losing my wife...

**mchenrycruiser** · 03-06-2007, 02:46 PM

Originally Posted by 88shane04

Really can you show me the scientific review, I am curious? I assume there must be some scientific backing??!?

cuz of how shes acting,she DOESNT want to be with him anymore, he can cry like a bitch all he wants but its over

**Lifting_Taurus** · 03-06-2007, 03:28 PM

Originally Posted by mchenrycruiser

cuz of how shes acting,she DOESNT want to be with him anymore, he can cry like a bitch all he wants but its over

F*ck off.. You clearly know shyt... Her reaction is a perfectly normal reaction for Military spouses.. They start to feel lonely and go through this... It happens to most relationships.. Doesn't mean she's cheating.. It means she's lonely and misses her husband and doesn't know how to react to it all.. She's overwhelmed..

**hugs** · 03-06-2007, 03:31 PM

Originally Posted by Lifting_Taurus

F*ck off.. You clearly know shyt... Her reaction is a perfectly normal reaction for Military spouses.. They start to feel lonely and go through this... It happens to most relationships.. Doesn't mean she's cheating.. It means she's lonely and misses her husband and doesn't know how to react to it all.. She's overwhelmed..

Exactly..I agree 100%.

**user23960508710783** · 03-06-2007, 03:36 PM

Originally Posted by Lifting_Taurus

F*ck off.. You clearly know shyt... Her reaction is a perfectly normal reaction for Military spouses.. They start to feel lonely and go through this... It happens to most relationships.. Doesn't mean she's cheating.. It means she's lonely and misses her husband and doesn't know how to react to it all.. She's overwhelmed..

But the thread starter wrote that they are talking about divorce, she doesn't want to take his calls, and so forth.

But besides that, the guy is in the military and it still has to be all about her. Heaven forbid he worry about himself and the incredibly important work he is doing over there.

I find it annoying that while he is risking his life, she has the gall to put this bs on him. Like he doesn't have enough to worry about? I'm sure he would love to come home and cuddle, but the man has bigger issues at hand.

**hugs** · 03-06-2007, 03:52 PM

Originally Posted by Jean-Paul4447

But the thread starter wrote that they are talking about divorce, she doesn't want to take his calls, and so forth.

But besides that, the guy is in the military and it still has to be all about her. Heaven forbid he worry about himself and the incredibly important work he is doing over there.

I find it annoying that while he is risking his life, she has the gall to put this bs on him. Like he doesn't have enough to worry about? I'm sure he would love to come home and cuddle, but the man has bigger issues at hand.

I'm pretty sure no one is defending her actions, becasue she's clearly not being very supportive and quite selfish--but that doesn't mean she's cheating on him. If a woman talks about divorce, it doesn't mean she's cheating--it is probably more of a threat, saying that she's frustrated and at the end of her rope. The fact that she doesn't take his calls or sends him packages might be a number of things but not necessarily that she's interested in another guy. She might actually be busy, or maybe she's mad and shows it in an immature way like that. Not sending packages anymore might be her getting a bit lazy...but it doesn't mean she doesn't love him or care about him anymore. let me also remind you guys that she's still very young with that comes immaturity. Plus, this is a lot on her plate right now too. Being a military wife is not easy either and I think a lot of people forget about that.

**user23960508710783** · 03-06-2007, 03:58 PM

Originally Posted by hugs

I'm pretty sure no one is defending her actions, becasue she's clearly not being very supportive and quite selfish--but that doesn't mean she's cheating on him. If a woman talks about divorce, it doesn't mean she's cheating--it is probably more of a threat, saying that she's frustrated and at the end of her rope. The fact that she doesn't take his calls or sends him packages might be a number of things but not necessarily that she's interested in another guy. She might actually be busy, or maybe she's mad and shows it in an immature way like that. Not sending packages anymore might be her getting a bit lazy...but it doesn't mean she doesn't love him or care about him anymore. let me also remind you guys that she's still very young with that comes immaturity. Plus, this is a lot on her plate right now too. Being a military wife is not easy either and I think a lot of people forget about that.

It doesn't really matter. His mission is more important than she is, and she sucks for trying to make it all about her when he is risking his life every single day.

All the other stuff you wrote could be true or not-true, but irrelevant to the fact that her behavior sucks right now.

