You do not have to make the comparison you mention here. I'm a 37 year old guy who led a largely sedentary life after stopping truly competitive sports in high school. I ran a few marathons almost a decade ago now, and I'm out of shape. I smoked, and yet I came to this board already having tried a program for a few months because I was and am sick of being a skinny-fat guy.
So some posters here were calling you out for your defeatist attitude. There are always going to be people in this world who say "You'll never do it" - some people I thought were friends consistently try to bring me down and say "yeah yeah you haven't smoked for two weeks but you'll fail eventually" - and I respond to them in a way that is not permissible on this forum.
Basically, the long and short of it is - as others have said - lift with proper form; rest well; eat well, and enjoy. The great thing about this forum is that there are a lot of people willing to give feedback on your journey, but you need to offer them something in return - show your commitment so they do not feel like they are wasting their time with you.
Good luck.
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Thread: Telling it like it is
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07-19-2017, 12:49 AM #31
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07-19-2017, 01:34 AM #32
Yep, it's pointless to limit oneself or training based on numbers. Sounds like you are working to adopt a better mentality, that's great. We all have limits, setbacks, and challenges. But age has little to do with developing the motivation to try and get a little better results in the log book month to month.
Progress comes from the mentality of the lifter, consistent efforts, and a sensible plan. I'm 44 ,and all I am concerned about is today. Did I put in proper effort in the gym? Am I eating and sleeping adequately to support my training? Is my programming in line with consistent progress?The most important aspect of weight training; whether for the athlete, bodybuilder, or average person is to better ones health and ability without injury. - Bill Pearl
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07-19-2017, 05:05 AM #33Air Force Veteran 1976 - 1999 - Cannabis Enthusiast since the 1960's
Retired at 40 Crew - Social distancing expert - Living the Dream
I use the gender neutral pronouns "Fukker/Fukkers" a lot.
****** I don't always agree with the memes I post ******
I tell it like it is, if you want smoke blown up your ass or something sugar coated. I suggest you get a Hooker and a powdered donut.
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07-19-2017, 06:19 AM #34
I think what make this thread odd is that it keeps alternating between weight training philosophy and what seem to be some serious personal issues. On a public forum, you have to expect people to respond to what you say...and in a place primarily reserved for topic talk, you are going to find a much less "sympathetic" ear when it comes to unrelated personal issues.
I'm no psychiatrists, but it's disturbing to listen to you bounce back between feeling sorry for yourself and being deeply hurt by other peoples opinions of you, and the arrogant attitude that everyone around you is stupid and jealous of you (and I'm not exactly sure what you are implying people are jealous of?).
It's great to talk about your personal issues, and seek comfort among other people...but it's also smart to choose your forum (literally). This is a great place to talk about lifting and related social issues...but not the most compassionate place to talk about personal problems not related to the gym.
I met the love of my life online. Online dating is a great way to meet the right person IF you are honest, secure and comfortable with who you are, and know exactly what you are looking for in a partner. Problem is, many online daters are none of the above...but if two people are and happen to cross paths, it's a wonderful thing where you meet the perfect person who you would have never met in the "real" world.
But let me tell you something that I found out knowing what goes on on both sides (woman and man) of computer dating. As a guy, you send out messages and rarely get responses and wonder why? Fact is, girls on those sites (who have something to offer) get hundreds and hundreds of messages a day. They can pick and choose, and even the sweetest girl can't possibly respond to all the messages they receive.
Then, to top it off, guys get mad, thinking the girl is snubbing them and then start to send progressively hostile messages inquiring why they aren't answering their messages...which makes you look even more like a guy they don't want to meet in the first place.
Moral of the story: Work on yourself first. Be the person you want to be. Having a good body again will give you more confidence and make you feel better about yourself, and it might make you more physically appealing to woman...but it's only a bonus that goes along with a great personality. You want an awesome Ms. Right, well guess what, she wants an awesome Mr. Right, and you've got to be that guy for real BEFORE you meet her.
You either need to...
A. Stop hanging out with people who are such jerks. There are plenty of nice people out there.
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B. Stop feeling so insecure and sorry for yourself that you take every comment or sideways glance as being personally insulting and judgmental.
I think lifting and getting back into shape is a great first step. You have to start feeling good about yourself before you can be any good to the people around you. I think it's cool that you have a second chance. Take advantage of all the knowledge that is out there on the internet (while avoiding the BS). Most of the stuff guys our age learned the first time around was crap designed to sell magazines and supplements...now the truth is out there for all of us to gain from.
Good luck in lifting and life .
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