The worst thing about constant rejection is

[Micuzzo]

... being told by people 'just stop thinking about it bro'.

[Redfish225]

What’s you go to move on a sloot? I’ll tell you where you’re messin up.

[Micuzzo]

What’s you go to move on a sloot? I’ll tell you where you’re messin up.

It's probably the fact I'm both short and bald lol.

I have decent text game and conversational. Most recent example, tinder sloot. Chatted her up. She asks for my number and we start texting. Next day she calls me. I don't think I said anything that could have turned her off this early. I call her a day after. No response, haven't heard from her since. Fair enough, that's just a tinder sloot. But there have been other more serious things that have gone through same way. I just wish I wasn't judged by things I don't have any control over.

[drvillain]

It's probably the fact I'm both short and bald lol.

I have decent text game and conversational. Most recent example, tinder sloot. Chatted her up. She asks for my number and we start texting. Next day she calls me. I don't think I said anything that could have turned her off this early. I call her a day after. No response, haven't heard from her since. Fair enough, that's just a tinder sloot. But there have been other more serious things that have gone through same way. I just wish I wasn't judged by things I don't have any control over.

so you think a tinder girl that swiped right on a short and bald guy stopped talking to him because she realized he is short and bald?

[Micuzzo]

so you think a tinder girl that swiped right on a short and bald guy stopped talking to him because she realized he is short and bald?

Well this isn't about that particular girl, it's more in general. But yes, sure. If she's getting hounded by 10 chads then I definitely wouldn't be a priority. I'd say she swiped purely for the fact we are of the same ethnicity.

[drvillain]

Well this isn't about that particular girl, it's more in general. But yes, sure. If she's getting hounded by 10 chads then I definitely wouldn't be a priority. I'd say she swiped purely for the fact we are of the same ethnicity.

you probably aren't as interesting as you think you are.

[Redfish225]

Do you talk a lot op?

[Micuzzo]

you probably aren't as interesting as you think you are.

I'm not claiming to be. I'm just a normal dude... Like the several other millions of dudes out there who are in relationships. My standards aren't that high. I just have to be attracted to her. I don't even mind big girls.

Do you talk a lot op?

Depends on the situation. If it's an online thing, I try keep it short as possible and save it for the actual date. If it's a girl I've met through a friend or something, it's mostly the same. Although I've had situations where they don't stop talking to me prior to meeting. I feel like they're putting me straight into the friendzone. In that situation I back off. But other times, I've been straight up and honest and said if they weren't interested in dating, I wasn't that interested in friendship. I know misc will criticise me for that, but I'm older and I don't have time for games anymore. So if they're not keen, I'll go NC.

[Redfish225]

Sounds like you’re on track, I’d just keep hustlin, don’t give up brah. You gonna make it, srs.

[Burgerbuger]

Yeah, telling someone to stop thinking about it is a stupid remark. Because if they were in the same sitiutation we all know they wouldn't be able to stop thinking about it either.

[joshewah17]

... being told by people 'just stop thinking about it bro'.

I'm currently at a 100% rejection rate and I can no longer say it doesn't get me down

#2018rottingcrew

A very wise man once said,
“People don’t really reject you, they just reject who they think you are. That blade cuts both ways, however. People don’t really accept you, either.”

I’m not gonna tell you to stop thinking about it. Your brain is doing what it’s designed to do. Think about problems and solve them. Think. Feel. If you feel down about it it’s cool. If you want to take a break from it all, cool. If you want to try again, great. If you keep going, statistically you should find your match. Can you find true freedom though? A freedom that says even if I never find someone, I choose happiness and contentment?

Only you know the answer to this.

[otakutrevan]

Lol and to think OP was literally telling me the same chit not to long ago.

EDIT: What a time to be alive. A forum full of educated gym bros. Getting flaked on and rejected nonstop. Modern day dating is hilariously insane.

[halfbreedbrah]

Your standards are probably to high. Most real life 5/10 get excited when approached.

[Micuzzo]

A very wise man once said,
“People don’t really reject you, they just reject who they think you are. That blade cuts both ways, however. People don’t really accept you, either.”

I’m not gonna tell you to stop thinking about it. Your brain is doing what it’s designed to do. Think about problems and solve them. Think. Feel. If you feel down about it it’s cool. If you want to take a break from it all, cool. If you want to try again, great. If you keep going, statistically you should find your match. Can you find true freedom though? A freedom that says even if I never find someone, I choose happiness and contentment?

