[SRS] Depression Discussion and Support Thread Part III

[KRANE]

Better mood today. Studied finance 3 hours straight and I'm starting to understand better.

I find that doing small tasks everyday helps a lot like going to the gym, studying, or even going shopping. The worst is when you don't leave your bed.

Fantastic. Its a real pleasure to hear someone start off with a positive note rather than the usual gloom and doom the sky is falling scenario. That kind of talk constantly just fuels the depression fire.

Anyway, great to hear you're doing better and recognized the value of forward progress. Even if it is only baby steps. Lets hope it continues.

[IronMonkey]

I worked out so hard tonight, my damn back hurts!! I saw so many good looking chicks at the gym tonite I got nervous lol, a couple were even lifting heavier than me! I thought I was fit but now changed my mind real quick heh.. needless to say, working out boosted the hell out of my mood! Sipping on a Heineken right now, and looking forward to seeing myself 2 months from now, stomach gone, biceps bigger, more confidence, a couple more contacts, hmmm

[Smashiin]

lifted in the gym for the first time in a very long time. i feel exhausted. but, i feel refreshed and am feeling great mentally. my passion for the gym is back.

[300BLK]

So for years now I've been bummed out from my diagnosis. I still got to live a "normal" life, but it's something that always had me worried in the back of my head, like there's something that could be seriously wrong with me, and could be very detrimental to my life and its outcome. It got to the point where I lost all motivation to move forward in life. But I just found out they've been changed my diagnosis from schizophrenia to depression. That's a weight lifted off my shoulders, because the stigma has become way less for me. I never believed in the diagnosis in the first place, but having a schizo diagnosis is a really bad stigma in comparison to depression. You don't have to tell people you have a mental illness, but what if something happens to me and my medical records get brought up? Having a diagnosis with such stigma is really bad. It's not impossible to "make it" but it makes it so much more harder. Depression doesn't have nearly as much stigma, in fact, it's something most people experience some time in their life and can relate to. Having a mental illness is not something one should be proud or happy about, but I'm happy it's at least something not as bad as I was originally told it was. It's something I don't have to be nearly as ashamed about.

Meds never worked for me, at first I thought it was supposed to, and that I wouldn't be capable of functioning without them, but it turns out all it did was make me experience a bunch of side effects and make my blood test levels go all over the place to concerning levels. It didn't change my personality at all, that I noticed, and other people I know noticed it as well. All it did was make me worse, and when I stopped taking them for nearly 4 years now, I've been healthier as a person.

My most recent blood test also came back normal again, except my cholesterol is a little higher than normal, so of course I just got to lose weight and get back in shape again. That's well in sync for me, because I post here in a fitness/lifting community, and there's all kinds of support for it. No excuses anymore, there's nothing holding me back but me and the life I created for myself.

[DefensiveEnd896]

I worked out so hard tonight, my damn back hurts!! I saw so many good looking chicks at the gym tonite I got nervous lol, a couple were even lifting heavier than me! I thought I was fit but now changed my mind real quick heh.. needless to say, working out boosted the hell out of my mood! Sipping on a Heineken right now, and looking forward to seeing myself 2 months from now, stomach gone, biceps bigger, more confidence, a couple more contacts, hmmm

There are always hot chicks at my gym. Helps to keep me going when I don't feel like it. Haha.

But on a more serious note keep going to the gym. It is a great habit to have. I think a lot of people who suffer from depression due so due to bad habits. I always encourage people to have as many good and productive habits as possible. It helps keep us busy. The gym is definitely a great habit to have.

[TheWeeknd4Ever]

I think a big step is actually moving away from this thread. I think that would helps some of you guys out big time. Just stop reading and posting it and focus on your life for a bit. This thread can definitely be a mood killer with everyone venting bad stuff.

[IronMonkey]

Made an OkCupid account and messaged like 100 girls. I hope something happens LOL

[DefensiveEnd896]

I think a big step is actually moving away from this thread. I think that would helps some of you guys out big time. Just stop reading and posting it and focus on your life for a bit. This thread can definitely be a mood killer with everyone venting bad stuff.

lol. Do whatever works for you brother.

