I think it's Time for Me to Stop Trying with Girls [depressed]

[JussKnowJulian]

Came to the realization today. I think I will never get girls. I'm 19 and never had a girlfriend, I'm kissless, I also never hugged a girl before in my life. Friends think it's weird they've never seen me talk to girls when I already explained to them I'm socially anxious. I'm going to community college this year and there will probably be no bishes there. I can't hold a convo with girls, I can't text them, I'm just an awkward person who stutters and overthinks things. I see all my friends pulling girls and I'm just depressed that I will never know the feeling of a relationship. This chit is depressing. Time to just give up. I'm done.

[ldurham20]

[gxs27]

keep your head up Julian

it'll all work itself out brah. focus on your education and improving yourself and you'll find some nice girls srs

try not to worry about it too much

[JussKnowJulian]

keep your head up Julian

it'll all work itself out brah. focus on your education and improving yourself and you'll find some nice girls srs

try not to worry about it too much

I hope so. Just feel like my window is closing. Can't imagine how the older fa's feel. It's Just I tried everything. I got a haircut, I gave up video games, improved my style, used to be skinny but gained a lil muscle. I did everything I could to boost my looks and yet........ idk what's wrong with me I can't approach girls for chit. I don't have any real confidence within myself.

[ErnieMccracken]

At least you aren't balding or a manlet, right?

[JussKnowJulian]

At least you aren't balding or a manlet, right?

Not balding and I'm a Manlet. I'm 5'8. But at least I still have hair.

[HoustonMiscer]

You still got time yougin. I'm 28 and made as much progress as you, just lmao

[Comstarr]

Stopped reading at "I'm 19"

[ErnieMccracken]

Not balding and I'm a Manlet. I'm 5'8. But at least I still have hair.

Have you considered limb lengthening surgery?

[misker21]

Not balding and I'm a Manlet. I'm 5'8. But at least I still have hair.

get some shoe lifts and fraud your height to 6ft srs

[gxs27]

I hope so. Just feel like my window is closing. Can't imagine how the older fa's feel. It's Just I tried everything. I got a haircut, I gave up video games, improved my style, used to be skinny but gained a lil muscle. I did everything I could to boost my looks and yet........ idk what's wrong with me I can't approach girls for chit. I don't have any real confidence within myself.

you're 19 bro, you still got your whole life ahead of you

you mentioned some appearance changes trying to gain more confidence. IMO confidence is all in the mind, hair and clothes and all that stuff are just extra

I'm an extremely social brah so I struggle sometimes to relate to some miscers but I feel like you guys get so nervous about "approaching" girls that you just destroy an chance you have. I've had gfs almost constantly since i was like 16 and IDC about approaching girls. I just talk to them the same way I do guys lol. She's just a regular person and it's just a conversation. I know that's not everyone's style but I feel like people just psych themselves out over the approach

and the grass is always greener man. I'm currently taking a break from all girls after a messy break up of a 2.5 year relationship. now you beat yourself up over not being able to get girls and when you do get em you'll wish you didn't have to deal with them lol

it'll get better brah. good luck

[PuTangSlayer]

LMAO such a fukin beta u r. I would knock you out then curb stomp you for being a little biitch

[Rocawear11]

You feel like your window is closing and you're 19. Yeah ok.

[crupiea]

You are making too much of a big deal out of it.

Its a natural thing, just let it go.

next time you talk to a girl, doesnt matter who it is, mom, grandma, girl at 711, whatever. look her in the eye and keep that eye contact for a count of 5.

1 one thousand, 2 one thousand, you get the hint.

You are not trying to eye **** her, you are just trying to see what color her eyes are, like an artist would do.

This disarms them and relaxes you. Once you start doing this, you will do it to everyone and you will soon see that you can start to control people with just this eye contact. It makes a man out of you.

you have nothing to lose except your destiny.

[CanesBroski]

You feel like your window is closing and you're 19. Yeah ok.

if he's American it is

You have to understand American culture is different than Australian culture

We generally don't have year round party weather and our drinking culture is much more conservative compared to yours. We also work longer hours so once you turn 21 or 22ish, tours over and your youth is gone

[Ryan94LOZ]

Stop being Julian and become Jules the badass on the CC campus.

[Idontevenlift84]

lol OP, I go to CC and all the girls are ugly. I could pull any of them, I chose not too because again 90% are sub 5/10. I can get like 8-9/10 if I wanted, but I got some issues with approaching girls, I can talk to them normally in any setting, just can't cold approach em tbh lmao. good luck, it gets better with time

[zuocruz]

I hope so. Just feel like my window is closing. Can't imagine how the older fa's feel. It's Just I tried everything. I got a haircut, I gave up video games, improved my style, used to be skinny but gained a lil muscle. I did everything I could to boost my looks and yet........ idk what's wrong with me I can't approach girls for chit. I don't have any real confidence within myself.