**NuggzTheNinja** · 03-06-2007, 04:10 PM

Originally Posted by hugs

Well there's no denying that she's being really selfish riht now, but she's a woman and us women get emotional and like to be spoiled once in a while. Maybe you could be the bigger person and do something to make her feel loved---maybe go online and have flowers send to her (proflowers.com?). You could buy her some cool gift online (somethign romantic--there are a lot of sites with that kind of stuff) and send it to your home address with her name on it...tell her that she should be expecting something in teh mail from you

. you could also write her a poem and mail that.

Chances are she is feeling lonely and misses having you there to hold her and talk with her and do the sweet things you guys did when you dated. If she's sent you a bunch of packages in the past, maybe you could send her a package and make her feel loved too.

And then there is always open communication. Talk to her and tell her that you love her and that you need her because she's the only thing getting you through this.

I believe almost any marriage can be saved, so it really depends on how hard you want to fight for her.

If it makes you feel any better, my parents got married when they were 20 and they are still married and love eachother 31 years later.

...or she can stop being completely selfish and realize that her husband is in the middle of a f-cking warzone...

A woman's menality "me me me" all f-cking day.

When I find a deaf, blind mute with a massive rack and a cute smile, G-d knows I'll have found my match.

**Hardgainer2000** · 03-06-2007, 04:11 PM

Thats what happens when you get married so young. Youre still young so you have plenty of time. Good luck

**40 Watta** · 03-06-2007, 04:16 PM

The fuk you doin gettin married at 18???? This is what happens when you young bucks are stubborn and think your grown and you know it all and dont listen. Oh but I forgot, YOUR situation is different. YOUR gonna be one of the exceptions. Please. I feel bad for what is happening, but thats the way the ball bounces when you make dumb decisions. Learn from this experience and move on. Your wife is cheating on you period. Id just cut off all contact and fuk some military hoes.

**Lifting_Taurus** · 03-06-2007, 04:17 PM

Originally Posted by Jean-Paul4447

But the thread starter wrote that they are talking about divorce, she doesn't want to take his calls, and so forth.

But besides that, the guy is in the military and it still has to be all about her. Heaven forbid he worry about himself and the incredibly important work he is doing over there.

I find it annoying that while he is risking his life, she has the gall to put this bs on him. Like he doesn't have enough to worry about? I'm sure he would love to come home and cuddle, but the man has bigger issues at hand.

No he said she mentioned divorce... Not talking about it...

Anyway, this happens to alot of couples during deployments and hardship tours.. Some couples are strong enough to get through it.. some aren't.. But it's a normal response to her stress levels right now... She is handling alot at home..

If you haven't been deployed and left a spouse at home, then you wouldn't understand...

**AlbinoGerbil** · 03-06-2007, 04:41 PM

Originally Posted by Lifting_Taurus

No he said she mentioned divorce... Not talking about it...

Anyway, this happens to alot of couples during deployments and hardship tours.. Some couples are strong enough to get through it.. some aren't.. But it's a normal response to her stress levels right now... She is handling alot at home..

If you haven't been deployed and left a spouse at home, then you wouldn't understand...

Taurus is right, it's hard to understand unless you've been through it.
Being deployed was hard on my wife and I but we're older and had been together for quite some time.
I saw alot of the young couples go through some serious hardships(financial and otherwise) during deployments. A good majority of those ended up with one or the other cheating and ultimately divorce.
To the OP, I hope it works out for you.

**BeastWithin** · 03-06-2007, 04:53 PM

dude i hate to break it to you like this but shes probably banging some other dude.

**JayKid** · 03-06-2007, 05:11 PM

Originally Posted by badbart

I would be pissed, your over in a hostel environment serving your country, putting your life on the line and you wife decides she is losing interest! If she is so selfish she can't stick out the hard times when you are serving your country she should be tossed to the side with the rest of the selfish trash.

Exactly, wtf is wrong with you wife? No offense to her, but she sounds incredibly immature and selfish. She's probably young liek you so it's not a surprise. Still, that's ridiculous, how can she be upset? Is she that needy and selfish? She should really think about your needs. Also, why would she even mention divorce whie you're away?

You obviosly can't do anythign about being far away, why would she make things worse by freaking out at you and making you stressed? You're the one that's livign a tough life, not her. She needs to grow up and realize she isn't the center of the universe.

I understand it's probably hard for her, but do you rewally want to be married at 20 years old to a selfish women like that?

