she realises you've had enough and going to leave, she might pull her finger out, if she cares. If she doesnt care then its over anyway.

Best way to break up? (face to face, text etc.)

[Griffindinho]

your 3 month trial has expired..

move on

[Biggo123]

Best way to break up? (face to face, text etc.)

she doesn't deserve your time. text and post pics of convo etc you know the drill

[Fit1NYC]

If you only hugged shesnot ypur Gf

[Griffindinho]

If you only hugged shesnot ypur Gf

or slept with

[heaa21]

Hey Guys,

I have been dating a girl for about 3 months now (on/off due to obstacles on her end) and we dont seem to progress. Everytime I sit down to tell her something about moving forward with "us" and doing more things she agrees but never follows through. After about 2 months now (no offs) the most we have done hugged and hung out for maximum of 30 seconds (have to be careful at school). Everytime i invite her out to do something just us two she says she has soo much **** to get through. Even though that weekend she is hanging out with a friend for about 6 hours and sharing **** online.

She only talks to me when she is bored and bails on meetings i set up frequently which ****in hacks me off. Ik it may seem like an obvious break up but she has done things which encourage me. She introduced her entire family to me and we get on well. She frequently tells people she is with me and occasionally sends me really cute texts and posts things online which are quite cheesy. At night we skype for hours and she seems to want to progress alot but the following day **** all happens. I told her i was fed up and she said "fine leave then." But 5 minutes later says she never wants me to leave and really loves me which makes me confused af.

Tbh i feel like her bitch. I try to do the best i can but she is just rude and makes me wait hours at night because she wants "to talk" about something important but then doesn't even tell me she went to sleep 2 hours ago. I have read many posts saying "give her the silent treatment" and let her come to me but I have tried that and she just got really pissed.

Im just really stuck and i would appreciate some help from someone who is perhaps more experienced in this kinda crap.

Feel free to ask me any questions.

Bro wtf are you doing? You're sitting her down and talking about "progressing the relationship." Huge "no" right here. You're trying to convince her to commit to you rather than just taking her out and getting to know her. She's probably blowing you off every now and again to put you in check, and I don't blame her. By month 3 she should be begging you to be exclusive, not the other way around.

You need to put your validation needs aside for aside minute before you lose this girl for good. If she takes a step back, you take a step back. If she takes a step forward, you take a step forward. Until she's fully comfortable with you she's not going to want to be your girlfriend. It's up to you to create a low pressure, fun environment for her and things will fall into place naturally.

PS- fukkin stop asap with the late night Skype sessions. You're turning into her emotional tampon dude. Come on!

[skinnyfat88]

You're 18 and rarely hangout 1 on 1??? And have been dating 3 months???

Waste of time. This seems like a relationship people have in grade 6.

[Luc1fer]

Tbh i feel like her bitch.

That’s becuase you are. She doesn’t really love you, she said that to keep you as a beta orbiter.

[wincel]

age 16

At age 16, she is probably a virgin, and 90% of the advice you read on here doesn't apply.

[MajorTendonitis]

Treat her like the stock market OP , pump and dump

[Tuga88]

Been "dating" for 3 months but the most you have done is hugged for 30 seconds?

WTF how stupid are you? This girl is not your girlfriend. You can't be serious, this MUST be a troll post.

[BohemianSlav]

age 16

At age 16, she is probably a virgin, and 90% of the advice you read on here doesn't apply.

Lol this day and age a 16 year old chick got prolly dicked several times already. They start phucking at like 14...

[AsianPaesan]

I'm going to guess this is a troll, but on the off-chance it's not, you're being way too clingy and you need to forget about her. Stop giving her so much attention and either she'll come running back to you or you'll have found a different girl who's way better.

age 16

At age 16, she is probably a virgin, and 90% of the advice you read on here doesn't apply.

Doubtful honestly, seems like girls are having sex at younger and younger ages now. I know this girl who was 17 when I met her and even at that age she already had stories about being promiscuous. She also told me how she banged several dudes at our uni and got guys off tinder too.

[Luc1fer]

Lol this day and age a 16 year old chick got prolly dicked several times already. They start phucking at like 14...

Society generating more and more sluts not worthy of wifing.

[Mr Beer]

Only read the first paragraph, you are a clingy ******* and a girl you haven’t moved passed hugging is not your GF.

[BetaThanU]

Best way to break up? (face to face, text etc.)

dont. just vanish

[cameronpgormley]

I give her attention 24/7. Im the kind of guy that responds to her text 5 seconds after she sends it -_- I always tell her things will be alright and we should just stay honest bewteen eachother to make it work. I am always chasing after her to try and get her to hang out. At school she likes to hang out with her friends and i have to follow them just to talk to her.

looks to me that your being to clingy/needy
just dial it back and act like you dont care, usually does work. btw girls hate needy boys

[NotYourDad]

3 months, just hugs and hanging out. I have seen 14 year old kids make a move faster than that. Are you sure you are her boyfriend? Or are you the emotional tampon that she keeps in her purse? You give too much attention to her. Whenever you immediately reply her texts, subconsciously she thinks you have no life. Move on kiddo. She is using you for validation. If a girl genuinely likes you, then she will never flake. If she is unable to meet you for some reason, then she will reschedule the meeting. Do you think she would flake on Thor and his mighty hammer? Have you seen the twinkle in girls eyes whenever they see him. That is how every girlfriend should look at you.

your 3 month trial has expired..

move on

Loooool

[Griffindinho]

3 months, just hugs and hanging out. I have seen 14 year old kids make a move faster than that. Are you sure you are her boyfriend? Or are you the emotional tampon that she keeps in her purse?

>3 months dating
>no sex
>just hugs/no kiss
>thinks shes his gf


pick one


man it was over for him at the beginning. watch in a few months time when she fights with chad and he just pumps n' dumps her. Guess whos gonna be the first boy she will contact for emotional support. IT WILL BE YOU *******. and she will string you along like this guy has already mentioned. Grow a set of balls and move the phuck on....