eHarmony was a bust. Don't waste your money

[otakutrevan]

Many suggested that website and I would say its a total waste of money. Spammed out messages to every single match I had. 2 overweight/obese white girls responded. About 1 to 2 hours in range of me. Suggested lunch after things seemed to go well and they just stopped replying. In short...if you do poorly on other sites and cell phone applications then don't waste your time and raw capital.

[DolphinPilot]

You know I've never tried eharmony but I've heard two things:

-A lot of the women on there are psycho. The types that would get married tomorrow if you agree to it.
-A lot of the profiles on eharmony are inactive profiles. They will match you with profiles that haven't seen a login in several months. Seriously?

A lot of people around here say the pay sites have more high-caliber men and women on there, but I can't see that happening.

[otakutrevan]

You know I've never tried eharmony but I've heard two things:

-A lot of the women on there are psycho. The types that would get married tomorrow if you agree to it.
-A lot of the profiles on eharmony are inactive profiles. They will match you with profiles that haven't seen a login in several months. Seriously?

A lot of people around here say the pay sites have more high-caliber men and women on there, but I can't see that happening.

Didn't get enough responses to see if that was the case, but most that I messaged viewed my profile, and didn't respond. Even with great pictures and a great bio they still didnt respond. #teamugly lol

[imbored21]

Online dating doesn't work for non Chads. Even if you get a date, a Chad will message her and she will go NC on you like you're nothing.

[otakutrevan]

Online dating doesn't work for non Chads. Even if you get a date, a Chad will message her and she will go NC on you like you're nothing.

[Nicklol]

I thought you had to pay to even message in eharmony? same with match and zoosk?

[kingHanley]

I use tinder srs

[otakutrevan]

I thought you had to pay to even message in eharmony? same with match and zoosk?

Yeah you have to pay for a subscription. All the natural "I get girls because of my hard work" guys on here kept acting like it was god send.

I use tinder srs

Congrats. Tinder doesnt work for me.

[jotenko]

Online dating doesn't work for non Chads. Even if you get a date, a Chad will message her and she will go NC on you like you're nothing.

Hahaha your crew is awesome man.

[jotenko]

Yeah you have to pay for a subscription. All the natural "I get girls because of my hard work" guys on here kept acting like it was god send.



Congrats. Tinder doesnt work for me.

otakutrevan I like reading you brah. But you seem waaaay too bitter, man. You have to relax doode.

[otakutrevan]

otakutrevan I like reading you brah. But you seem waaaay too bitter, man. You have to relax doode.

Eh? There was nothing "bitter" about that post. Tinder works for him, and it doesn't work for me. I congratulated on his success. Calling me bitter is a way for people to try to silence or shame me because they're hearing an un-easy truth. And that is the dating game is rigged. It makes men that do well angry because it lets them know their success is rooted in mostly things they cannot control and not their work. And it upsets some women because they know its true and face > all with everything else following that. They are reminded of their true nature and how they know when they get smashed/passed its honestly their fault for chasing Chad

(hope that wasnt bitter)

[jotenko]

Eh? There was nothing "bitter" about that post. Tinder works for him, and it doesn't work for me. I congratulated on his success. Calling me bitter is a way for people to try to silence or shame me because they're hearing an un-easy truth. And that is the dating game is rigged. It makes men that do well angry because it lets them know their success is rooted in mostly things they cannot control and not their work. And it upsets some women because they know its true and face > all with everything else following that. They are reminded of their true nature and how they know when they get smashed/passed its honestly their fault for chasing Chad

(hope that wasnt bitter)

Dude nah, I think you are spot on most of the time.

But one has to accept truth and leave peacefully with it at some point, brah.

[otakutrevan]

Dude nah, I think you are spot on most of the time.

But one has to accept truth and leave peacefully with it at some point, brah.

This is true, but accepting that you're pretty much invisible to all women that arent A. Obese or B. Looking for some beta to raise another mans kids is a very....very hard pill to swallow.

