The No Contact Thread V.4: Fresh Year, Same Problems..

[Schlumpf]

didn't break NC, i feel better now
thanks bros

[jotenko]

She basically has said she needs to forget what happened, in order to ever be able to start over again with us. She has told me she realized at the end of the day we only have ourselves, and need to be comfortable and have our lives together before anything. She said in the future she doesn't know what will happen, and could see us back together as a possibility. This open-ended stuff I feel is just giving me false hope.

Move on, for your own sake. No woman will give you closure, so assume it's over.

[bastianek]

fukking mutual friend uploaded party pictures with fukking ex on fb. moved right in the fukking trap. **** makes me angry and pissed off to see her that happy. fukk that ****. no worries i wont contact her. just had to write this **** down for gods sake. killing the weights in one hour so i will be fine. fukk fukk fukk i need something to punch RIGHT NOW!!!!11!!1!

[MiniManletXD]

NC is the way to go for me Social media sucks makes it really hard though.

[Schlumpf]

Move on, for your own sake. No woman will give you closure, so assume it's over.

>no woman will give you closure
is this a common thing?

[jotenko]

>no woman will give you closure
is this a common thing?

Yes.

fukking mutual friend uploaded party pictures with fukking ex on fb. moved right in the fukking trap. **** makes me angry and pissed off to see her that happy. fukk that ****. no worries i wont contact her. just had to write this **** down for gods sake. killing the weights in one hour so i will be fine. fukk fukk fukk i need something to punch RIGHT NOW!!!!11!!1!

She's probably not that happy.

PS: Is this a german sausage fest or something?

[bastianek]

Yes.



She's probably not that happy.

PS: Is this a german sausage fest or something?

Yea youre right, because she lost me, hehe 😶

No sausage party but i invite you to one if you want my lovely porto-*** (no homo)

[NedStark]

didn't break NC, i feel better now
thanks bros

i would've negged you if you did, good job.

[kenfowler]

The urges to reach out to them are the worst urges there are. Just keep focusing, praying (if you do that), and posting here. We Need to keep each other on track guys

[Eskimo10]

I have no desire to reach out and contact her, threads on the misc have helped me realize how ****ty of a person my ex is, which has made NC easy. But this morning, and I don't even know why, has been hard on me. I've been breaking down, balling my eyes out, and just frustrated today. Give me some encouragement boys, I need it this morning!

[bastianek]

I have no desire to reach out and contact her, threads on the misc have helped me realize how ****ty of a person my ex is, which has made NC easy. But this morning, and I don't even know why, has been hard on me. I've been breaking down, balling my eyes out, and just frustrated today. Give me some encouragement boys, I need it this morning!

Not wanting to contact her is already a good move forward. I know how you feel. No contact isnt the problem for me either. Its the own mind that brings up some random memories or "what if?"-thinking. Like i said before, staying busy id the best to avoid such break downs. Youre on a good way. Let it all out for 5 mins and keep going.

[AWillis]

>no woman will give you closure
is this a common thing?

yes, and if you are in any form of small contact they may well just string you along for their own amusement. to keep their ego inflated knowing that they can have your attention whenever they decide at the click of their fingers

[SpliTT]

Reminds me of someone being ''stringged along'' let me say this

My room mate is going through the same thing, his ex gf left him for another guy and they got engaged and everytime they get into a fight she comes over to my house and gets with my room mate while shes engaged..

[jotenko]

I have no desire to reach out and contact her, threads on the misc have helped me realize how ****ty of a person my ex is, which has made NC easy. But this morning, and I don't even know why, has been hard on me. I've been breaking down, balling my eyes out, and just frustrated today. Give me some encouragement boys, I need it this morning!

Yes, those breakdowns are horrible but the biggest part of manning the **** up happens during those same times (considering you don't text the bish).

Imagine yourself as you were in a war to regain your manhood and, when those feelins or urge to contact her appear, just think that you are being air raided by the inner-wuss army.

Just don't leave the air shelter and wait for it to stop, then you get out and keep on fighting. We're covering your ass.

[kenfowler]

Had a few dreams about her last night. Sadly, we were happy in those dreams. Right when I was aware of it I woke myself up. But 3 times.... Fuk my stupid brain already.

