I will never understand why GIRLS just ghost

[Oreyon]

Womenz operate on emotions and its like a roller coaster !!

You think the game ends once you think you tied a good one ?! Nopeee you keep gaming her forever dont let her feel dat she got you on her hooks this is the cold truth boyos
Gotta give them the roller coaster emotional ride

[azakdan2682]

Sounds like we date the same women. (srs)

I'm almost to the point where I immediately assume a girl isn't telling the truth when I get a text from her. I hate thinking/feeling that too. It's not healthy. It's just a protective mechanism based on patterns though. I know why I'm feeling like that, I just don't want to. So I FORCE myself to be a little more vulnerable because I don't want to pass up on something good if it comes along and then I get ghosted again and again.

OH US_RANGER, THAT WAS THE BEST DATE! IT WAS SO MUCH FUN!!!!!!

Never hear from them again....

Lol.

I pretty much think now if a girl texts me something a little too positive it's a lie. Like too many exp. points and so on just feels way off and assume it's just BS.

[azakdan2682]

Womenz operate on emotions and its like a roller coaster !!

You think the game ends once you think you tied a good one ?! Nopeee you keep gaming her forever dont let her feel dat she got you on her hooks this is the cold truth boyos
Gotta give them the roller coaster emotional ride

Yeah it fuking stupid and exhausting. Makes me lose interest in women outside of fuking.

[Feelbrah780]

I pretty much think now if a girl texts me something a little too positive it's a lie. Like too many explanation points and so on just feels way off and assume it's just BS.

Quit over thinking lol

If shes not into you shes not into you and you dont hear from her.

If she is she'll keep talking to you.

You brahs scare me with how much you over think things

[azakdan2682]

The last girl I dated/slept with (like 8 months ago now.. *le sigh*) said I was "perfect" and "amazing" and a bunch of other flattering falsehoods I'd never heard a woman use to describe me before. Then she became distant and didn't want to see or talk to me any more. Like 2 months later she texts me some random **** out of the blue, to which I made pretty non-committal replies, after which I've not heard from her again. She even went so far as to block me on ********.. lol..

I pretty much only believe a women likes me is when she calls me an a$$hole srs.

[Oreyon]

Yeah it fuking stupid and exhausting. Makes me lose interest in women outside of fuking.

Totally agree !! Was a complete change for me when I figured things out and how it works !! Was Shocked first but it is what it is !

[deadliftbrah19]

Don't forget silverwildcat.

I'm also happywithit and DrLoveMisc according to this sub-forum.

Hmmm, perhaps I am also the used car salesman.

[azakdan2682]

Quit over thinking lol

If shes not into you shes not into you and you dont hear from her.

If she is she'll keep talking to you.

You brahs scare me with how much you over think things

Nah it's just exp when girls are way positive they always end up flaking. When they are more neutral or asking me if I thought the were cute or just acting insecure in general they always stick around and chase me.

[Oreyon]

Fkin hell their logic is backwards pisses me off !!! Like you gotta be a kind guy plus giving the "i dont give a chit vibe"
In order for you to like me !! Then give her some attention pull back over and over Sometimes i think am bipolar i swear lol

[lolking]

More good news... Got a text from one of the girls I slept with about 2 weeks ago (not the one in the OP) saying she tested positive for chlamydia so I might have it. It's not the fact that I have chlamydia that pisses me off, but the fact that I MIGHT (if the urine analysis comes back positive) have to tell a couple of the girls I've slept with recently (one of them the one in the OP) that they could have gotten chlamydia from me, which will certainly "burn the bridge".

Lmao.

[deadliftbrah19]

More good news... Got a text from one of the girls I slept with about 2 weeks ago (not the one in the OP) saying she tested positive for chlamydia so I might have it. It's not the fact that I have chlamydia that pisses me off, but the fact that I MIGHT (if the urine analysis comes back positive) have to tell a couple of the girls I've slept with recently (one of them the one in the OP) that they could have gotten chlamydia from me, which will certainly "burn the bridge".

Lmao.

Such is the problem with having multiple sex partners.

It creates more stress than it's worth.

You can thank Tinder for the huge increase in chlamydia.

