This is a good post.
I myself have some so called "FA" tendencies in that I rarely have strong emotional reactions and I operate on a different wavelength than it seems a lot of social butterflies do.
I have good social skills learned through rote and I am a confident person able to communicate verbally, with body language and measured eye contact. However, I do not connect with people (ded srs). I do not have emotional responses to most people and situations. What I mean by this is when I meet someone I do not feed on their energy and they cannot feed on mine, as well I never get caught up in the moment (I don't like this). I am always analyzing and making conscious decisions on how I want to think and feel at any given moment.
At times I have thought there might actually be something "wrong" with me chemically speaking. I was in an auto accident with 3 other individuals in the vehicle and experienced zero adrenal response and had zero emotional response. I almost felt robotic as I observed how the other three individuals panicked and had strong emotional responses. I was able, with complete emotional sobriety, to asses the damage, come up with a plan of action and delegate without really missing a beat.
In situations like the above this disposition is great. Admittedly, however, my inability to connect with people during casual social interactions does often lead to a lot of people choosing to socialize with someone else.
I can talk business and ingratiate myself wonderfully in career/work context, but I simply do not have emotional responses/connections to most people that I meet and this is so much so that at times the disconnect is palpable.
Social skills are always a work in progress and you might be strong in one context and weak in another.
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02-11-2017, 09:17 AM #301
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02-11-2017, 09:21 AM #302
Most women look like 3/10, tired crackhead males without makeup on (the same ones they insult and call disgusting). All of those conveyor belt, typical social media sloots not only have tons of make up on but they also have tons of filters slapped on and to top it off, they chop pretty much all of their pictures.
Trust me *******, the vast majority of women are ugly and insecure but men struggle to rise above that because of the deception of makeup/editing and because women stick together like flies around chit. Can you imagine if men stood around in circles in a club and were hostile to any woman who came close or if every picture a male posted had 150 comments saying "holy ****, you're so handsome man". Men aren't innocent in this, ******* WKs who give women constant options/ego boosts make it worse. When you start to realize this, you feel better about your position as a man, ugly or not.** Formerly Holysht **
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02-11-2017, 09:30 AM #303
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02-11-2017, 09:41 AM #304
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02-11-2017, 11:28 AM #306
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First time looking at the misc in many months and I find the archetypal misc thread, I am pleased.
Here is a very complex problem attempting to be solved by reducing it to fit into certain ideological viewpoints.
Women are very selective which is why we've evolved so quickly and successfully. Marriage is not a useless religious tool. Excess polygamy will destroy a society when the bottom males become frustrated enough to harm society (as we have seen).
Women will NOT date below them on the social/intelligence/wealth ladder. They date across and up dominance hierarchies and it is how we evolved. This was necessary back in the caveman days for ensuring successful childbirth and protection but not so much now. This is a very relevant problem that is starting to unveil as more men are continually dropping out of higher education and disappearing. At the same time, women are being told to believe things they do not feel are true (sacrificing family life for corporate careers). Men are struggling to adjust to the radical changes that have happened over the last century. I think a problem is that many men are being discarded by society. Some of these men just disappear, others surface after the bitterness and resentment consumes them.
Women are starting to have more power in the workplace also which utterly confuses men. How do you treat a woman that attempts to overpower you (verbal aggression) in the workplace? There is an unspoken agreement between males because there is always an underlying threat of physical violence (which is why we also get along so well). Hitting a women is unspeakable, so when a women is violent towards you. You are in a bind because there is NO THREAT of violence, and most importantly, the women knows you are of no threat. It places men in a confusing situation.Last edited by TroyLeroy; 02-11-2017 at 11:36 AM.
"It is an illusion that youth is happy, an illusion of those who have lost it; but the young know they are wretched for they are full of the truthless ideal which have been instilled into them, and each time they come in contact with the real, they are bruised and wounded."
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02-12-2017, 03:05 PM #307
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02-12-2017, 03:22 PM #308
This is bull****. There's plenty of traditional men (nice guys) who would love to have a traditional woman to marry. Unfortunately for these guys, the number of "traditional" women that remain are far and few in between whereas there are plenty of these types of guys. And in most instances these guys end up marrying the former party sluts who are now looking for a beta to provide for them after they've had all their fun. They work hard to provide and usually end up getting cheated on. This **** isn't uncommon, you see this happening all the time.
Frankly, with the divorce laws as they are, marriage is utter bull**** for any man worth his salt. What kind of dude would stake half his wealth (possibly more) on the flip of a coin for nothing in return except a wet hole.
Gone are the times when you could be a traditional man and find a traditional virgin bride to marry and raise your offspring properly. This is the reality of society. Adapt your strategy or get left behind, simple as that.
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02-12-2017, 05:07 PM #309
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02-13-2017, 10:43 AM #310
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02-13-2017, 10:52 AM #311
Agreed. There are plenty of women out there who are loyal, intelligent, hard working, and not materialistic. I can 100% confirm this and I tell guys here if they aren't finding them, then they need to work on who they are as a person and keep trying.
There are only a few things I've never been able to find, which is the ability to have quite as deep a convo about life/usually I'm doing the explaining but the bs here about no woman is loyal/women are all materialistic or use men isn't true.
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