[Eskimo10]

Not wanting to contact her is already a good move forward. I know how you feel. No contact isnt the problem for me either. Its the own mind that brings up some random memories or "what if?"-thinking. Like i said before, staying busy id the best to avoid such break downs. Youre on a good way. Let it all out for 5 mins and keep going.

Thanks bro, honestly I know a lot of this is connected to my sleep. I haven't been sleeping well so everything comes back up when I sleep like crap.

Yes, those breakdowns are horrible but the biggest part of manning the **** up happens during those same times (considering you don't text the bish).

Imagine yourself as you were in a war to regain your manhood and, when those feelins or urge to contact her appear, just think that you are being air raided by the inner-wuss army.

Just don't leave the air shelter and wait for it to stop, then you get out and keep on fighting. We're covering your ass.

Appreciate it bro, this has been much harder than I thought it would be, but I know I'll make it through a better person; stronger for it.

Good thing is that I have no desire to ever hear from or or contact her again, the way she made me feel, and the crap she pulled, just adds to her not being a good person.

[AWillis]

might help some people if they are chasing a sloot with repeat messages and getting nowhere

[kenfowler]

Today is a rough one guys. I'm actually feeling sick. How pathetic is that? Obviously only remembering the good aspects of it all. I'm not being a man right now. I'm laying around my house feeling sad. I don't want to anymore. . It all feels so fresh still. I feel like someone beat the hell out of me. Crushed today. Those dreams last night really fuked me up. I was actually happy again for a little while. I know an ex isn't your whole life and I truly do have a lot more going on. Working out, hobbies, going out a lot, staying busy, etc.

I don't know how to get over this. So many expectations and so many things I decided I was going to be okay with in my heart. I so badly tried to be a good bf. The hardest I've worked in a relationship. I felt good that I was trying so hard and that things were able to be talked about. I tried so hard. Stupidly I figured that her circumstances and my loyalty and genuine self would keep her attracted and fighting. I literally put everything I had into it. No games or anything. It's all just gone now. Like it never even happened. I just feel sick and drained. I don't wanna do anything. It's hard to keep pretending I'm okay when I go out.

I don't know why I had such high expectations. She really fooled me. Always was the one to talk about our future. Saying I was the best person she'd been with. How deeply happy it made her that her son and I got along. How genuine I was. How she could see a future, kids etc. Every girl I've dated has said that and I never really believed it. With her I did though and I wanted it too. I was finally able to just be happy in love. Take it all in. Actually believe my partner. Then, she just dumps me.

How do you involve someone so deeply with your kid and everything else? How do you constantly tell someone how you'll never let them go because they are truly a one in a million, constantly tell them you want all these things with them.. And then just out of stress and frustration be hurtful, rude and then dump them. I am not the kind of guy who tells women nice things just to do it, if I say it I mean it.

[Schlumpf]

Today is a rough one guys. I'm actually feeling sick. How pathetic is that? Obviously only remembering the good aspects of it all. I'm not being a man right now. I'm laying around my house feeling sad. I don't want to anymore. . It all feels so fresh still. I feel like someone beat the hell out of me. Crushed today. Those dreams last night really fuked me up. I was actually happy again for a little while. I know an ex isn't your whole life and I truly do have a lot more going on. Working out, hobbies, going out a lot, staying busy, etc.

I don't know how to get over this. So many expectations and so many things I decided I was going to be okay with in my heart. I so badly tried to be a good bf. The hardest I've worked in a relationship. I felt good that I was trying so hard and that things were able to be talked about. I tried so hard. Stupidly I figured that her circumstances and my loyalty and genuine self would keep her attracted and fighting. I literally put everything I had into it. No games or anything. It's all just gone now. Like it never even happened. I just feel sick and drained. I don't wanna do anything. It's hard to keep pretending I'm okay when I go out.

I don't know why I had such high expectations. She really fooled me. Always was the one to talk about our future. Saying I was the best person she'd been with. How deeply happy it made her that her son and I got along. How genuine I was. How she could see a future, kids etc. Every girl I've dated has said that and I never really believed it. With her I did though and I wanted it too. I was finally able to just be happy in love. Take it all in. Actually believe my partner. Then, she just dumps me.