Who cares about ghosting, the real problem to worry about is STDs. Imagine getting herpes or some incurable STD, ugh.

[alltrapbrah]

That THEY alone don't even understand their thought processes when it comes to attraction.

At work the other day I saw quite possibly the most extreme example of this I've ever witnessed...

My 22 year old colleague has just been dumped by her boyfriend, which she refuses to accept, and desperately wants him back. Here's a few fun facts:

He lives with my colleague and her family, and it's not even on her radar to boot him out of the house.
She wants to get him back, and her plan is to text him semi-regularly (rather than constantly) so as to give him some space.
She's also going to get him Christmas presents to show she still cares about him.
He broke up with her cos he wants to play around with other girls, and I believe that is what he's devoting his energy too.

I heard her prattle on about this for most of the day, and from my POV, it was absolutely astonishing how unconscious she is of what drives her behaviour. I know how Freud and his cronies said most of our behaviour resides in the unconscious, and levels of consciousness vary from individual to individual, but chit... this was a rare occasion I was able to see such an astonishing lack of self-awareness in an adult.

[Nedo]

So two weeks ago, on a Tuesday, I go out with this girl. The date is meh, but she's pretty damn cute. During the date, she says that we should explore places together, and that's she'll show me around Koreatown. Then I go to the bathroom. When I get back, she says that it's time to go.Something felt off. We head out. I decide to walk her to the train station. On the walk over, she says she we should hang out again. I tell her that yes we should. We hug goodbye.

When I get home, I text her "I had a blast." She responds, "I feel the same!" Then I invite her to my work holiday party. Of course she accepts. That weekend I send her a friendly text. No response. Then that weekend, I send her a text that we should hangout during the week. No response.

Why the hell say she had a good time if she's ghosting? Why the hell accept the invitation to the work holiday party if she's ghosting?

... Womenz

I wouldn't be taking her to a work xmas party for date 2 brah. You do that with a gf not some girl you are new with/dating. "what is your gf's name BPP, introduce us". Awk times.jpg

[Whichiscool]

Fkin hell their logic is backwards pisses me off !!! Like you gotta be a kind guy plus giving the "i dont give a chit vibe"
In order for you to like me !! Then give her some attention pull back over and over Sometimes i think am bipolar i swear lol

Yeah its not worth the hassle at all.

[BigPoppaPumpin]

I wouldn't be taking her to a work xmas party for date 2 brah. You do that with a gf not some girl you are new with/dating. "what is your gf's name BPP, introduce us". Awk times.jpg

Haha better than going alone

I'm taking a bumble girl I've only been out with once

[MHannibal]

Whether the girls had a good time or not is irrelevant, fact is they're saying it because it keeps their options open ... so if something better doesn't come along they can go back to you.

[InstantLoser]

Yeah it fuking stupid and exhausting. Makes me lose interest in women outside of fuking.

Same. I'm quite frankly not capable of providing women with what they really want or need. I'm not leadership material, I have no self confidence, I'm not interested in having to entertain them endlessly, and I have zero idea or desire to learn how to provide the "roller coaster ride" that Oreyon mentioned. Individually any one of these issues would be enough to be problematic, but taken in their totality, dating is a fukcing hopeless pipe dream.

[Maatkarah]

I was able to see such an astonishing lack of self-awareness in an adult.

Standard OP for both men and women .. when feels are caught; rational, self-respecting thinking goes out the window.

Their friends and family are generally left trying to wake them up to the true picture, with little success.

[bassinyoface]

alot of good conversation going on in this thread

I just expect ghosting these days...I literally date every girl with ZERO expectations even if the first or first few dates go exceptionally well; because usually women in this day and age like to throw curve balls at you constantly its not even worth thinking what may or may not be.

I don't put a name to a female phone number anymore unless they become my gf, or they're a co-worker or something. I think its a subconscious thing but I realized last week for the first time that I actually do it. I mean what is the point of putting a name in my phone when chances are 99% shes gonna be disrespectful/ghost/disappear and I have to go find her contact and waste my time deleting her (ya that's right, no second chances no matter how sweet the pu$$y).

f-it

[BlackScorpio91]

More good news... Got a text from one of the girls I slept with about 2 weeks ago (not the one in the OP) saying she tested positive for chlamydia so I might have it. It's not the fact that I have chlamydia that pisses me off, but the fact that I MIGHT (if the urine analysis comes back positive) have to tell a couple of the girls I've slept with recently (one of them the one in the OP) that they could have gotten chlamydia from me, which will certainly "burn the bridge".

