when men tell you to smile...

[fitfanatic123]

i work in an office building and i have to walk by the security guard every morning. he's a little too friendly for my liking but i say good morning and hello every morning. but a few times a week he will tell me to smile which pisses me off.... he'll say "oh come on give me a smile" or "you're too pretty not to smile" or "you need to smile its beautiful outside".. meanwhile i'm thinking to myself SHUT THE F*** UP!!!!! isn't there something annoying about a man telling a woman to smile or is it just me? i do not owe anyone a smile....maybe i'm overreacting lol...

[Partyrocking]

No it's just annoying. I had a teacher like that once, ugh!

[RH709]

Might be slightly annoying but if you are not willing to just be polite and tell the person you are a little annoyed by it then please stop complaining. Just say, "Hey, I know you mean well but asking me to smile everyday is getting old. Please let me do my own thing. Saying Hi or good morning is enough. Thank you"

[LunaLifts]

I'd be annoyed, and uncomfortable. I don't get why someone would say it in the first place, what business is it of someone else what my facial expression is, or "should be." I'll smile if I see a kitten, or something, not for someone just because they told me to. I'm ok with my rbf, thanks. lol

[Photoglady]

It is annoying. Only crazy people walk around smiling all day.

For who's pleasure is your smile? Smile not bc you feel awesome and are happily thinking of whatever makes you smile, but smile bc he would like to see it.

I tend to not speak to most men who I see daily unless I have to. Even those who I greet daily will find some way to make themselves too familiar. Unless he is asking everyone to smile he shouldn't ask you to smile.

[megdaig]

Yeah that would be annoying.

We had a new guard for a few weeks that would ask "How are you this morning?".... And the most they are getting out of me is a "Good morning"...having to answer a question and make the 10 seconds of small talk is beyond my capacity in the AM prior to having my coffee. It got to the point that I would enter through a different gate to avoid her.

[fitfanatic123]

yeah we have a back door that i might start going through to avoid him haha... i guess i could say something to him but i know it would probably just come off as rude.

[snarfbot]

Why so glum chum

[nikky78]

I guess I'm the crazy person that typically has a smile on her face lol. But I am also the one that will crush someone's soul if they come at me sideways or in a way I do not appreciate. If I'm not smiling, well that's my business haha.

[sy2502]

I think my answer would be "Today it's not a good day for that".

This kind of people forget that others may have problems they know nothing about, maybe a close family member is sick, maybe they are having marital problems, maybe their workplace is toxic and they don't look forward being there. The fact people don't wear their problems on their forehead doesn't mean they don't have any.

[rockangel]

I think my answer would be "Today it's not a good day for that".

This kind of people forget that others may have problems they know nothing about, maybe a close family member is sick, maybe they are having marital problems, maybe their workplace is toxic and they don't look forward being there. The fact people don't wear their problems on their forehead doesn't mean they don't have any.

I went off on a guy for saying this to me a few weeks ago. I had just found out that my uncle had lost his battle with cancer, I couldn't go home to be with my family, and it was my birthday.

Had to go on with my day, and walking into the store to grab something for dinner, guy says "smile, it cant be all that bad".... I was like dude, really, so my family member passing on my bday isn't "all that bad" and I should be smiling like an idiot just to make you feel better????

People should just learn to shut the eff up....

[SupremeGlory]

I get this all the time from women. "You should smile more often" or "you're too cute not to smile"... I know its a compliment but damn

[kimm4]

Meh it wouldn't bother me. It's actually a good reminder that I should smile more often. It's something I've always needed to work on.

[sy2502]

I went off on a guy for saying this to me a few weeks ago. I had just found out that my uncle had lost his battle with cancer, I couldn't go home to be with my family, and it was my birthday.

Had to go on with my day, and walking into the store to grab something for dinner, guy says "smile, it cant be all that bad".... I was like dude, really, so my family member passing on my bday isn't "all that bad" and I should be smiling like an idiot just to make you feel better????

People should just learn to shut the eff up....

If people want to put a smile on your face when you are worried or sad, the best way is to smile first, be kind, say something nice. "Smile more" doesn't count.

[docstring123]

Lol why is it such a big deal?

[docstring123]

So many butthurt women in this thread. I don't think it is a personal attack for a guy to say you should smile more, if I said that I would be trying to cheer you up. Anyways people say it to me all the time and I don't take offense to it

[Partyrocking]

If people want to put a smile on your face when you are worried or sad, the best way is to smile first, be kind, say something nice. "Smile more" doesn't count.

Truth!

So many butthurt women in this thread. I don't think it is a personal attack for a guy to say you should smile more, if I said that I would be trying to cheer you up. Anyways people say it to me all the time and I don't take offense to it

Good for you. Here’s a sticker.

[docstring123]

Truth!



