Be real with me Misc - Is 25 too old to still be living at home with Parents?

[sheepski]

Yes. 25 and had to go back home for a month to process some documents. I don't give a sht what other people think, but for my own sanity I couldn't live with my parents for a longer time. I love my mom, but she talks way too much and after living on your own with a total freedom, you can't really go back.

[WelshAutist]

Yes. 25 and had to go back home for a month to process some documents. I don't give a sht what other people think, but for my own sanity I couldn't live with my parents for a longer time. I love my mom, but she talks way too much and after living on your own with a total freedom, you can't really go back.

What exactly is so good about living alone?

[imbored21]

Don't move out unless you have a gf to move out with. What's the point of living alone??

[CptClean]

Honestly depends on how many hookers I bang that month lol.

Why do you dislike living with parents? Isn't their house more luxurious than the rotter pad you rent?

No not really I live in a nice townhouse in one of the most desirable parts of the city with my gf when I am home.

I also dont care about luxuries at all means nothing to me I spend very little time at home and I can sleep just as happily on the floor as in a king size bed.

Its just nice being the master of your own domain when at home my dad is (as he should be its his house)

Im actually buying their house from them though

[sheepski]

What exactly is so good about living alone?

No one nags you if you don't make your bed, clean or whatever. Total freedom, you can stay up all night if you want to, you can watch porn without hiding in a toilet or waiting for everyone to go somewhere. Make a place the way you want to. God forbid if I move anything even slightly in my parent's home. If you wanna chill, there is no one to disturb you. If you invite girl in the evening to your apartament, sex almost guaranteed. In fact, there is always a private place for you and whoever you want to invite, which is the most important IMO.

EDIT: Btw. When I was younger it was hard to imagine living without my mom, who really took and still takes good care of me. But all that great cooking and fresh bed sheets, it's not enough now when I compare it with living on my own.

[Gymnmc23]

OP you seem to have an actual reason for living at home, nothing wrong with it trying to save up to make a down payment. If you can't afford to rent then why would you waste your money doing so?

[WelshAutist]

OP you seem to have an actual reason for living at home, nothing wrong with it trying to save up to make a down payment. If you can't afford to rent then why would you waste your money doing so?

I can easily "afford" to rent, it's just every time I think about it, I basically conclude that I would be burning money for this so called independence and it doesn't seem worth it?

[Dan916]

as long as you get along, it dont matter

you should be working or bettering your life though.

Way too many idiots out there full of debt that'd say "lol you live at home?!" Then they ask to borrow money a week later.

[Gymnmc23]

I can easily "afford" to rent, it's just every time I think about it, I basically conclude that I would be burning money for this so called independence and it doesn't seem worth it?

My bad misread where you said that you could afford rent. It seems like you are making the smarter play if you're really interested in home ownership. I think living at home for 2 more years till you get your down payment would be worth it and seems like the solid long term move to make.

[PrimeraRS]

For you, yes it is.

[Girlgoneweird]

Didn't you post this exact same thread a few months ago?

Everyone was telling you to not go travel and waste all your money bc you'd still be FA...but without money

[Mercworx]

It honestly depends on your circumstances. If you're doing it to save money/pay down debt then you're never too old. If you're doing it because you're a lazy manchild who doesn't want any responsibility then yes.

This is the truth.


HOWEVER. don't keep moving the goal post you do NEED to move out on your own soonish.

[_zman]

Just between me and you? I'll pretend you're my good friend and I'd tell it to you straight...."Man, you look so fukin pathetic. Still living at home!? You're not living until you're out there on your own. Nothing feels better than to meet a girl and show her your man cave and she's thoroughly impressed. Even better, you show her all the projects you have going on to make it even better. So what are you? A socialist?"

But in all seriousness, man move out. You're missing a different life. It'll force you to be more social too. That's the exact reason why there is a problem in society. When young people continue to live at home, they don't think they need to socialize or talk to people outside their circle.

[WelshAutist]

Just between me and you? I'll pretend you're my good friend and I'd tell it to you straight...."Man, you look so fukin pathetic. Still living at home!? You're not living until you're out there on your own. Nothing feels better than to meet a girl and show her your man cave and she's thoroughly impressed. Even better, you show her all the projects you have going on to make it even better. So what are you? A socialist?"

But in all seriousness, man move out. You're missing a different life. It'll force you to be more social too. That's the exact reason why there is a problem in society. When young people continue to live at home, they don't think they need to socialize or talk to people outside their circle.

