Pondus_levo's dating log and general relationship advice/chat

[BlackScorpio91]

This is my first account. Iceman can prove it.

Try again at insulting me guys, you might just hit a nerve next time

Peace & love all the way!

Clearly I got a nerve one time cause you negged me LOL!

[Luc1fer]

Some 6'6" guy came over that had been previously hitting on her and she wasn't interested, so I started playing handsies with her and gave the guy a nod. He got the hint and went away. She thanked me and gave me a kiss on the cheek.

Woah there, according to misc that isn't possible.

[BetaThanU]

Theres a chick in my class who i have great chemistry with, i can make her laugh a lot etc. Also i find her very attractive and actually like her personalty wise, which is rare.
I asked her out, but she told me she likes hanging out with me but got out of a bad breakup last year blah blah. I thought it was a bs excuse and i just misread her signs. But she was still willing to go out for drinks. ever since then she had been messaging me more and acting even more flirty, so this was confusing.
So drink nights happen and I end up back at her place and ended up hooking up.

I actually really like her, and she is out of my league. how do i not fuk this up? is gf possible?

i get gf kind of vibes the way she messages me a lot and wants to study with me all the time

planning on just laying back and really trying to not seem like i want a relationship, then hope one day she brings it up

[DanielleGreen]

Theres a chick in my class who i have great chemistry with, i can make her laugh a lot etc. Also i find her very attractive and actually like her personalty wise, which is rare.
I asked her out, but she told me she likes hanging out with me but got out of a bad breakup last year blah blah. I thought it was a bs excuse and i just misread her signs. But she was still willing to go out for drinks. ever since then she had been messaging me more and acting even more flirty, so this was confusing.
So drink nights happen and I end up back at her place and ended up hooking up.

I actually really like her, and she is out of my league. how do i not fuk this up? is gf possible?

i get gf kind of vibes the way she messages me a lot and wants to study with me all the time

planning on just laying back and really trying to not seem like i want a relationship, then hope one day she brings it up

Just be yourself. Maybe she scared to get in another relationship? Take it slow my friend. Just act like she another human and don't put her on a pedestal.
Good luck!

[DanielleGreen]

Have a date tonight with the guy from my home state. He wants to do dinner/drinks, but I'd rather go to a concert. Tonight I'm going to tell him I'd like to take it more slower, hope he's on the same level... Saturday going on a hike with date 2 guy. That's pretty much my weekend. Hope you all have a great weekend!

[AlexNYC7]

Have a date tonight with the guy from my home state. He wants to do dinner/drinks, but I'd rather go to a concert. Tonight I'm going to tell him I'd like to take it more slower, hope he's on the same level... Saturday going on a hike with date 2 guy. That's pretty much my weekend. Hope you all have a great weekend!

If he is worth his salt, he will refuse your request. Concerts don’t allow you much conversation time. Concerts are for after you are established.

[Luc1fer]

Have a date tonight with the guy from my home state. He wants to do dinner/drinks, but I'd rather go to a concert.

You think he'll fail your chit test?

[DanielleGreen]

If he is worth his salt, he will refuse your request. Concerts don’t allow you much conversation time. Concerts are for after you are established.

Fair point. We like the same music and this band barely comes here. I do like talking to him, really smart man.

You think he'll fail your chit test?

He's a solid A- right now

[HinduMuffin]

lol, even better. I banned your real account

MY MAN!!!! That's what I'm talking about!

[BetaThanU]

Just be yourself. Maybe she scared to get in another relationship? Take it slow my friend. Just act like she another human and don't put her on a pedestal.
Good luck!

well she's already wanting me back again to 'unwind like we did the other morning'. So atleast ill get a FWB out of this. But it feels a bit deeper than that. just can't believe i found a girl i wanted, who wants me back.

[stu4rt]

in an outing with a girl who i worked with on a small project, i was told to ask other girls or other guys out.

she also said she is going to introduce other girls to me.

besides,she said she will ask me to hang out when she is free and when she wants because she is busy,in an angry tone too.

before this outing,she was really receptive of me asking her out to meals and drinks.

she was even offended when i said we should stopped seeing each other after the project ends.i suggested that because she said i am not compatible with her and i was afraid of catching feelings for her,which i am.

she feels it is perfectly fine for girls and boys to see as many people as they want at the same time.

this really boggles my mind :/

how should i proceed?i did try no contact. and she called me out on it for ignoring her.i thought of returning her favour.she threw me a surprise birthday party when i knew her only for a week.