[ChrissJ]

I'll tell you a secret. I came to an Ivy League university a few years ago, and my advisor was such a goddam ******* that I became depressed, got eating disorders and eventually stopped lifting for 7 months and finally dropped out. Story for another time. But you know what. I started lifting again - in 6-8 weeks I looked better than I ever have. Your body and muscle fibers remember. And I was able to get to a better position than ever. I'm so sorry about your brother but I know he'd want you to live on and make him proud. So fuk lifting for 6 months. Fuk it. But when you get back, give it your all and it WILL come back in a fraction of the original time. And life WILL be better for you. As long as you TRY and keep moving FORWARD. We're all here for you

Thanks for the reply its appreciated although I can’t express how much the gym has had an impact on my life. It’s Lifted me up even in the verge of giving up on life completely and I’m just a regular human being without it and the issue with that is I hate being regular, I based my life on becoming different and something else.

It’s very tough right now, the hospital have treated me like **** and even today I was in the “non urgent” list when people with coughs and cold being seen to first even tho my wound was full of blood from an operation and it’s infected?? All I can do is look for the next few month once I get paid out for this life changing injury I plan to pay off my car and get a mortgage which I can look forward too.

Right now my life consists of sitting in bed and playing Fifa 18 all day and then watching tv or playing fortnite on PS4 and it’s been like that for 4 week now.. just a boring ass life and it won’t get any better, I’ll have a scar on my chest for the rest of my life, chest might be differently shaped and on top by 5 month I’ll be skinny again.

Sick of being in a sling and in bed all day, sick of having to deal with heartache of my brothers passing, sick of being treated like chit in the hospital and sick of knowing I gotta wait till the end of the year to be back on track.. if I’m still here by the end of the year and turned it all around then it will be a blessing.

[KRANE]

I think a big step is actually moving away from this thread. I think that would helps some of you guys out big time. Just stop reading and posting it and focus on your life for a bit. This thread can definitely be a mood killer with everyone venting bad stuff.

That's true of this site, its full of negativity -- and life for that matter. The challenge is to focus on the positive and if it starts to get to you, ignore the negative.

[eod8989]

People always tell FA's to just go out and talk to people. It doesn't work because there is nothing to talk about. If all you can talk about is that you misc and lift nobody is going to actually be your friend.

The main thing people talk about is what is currently happening in their life. So if you don't have anything going on it is impossible to make conversation. That's why you see those old gym weirdos with no life trying to start conversation with everybody. I don't want to be that guy.

Some guy tapped me on the shoulder at the gym the other day to ask me how many sets i did. I refuse to be like that, because i feel sorry for that guy because i know he is lonely.

[DefensiveEnd896]

I want to wish everyone posting in this thread a happy valentines day. If you aren't spending it with that special someone don't worry. She is out there. You'll find her. Stay positive and keep working on your goals in 2018. NOW GO GET AFTER IT!

God Bless!

[dtbrehm]

People always tell FA's to just go out and talk to people. It doesn't work because there is nothing to talk about. If all you can talk about is that you misc and lift nobody is going to actually be your friend.

The main thing people talk about is what is currently happening in their life. So if you don't have anything going on it is impossible to make conversation. That's why you see those old gym weirdos with no life trying to start conversation with everybody. I don't want to be that guy.

Some guy tapped me on the shoulder at the gym the other day to ask me how many sets i did. I refuse to be like that, because i feel sorry for that guy because i know he is lonely.

Yeah starting from zero can be rough. After college all but one of my old friends moved out of state for work, so I was there for a bit.

If possible, look for a local sports league. You're instantly in a group setting so there's less potential awkwardness from individual conversation, and there's something easy to start talking about. Seems like casual co-ed leagues are more about meeting people than the sport itself anyways.

A vast majority of my current friends could probably be traced back to the first volleyball team I joined after college.

[eod8989]

Yeah starting from zero can be rough. After college all but one of my old friends moved out of state for work, so I was there for a bit.

If possible, look for a local sports league. You're instantly in a group setting so there's less potential awkwardness from individual conversation, and there's something easy to start talking about. Seems like casual co-ed leagues are more about meeting people than the sport itself anyways.

A vast majority of my current friends could probably be traced back to the first volleyball team I joined after college.

