I am really disappointed at myself....

[paolo59]

If you've ever really been into weightlifting it becomes very much a part of who you are. You can find yourself a little burned out at times, or a bit disgusted with things. Ha! But you really can't just walk away from it. Years ago I had a very good 'garage gym' right out the kitchen door. Incredibly convenient!

Little by little I have purchased equipment once again for a home gym. That can get in your blood too! LOL I am tired of rushing home from work, rushing to eat, rushing to nap, rushing off to the gym miles away. I am not tired of working out though, regardless of the goals set and the gains, or lack thereof! It is nice to have enough equipment at home to hit it hard without ever having to step out the door. Well...without just stepping out the kitchen door into the garage...or down the stairs to the basement.

[Brackneyc]

I actually agree with Mikie for once, at least his base premise. Its easy to stay motivated in the gym when you are dropping bodyweight and see the changes, or working towards a particular goal/look & you see the changes as they occur. You keep pushing because you are motivated to continue the changes. What comes after that? Just basic maintenance which can be boring at times?

It’s become part of my life. It sets the stage for my whole day. I train at home, alone, at 0330. There are of course days I wish it was an “off day,” but I push through.

For me, it’s more than just loading up weights and banging out reps/sets.

There are days when I wish I didn’t see a need for it, and could sleep in.

[paolo59]

It’s become part of my life. It sets the stage for my whole day. I train at home, alone, at 0330. There are of course days I wish it was an “off day,” but I push through.

For me, it’s more than just loading up weights and banging out reps/sets.

There are days when I wish I didn’t see a need for it, and could sleep in.

It is as much mental as it is physical. Ha! I can find myself 'off track/schedule' at times, but it messes with my mind when I do. I just feel better if I've done something or another. LOL

[ElrondHubbard]

I need new glasses cuz I read Bando's post "surely there's bunch of bikini forums."

Not that there's anything wrong with that...

[bodyhard]

I actually am doing a new routine I was trying out, my point is that the gym doesn't seem to have the same priority in my heart I once felt. I just need to get that fire back in my veins/heart somehow and I am just not sure what the "somehow" is right now...

[Brackneyc]

I actually am doing a new routine I was trying out, my point is that the gym doesn't seem to have the same priority in my heart I once felt. I just need to get that fire back in my veins/heart somehow and I am just not sure what the "somehow" is right now...

Usually a look in the mirror does it for me.

[bodyhard]

Usually a look in the mirror does it for me.

Funny you should mentioned that, just yesterday I was snapchatting with a female friend and she said. wow John you look so skinny, look at your neck. I looked in the mirror and was like, damn I am getting really skinny.

[Brackneyc]

Funny you should mentioned that, just yesterday I was snapchatting with a female friend and she said. wow John you look so skinny, look at your neck. I looked in the mirror and was like, damn I am getting really skinny.

Vanity ftw.

[bodyhard]

Vanity ftw.

It isn't working for me right now thats for sure..

[LisaSkinnoble]

We make time for the things we want to do, and we make excuses for the things we do not want to do.

[bodyhard]

We make time for the things we want to do, and we make excuses for the things we do not want to do.

Thats true for some folks, but what happens when it is something you know in your heart you really want, but just don't have the desire for it anymore, then what?

[Lou1se]

[Karl_Hungus]

Thats true for some folks, but what happens when it is something you know in your heart you really want, but just don't have the desire for it anymore, then what?

Sounds like you are burned out. Maybe you just need some time off to recharge your batteries. For some, that can result in quitting entirely, but this is such a strong part of your identity that I just can't see that happening.

[LisaSkinnoble]

Thats true for some folks, but what happens when it is something you know in your heart you really want, but just don't have the desire for it anymore, then what?

desire=want If you don't want it, if you don't desire it, then it is easy to find reasons or excuses not to do it.

My sister once said to me, when looking at a fashion magazine, "I'd kill to look like that".

A fraction of a second later she said "Who am I kidding? Kill? I won't even diet or exercise to look like that".

[Fishman15]

Thats true for some folks, but what happens when it is something you know in your heart you really want, but just don't have the desire for it anymore, then what?

Is it possible after 30 plus years of it, you just don't have anything to prove to yourself anymore?

[Cass40]

Something you really want but have no desire for?

Seems like you're saying you want something you don't want.

[Fishman15]

desire=want If you don't want it, if you don't desire it, then it is easy to find reasons or excuses not to do it.

My sister once said to me, when looking at a fashion magazine, "I'd kill to look like that".

A fraction of a second later she said "Who am I kidding? Kill? I won't even diet or exercise to look like that".

I think for some...killing might be easier than dieting or exercising!

[Cass40]

I think for some...killing might be easier than dieting or exercising!

How do you get someone else's body by killing someone? Asking for a friend.

[Sweetums6000]

Sounds like you are burned out. Maybe you just need some time off to recharge your batteries. For some, that can result in quitting entirely, but this is such a strong part of your identity that I just can't see that happening.

Most of the things we do are probably for no real reason other than they are a part of our identity, but is that in and of itself really a good reason to do anything?

[Fishman15]

How do you get someone else's body by killing someone? Asking for a friend.

Not people...bunnies. Cute little white bunnies!

[bodyhard]

Lifting is my way of life, I live it, breathe it but now it takes a back seat?? No f'cking way, I need and I WILL make it a priority once again I just am not sure how right now. But Mark my f'cking words come summer my body will be where it's always at, believe that...