There's your problem. You don't need to give up video games or any of your other hobbies because even Wetbreasts got a girlfriend prior to his misc weightloss journey

[JussKnowJulian]

LMAO such a fukin beta u r. I would knock you out then curb stomp you for being a little biitch

I think I need that tbh. Idk. Everytime I see a girl I like talk to another guy I end up trying to compete. It sucks. I don't wanna compare myself to other guys. I get insecure quick. I need a change. Fast too.

[Botika]

If you have social anxiety you may benefit from some sessions with an appropriately qualified therapist. You need tools to get past that and allow you to build confidence. The longer you wait the harder it will be.

[BerserkGrom]

get shredded as fuark and let bitches lust your cawk

[MooseBrah]

You need to work on getting that stuff out of your head. You're only 19, you'll only be that young once. Worry about being a virgin when you're 25. I will say though the social anxiety and confidence MUST be worked on because otherwise you might fall into that niche of people that are stuck as virgins for life. Just try not think hopelessly about everything.

[excess34]

lmfao 19 and "the window is closing"

you're fine dude. at 19 going on 20 i had my first girlfriend after being in pretty much the exact same situation you were. im still anxious/nervous around new women at 26 but, i don't get worked up over it now knowing how trivial the **** you're worrying about is. if i could go back and tell myself one thing at your age it'd be to seriously not give a flying **** about any of it

your health and well-being are far more important, and in reality have little to do with what you have/havent done with the opposite gender.

[zuocruz]

I think you've improved your physical appearance.

What you need to do now is take baby steps by first realizing it's all in your head and even girls themselves are filled with the same insecurities you have. Just talk to one girl, it doesn't matter if you mess up, just make small talk.

[momo5]

Came to the realization today. I think I will never get girls. I'm 19 and never had a girlfriend, I'm kissless, I also never hugged a girl before in my life. Friends think it's weird they've never seen me talk to girls when I already explained to them I'm socially anxious. I'm going to community college this year and there will probably be no bishes there. I can't hold a convo with girls, I can't text them, I'm just an awkward person who stutters and overthinks things. I see all my friends pulling girls and I'm just depressed that I will never know the feeling of a relationship. This chit is depressing. Time to just give up. I'm done.

[cn0r]

If you may accept advice from a stranger; make a tinder/okcupid/one other dating site n start slow. Make time constraints for yourself, where you only message for like 5 minute periods a day so u start valuing your time. Lower your standards a bit too, it sounds uncomfortable, but you need your range as wide as possible so you are gonna need to hookup with a girl you might not find attractive. Do NOT listen to anyone telling you that hot girls are just as easy or whatever, they are idiots, you have to go for whatever, just trust me on this. It's all experience, but you need your foot in the door.

[jyt199]

THIS. you gain experience from successes and failures. That's life.

OP, if you don't wanna chase girls, that's fine. Instead, go hit the gym, eat right, expand your social circle (find bros with the same common interests as you) - do these...and girls will come to you.

or you can continue being a self-pitying, lowlife, pathetic, miserable FA

lmfao 19 and "the window is closing"

you're fine dude. at 19 going on 20 i had my first girlfriend after being in pretty much the exact same situation you were. im still anxious/nervous around new women at 26 but, i don't get worked up over it now knowing how trivial the **** you're worrying about is. if i could go back and tell myself one thing at your age it'd be to seriously not give a flying **** about any of it

your health and well-being are far more important, and in reality have little to do with what you have/havent done with the opposite gender.

[InstantLoser]

I'm the last guy to give "positive, feel good" advice OP, but I didn't even have my 1st hug until I was 34. While I still suck with women and have no expectations for future relationships, I have at least been with 5 women in the last 2 years in some fashion or another (3 I've had intercourse, 2 I got oral) so 19 is pretty young to just totally throw in the towel.

[bodybuilderbob8]

See thread:

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=172489361

I was about to give up at 20, but recently things have completely turned around for me. It's a joke to think you'd actually consider giving up at just 19 years old, brah. Get off the misc, make some positive changes, and actually try like you've never tried before.

[Lift4UrDaughter]

Bro. You're 19.
I'm 21 and look old af, with weird ancient chinese mustache and chit, still I haven't given up.

Or maybe I should as well?