I hope everything turns out okay and she apoligzes... if not, and things don't work out, keep your head up and GL in the future. You'll be fine regardless of what happens, just give it some time. Either the relationsihp will heal or your heart will heal after the relationship breaks, you'll be okay.

**JayKid** · 03-06-2007, 05:16 PM

Originally Posted by hugs

I'm pretty sure no one is defending her actions, becasue she's clearly not being very supportive and quite selfish--but that doesn't mean she's cheating on him. If a woman talks about divorce, it doesn't mean she's cheating--it is probably more of a threat, saying that she's frustrated and at the end of her rope. The fact that she doesn't take his calls or sends him packages might be a number of things but not necessarily that she's interested in another guy. She might actually be busy, or maybe she's mad and shows it in an immature way like that. Not sending packages anymore might be her getting a bit lazy...but it doesn't mean she doesn't love him or care about him anymore. let me also remind you guys that she's still very young with that comes immaturity. Plus, this is a lot on her plate right now too. Being a military wife is not easy either and I think a lot of people forget about that.

Wow, it's not easy? Big effin' deal. Like being the guy in the military is any easier... just because it's not easy for them doesn't mean they need to go whining to their husband and threatening divorce, that's selfish and immature and there is no excuse for that.

I mean why is it that the guy has to always be the bigger man and the girl can do whatever she wants and it ends being okay because she's a girl? It's BS.

Originally Posted by NuggzTheNinja

...or she can stop being completely selfish and realize that her husband is in the middle of a f-cking warzone...

A woman's menality "me me me" all f-cking day.

When I find a deaf, blind mute with a massive rack and a cute smile, G-d knows I'll have found my match.

And I agree with you... although I don't want someone deaf, blind and mute, lol. Just want a girl who is more independent and doesn't whine 24/7 and be super needy. Hell, I want a girl that is super hot and acts a bit more like a man, I can't stand whining. It's obnoxioua and girls need to understand they aren't the center of the universe and they don't deserve to be treated like such.

I'm done ranting now.

Again to the OP, GL and sorry if any of my words offended you, wasn't intentional.

**mchenrycruiser** · 03-06-2007, 05:49 PM

shes cheating,yes she is,you all who disagree are blind,wishful thinking morons.....and he deserves to get cheated on,he left ,he is never there .......hes the selfish one,he wants his cake and to eat it too,f%ck him,f?&ckin sissy

**corn_dog** · 03-06-2007, 05:54 PM

Originally Posted by mchenrycruiser

shes cheating,yes she is,you all who disagree are blind,wishful thinking morons.....and he deserves to get cheated on,he left ,he is never there .......hes the selfish one,he wants his cake and to eat it too,f%ck him,f?&ckin sissy

How the f*ck is he being selfish if he is risking his life for his country you dumb f*ck, and i'd like to see you call a marine a sissy to his face.

To the OP, I hope all goes well.

**mchenrycruiser** · 03-06-2007, 06:01 PM

Originally Posted by corn_dog

How the f*ck is he being selfish if he is risking his life for his country you dumb f*ck, and i'd like to see you call a marine a sissy to his face.

he made his choice and picked the military over her and now he is bitching about getting cheated on,f$ck him,hes never there@!!thats like goni to the gym and layin a towel down on a flat bench but then goin to do some squats instead then gettin mad when someone uses the bench.........well he wasnt usin the fn bench so f%ck him ,now someone else is

**user178944** · 03-06-2007, 06:02 PM

Originally Posted by kalagan

Sorry to hear that bro. I think that's always difficult when people are far away form each other.

I don't know if it makes sense, but in French we have asentence : "Far from eyes, far from heart"....

even kalagan's chiming in

**user178944** · 03-06-2007, 06:03 PM

Originally Posted by mchenrycruiser

shes cheating,yes she is,you all who disagree are blind,wishful thinking morons.....and he deserves to get cheated on,he left ,he is never there

yeah, i strongly agree!

**Ajuice72** · 03-06-2007, 06:07 PM

Originally Posted by mchenrycruiser

he made his choice and picked the military over her and now he is bitching about getting cheated on,f$ck him,hes never there@!!thats like goni to the gym and layin a towel down on a flat bench but then goin to do some squats instead then gettin mad when someone uses the bench.........well he wasnt usin the fn bench so f%ck him ,now someone else is

He's defending your freedom dude, your opinions your welcome to suggest but that wife should take pride in her husband doing that not threaten divorce so in reality F her because she is the one who made an agreement till death do us part and now because he is off defending her freedom she want's out? She sounds like a bitch so **** you dude and **** her.