Only you know the answer to this.

Honestly, no. I wouldn't be able to accept that. And I don't feel like that's a wrong thing. I'm a decent dude. I might not be that attractive, or the most interesting, but I don't think that should exclude me from finding a partner...

Lol and to think OP was literally telling me the same chit not to long ago.

EDIT: What a time to be alive. A forum full of educated gym bros. Getting flaked on and rejected nonstop. Modern day dating is hilariously insane.

I doubt I would have said it on its own. It probably would have been something like 'try to stop thinking about it and wo
improve yourself, but I concede that's hard to do.'

Your standards are probably to high. Most real life 5/10 get excited when approached.

I don't think I can drop them much lower. I need to be attracted to her. I've had a couple of girls who I didn't find attractive show some slight signs of interest, but I don't think I could go through with it. At that point it would purely desperation. I don't think I can go through with it.

[AwkwardRetard]

How old are you OP?

[sword_]

Define rejection...?

[Micuzzo]

How old are you OP?

26.

Probably should have concentrated on this stuff when I was younger, but I was 100% committed to school/career.

[Micuzzo]

Define rejection...?

Girls going NC after either talking or meeting. Although I've had a couple tell me straight up they weren't interested and I respect that much more, so no hate there. Conversely I've had others say they were interested and then abruptly go NC lmao

[otakutrevan]

Hopefully we all make it man.

[PhilIvey969]

... being told by people 'just stop thinking about it bro'.

I'm currently at a 100% rejection rate and I can no longer say it doesn't get me down

#2018rottingcrew

Your getting upset because some girl from the inter webs you have never met turned you down. Good lord get off online dating and go out and meet girls in real life.

[Adriano2016]

26.

Probably should have concentrated on this stuff when I was younger, but I was 100% committed to school/career.

26, damn .. too old now bro, forget about it! You’re way past it now.







It’s not like there’s 30 year olds that are single? Count yourself lucky you haven’t been royally screwed over by some bish, married and divorced and all that! You have a shyt load of time to find someone and probably someone after that, there’s no blueprint in life that says you need to find someone before you’re 27, you’re not a sheep OP - It will happen, trust me.

[Micuzzo]

26, damn .. too old now bro, forget about it! You’re way past it now.







It’s not like there’s 30 year olds that are single? Count yourself lucky you haven’t been royally screwed over by some bish, married and divorced and all that! You have a shyt load of time to find someone and probably someone after that, there’s no blueprint in life that says you need to find someone before you’re 27, you’re not a sheep OP - It will happen, trust me.

Strong age to post correlation lol.

I agree with you to an extent. But 26 is not young, or at least I feel that's how it's perceived where I live. The situation is more complicated than that. I have never been in a serious relationship because of other commitments. Now I don't expect that my first real relationship will last because of my inexperience. The later this occurs, the more my dating pool becomes single mothers, ex sloots who are looking for a provider, women settling etc. The older you are, the more likely you'll have to settle.

[halfbreedbrah]

Op are you cold approaching or do you have a social circle?

[Adriano2016]

Strong age to post correlation lol.

I agree with you to an extent. But 26 is not young, or at least I feel that's how it's perceived where I live. The situation is more complicated than that. I have never been in a serious relationship because of other commitments. Now I don't expect that my first real relationship will last because of my inexperience. The later this occurs, the more my dating pool becomes single mothers, ex sloots who are looking for a provider, women settling etc. The older you are, the more likely you'll have to settle.

Thanks, I see where you’re coming from, I’ve been in a few LTR (5 years and then 2 years) after the last one I thought I was screwed because it didn’t work out and getting older sucks bla bla, but then where I come from there are quite a few relationships and marriages that fall apart when guys/girls are in their 30’s and 40’s so imagine how they feel - I see it all the time, one of my friends who is 32 now got divorced at 30 - now with a girl 10 years younger than him. I think the more you try and force it the more unnatural it’ll be.

[sword_]

Girls going NC after either talking or meeting. Although I've had a couple tell me straight up they weren't interested and I respect that much more, so no hate there. Conversely I've had others say they were interested and then abruptly go NC lmao

Happens to all of us brother.

Had a chick tell me she had a great date with me and found me super sexy and smart. A day later she was telling me how I reminded her of her ex husband. I was like uh...

Then she later accidentally texted me when she meant to text an ex bf that was coming in town or something that was into her friend. Not into that BS.