Give me the rational process on how one goes from FA autist basement dweller to sociable alpha chad from moving out and I will seriously consider it.

Because at the moment if I moved out it seems I would go from FA to equally FA, and the only thing that would change is the money I burned on rent that could have been put into cash savings

[shoelaces]

No but it is starting to get to that age though. I mean if you were comfortable enough to stay at home until now the next 5 years are also going to fly by. Brb 30 and still at home. Then you will be like fukk it and just stay for the rest of your life.

[WelshAutist]

Didn't you post this exact same thread a few months ago?

Everyone was telling you to not go travel and waste all your money bc you'd still be FA...but without money

Yeah it was similar but this time I'm actually considering moving out. I have ruled out taking a gap year to travel because of those precise reasons in the other thread: too much of an employment gap and it would blow all my money.

As weird as it sounds, I'm tempted to rent for 6 months as an experiment. If my life significantly improves, then I can pro-long the contract. If my life is just as FA and the only thing changed is money being wasted on rent then i will take the hit, learn my lesson and continue living at home and go mega hard with the saving.

Is this a sensible idea? To dabble the toe in the water before diving into the ocean?

[WelshAutist]

No but it is starting to get to that age though. I mean if you were comfortable enough to stay at home until now the next 5 years are also going to fly by. Brb 30 and still at home. Then you will be like fukk it and just stay for the rest of your life.

Interesting, I never thought about it that way.

But surely that wouldn't be the case if my parents got me arranged marriage at 30 and I had 100K cash in the bank to fund a house for me and my wife?

[shoelaces]

Interesting, I never thought about it that way.

But surely that wouldn't be the case if my parents got me arranged marriage at 30 and I had 100K cash in the bank to fund a house for me and my wife?

Life doesn't work out like that though. People tend to stay in the comfort zone because well change is unknown and we are scared of the unknown. The reason why you been living at home until now is because it has been comfortable for you. The longer you wait to make a change the harder it is going to be for you. That's why people stay in terrible relationships or jobs they hate for so long. If you stay for another 5 years you will probably come up with some other excuse. You really think people who are 40 and still living with their parents planned for it? They all started out by saying I will move out in ___ years but with no real plan or commitment to follow through. Then 5 years past by, 10 years, 20 years.

Plus saying in ___ years I will have this much saved or be married never works out. Because that's life son, it never goes perfectly according to plan.

[WelshAutist]

Life doesn't work out like that though. People tend to stay in the comfort zone because well change is unknown and we are scared of the unknown. The reason why you been living at home until now is because it has been comfortable for you. The longer you wait to make a change the harder it is going to be for you. That's why people stay in terrible relationships or jobs they hate for so long. If you stay for another 5 years you will probably come up with some other excuse. You really think people who are 40 and still living with their parents planned for it? They all started out by saying I will move out in ___ years but with no real plan or commitment to follow through. Then 5 years past by, 10 years, 20 years.

I completely understand, because I have a Pakistani friend from school who explained to me that his uncle is 40 and still lives at home because of that mindset.

But my situation is different. More like the one somebody posted on page 1 - essentially that I'd live at home UNTIL I got married.

I have no intention of living at home if I have a wife or GF. If I had a gf now, do you think I'd still be choosing comfort? Nope!

Right now I understand it's easy to get stuck in routine, but I don't have a reason to move out. Marriage and the prospect of kids is my reason and the day that partner comes into my life is the day I would be leaving the basement, even if the home was more "poverty" and "less comfortable"!

[shoelaces]

I completely understand, because I have a Pakistani friend from school who explained to me that his uncle is 40 and still lives at home because of that mindset.

But my situation is different. More like the one somebody posted on page 1 - essentially that I'd live at home UNTIL I got married.

I have no intention of living at home if I have a wife or GF. If I had a gf now, do you think I'd still be choosing comfort? Nope!

Right now I understand it's easy to get stuck in routine, but I don't have a reason to move out. Marriage and the prospect of kids is my reason and the day that partner comes into my life is the day I would be leaving the basement, even if the home was more "poverty" and "less comfortable"!

That doesn't make sense. You are counting your chickens before they even hatch. If you were single for this long how are you so sure you will find a wife in the next few years? Or even if you meet someone they might not even take you seriously since you are still living at home. You gotta find priorities in your life first.

1. Job
2. Secure independent living conditions
3. Dating/Marriage

You are trying to skip steps here.