**mchenrycruiser** · 03-06-2007, 06:11 PM

Originally Posted by 88shane04

He's defending your freedom dude, your opinions your welcome to suggest but that wife should take pride in her husband doing that not threaten divorce so in reality F her because she is the one who made an agreement till death do us part and now because he is off defending her freedom she want's out? She sounds like a bitch so **** you dude and **** her.

hes gone,hes gone all the time,he isnt defending my freedom at all, he is trying to make iraq people freen ,not you or me.........WE are already free,so dont gimme that "we must fight them there so we dont have to fight them here crap" cuz its untrue!i would cheat too,its lonely and boring and he expects hyer to just wait around for him forever , well f%ck that........he made a choice to leave her.........noe someone else has her,now he wants to bitch? thats a joke...it was over the day he left

**dash_riprock** · 03-06-2007, 06:36 PM

Originally Posted by Freestyle72

Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great.

i dig that quote. reps

**NYY** · 03-06-2007, 06:40 PM

Originally Posted by NuggzTheNinja

...or she can stop being completely selfish and realize that her husband is in the middle of a f-cking warzone...

A woman's menality "me me me" all f-cking day.

When I find a deaf, blind mute with a massive rack and a cute smile, G-d knows I'll have found my match.

Yes, exactly the man is defending our country. How could you not appreciate that?

**mchenrycruiser** · 03-06-2007, 06:42 PM

Originally Posted by Roca

Yes, exactly the man is defending our country. How could you not appreciate that?

hes not defending our country,iraq wasnt trying to attack us

**user23960508710783** · 03-06-2007, 06:50 PM

Bottom line: I'm sure it's tough on her, but its tougher on him. If anyone deserves our sympathy, its him.

**mchenrycruiser** · 03-06-2007, 06:51 PM

Originally Posted by Jean-Paul4447

Bottom line: I'm sure it's tough on her, but its tougher on him. If anyone deserves our sympathy, its him.

he chose it,she didnt,f%Ck him,if he wants sympathy he can take is ass to church

**glass shatters** · 03-06-2007, 06:58 PM

Originally Posted by mchenrycruiser

hes gone,hes gone all the time,he isnt defending my freedom at all, he is trying to make iraq people freen ,not you or me.........WE are already free,so dont gimme that "we must fight them there so we dont have to fight them here crap" cuz its untrue!i would cheat too,its lonely and boring and he expects hyer to just wait around for him forever , well f%ck that........he made a choice to leave her.........noe someone else has her,now he wants to bitch? thats a joke...it was over the day he left

dude you are an ignorant ass seriously. maybe he didnt make the choice u know you cant exactly choose if you get deployed and if you r in any branch of the military then you are defending our country in my book. dont take your little b*tch fit out on the soldiers my brother died in iraq fighting for a cause that he didnt agree with but he was enlisted before the war even started so if you wanna piss and moan do it to the government dont blame the service men. maybe he enlisted before they were married dont be so quick to judge. i feel for him and there is a possiblity that she is cheating id like to think she isnt but there is a strong possibility. to the op i hope all works out for you and thanks you for your service hope you make it home safely.

**mchenrycruiser** · 03-06-2007, 07:00 PM

Originally Posted by glass shatters

dude you are an ignorant ass seriously. maybe he didnt make the choice u know you cant exactly choose if you get deployed and if you r in any branch of the military then you are defending our country in my book. dont take your little b*tch fit out on the soldiers my brother died in iraq fighting for a cause that he didnt agree with but he was enlisted before the war even started so if you wanna piss and moan do it to the government dont blame the service men. maybe he enlisted before they were married dont be so quick to judge. i feel for him and there is a possiblity that she is cheating id like to think she isnt but there is a strong possibility. to the op i hope all works out for you and thanks you for your service hope you make it home safely.

calm down lil kid..........he needs to stop crying over spilled milk,his wife is gone.......gettin pounded like a jack hammer and crying will do nothing to change it

**chrlslee1** · 03-06-2007, 07:10 PM

By marrying him she chose it.

**mchenrycruiser** · 03-06-2007, 07:12 PM

Originally Posted by chrlslee1

By marrying him she chose it.

and now shes chosing not to be with him,so get over it

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