I don't like talking in groups though. Introverted as fuk.

[wooosh3]

going on about two months of unemployment now and finding it hard to even get out of bed in the morning now, i honestly feel like a lazy piece of chit not being productive or making money.

[IronMonkey]

going on about two months of unemployment now and finding it hard to even get out of bed in the morning now, i honestly feel like a lazy piece of chit not being productive or making money.

Don't stop trying man. Keep it all in your thoughts and intentions, visualize what you want, always.

I've been having crazy anxiety past few days ... almost crave to take psych meds again, but that's for the weak ... wish I could speed up my gym process, I'm a fackin quit Tinder and OkCu, I need to work on my confidence level ... and back to reading books. Tim Ferris Tools of Titans is so great. Ever since I got back home last week I stopped reading though. I'm a get Robert Greene's Art of Seduction next.

[KRANE]

Lamenting on your failures without seeking solutions is the best way to increase your depression. That's not the point of this thread. Its not just trading horror stories to see who's life is more depressing. Rather, thinking of ways to overcome our limitations and improve your life, even if its only baby steps one day at a time.

For example, today I got turned down for loan to start a business. In the past that's would have been my typical cue to give up. Instead, tomorrow I will go see a counselor for some advice about improving my financial status.

I'm not looking for a perfect solution to fix every wrong in my life, just that one piece of advice or information that will lead me to the next step. My only goal is to connect with someone, and get some useful information.

Now, even if nothing comes of it, at least I will have done something to get better instead of sitting at home waiting for manna to fall from the sky.

Remember the old adage: nothing ventured, nothing gained. Nobody's going to fail 100% of the time unless you stop trying.

[2RDEYE]

going on about two months of unemployment now and finding it hard to even get out of bed in the morning now, i honestly feel like a lazy piece of chit not being productive or making money.

do u have education at least?

at least ur not waking up going to work at a warehouse every day like myself

**** is ****ed

[bongowongo]

People always tell FA's to just go out and talk to people. It doesn't work because there is nothing to talk about. If all you can talk about is that you misc and lift nobody is going to actually be your friend.

The main thing people talk about is what is currently happening in their life. So if you don't have anything going on it is impossible to make conversation. That's why you see those old gym weirdos with no life trying to start conversation with everybody. I don't want to be that guy.

Some guy tapped me on the shoulder at the gym the other day to ask me how many sets i did. I refuse to be like that, because i feel sorry for that guy because i know he is lonely.

Also this .... I dont know how I can relate to any other people, dudes or girls because my experience is so limited, professionally and personally. Just feels like after a certain age making friends is simply impossible because people have already formed their own social circles / relationships and trying to get into that is practically impossible unless you're super fukkin charismatic (you wouldnt be fa if you were) or bring something extremely unique or worth it to the table. But then you get those success stories on the misc about people who from fa to social butterflies, but they seem like the exception.



Anyway I havnt yet heard back from the insurance place, i even wrote a cover letter along with my resume about how and why i could be useful to the job but now I'm having second thoughts and anxiety about actually having to work there. My aunt used to work there and she said it was very challenging and the sales job was about reaching quotas and gettingnew people to sign up for the insurance ... I've never done sales and I dont know how i'm supposed to just go upto random people and be like "hey man i got some insurance i'd like to sell you lol".

Signed up for another place as well, did a cover letter for that place too, but havnt heard from them yet.

[8eggs]

Gloom and doom boyos

Its just not worth the effort to maintain this miserable existence

Got a new job , but what's the point? Its all dead end jobs with no future even though I am the fuking best at my job...Ill likely never be able to afford going to the dentist...There is nothing I want, nothing makes me happy, I eat the same food every single day...with the occasion fast food outing so I don't have to eat alone...not one person calls or texts me ever,.no friends , nothing

The only friends I have are those that feel sorry for me, and that's a very short list,,,but they never contact me first,,,only after I've gone off the deep end and reach out..

2 steps from giving up everything for a life on the street with the other mentally ill. I've lived out of my truck before for many years during the recession..