Until then I'll be like.

[BetaThanU]

I heard it's impossible for you to get them to stop charging your card even after you cancel. Will stay away from all pay sites.

[Malversation]

I wouldn't assume that it would be any better just because you're paying for it, to be honest. I think people who are willing to go as far as paying for it probably just have some extra desperateness, given that there are a ton of good alternatives.

[jotenko]

This is true, but accepting that you're pretty much invisible to all women that arent A. Obese or B. Looking for some beta to raise another mans kids is a very....very hard pill to swallow.

Until then I'll be like.

Dude but you look ripped as ****!

[ProteinEnough]

Many suggested that website and I would say its a total waste of money. Spammed out messages to every single match I had. 2 overweight/obese white girls responded. About 1 to 2 hours in range of me. Suggested lunch after things seemed to go well and they just stopped replying. In short...if you do poorly on other sites and cell phone applications then don't waste your time and raw capital.

You look like that and have issues getting girls? WTF!

[zebraman12]

Hey OP, 2 questions:

1. Where do you live? city/state works
2. What was the longest you've gone without a dating app?

[otakutrevan]

I heard it's impossible for you to get them to stop charging your card even after you cancel. Will stay away from all pay sites.

wut? I'll sue those ****s.

I wouldn't assume that it would be any better just because you're paying for it, to be honest. I think people who are willing to go as far as paying for it probably just have some extra desperateness, given that there are a ton of good alternatives.

Wouldn't say desperate. Its just the other alternatives arent/werent working so I said sure why not

Dude but you look ripped as ****!

Women do not care about muscle
Women do not care about muscle
Women do not care about muscle

Women are care about...if we're talking physically?

1.Face
2.Low Bodyfat

160lbs or 215lbs. It doesnt matter. You need a lean natty build and a good face. Thats it.

[otakutrevan]

Hey OP, 2 questions:

1. Where do you live? city/state works
2. What was the longest you've gone without a dating app?

I dont live giving my city/state out freely. I'm not in the middle of no where by any means. Location doesn't seem to have a bearing. Foreign countries girls seem to like me, but I think its because I have an accent to them and in the places I've been black men are in demand.
Maybe 6+ months. Why? I've had Tinder since 2014 and I would just swipe right until I was out. Rinse. Repeat. Nothing.

[Malversation]

wut? I'll sue those ****s.

Wouldn't say desperate. Its just the other alternatives arent/werent working so I said sure why not

You don't even have to sue them, just dispute the charges on your card. Also I was mostly referring to:
"A lot of people around here say the pay sites have more high-caliber men and women on there, but I can't see that happening."
Perhaps you're not desperate, mine was just a general assessment of users of sites that require you to pay. There're exceptions to every rule.

[TacomaLust]

Even with great pictures and a great bio they still didnt respond. #teamblack lol

Fixed

[mgBsportsfan25]

I currently have an account on eharmony and match. Only joined eharmony because there was a sale for 3 months. Only have had one decent convo with a girl on there and she turned out to be psycho (sending me 6-10 messages before I could respond since I was at work).

Match I have had a better success rate and the girls on there are more attractive than the ones on eHarmony. I would agree eHarmony isn't worth it. Match is not bad if you can get a decent deal on the membership (which I am sure they will have with the new year coming up).

Just don't rely on online dating as the only place to meet women.

Tinder doesn't work for me, but I have met a few chicks on bumble. The funny thing about that is alot of girls post on their profiles (send me a message!) yet the whole point of the app is the chick gets to message first lol.

[JackTorrance311]

Just talk to women in real life. Don't ever use pay sites. Do you actually think some fit-ass girl is going to be paying to use eHarmony or whatever? No chance.

If you are struggling to get laid there are certain things you can take to dramatically increase your chances of getting laid at a club.