Lmao.

Same. I'm quite frankly not capable of providing women with what they really want or need. I'm not leadership material, I have no self confidence, I'm not interested in having to entertain them endlessly, and I have zero idea or desire to learn how to provide the "roller coaster ride" that Oreyon mentioned. Individually any one of these issues would be enough to be problematic, but taken in their totality, dating is a fukcing hopeless pipe dream.

So you don't wanna change? You're screwed then.

[1slo5oh]

Womenz operate on emotions and its like a roller coaster !!

You think the game ends once you think you tied a good one ?! Nopeee you keep gaming her forever dont let her feel dat she got you on her hooks this is the cold truth boyos
Gotta give them the roller coaster emotional ride

This is easy...you need to keep dating your chick for as long as you want to stay with her.. but always be consistently inconsistent... keep her on her toes and never let her figure out what your next move will be... it keeps things interesting..


And as far as understanding why women just ghost... because they can... because they have a pussy and have 20 mthrfkrs lined up behind you that want it.. and they know it.. Your job is to provide them with an experience that simply cannot be replicated... which leads me back to being consistently inconsistent..

[jacketfan]

This is easy...you need to keep dating your chick for as long as you want to stay with her.. but always be consistently inconsistent... keep her on her toes and never let her figure out what your next move will be... it keeps things interesting..


And as far as understanding why women just ghost... because they can... because they have a pussy and have 20 mthrfkrs lined up behind you that want it.. and they know it.. Your job is to provide them with an experience that simply cannot be replicated... which leads me back to being consistently inconsistent..

to me , the average guy on the street has a gf, i dont see him doing anything "game" wise to keep her. it makes me think just being straight up and emotionally stable as the best move

[jennifersmith7]

from my experience, I can tell you, she is a ho, and she doesn't like you that much, which is obvious

[InstantLoser]

So you don't wanna change? You're screwed then.

The kind of change we're talking about is either impossible, or close enough to not be worth the effort. I'd have to become a totally different person, which I don't believe is possible. Gaining confidence is not possible. No fukcs given on people's opinions. I've tried everything suggested to me and it's all bull****. The rest of the stuff.. having to constantly entertain women and provide that "roller coaster" of emotions.. No. No interest, nor ability to do either. I have zero idea on how to illicit a specific emotional response from a woman, nor do I think I should have to constantly try to do this for her for the rest of her life. The entire concept sounds incredibly exhausting too. Totally beyond my ability, and totally beyond my desire.

This is easy....

lol.. no it isn't.

[US_Ranger]

This is easy...you need to keep dating your chick for as long as you want to stay with her.. but always be consistently inconsistent... keep her on her toes and never let her figure out what your next move will be... it keeps things interesting..

You guys must have a lot of time and also mental instability going to keep playing these stupid fcking games. (srs)

Who has time for that crap?

[RudeKong]

my recent ghosting story.

girl asks me friday morning if I wanted to hang out that night. I had to go to a friend's art show at a brewery that night but told her I'd be down to hang out afterwards, around 9-9:30 she says ok that she was going to be at a friend's work's christmas party but should be done by that time too. First why even ask me to hang out if you already had plans for the night? Anyway hit her up around 845 just to make sure it was still on... Nothing. Finally she texts me back around 930 saying how she was still at the party so I say no worries and that I was going to hang out at the art show a little longer anyway since a bunch of coworkers were there and to just let me know when she was ready. Nothing. Everyone starts going home around 1030 so I go home and by that time I'm a little pissed since it was essentially her idea to hang out and she's still at this party (she was actually at the party. her friend was posting pics on ********). Finally 11:30 rolls around and she texts me back saying she was just waiting on her friend since her friend was her ride, I offer to pick her up and she declines. Told her just to let me know she can just come to my house... nothing. Then at 2 am she finally hits me up but I'm already asleep. Next morning she tells me she should have just had me pick her up and that her friend kept dragging her to places, whatever. Told her I was kinda bugged that she did that and I'll just talk to her later. Text her that night. Ghosted. Text her yesterday afternoon. Still ghosted. Blows my mind why I'm getting ghosted but whatever.