[Aussie939291]

If you have a valid reason for living at home, no issue. I had to move back in with my parents after getting diagnosed with my illness because I got inundated with medical bills up to my neck.

[shoelaces]

If you have a valid reason for living at home, no issue. I had to move back in with my parents after getting diagnosed with my illness because I got inundated with medical bills up to my neck.

I think that is the only valid excuse. If you either get a serious injury or if you are taking care of a family member who has one. Or if you are attending graduate school and need to save money on housing. Everything else is just BS in my experience. Especially excuses that go along the lines of in ___ years I will move out but I don't want to right now.

[WelshAutist]

That doesn't make sense. You are counting your chickens before they even hatch. If you were single for this long how are you so sure you will find a wife in the next few years? Or even if you meet someone they might not even take you seriously since you are still living at home. You gotta find priorities in your life first.

1. Job
2. Secure independent living conditions
3. Dating/Marriage

You are trying to skip steps here.

Fortunately for me, in our upper-middle class white British community, our parents marry us off to someone from our own social class kind. So when I hit 30, I will get "arranged" marriage to a dentist, lawyer, doctor or similar who's the daughter of a friend in the neighbourhood or former colleague of my father.

So I know the marriage thing is a certainty, and hence so is the moving out!

[SmackBang77]

OP, you seem to be using the fact you live at home as an excuse for being FA, leaving your parents to live on your own in the same city won't do chit for you.

In fact, the important thing is to be successful, get money, be social. Living on your own is not a criteria of success itself, if you're the main provider of the family then why move out ? you're the boss, and you're making savings for a retirement home, at 27 you can tell your parents hey I got a retirement home but Im still working, you guys can go live there and chill and I'll take care of everything. Isn't that alpha as fukk ?

Just help the parents with whatever they need, if you really want a place of your own then you should rent a place with friends (trap house), don't get a lease on your own just for sloots man. Think with your head not your dink.

The question is what is worse between being 25 living at home with parents, helping with the family bills or being 25, having your own place and not helping your parents ?

[1outof10beta]

It's 4 years old, less than 60K on the clock, and a cream-leather interior 5 Series... hardly entry level...

520d or 535i?

[Chezdon]

Dude stop being so insecure about this. You make these threads all the time. You only need to satisfy yourself, who cares what others think. And if you really care, you have a legit reason - saving money to buy. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. If you were rotting away working in Sainsburys with no direction then yeah, it would look odd and unattractive.

I'd use some of the money for some hobby to keep me going and meet new people. Or you could move out and meet people and take three times longer to save that deposit.

[1outof10beta]

Yeah, I don't have a toxic relationship with them in any way.

It's just that everyone I went to school with, even everyone I went to uni with, and definitely everyone I work with, whether older or younger, some a lot younger, they have ALL moved out.

Well maybe apart from Indians and Pakistani people, but I know that their Asian culture is a bit different and they live at home until marriage generally. But all the White Welsh people I know live out, even if it's paycheck to paycheck

Do you live NW or SW or in the middle?

If you live NW I will be your friend IRL if you like. I am 30, live with my parents, at the moment I earn very little, less than a year ago I was on low 5 figures a month. Will probably happen again only this time I won't be spending it left right and centre!

If not, good luck you

[1outof10beta]

Fortunately for me, in our upper-middle class white British community, our parents marry us off to someone from our own social class kind. So when I hit 30, I will get "arranged" marriage to a dentist, lawyer, doctor or similar who's the daughter of a friend in the neighbourhood or former colleague of my father.

So I know the marriage thing is a certainty, and hence so is the moving out!

Which community is this? Because I have never heard of this in white British communities.

[shoelaces]

Fortunately for me, in our upper-middle class white British community, our parents marry us off to someone from our own social class kind. So when I hit 30, I will get "arranged" marriage to a dentist, lawyer, doctor or similar who's the daughter of a friend in the neighbourhood or former colleague of my father.

So I know the marriage thing is a certainty, and hence so is the moving out!

Lost it at the "upper-middle class" comment. Get a reality check, your family is only negligibly better off than the average person. Yet you are posting like you are apart of the Rothschild dynasty or somechit. Nothing in life in a certainty besides death and taxes. I can tell already you will live at home until you die because of your nonchalant attitude about making any progress with your life on your own.

[Issobolic28]

If you can afford to move out, then move out.

If you can't, then don't.

There's nothing worse than moving out when you're not ready to; just because you "have to".