I've had many get weird for whatever reason but I do a lot of online dating. Probably finding girls that are trying to get an ex out of their mind or just recently broke up or some ****. I've had sex with some women within one or two dates then got weird on me. One chick told me that she felt I wanted to settle down (this was around my father's death BTW so I was emotionally raw...still am) and then a few months later she's whining on IG about being alone LMAO.

I'm actually seeing one girl now that seems very into me and very reserved. I'm trying to just enjoy her in the moment and see where things go instead of being jaded by women who wasted my time.

[Micuzzo]

Op are you cold approaching or do you have a social circle?

Cold approaching doesn't work unless you're a 10. I've done it and bars and clubs, but that's about it. I don't like it. It's mostly a combination of social circle or online. Unfortunately my male social circle is dwindling because the majority of my friends are settled down with their gfs. I had another social circle of some female friends. I made a move on one of the girls and now I don't think we're friends anymore so there's that...

Happens to all of us brother.

Had a chick tell me she had a great date with me and found me super sexy and smart. A day later she was telling me how I reminded her of her ex husband. I was like uh...

Then she later accidentally texted me when she meant to text an ex bf that was coming in town or something that was into her friend. Not into that BS.

I've had many get weird for whatever reason but I do a lot of online dating. Probably finding girls that are trying to get an ex out of their mind or just recently broke up or some ****. I've had sex with some women within one or two dates then got weird on me. One chick told me that she felt I wanted to settle down (this was around my father's death BTW so I was emotionally raw...still am) and then a few months later she's whining on IG about being alone LMAO.

I'm actually seeing one girl now that seems very into me and very reserved. I'm trying to just enjoy her in the moment and see where things go instead of being jaded by women who wasted my time.

Yeah it's sucks bro. Personally at this age, I don't think I could date a girl who had been previously married. But yeah, I think I'm jaded. And honestly also a bit bitter.

[sword_]

Yeah it's sucks bro. Personally at this age, I don't think I could date a girl who had been previously married. But yeah, I think I'm jaded. And honestly also a bit bitter.

I'mma be honest man I didn't see it going anywhere serious with all the baggage she had learning about her.

I should be more selective in who I go on a date with. There was a time in the summer I was going on 2-3 dates a week and I wasn't working then. I probably wasn't in the best head space for it and I also wasn't as selective.

I'm sure I could get higher quality women if I GTFO of online dating a bit lol.

I probably could do decent with cold approaching but you still get flakes with that.

[Micuzzo]

I'mma be honest man I didn't see it going anywhere serious with all the baggage she had learning about her.

I should be more selective in who I go on a date with. There was a time in the summer I was going on 2-3 dates a week and I wasn't working then. I probably wasn't in the best head space for it and I also wasn't as selective.

I'm sure I could get higher quality women if I GTFO of online dating a bit lol.

I probably could do decent with cold approaching but you still get flakes with that.

I suppose if you're getting dates then that's still quite a good situation.
I have a similar kind of experience with a girl who had a lot of emotional baggage. Actually, she was probably legitimately crazy. Super insecure, very anxious, basically scared to leave the house. I looked past all that for the sake of lowering my standards. There were many red flags early on, but I just ignored them. She told me she cared about me, and I cared about her also and started to catch 'some' feelings. In the end she went NC out of the blue. Literally out if the blue. I can honestly tell you I did nothing. She was crazy so I guess what was I expecting? But it did suck.

[eod8989]

This online dating and cold approaching crap has got to stop. Most people meet girls through their social circle or at work. This is the only way or you are going to get flaked on.

[AwkwardRetard]

26.

Probably should have concentrated on this stuff when I was younger, but I was 100% committed to school/career.

I've overthought stuff in dating and it drove me mad, so the advice in your OP is correct.

I regret concentrating on PUA/pick up in my early 20s. If I focussed on my job/career instead, I'd be ten years in front with more money than I have now. Trust me, you made the right choice.

Understand that women in their 20s, due to their youth and beauty, are powerful as phuck. Men are born poor and it's why we do almost all the chasing (begging). During your thirties, things start to favour you especially if you made the right career and financial choices in your 20s.

Keep perspective because you'll be playing the long game. I bet if you were in Kiev or St. Petersburg, you'd forget about the bull$hit here because the average over there is generally higher.

Good luck.

Also, get rid of "#2018rottingcrew" in your OP. Allow yourself to feel sad if you need to, but guard your mind against a constant flow negative thoughts.

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