If friend texts "who's this" in response to you, should you forget them?

[TrainBetter]

A friend from work. We had texted less than a week ago so it wasn't due to lack of contact.

I felt pretty offended. You delete people you don't want further contact with. If you do actually know who it is texting, you say that to get rid of someone - let them know how unimportant you are to them.

She was very friendly earlier that day.

I assumed she just didn't want me texting her personal phone but then her excuse was that she got a new phone. And then she added she fell in the delta. I have trouble believing this and dislike stories...

[WitYoChestBoa]

dont read to much into it bro

edit: ahh op is a female that explains it

[TrainBetter]

dont read to much into it bro

edit: ahh op is a female that explains it

Yeah. Female misc. Guys don't seem to give a sht when their friends just walk out for no reason.

Not much different from a friend deleting you on social media for no clear reason...Wouldn't most people feel offended and confused? Means they're done with you. Thought we were cool.

Why not tell the truth...instead of saying you lost my number falling in a delta. Makes it worse to take me for a fool.

[spradish]

It wouldn't even cross my mind to be offended if this happened. Especially considering that she was friendly with you earlier in the day. Assume positive intent rather than looking for trouble.

[TrainBetter]

It wouldn't even cross my mind to be offended if this happened. Especially considering that she was friendly with you earlier in the day. Assume positive intent rather than looking for trouble.

You sound like such an optimist... Which I am not. Ha. I just can't imagine deleting someone unless I'm done with them. Especially if you've texted a few times in the last couple of weeks - you know they'll probably text you again soon and you know you'll end up in this situation...

[anandagirl]

You sound like such an optimist... Which I am not. Ha. I just can't imagine deleting someone unless I'm done with them. Especially if you've texted a few times in the last couple of weeks - you know they'll probably text you again soon and you know you'll end up in this situation...

I have a hard time trusting people, so it would be my first reaction to dump her. That being said, sometimes you have to open up and let people in. Give her another chance, lest you end up like me without any friends.
























Kidding. Kind of

[Fiction2Fitness]

I can understand the reaction cause that is a rough text to receive rather out of blue but I am in the give her a chance camp. I just got a new phone and could see myself doing an accident delete or having issues. My mom just had phone issues where she lost all the contact info and it took forever to get it back. She had all our numbers but no names attached to them so was having a tough time going off the numbers when texting. It happens.

And if not, eh, other fishies in the sea or something like that.

[edwingates]

her excuse was that she got a new phone.

This exact thing happened to me recently and I had to send a few "who is this?" texts.

If she's still friendly in person, doesn't sound like there's anything to worry about.

[TrainBetter]

Even if that were the case, it's typically easy to transfer contacts from an old phone.


I was just noting before this incident that she wasn't very involved in our previous texts, though she was acting like a friend in person. I figured she didn't like texting as much or was too busy to sit and text. Then this happened so I immediately assumed she wanted me to stop texting her. But deleting my number wouldn't stop texts from getting to her. I figured she knew it was me and was saying it to give a hint. Falling in a river or delta, whichever, is hard for me to believe...I'm not even considering that

I was just shocked and confused by this. She had even said earlier that day that she hoped her daughter would end up like me! Such a sweet comment.. We had been getting along very well that day.

[SwayWay]

You're being too sensitive. This happens quite a bit, you accidentally delete a contact or get a new phone and not all contacts are correctly transferred. Unless this is a person you haven't spoken in ages, I would assume the positive.

[TrainBetter]

You're being too sensitive. This happens quite a bit, you accidentally delete a contact or get a new phone and not all contacts are correctly transferred. Unless this is a person you haven't spoken in ages, I would assume the positive.

Thanks for your input.

I just have the tendency to always assume the worst. Was just thinking she wanted me to leave her alone and stop contacting her

[Zjunky]

You're being too sensitive. This happens quite a bit, you accidentally delete a contact or get a new phone and not all contacts are correctly transferred. Unless this is a person you haven't spoken in ages, I would assume the positive.

Agree with Sway completely. It's really not a big deal.

[DHFX]

If someone asks me this, I assume it's because my number was deleted out of their device (such as when phones update) and they simply need confirmation if they don't have your number memorized. I always try to give the benefit of the doubt before assuming the worst. And if it does turn out they're not interested, just move on.

[TrainBetter]

Nah she wasn't too friendly today...

Must've been lying.

[LisaSkinnoble]

You sound like such an optimist... Which I am not. Ha. I just can't imagine deleting someone unless I'm done with them. Especially if you've texted a few times in the last couple of weeks - you know they'll probably text you again soon and you know you'll end up in this situation...

My guess is she never added you as a contact to begin with. She didn't recognize your number.

Of all the reasons in life to be offended, this is a silly one. Seriously.

[TrainBetter]

My guess is she never added you as a contact to begin with. She didn't recognize your number.

Of all the reasons in life to be offended, this is a silly one. Seriously.

Yes, true, there are worse things than someone not wanting to be a friend.

If someone wants to keep in contact - they add you.

[Legz422]

If she said she lost her contacts when getting a new phone, I'd believe her. I know plenty of people it's happened to. Also, sometimes you just forget to add them as a contact. There is a guy in my Salsa class I gave my number to so he could send me the after class demonstration video. I forgot to add him with his name. He texted me today and I had no idea who the number was. Thankfully we have a mutual dance friend and I asked him before responding and telling him I didn't know who it was.

[PeaceWithin]

Sent "who's this" texts for 3 months after trying to merge my Gmail, Google+, ********, and Skype accounts for contacts fcked everything up. Lol.

[ToNaturalBeauty]

If she said she lost her contacts when getting a new phone, I'd believe her. I know plenty of people it's happened to. Also, sometimes you just forget to add them as a contact. There is a guy in my Salsa class I gave my number to so he could send me the after class demonstration video. I forgot to add him with his name. He texted me today and I had no idea who the number was. Thankfully we have a mutual dance friend and I asked him before responding and telling him I didn't know who it was.

Just start all over again! No harm!

[fitnessfever]

being a stay at home no jobber for right now no pets for right now a week is a long time i actually just tried calling a Personal Trainer bc i couldnt even remember what we talked about maybe last week. i would just be honest and say who i was and take things from there.