Will update this more, need to close the sloth thread and continue now with a new thread.
Continuation of prior Tinder thread https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...hp?t=172525051
What we want to see in this thread:
Screenshots of conversations, both successful and not so much. Advice is welcome as much as bragging (if you earned it and can provide further pics for everyone entertainment). Remember to mildly censor nudes you get via WhatsApp / KIK / SnapChat and so on
What we don't want to see in this thread:•Image Quoting is a big NO-NO! Remove the [ img ] tags from posts you quote, otherwise be prepared for negs!
Cliffs:
* Tinder is a picture app so by nature it is superficial and based on looks.
* If you are 8+ in looks (determined mostly by face, body is secondary) then you will be successful on Tinder just based on your looks only.
* If you are in the 6-7 range you can be successful but will likely need to make additional effort (see list below) because you are competing with the 8+ guys.
* If you are below that then you might be better off working on yourself first (see list below) to bump your dating value up as much as possible first (most people should be able to improve to 6).
* Tinder has changed a lot the last year or so and you may have to use the paid features to get your profile shown with boosts and super likes, otherwise girls might not even see your profile.
* Flaking and ghosting is normal nowadays in online dating so don't let it throw you off.
Things you can do to improve your success:
Generally dating value for men is determined by looks, money, status, and personality. You should try to improve in each area and you can compensate lower value in one area with higher value in another. These are not just for dating only, these steps are good to improve yourself as much as possible for yourself (not just for women).
Looks:
* improve your appearance as much as possible, also called "looksmaxing": good hairstyle, well groomed facial hair if it suits you, teeth whitening, clear skin, a tan if it suits you, lifting (generally girls like some muscle tone but below bodybuilder level), low body fat, dressing well, tattoos if they suit you, using supplements if they work for you, etc.
* height is important in online dating, if you are over 6' list your height in your bio, if you are average or short don't make it obvious by using pics with tall friends etc.
Money:
* of course you should try to maximize your career and finances just for yourself already but they can also be helpful in attracting women.
* if you are financially successful and want to use that for dating you can show some financial status symbols in your pics.
Status:
* social status is very attractive to women and it can be based on money but also other things, for example social status from being a musician, college athlete, college frat, surfer, being in the fitness industry, being in the nightlife industry, intellectual status (if you're into intellectual girls), having lots of friends, having lots of social media followers, etc.
Personality:
* this topic has been hotly debated with some posters saying it does not matter and other posters saying it can make a huge difference in attraction.
* arguably the following personality traits are very attractive to women: confidence, masculinity, ambition, being fun to be around, good sense of humor, being outgoing and extraverted, etc.
* arguably the following traits are unattractive to women: insecurity, femininity, indecisiveness, loneliness, complaining, acting like a victim, being clingy, etc.
Profile pic selection:
* pic selection is extremely important, especially the first pic since most women swipe left just based on the first pic only.
* show off your best features (looks/money/status/personality) in your pics to display your dating value.
* good pics to include are pics with friends, dogs, hot girls, babies/family, and pics showing fun sporty or outdoorsy activities (hiking, sports, climbing, gym etc).
* if you're in good shape you can include a shirtless pic (not as main pic), preferably not a mirror selfie but on the beach or at the pool etc with friends.
Text game:
* your text style should suit your profile style (bad boy vs good guy for example).
* food related openers seem to work well.
* be confident and masculine in your texting, not clingy or overly complimenting, and lead the conversation.
* after building some rapport push for a meet up.
* don't let girls use you just for attention without meeting up, if she keeps texting but won't go out with you then don't waste your time being pen pals.
* flaking and ghosting is normal in online dating so don't get thrown off when this happens, talk to as many girls as possible because most will flake and ghost but keep trying for one who will meet up.
Tinder algorithm:
* Tinder has a secret algorithm and attractiveness score ("ELO score") that will impact when and if your profile is shown.
* Pay for the extra features like plus, boosts, super likes etc to increase your profile visibility.
* Resetting your account and setting it to other locations with plus may affect your profile visibility.
Contributions to thread:
* follow the steps above to improve your profile before asking for advice.
* post pics and post screenshots of text conversations.
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06-08-2017, 10:43 AM #1
Sloth Thread Part XIII: Looks get you matches, game gets you smashes
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Thank you! Yes there were other good suggestions in the old thread.
From Psycho:
Another thing to consider mentioning is iMessage. A tinderfella should definitely have one cause girls get turned off by green bubbles. [I was going to add this under the status header.]
From Spade:
my only suggestions in addition to adding bold to the headers is using the size tags [size=+2]
Also at the top I'd put "/10" on the scale # (at least the first time) so people know a 6 doesn't mean 6' or, 6 something else.
Lastly I'd copy the part of the op that suggests to censor pics of nudes and I'd even add censor the names of the girl in a convo screenshot.
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Need help with this..yes I used some of the classic tinder lines but I just wanted to break the ice with something that works. Problem is, the girl takes forever to respond, and when she does, it's some short and superficial response (see below). The girl is pretty cute and looks like she's in shape so I'm hoping I can advance this further.
Other info: It says she's about 5 miles away from me, and I live in a college town (she may be a student as well).
Any tips? Should I just throw a hail mary or should I grind it out a few yards at a time? (Like I said she takes forever to respond..she took like 2 days for the last 2 responses).Last edited by TheDesertFox; 06-08-2017 at 07:46 PM.
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