Fuk this gay earth

[KRANE]

Gloom and doom boyos

Its just not worth the effort to maintain this miserable existence

Got a new job , but what's the point? Its all dead end jobs with no future even though I am the fuking best at my job...Ill likely never be able to afford going to the dentist...There is nothing I want, nothing makes me happy, I eat the same food every single day...with the occasion fast food outing so I don't have to eat alone...not one person calls or texts me ever,.no friends , nothing

Why are you hear? If you've given up none of us can fix that. YOU have to make the first step. Not even God is going to help you if you don't try.

The only friends I have are those that feel sorry for me, and that's a very short list,,,but they never contact me first,,,only after I've gone off the deep end and reach out..

Maybe its your beaming personality? Every consider nobody likes to be around negative people?

2 steps from giving up everything for a life on the street with the other mentally ill. I've lived out of my truck before for many years during the recession..

Fuk this gay earth

The world is what we make it. If you want this "gay" world to change you have to start with the man in the mirror. We're all in this together.

[DefensiveEnd896]

Also this .... I dont know how I can relate to any other people, dudes or girls because my experience is so limited, professionally and personally. Just feels like after a certain age making friends is simply impossible because people have already formed their own social circles / relationships and trying to get into that is practically impossible unless you're super fukkin charismatic (you wouldnt be fa if you were) or bring something extremely unique or worth it to the table. But then you get those success stories on the misc about people who from fa to social butterflies, but they seem like the exception.

It's not impossible to get into other people's social circles. First of all it is all about making friends with one person then you get introduced to their friends but it's not like you have to go up to a group of 10 people and get accepted by all of them at once.

Anyway, people make new friends all the time and at all ages so it is very doable. You don't have to be a movie star to make new friends but if you lack self-confidence, are constantly down and talking about depressing things people are not going to want to be around you. You have to be a person people want to be around in order to make new friends. Ask yourself if you were someone else why would or wouldn't you want to be friends with you?

I cannot stress enough how important self-confidence is. Work on your self confidence first then you will find it very easy to make friends. It will happen naturally.

Keep in mind self-confidence isn't something you can turn on and off and it shouldn't be that way. You have to earn it. Start by making small goals. Then once you accomplish those make harder goals and keep this cycle up and watch how quickly your self-confidence comes. Don't get overly stressed if you don't accomplish your goals at first. Just keep trying and trying and trying and you will get there!

Don't ever give up man! You can do it!

[eod8989]

It's not impossible. People make new friends all the time and at all ages. You don't have to be a movie star to make new friends but if you lack self-confidence, are constantly down and talking about depressing things people are not going to want to be around you. You have to be a person people want to be around in order to make new friends. Ask yourself if you were someone else why would or wouldn't you want to be friends with you?

I cannot stress enough how important self-confidence is. Work on your self confidence first then you will find it very easy to make friends. It will happen naturally.

Keep in mind self-confidence isn't something you can turn on and off and it shouldn't be that way. You have to earn it. Start by making small goals. Then once you accomplish those make them harder and keep this cycle up and watch how quickly your self-confidence comes. Don't get overly stressed if you don't accomplish your goals at first. Just keep trying and trying and trying and you will get there!

Don't ever give up man! You can do it!

I know it isn't impossible because i've done it. But that was when i was younger and smoking and drinking. I was also working in an ideal environment for socializing. Some people don't have the luxury to just go talk to people and make friends. If you are very social and outgoing then you can talk to anyone and make some friends. If you are like me and just very quiet and picky with who you want to talk to then it's hard. I'm not retarded and i can socialize, but it is not easy for me because i'm so disconnected.

[midcoastking33]

I'm not retarded and i can socialize, but it is not easy for me because i'm so disconnected.

whatever you say

[DefensiveEnd896]

I know it isn't impossible because i've done it. But that was when i was younger and smoking and drinking. I was also working in an ideal environment for socializing. Some people don't have the luxury to just go talk to people and make friends. If you are very social and outgoing then you can talk to anyone and make some friends. If you are like me and just very quiet and picky with who you want to talk to then it's hard. I'm not retarded and i can socialize, but it is not easy for me because i'm so disconnected.

You are a chronic excuse maker. Until you stop making excuses for everything there is nothing anyone can do for you.