How do you involve someone so deeply with your kid and everything else? How do you constantly tell someone how you'll never let them go because they are truly a one in a million, constantly tell them you want all these things with them.. And then just out of stress and frustration be hurtful, rude and then dump them. I am not the kind of guy who tells women nice things just to do it, if I say it I mean it.

right in the feels
what helped me yesterday was to realize she truly never gave a chit about you. i asked myself the question, if she truly loved me, why didn't she reach out to me. you should ask yourself the same.
but i know my words wont change chit about your situation, just stay strong my friend and remember there was a time before you knew her.

[bastianek]

right in the feels
what helped me yesterday was to realize she truly never gave a chit about you. i asked myself the question, if she truly loved me, why didn't she reach out to me. you should ask yourself the same.
but i know my words wont change chit about your situation, just stay strong my friend and remember there was a time before you knew her.

I PMed you

[Schlumpf]

I PMed you

i think i replied, i have no idea how to check if it sent

[kenfowler]

right in the feels
what helped me yesterday was to realize she truly never gave a chit about you. i asked myself the question, if she truly loved me, why didn't she reach out to me. you should ask yourself the same.
but i know my words wont change chit about your situation, just stay strong my friend and remember there was a time before you knew her.

She did reach out, several times. Looong sad text messages. I never responded. Broke me every time. I just need to be a man.

[ManWithNoName93]

I've been no contact with the ex for about 6-7 months now and it feels amazing. I've made it a point for this new year to stop looking at her FB and what she is posting about her boyfriend (which was her ex before me...). Going 17+ days strong without looking at it, feels great. Still have days that I think about her, but I definitely don't miss her.

[DGen94]

been one week of no contact. was sad at first but now im good. feels like nothing happened. deleted my social media and started talking to someone else. staying busy too!

[kenfowler]

Feeling dead. She text me again late last night. Apparently text blocking apps do not work at all for some reason. I've tried to block her. More of the same sadness. Telling me she has cried herself to sleep every night. Isn't sleeping well. Is just sad all day and misses me so much.

I read it cried and deleted it. Why does she keep doing this shiit and why do I keep getting so hurt over it.

[cpoint10]

Well been about two months. Contact every now and then to keep in touch with the hopes of maybe trying again in the future. She is in Oklahoma with her family, but she contacted me today saying she took a job in Dallas (where I live), so she will be local again. In y'all's experience, what is the best way to try and begin to regain possible fixes? Lunch once she gets situated? I don't want her to have an angry notion like as soon as she gets back I'm blowing her phone up, but also don't wanna go NC and have her just never attempt to rekindle, because I know in the end I'll beat myself up if I know in the back of my mind I could've done this or that in efforts to get her back..

[jotenko]

Well been about two months. Contact every now and then to keep in touch with the hopes of maybe trying again in the future. She is in Oklahoma with her family, but she contacted me today saying she took a job in Dallas (where I live), so she will be local again. In y'all's experience, what is the best way to try and begin to regain possible fixes? Lunch once she gets situated? I don't want her to have an angry notion like as soon as she gets back I'm blowing her phone up, but also don't wanna go NC and have her just never attempt to rekindle, because I know in the end I'll beat myself up if I know in the back of my mind I could've done this or that in efforts to get her back..

Brah, it all depends on how you two broke up.

[cpoint10]

Well I ended things out of just a freak out and lack of judgement. So all in all it is my fault, but I am showing a lot of effort in proving I care I guess in order to prove my feelings. I'm an idiot.

[MuckSnapper]

Ah, the good old NC thread.

So many good bros met in these threads.

May have to use it again soon if I continue to develop feelings for a chick friend. So many chick friends and this never happens but lawwwd them chits come outta nowhere. Should be fine and who knows maybe she feels the same.

Probably not doe. Best of luck to everyone in here.

It will pass. It always does. Stay committed.

[jotenko]

Well I ended things out of just a freak out and lack of judgement. So all in all it is my fault, but I am showing a lot of effort in proving I care I guess in order to prove my feelings. I'm an idiot.

You are not an idiot, you ****ing *******. Cut the crap. What happened? Unless you're a crazy psycho, something happened for you to end things.

Ah, the good old NC thread.

So many good bros met in these threads.

May have to use it again soon if I continue to develop feelings for a chick friend. So many chick friends and this never happens but lawwwd them chits come outta nowhere. Should be fine and who knows maybe she feels the same.

Probably not doe. Best of luck to everyone in here.

It will pass. It always does. Stay committed.

We're waiting for ya then.