[otakutrevan]

Just talk to women in real life. Don't ever use pay sites. Do you actually think some fit-ass girl is going to be paying to use eHarmony or whatever? No chance.

If you are struggling to get laid there are certain things you can take to dramatically increase your chances of getting laid at a club.

That isn't true at all. Most men are getting one night stands from clubs. Even my greatest looking friends don't accomplish that. And I've been talking to women irl for years BOYO. Paid Site, Free Site, Club, Bar, Coffee Shop, Bookstore, or etc.

[pondus_levo]

Just talk to women in real life. Don't ever use pay sites. Do you actually think some fit-ass girl is going to be paying to use eHarmony or whatever? No chance.

If you are struggling to get laid there are certain things you can take to dramatically increase your chances of getting laid at a club.

Are you kidding? There are a ton of 9/10 fit women on dating sites. Most of them are tired of the losers that they meet in real life and the competition is non-existent online. Most guys online are social retards.

[otakutrevan]

Are you kidding? There are a ton of 9/10 fit women on dating sites. Most of them are tired of the losers that they meet in real life and the competition is non-existent online. Most guys online are social retards.

Some are idiots and some girls show me there message. However if you message 50+ matches with a combination of good messages and the question system on eHarmony? That is a direct indicator that you arent physically attractive. Competition is very stiff online, and stats from OkCupid show that. However I know it doesnt line up with your results or belief system so you wont even consider.

[pondus_levo]

Some are idiots and some girls show me there message. However if you message 50+ matches with a combination of good messages and the question system on eHarmony? That is a direct indicator that you arent physically attractive. Competition is very stiff online, and stats from OkCupid show that. However I know it doesnt line up with your results or belief system so you wont even consider.

I didn't say they would all respond to you you, I just said they are there, but you also have to consider it's more than looks. I've had better success on tinder with a blank profile than on match.com. There is too much information to get yourself filtered on dating sites.

I know I get hugely filtered because I have kids and don't want anymore kids. How do I know? I've had women email me when my profile was HIDDEN and as soon as I show them my profile that's the first thing they say. "Sorry, I want kids of my own."

Like with any kind of dating, giving out to much information too soon is a chance killer.

Mystery is a huge aphrodisiac.

[otakutrevan]

I didn't say they would all respond to you you, I just said they are there, but you also have to consider it's more than looks. I've had better success on tinder with a blank profile than on match.com. There is too much information to get yourself filtered on dating sites.

I know I get hugely filtered because I have kids and don't want anymore kids. How do I know? I've had women email me when my profile was HIDDEN and as soon as I show them my profile that's the first thing they say. "Sorry, I want kids of my own."

Like with any kind of dating, giving out to much information too soon is a chance killer.

Mystery is a huge aphrodisiac.

You didn't say all and i didnt say you did. However you push this b.s idea that if you are a witty well put together man that you can pull from online dating and that simply isnt true for all men. I've had Tinder since late 2013 and I've hung out with two girls from it. TWO GIRLS PONDUS. Thats 3+ years of swiping in multiple ****ing cities. Both of them were very overweight. I barely got matches with ish OK cute girls.

Your beliefs and experiences are not universal.

[JackTorrance311]

That isn't true at all. Most men are getting one night stands from clubs. Even my greatest looking friends don't accomplish that. And I've been talking to women irl for years BOYO. Paid Site, Free Site, Club, Bar, Coffee Shop, Bookstore, or etc.

I dunno, I don't know anyone who hasn't had a one night stand from a club (especially if they've been to places like Ibiza and got ****ed up on certain stuff), and I don't hang around with a bunch of professional models and am not Chad White tier myself. Depends on your standards too though. Most men don't approach any women at all just stand there.

Are you kidding? There are a ton of 9/10 fit women on dating sites. Most of them are tired of the losers that they meet in real life and the competition is non-existent online. Most guys online are social retards.

I meant pay sites... Why would a hot girl want to pay to use a dating site when she can have her pick of any guy?