Cliffs
-Girl asks me in the morning to hang out that night.
-Gotta go to a coworkers art show that night but can hang out after. She had plans that night too wtf? make plans to meet up at 9:30
-Get really spaced out texts and at 11 she is still busy and offer to pick her up, she declines. Don't hear back from her till 2 am but already asleep.
-Tell her next morning I was bugged that she did that and now getting ghosted.

[goodcupcakes]

my recent ghosting story.

girl asks me friday morning if I wanted to hang out that night. I had to go to a friend's art show at a brewery that night but told her I'd be down to hang out afterwards, around 9-9:30 she says ok that she was going to be at a friend's work's christmas party but should be done by that time too. First why even ask me to hang out if you already had plans for the night? Anyway hit her up around 845 just to make sure it was still on... Nothing. Finally she texts me back around 930 saying how she was still at the party so I say no worries and that I was going to hang out at the art show a little longer anyway since a bunch of coworkers were there and to just let me know when she was ready. Nothing. Everyone starts going home around 1030 so I go home and by that time I'm a little pissed since it was essentially her idea to hang out and she's still at this party (she was actually at the party. her friend was posting pics on ********). Finally 11:30 rolls around and she texts me back saying she was just waiting on her friend since her friend was her ride, I offer to pick her up and she declines. Told her just to let me know she can just come to my house... nothing. Then at 2 am she finally hits me up but I'm already asleep. Next morning she tells me she should have just had me pick her up and that her friend kept dragging her to places, whatever. Told her I was kinda bugged that she did that and I'll just talk to her later. Text her that night. Ghosted. Text her yesterday afternoon. Still ghosted. Blows my mind why I'm getting ghosted but whatever.

Cliffs
-Girl asks me in the morning to hang out that night.
-Gotta go to a coworkers art show that night but can hang out after. She had plans that night too wtf? make plans to meet up at 9:30
-Get really spaced out texts and at 11 she is still busy and offer to pick her up, she declines. Don't hear back from her till 2 am but already asleep.
-Tell her next morning I was bugged that she did that and now getting ghosted.

She got picked up by another brah at the party and he pumped and dumped her. srs


*edit * If you're friends on ******** look for a woe-is-me, where have all the good men gone style post coming up. She got ruthlessly creampied and then Chad bounced and she feels like a cheap whore but is still hoping he calls her back. In the meantime she'll look to you for emotional support lol.

Just look at deadlifebrah and her posts. She's been pumped and dumped more times than a man could count and now she clings to religion as a way to make right for living her life the way she does. It's so predictable it's sad.

[RudeKong]

She got picked up by another brah at the party and he pumped and dumped her. srs


*edit * If you're friends on ******** look for a woe-is-me, where have all the good men gone style post coming up. She got ruthlessly creampied and then Chad bounced and she feels like a cheap whore but is still hoping he calls her back. In the meantime she'll look to you for emotional support lol.

Just look at deadlifebrah and her posts. She's been pumped and dumped more times than a man could count and now she clings to religion as a way to make right for living her life the way she does. It's so predictable it's sad.

You're probably right man. She hardly posts on ******** but her friends post that kind of stuff all the time for that exact reason so I'm sure she feels the same way lol. Already got a date lined up for tomorrow with another chick.

[AKMuzzle]

its pretty simple.

Lost interest because you are needy as phuck. Women arent like us. Get that through your skull. Attraction is worlds apart. Dont mirror that what makes you attracted to women on what makes women attracted to men. You are either an inexperienced or retarded beta fool if you do.

You phucked. You had the power. She would have come to you but instead you made it out like you needed her = a shift in power and a loss in attraction.

[1slo5oh]

You guys must have a lot of time and also mental instability going to keep playing these stupid fcking games. (srs)

Who has time for that crap?

Its no game... And you must be a real special kind of neck beard if you think doing things she wont expect takes a lot of time..Its really not that hard... you FA *******s just make it seem that way.