[FrazettaSilke]

in an outing with a girl who i worked with on a small project, i was told to ask other girls or other guys out.

she also said she is going to introduce other girls to me.

besides,she said she will ask me to hang out when she is free and when she wants because she is busy,in an angry tone too.

before this outing,she was really receptive of me asking her out to meals and drinks.

she was even offended when i said we should stopped seeing each other after the project ends.i suggested that because she said i am not compatible with her and i was afraid of catching feelings for her,which i am.

she feels it is perfectly fine for girls and boys to see as many people as they want at the same time.

this really boggles my mind :/

how should i proceed?i did try no contact. and she called me out on it for ignoring her.i thought of returning her favour.she threw me a surprise birthday party when i knew her only for a week.

Sounds like too much drama for me.

[DanielleGreen]

Update:
The guy I'm feelin' and I went to the concert on Friday. The show was OK, we dance and made out. I told him I was a little slow, he said that was fine.
Went on the hike with the other guy, seemed bored the entire time. Very little eye contact. Didn't make a move either.
Overall good weekend. Still on the app now, talking with a former fat guy that eats clean and works out too. Text game is good so far, we shall see....

[HockeyBacon18]

first date with new chick

went out for lunch- she ordered first and said she was buying mine as well, never had that happen before.

cane back to my place after, made out but didnt wanna bang

rate/10

id give it an 8

[Luc1fer]

first date with new chick

went out for lunch- she ordered first and said she was buying mine as well, never had that happen before.

cane back to my place after, made out but didnt wanna bang

rate/10

id give it an 8

Chad?

[HockeyBacon18]

Chad?

Chad woulda banged

[psychosylocibin]

update: been going on 6 months with the new girl I met back in april. Doing great. Makes me wonder how I put up with the dating bull**** for 8+ years. there is so much trash out there. dont let constant rejection from women make you feel worthless. Its hard, I know, been there done that.

[Bangemall]

been dating 6 months
-month in, she met guy behind my back,(friend seen them walking around said that they did nothin ) she lied to me that hes gay, i didnt give **** cuz we just started dating and I were meeting others too,wernt really exclusive
-5 month later,she started working new job,the same guy works there
-starts flirting in messages says she misses him,but she has boyfriend ,yet she wana remain friends.
-i get mad and kick her out
-NC for week, shes asking for another chance,saying she loves me blah blah hes just a friend,been crying for whole week
-that dude messeged me asking to talk with her and said he doesnt want nothin wtf lol?

Still nc ,wtf is going on ,should I respond or keep nc?

That girl is a living, breathing **** test. I'd only take her back or keep her warm for the sex etc. but would definitely distance myself from her longterm

[mhrreturns]

Update:

So the last few days has been really good for socialising, making plans and meeting new people. Met a super cute Columbian girl at a party last week and she seems really cool. First conversation we ended up talking about salsa dancing and I said I always wanted to try it (semi srs). The next day she text me asking to join her at a salsa class a few day later and that she wanted me to be her partner. Anyways I went along and really enjoyed it, much more so that I could have thought possible. Had lots of close contact with her and other girls due to the ration being approx 4:1 in guys favour and now I'm seriously considering picking it up as a weekly thing, even if its just to expand social circle further.

A few of her friends also came along so we went for drinks and food afterwards and then finished in a salsa bar so we could practise some more. I ended up walking her to her accommodation too which is only a 5min walk away from mine. Only regret is that I did not go in for the kiss when saying goodbye, but things are a bit weird in that regard. She knows about my FWB, which has stopped now due to FWB thinking I slept with someone else and didn't disclose it. (Part of the agreement was that we say if we are sleeping with other people). No idea if playing a bit more cautious is beneficial in this case, but as this has all happened pretty recently I didn't want to come across too heavy so soon. She also asked me to see the new film 'It' at the cinema later in the week, but I have already seen it. I might just go with her and act invincible because I know where all the scary bits are

Cliffs:
Met cute Columbian girl at party, mentioned I wanted to try salsa.
Got her number and next day she asks me to be her partner and attend local salsa class.
Went to salsa, had a really fun time and thought we bonded really well.
Walked her home but didn't go for kiss due to her knowing that my FWB has recently ended. (She knows the girl).
Girl asked me to see 'It' with her at the cinema later in the week. Looking pretty promising!