Hell I was in a car accident, in a wheelchair, doctors saying I would never walk again let alone lift weights and I proved them wrong. Not only did I lift again I regain my body back and better than ever.....So yeah I need to WAKE THE FCK UP!!

[Karl_Hungus]

Most of the things we do are probably for no real reason other than they are a part of our identity, but is that in and of itself really a good reason to do anything?

It is as good a reason as any.

Lifting is my way of life, I live it, breathe it but now it takes a back seat?? No f'cking way, I need and I WILL make it a priority once again I just am not sure how right now. But Mark my f'cking words come summer my body will be where it's always at, believe that...

Hell I was in a car accident, in a wheelchair, doctors saying I would never walk again let alone lift weights and I proved them wrong. Not only did I lift again I regain my body back and better than ever.....So yeah I need to WAKE THE FCK UP!!

I have no doubt. The fact that it is bugging you this much is enough to convince me you'll be back before long. One doesn't just stop after 30 years.

[latebloomingmom]

Thats true for some folks, but what happens when it is something you know in your heart you really want, but just don't have the desire for it anymore, then what?

then ask yourself John why that is..can you put your finger on when you began starting to feel unmotivated? when we lose interest in the things that once were important to us..might be cause ya got a lot on your plate, lot on your mind

some people...not saying this is you
have a tendency to bury their feelings
shoulder the load
put your head down and barrel your way through

keep on going no matter what
never take time off
never take time that you might need to heal
to deal with what you have going on in your life
full force ahead
come hell or high water

I will just...fill in the blank ...more
work more, hit gym more, drink more, have sex more, more more more more more
now some of these things in moderation, in a healthy state of mind are good
but when it becomes your "go to" answer for everything
and your " go to " answer is no longer working?

time to stop and think about why

there's my counseling answer for the day
Have a Great Monday

[whatevergirl]

Hey bh – you’ve been through a lot in the past few years, and sometimes we don’t process things, we feel weak if we don’t just keep moving forward. Sometimes, you can’t move forward until you deal with the tough things that are happening. As I’ve mentioned, I’ve lost my parents as a kid and I still have moments of struggle. Grief isn’t a quick process, it can take a lifetime. It shouldn’t prevent us from functioning, but everyone’s timeline is different, and we shouldn’t feel bad if at times, we just don’t have what it takes on a particular week to move forward. I’m not a psychologist lol but, I do know a lot about loss and how it can affect us. And I think that you just have to let yourself go through some of this, instead of being angry with yourself for being human. Just my two cents, fwiw.

Edit to add: And it doesn’t have to be all or nothing when you go to the gym. Just keep going, and some days, you might have a so so workout other days will be stronger and what you’re used to. It seems like you feel if you’re not able to give 110% then it’s not worth it.

[Plateauplower]

Edit to add: And it doesn’t have to be all or nothing when you go to the gym. Just keep going, and some days, you might have a so so workout other days will be stronger and what you’re used to. It seems like you feel if you’re not able to give 110% then it’s not worth it.

This ^. Ive been in a rut this year too. Shoulder injury, back slid on some lifts, did not really improve in anything. I still go to the gym about every weekday. I'm actually enjoying putting less pressure on myself to progress. At a certain point progression just becomes really hard, land of diminishing returns, there is only so much effort you can put in. Its nice just going in and training without being pissed off if I can't hit the same number of reps with X amount of weight. I even mess with other variables since being limited with my shoulder doing higher rep schemes, different variations of lifts etc.


Just go to the gym and do it. I haven't had any fire in me since year 1 . Its just a habit now....

[Cantplankwell]

Lifting is my way of life, I live it, breathe it but now it takes a back seat?? No f'cking way, I need and I WILL make it a priority once again I just am not sure how right now. But Mark my f'cking words come summer my body will be where it's always at, believe that...

Hell I was in a car accident, in a wheelchair, doctors saying I would never walk again let alone lift weights and I proved them wrong. Not only did I lift again I regain my body back and better than ever.....So yeah I need to WAKE THE FCK UP!!

Your obviously at the bottom of some sort of cycle, your fire has died down. I think this is normal, its a stage your at, deep down it might not have anything to do with the gym at all. Just go with it for now. How is your counselling going? IDK, maybe you should bring up issues like this as well?

[Sweetums6000]

I haven't had any fire in me since year 1 . Its just a habit now....

That sucks. I mean, I know you’re kind of joking, but I’m two years in and I still get almost giddily excited about going to the gym, and a little depressed on my off days. I wonder how long that will last...

[olympianspirit]

Happens to everyone at some point in their journey! Buckle up and remember why you started.

[ChazWood]

There was a time in my life not that long ago that the gym was my life, my priority and nothing stood in the way.

In the last several months or so the gym has been taking a back seat to frivolous things that should NOT stop me from going to the gym. Its like it is not a priority anymore and any chance I get to say "Well i didn't go because of XXX" I am using.

I am really upset at myself and the kicker is, I know what I am doing and yet I am still doing it

I have not gone to the gym in a week and I am using the remodeling of my two bathrooms as an excuse! Somebody needs to smack me over my head or something, I need to snap out of this damn funk I am in!


End of rant/

Where'd that guy go who's getting better with age???

I like that dude.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

Snap out of it John or we're going to start calling you "Mikie".















j/k
Just drag yer arse to the gym already.