[eod8989]

You are a chronic excuse maker. Until you stop making excuses for everything there is nothing anyone can do for you.

I'm not making excuses. I literally am alone right now because i couldn't relate to my social circle and isolated by choice. I also lost my job where i knew a ton of people. I don't want to just talk to random people. I want a genuine connection but i have not been able to find anything since that happened.

[CrazySerbian]

lifted in the gym for the first time in a very long time. i feel exhausted. but, i feel refreshed and am feeling great mentally. my passion for the gym is back.

Good job man. I came back recently after a long break and at first it was tough but now my motivation for the gym is back.

It's true what they say about muscle memory. You will blow the **** up soon. Your gains will come back quick.

[KRANE]

I'm not sure exactly how or why but my mood has improved 100%! I felt great when I got up today and my mind was full of clarity and alertness. I typically feel miserable like everything's closing in on me and its hard to concentrate.

Maybe it was a good nights sleep? Maybe the megga vit D I was prescribed and/or Blackseed oil I'm taking is kicking in? Maybe a combination of all of the above. But for now, for right now, I feel on top of the world and have a positive outlook about my future. At the moment, I feel like I could accomplish anything. I just hope it lasts.

In other news, I unfortunately didn't get the consul I needed from my financial advisor as their office was closed for internal business. I did however get an appointment set for next Tuesday. Sometimes things work out, sometimes they don't. But at least I can say I made an effort.

I was even able to get in a workout at the end of the day. Now I can say I did everything I could do. Have a great President's Day weekend everyone.

[DefensiveEnd896]

I'm not making excuses. I literally am alone right now because i couldn't relate to my social circle and isolated by choice. I also lost my job where i knew a ton of people. I don't want to just talk to random people. I want a genuine connection but i have not been able to find anything since that happened.

You are making excuses. Look at your previous post. The whole post is excuses. You can say you can't socialize because you don't smoke or drink. Lie - I don't smoke or drink and there are plenty of other people who don't and have plenty of friends. You claim people don't have the luxury to talk to people and make friends. Lie - You can talk go and talk to people literally in thousands and thousands of places. Just google 'where to meet friends.' You claim only if you are very social and outgoing you can talk to anyone and make friends. Lie - There are plenty of people who are not very social and outgoing and have managed to make friends.

Yes it isn't easy making friends but so what? You want everything in life to be a walk in the park and easy? Doesn't work like that.

Also, if you are going to be picky with who you hang out with that is fine but don't cry when you don't have any friends. Everyone has faults you can't expect every person you meet to be an ideal friend. And IMO the reason you can't connect with anyone is because as far as I can tell you complain about your life all the time. No one wants to connect with a person like that.

Anyway, I've done all I can for you. I'm done replying to your posts. You don't take my advice anyway.

Remember, this thread is for people who want to change and are willing to try take advice and try different tactics to do so. Not just to come and complain about their life.

I wish you the best of luck though. Good luck with everything brah and I hope everything works out for you!

I'm not sure exactly how or why but my mood has improved 100%! I felt great when I got up today and my mind was full of clarity and alertness. I typically feel miserable like everything's closing in on me and its hard to concentrate.

Maybe it was a good nights sleep? Maybe the megga vit D I was prescribed and/or Blackseed oil I'm taking is kicking in? Maybe a combination of all of the above. But for now, for right now, I feel on top of the world and have a positive outlook about my future. At the moment, I feel like I could accomplish anything. I just hope it lasts.

In other news, I unfortunately didn't get the consul I needed from my financial advisor as their office was closed for internal business. I did however get an appointment set for next Tuesday. Sometimes things work out, sometimes they don't. But at least I can say I made an effort.

I was even able to get in a workout at the end of the day. Now I can say I did everything I could do. Have a great President's Day weekend everyone.

Awesome man. Happy for you. Keep working hard and stay determined and I know you will achieve all your goals!

[Smashiin]

I love how someone is at my house and they think they can disrespect me. If it wasn't for my grandmother being here I would've already went ape**** and threw his ass out of my house. This uncle of mine has always looked down on me and my mom and my brother for as long as I've been alive for. This motherfuker is really going to come up in my house and start acting like a fuk to me? Fuk that.