[TheSeriousOne92]

Maybe someone can offer advice here, I used to be able to flirt and get along well with just about anyone but as of the past few months I just don't have the motivation to flirt. I can't explain it well but I'll be attracted to a girl, talk to her and stop caring and "ghost" or whatever and lose interest. I can't help it but for whatever reason I completely lost all interest but it's weird because my libido is fine and I feel attraction and chemistry but something inside me makes me lose interest.

[T00thus]

What advice do people in this thread have regarding meeting girls solo in real life. I only have a few friends so it isn't always practical to go out with them. Am I doomed to fail if I go places on my own and try to meet new girls? I sometimes do reading and writing at a local coffee shop but I basically never see approachable girls to talk to there.

[Nedo]

Alyon's gone off again?

[mhrreturns]

Maybe someone can offer advice here, I used to be able to flirt and get along well with just about anyone but as of the past few months I just don't have the motivation to flirt. I can't explain it well but I'll be attracted to a girl, talk to her and stop caring and "ghost" or whatever and lose interest. I can't help it but for whatever reason I completely lost all interest but it's weird because my libido is fine and I feel attraction and chemistry but something inside me makes me lose interest.

Sounds like you have other things on your mind instead, is there any other areas of your life that are suffering which could be causing this? My libido and success rate always seems to be at its highest when I am happy with everything else in my life at the same time.

What advice do people in this thread have regarding meeting girls solo in real life. I only have a few friends so it isn't always practical to go out with them. Am I doomed to fail if I go places on my own and try to meet new girls? I sometimes do reading and writing at a local coffee shop but I basically never see approachable girls to talk to there.

I would recommend getting a hobby or use Meetup. You can meet girls by yourself but having a shared interest with them ie hiking, gives some common ground to start the conversation with. Personally I am not a massive fan of meeting people by myself, but I tend to find that the most approachable people for me are in bars/pubs.

Alyon's gone off again?

Don't tempt it pls.

So I was planning to arrange 2nd date with the Columbian girl and I was thinking of heading to the beach for a walk or mini golf. Which would you say would be the most appropriate?

[DanielleGreen]

What advice do people in this thread have regarding meeting girls solo in real life. I only have a few friends so it isn't always practical to go out with them. Am I doomed to fail if I go places on my own and try to meet new girls? I sometimes do reading and writing at a local coffee shop but I basically never see approachable girls to talk to there.

Find a hobby outside of school/work. I have very few friends myself, but you have to put yourself out there.

[TheSeriousOne92]

Sounds like you have other things on your mind instead, is there any other areas of your life that are suffering which could be causing this? My libido and success rate always seems to be at its highest when I am happy with everything else in my life at the same time.

Yeah, many stressors on my mind the last few months.

[FrazettaSilke]

Alyon's gone off again?

don't ask, plz

[mhrreturns]

Yeah, many stressors on my mind the last few months.

If I was you i would try to resolve as many of the other issues as you can. Then with a clear mind you can set your sights on clappin' dem cheeks

[DanielleGreen]

Small Update: The guy (home state guy) I was crushing hard on is getting quite. Hope he's not about to ghost. He is busy with his job so I hope we can meet up this weekend.
Gym guy said he couldn't meet tonight and wanted to reschedule, seems like a flakey guy. Another guy that has the same music and book taste as me asked me out. I suggested beers downtown.

Wish me luck misc!

[BetaThanU]

Small Update: The guy (home state guy) I was crushing hard on is getting quite. Hope he's not about to ghost. He is busy with his job so I hope we can meet up this weekend.
Gym guy said he couldn't meet tonight and wanted to reschedule, seems like a flakey guy. Another guy that has the same music and book taste as me asked me out. I suggested beers downtown.

Wish me luck misc!

Which ones the engineer?











Some how I've scored a hot FWB who is a freak in the sack.
Don't know how I did this, she acts super into me to.
It's the difference in quality picking up girls irl vs tinder I guess

[GOMAD51]

This is probably a stupid question, but how do you guys keep a conversation going for hours (in person)?
I mean, I understanding talking about your hobbies, your day ,etc. but after about 15 minutes, I'm at a loss for words.

and asking her questions repeatedly seems like an interrogation.

This is coming from someone with zero success with girls/women (kissless virgin) who's trying to change things for the better.
thanks!!