Seeing if anyone has dealt with drug addiction personally or family member. After some advice really unsure how to take something that happen few days ago.
Long story short my other half been dealing with drug addiction for very long time. At start I just always assume it was faze and he would just get over it but unfortunately it got way out of hand. He has done a lot of things that I'm not happy about but I know he wouldn't have done these things if it wasn't for the drugs.
Fast forward currently dealing with the issues and seeing professionals about the problems.
I'm trying to be supportive and trust him as I think you should at least try to support your love one and be there for them.
Anyway other day I was playing on his phone and he gets a message from some random chick saying **Hey hun, you have any *** on you. I don't have cash but will do sexual fav.** There was previous messages from this number as I could see them all when I opened message and it was mainly about trying to score to drugs but he hasnt replied to any of them.
I asked him about it and his response was I haven't reply to her I forgot to block her number ages ago.
I ask few of my friends they said probably nothing and desperate chick trying to score or probably old contact when he was misbehaving give him a chance.
I don't know how to take it. Would just ignore it?? If it happens again than do something more drastic
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Thread: Anyone dealt with drug addiction
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10-11-2016, 03:54 PM #1
Anyone dealt with drug addiction
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10-11-2016, 06:52 PM #2
Not much detail here.
Did this person go through a detox? In a treatment program? Getting counseling? On medication?
How involved are you? Dating? LTR? Living together? Married?
Would want to know if they are making a real effort. Short of married or at least LTR + living together would seriously consider taking a break while(if) this person figures their stuff out.
And as far as the message don't think I would just let it go. Person should be deleted/blocked because cutting ties with other users is part of recovery.
Personally not a 12 Step fan, but if you are planning to stick with this person you should pursue some kind of group for people in relationships w/addicts.
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10-11-2016, 06:57 PM #3
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10-12-2016, 08:46 PM #4
I'm sorry that you're struggling with this. Addiction is a terrible and difficult disease and it takes a lot of work and time to beat it.
I'm going to tell you something, and I apologize if it sounds harsh, but the truth is that anyone who is active in their addiction cannot be trusted about anything. This even goes for everything that doesn't seem directly related to the addiction, because when you're active in the disease your entire life revolves around it, and anything and everything you do serves your addiction. As you yourself pointed out, he's done a lot of shady sh*t through the years while on drugs that he would not have done otherwise.
I highly recommend that you see a counselor alone and with him, and hopefully his current therapist will talk him into treatment. You need the counseling to understand your role in all of this and how his addiction has affected you through the years. I know that you love him and want to be there for him but you're part of this too, and being married to a long term addict can do some serious damage.
I wish you the best.
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10-19-2016, 02:12 PM #5
We had a massive fight few days ago and got everything out in the open. He has decided to do rehab and prove to me that he is willing to give it 100% and will do anything I wish if that means rehab he will go.
I told him this is the last chance I will give him and if he ever picks up drugs again no excuse is going to stop me leaving him. This time I know if it does happen it will be the last time because I'm literally at the I don't give a s* about you. I really do hope this is the last.
I will keep everyone updated with the progress good or bad
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01-10-2023, 06:20 AM #6
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01-10-2023, 06:35 AM #7
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01-10-2023, 06:39 AM #8
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01-10-2023, 07:37 AM #9
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