Good for you. Here’s a sticker.

Another butthurt sarcastic comment. Good emotion managing ability

[Iceman1800]

Another butthurt sarcastic comment. Good emotion managing ability

You might want to look at what subforum you're in before posting again

[docstring123]

You might want to look at what subforum you're in before posting again

Female misc I'm aware. I realize it isn't the misc. Aren't men allowed to post: Males Miscers/Men - Can They Post Here?
Yes. This is an open forum HOWEVER we will have a very small tolerance for how men are to conduct themselves here. NO Trolling, NO Baiting, NO Flaming, NO Female Bashing, NO Derogatory Comments, and NO Disrespect.

[Iceman1800]

Female misc I'm aware. I realize it isn't the misc. Aren't men allowed to post: Males Miscers/Men - Can They Post Here?
Yes. This is an open forum HOWEVER we will have a very small tolerance for how men are to conduct themselves here. NO Trolling, NO Baiting, NO Flaming, NO Female Bashing, NO Derogatory Comments, and NO Disrespect.

I'd highly recommend you stop posting in here.

[Banbimi]

i work in an office building and i have to walk by the security guard every morning. he's a little too friendly for my liking but i say good morning and hello every morning. but a few times a week he will tell me to smile which pisses me off.... he'll say "oh come on give me a smile" or "you're too pretty not to smile" or "you need to smile its beautiful outside".. meanwhile i'm thinking to myself SHUT THE F*** UP!!!!! isn't there something annoying about a man telling a woman to smile or is it just me? i do not owe anyone a smile....maybe i'm overreacting lol...

Telling you to smile like once a month would be ok (annoying but bearable) but for me a couple of times a week is getting creepy. I would start to be busy playing candy crush while I walked through the door. I would give him a nice smile and good morning once a week only. You don't want to make a creeper angry so be careful how you address it.

For the guys who think telling someone to smile every time you see them is ok, lots of girls will think this is a little creepy.

[Bravoiswhiskey]

If I run into someone like that enough, I usually just explain that this is just how my face looks. I'm Korean and German and those are both just stern looking people by default.

Also I'm dead inside. Skull emoji.

[Squatticus]

Meh it wouldn't bother me. It's actually a good reminder that I should smile more often. It's something I've always needed to work on.

this.
1. he's trying to be nice.
2. if it bothers you that much say something
3. is it really that hard just to flash a smile at someone? I dont smile all the time but i do when greeting someone

[chamelious]

this.
1. he's trying to be nice.

Personally i consider it everyones responsibility to be cognisant of how whatever they're doing affects others. Aka, he might be "trying to be nice", but he should easily be able to see that what he's actually doing is making OP uncomfortable, something like this is not hard to spot.

[Partyrocking]

Is it really that hard just to flash a smile at someone? I dont smile all the time but i do when greeting someone

It's not hard to smile at anyone, but what if I don't feel like smiling? Who is anyone to demand a smile of me? I'm more likely to just flip them off, srs.

[StillWaters14]

this.
1. he's trying to be nice.
2. if it bothers you that much say something
3. is it really that hard just to flash a smile at someone? I don't smile all the time but i do when greeting someone

1. he's trying to be nice.

While this may have been his intention, men (or anyone for that matter) who do this are annoying to me.

2. if it bothers you that much say something

You have no idea how many women want to do this but don't because they don't want to risk drawing the man's anger which could lead to a dangerous situation like stalking and threats of bodily harm.

3. is it really that hard just to flash a smile at someone? I don't smile all the time but i do when greeting someone

Is it really that hard for people to mind their own damn business? Especially if they're just some rando I happen to pass by and I'm not thinking about them. Me being pretty, it being a nice day, them just wanting to see me smile, or whatever other bull**** they throw out is no reason to walk up to a complete stranger and demand that person to smile. Maybe I'm having a bad day, don't feel well, thinking deeply about something, zoned out, not in the mood to talk to people, etc. Or maybe (and this is the most common for me) I just have what's been called "Resting B!tch Face" so while my face doesn't always show it, I actually feel perfectly happy. At least until some random yahoo says something stupid to me like "Why don't I ever see you smile?/You're too pretty to frown like that/you should smile" Whatever my reason for not smiling, its my business and nobody else's. The only thing I owe people is to not be a jerk.

[fitfanatic123]

there are a lot of ways to be nice, simply saying "good morning how are you?" would be nice/friendly. like someone said before, if it was once in a blue moon, fine no big deal, but the frequency of it is really uncomfortable.

[gailh]

It is annoying. Only crazy people walk around smiling all day.

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hahaha...so very true

[sy2502]

hahaha...so very true

In Italian we have ways of describing people who smile all the time for no good reason whatsoever. They are all references to what I would translate as "village idiot", "simpleton", etc.